Don't understand Guys
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Hi all,
I hope someone can help me out. I have recently been going out with this guy on 1-1 dates every weekend for several weeks. I would like to know if there is any meaning behind this? Would a guy bother to ask a casual lady friend out every weekend just to watch movie or have dinner? I have never been in a relationship before hence i am totally clueless if this action of his meant anything.
I sincerely hope someone can enlighten me because i am quite torn by it. I don't like to play mind games (well if this is considered as one). I don't wish to go on a 1-1 date with a guy if he is just purely treating me as a friend because i think that's so selfish of the guy. If there is anything that i need to hint to the guy, please let me know.
Someone,please enlighten me.
Thanks.
S.
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Is he lovey-dovey to you or not..?
Friends and romantic flame is different....
If he treats you very normally, and not much different with his other friends, guys and girls, then I think possibly he just take you as a friend, and he likes to hang out with you.
So you have to see.
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You ask us if we think he has any interest in you? I think its better you ask yourself, do you have any interest in him?
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If every weekend he is asking you out, then it means he is interested in you.
Like ditzy says, do you have any interest in him?
Answer this question and we can proceed from there.
Oh, we need to know whether you are still studying or working.
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If you like him, why don't you just ask him instead of asking us?
Then again, your post reminds me of girls who go out with guys but never treat them as potential mates haha. In that respect, I don't really think it's selfish of the guy if it's just for purely friendship purposes. It's just a matter of perspective.
Yeah, tell him what's going on in your mind and stop wasting time guessing.
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Originally posted by RHluvW:
If you like him, why don't you just ask him instead of asking us?
Then again, your post reminds me of girls who go out with guys but never treat them as potential mates haha. In that respect, I don't really think it's selfish of the guy if it's just for purely friendship purposes. It's just a matter of perspective.
Yeah, tell him what's going on in your mind and stop wasting time guessing.
You are right about girls who go out with guys but never want to progress further than just being ordinary friends.
Usually, if a guy is interested in a girl, he will ask her out as often as he can. Very rarely will he ask a girl out many times if he is not interested in her in the BGR way.
On the other hand, girls may not be looking for a relationship whenever they go out with guys.
A girl will feel flattered that she is the target of a guy's attraction, and as such, she may consider going out with him occassionally just to "hang out" . There is perhaps an ego thing at work here.
So there is a big difference in general, how guys and girls behave with respect to "asking the other party out"
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It is possible for such relationship to be platonic.
However, it will not be platonic if one day one party makes known to the other that he or she wants something more to it
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The classic movie "When Harry met Sally" will explain everything.
Really.
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fan ah fan ah fan ah
song by lin xiao pei
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most of the guys do things for a reason n i said again most guys 
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You are right , mr tay
sianzzzzzz !
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You wish he treat you more than just a friend.
First, ask yourself, if you are interested in him.
Do you like, admire or appreciate him?
Otherwise just enjoy an evening out, but don't impose on yourself. If you think it is boring, don't go.
You take care of yourself, let him take care of himself.
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Few would think this way but there is a chance that he might be looking for a ONS(One Night Stand)...it is not a pleasent thought but this possibility cannot be ruled out.
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me just opposite.. girls keep asking me go out luh! lol
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Oh this situation you describes here totally relates to me woh....i always ask girls to go out on 1 on 1 date.....but tat does not means i like them....u see...normally guys will go out on one on one date....coz usually they would be doing the paying...and if u bring other girls along.....they would be flat broke u know.....so they would prefer u to go out 1 on 1 with then....secondly....if u are interested in tat guy this will usually not works out.......like this happens to me so many times...LOL......i would always ask girls to go out for 1 on 1 date with me....but i have no interest or feelings for them....the thing is....guys dun like to go out on 1 on 1 date with another guy unless they are GAY....."anyway this is my own thoughts, coz i dun like to hang out with guys 1 on 1"...can't say the same for other guys though.......but girls seem to have a tendency to develop feelings for the guys they go out 1 on1 with woh.......so now i prefer to kept to myself....until the right girl come along........so most likely ur guy friend here is only using u to kill time....again depends on how u see it....if u treat him as a buddy and just chill together...it is fine....if u think too much and develops feelings for u....better tat u ask him to chill alone by himself......LIKE ME LOL....tell him tat "going out alone wun kills u anyway, a bit boring....but still beats going out with someone u dun like".....
