When you were troubled, he was there for you.
When he is in NS, you want him to be there for you again.
Have you ask him what he is going through in NS?
Some NS boys have rs problems while serving, and has behaviourial problem in camp.
Some take their responsibilities seriously, and put their whole heart, mind and soul into the task they have to do.
In the military, there is the constant battle, between those who look out for themselves only and those that are concerned for the men in their unit.
You are selfcentred, and complaining that he isn't giving you the attention that you want.
Cogitate/muse :
This is how things are, this is the Is-ness or suchness of living: Life flows, nothing abides. Only the unwise (immature) go on clinging. If change is the nature of life, then clinging is stupidity, because one's clinging is not going to change existence (life). One's clinging is only going to make one miserable. Things are bound to change; whether one cling or not does not matter.
If one clings,consequently one becomes miserable: one clings and they change, one feels frustrated. If one does not cling they still change, but then there is no frustration because one was perfectly aware that they are bound to change.
PS : The mind is a photocopier (of images). It cannot reflect what is but only what was, hence the futurizing to re-experience it in another form or to escape it. One misses the obvious
The heart (Being) is a mirror - it reflects what IS - not what was or can be