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I think he's those shy type guy right? i bet he likes u but just not ready to tell u yet. Just play along, go out with him often and sooner or later, he'll be more serious towards u
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TS, maybe he wants to know more about you....
He also wants to know how you feel about him......
he could be feeling a little confused about you
so, ya, let him know how you feel?
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Thanks all for your replies. At first i must say i don't have any feelings for him despite a few times out . However subsequently he still continued asking me out so slowly i guess i developed some feelings for him. I think the guy must be really stupid lor to think that i am not interested in him and yet each time he asks me out, i agree to go with him. However i agree that he could be just treating me as a casual friend and like what some said, he is just using me to kill time which is what i fear most. I don't know what is the best way to ask him. I just want to know whether he has any feelings for me. If no, then i will just stop going out with him anymore less i sink deeper and end up getting really hurt. Like i said, i have not been on a relationship before so i don't want this bad experience to be my last. I still want to settle down.
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If you are really afraid of getting hurt, then I suggest you don't even consider the notion of getting into a relationship.
Just because you are so in love with him doesn't mean he has to be madly in love with you. I mean, come on, what does he have to do to profess his love? Beg you? He has already asked you out, girl. What more do you want? Of course, you can choose not to go out with him. A guy can only do so much. The other side has to reciprocate.
If you do not want to play mind games, whatever that means to you, just tell him. You are only afraid that your feelings get hurt. I tell you, the longer you drag, the more you will get hurt. If you are thinking, "but Im a girl, a guy is supposed to do this and that..", then I'd say "hey forget it la, you like to expect guys do this and that for you."
Go ahead, send him a note, sms, whatever. A great way would be to ask him (if you are someone who likes beating around the bush) "hey do you go out with other girls 1-1?."
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Originally posted by charlize:
You are right about girls who go out with guys but never want to progress further than just being ordinary friends.
Usually, if a guy is interested in a girl, he will ask her out as often as he can. Very rarely will he ask a girl out many times if he is not interested in her in the BGR way.
On the other hand, girls may not be looking for a relationship whenever they go out with guys.
A girl will feel flattered that she is the target of a guy's attraction, and as such, she may consider going out with him occassionally just to "hang out" . There is perhaps an ego thing at work here.
So there is a big difference in general, how guys and girls behave with respect to "asking the other party out"
You see, it doesnt have to mean a guy confirm must get the girl just because he asked her out. Yes, he could be interested, assuming there is interest. It could be he's exploring the characteristics of the girl and how she is compatible with him or whether she will bring excess baggage. If your boss interviews you, he cannot simply make a decision immediately to hire you unless he is desperate. He has to consider whether you are suitable for the job and how capable you are.
So you see, it doesn't mean he's damn interested in the girl and must get her at all costs. Heck, he could even lose interest after a few dates.The same could happen to girls. After all, this is human nature. We lose interest due to some X reason. But I'd say girls change interest like the flick of a switch more often than guys.
And we have the case of the girl going out with the guy even though she knows she wants nothing romantic out of this. This is where the confusion begins. Here the guy wants a relationship and the girl knowing this, as most girls do, leads him on and at the end of the day, tells him, "I just want to be friends, dear". It's just plain sick and disheartening to hear such stories happening because this is really selfish on the part of the girl. But of course, reality sometimes hurts and we have to be prepared that such people exists.
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think he just wanna a good screw.
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i dunno but i still think relatioship SUXS!!!!
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maybe TS's bf is interested in u, but dont dare say it?
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maybe TS can tell him tat someone is courting you. See how he react.
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unfortunately i havent mustered the courage to ask him if he was dating me exclusively. I guess i wont put any hope into this "relationship" because it just appears to me that it is heading nowhere. Sad truth.