feeling totally screwed up
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eh.. she just took WHAT?Originally posted by man12:she juz took it that i was possessive and feeding her with crap..
ur nagging? care? concern?
u need sleep man, ur vagueness is reaching a new level..
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take it as she broke off with ex not too long ago at that time but i'm sure i'm not thrid party coz that time was kinda pissed with her for some "undisclosed" reason.( for my own privacy only)
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yah the nagging and restricting her of going out and such...
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OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOK
now i'm wondering if it's my lack of sleep cos i'm catching no ball!!
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she stayed out too late and too many times (realistically speaking) 7 days a wk, sometime can go out for 6 days
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seems that both of u started on the pretext that it will end soon after your departure for studies...Originally posted by man12:both of us are even amazed that the r/s can tahan so long. less than 2yr but far exceeded our expectations liao
r/s is like a plant. U got to nurture it...water it, cultivate it. Some even said that by talking to the plant personally, it will "listen".
guy and ger think differently, and wants differently too.
u hav maintained this love for her times and times... she has sensed the sense of lost, the sense of denial of your physical appearance... in reality, a mis-match in reality... and hence she starts to think differently.
No use lamenting abt your departure since less than 2 yrs back... no point blaming yourself for not fully convinced her on your long absence... ppl learn by reality... she would not hav anticipated the full impact of pain of separation till the fact hits her these couple of months...
This pang of isolation from a dear person can be daunting if one does not hav the willpower, coupled with influences in the vincinity, can trigger illusions too... and hence her wanting to break off. Maybe she has found a life of her own, maybe....
so much abt her side...how about u?
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oh yes! sgboy thanx.. i needed help here.
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my life?? dunno lar still trying salvage watevers thats left.. but i still feel the need to "slap" her awake.
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hmm.. do u love her anot? even IF she is in the wrong....
i sure hope u're not gonna go all the way back there to point fingers, or to teach her the meaning of life, right? -
thats a lesson she gotto learn by herself (if can get into her thick skull)... but at my expense is too great for me to swallow.
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i can say i really do... but in this situation my judgement of her is really fuzzy...
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Pple grow up with time... u do, she does.Originally posted by man12:my life?? dunno lar still trying salvage watevers thats left.. but i still feel the need to "slap" her awake.
ppls needs change over time, u do, she does.
Your feelings for her remains, u do, she doesn't.
Are u thinking she is using this breakoff thing to threaten u to go back to sg? U don't, she doesn't.
She probably has found a life of her own, as u said out for 6 days a week. Is she working or still studying?
Friend, all mi can say is expectation. Your r/s with her did not start on a solid foundation. U expecting her to wait for u all these while...she has got to live a life of her own too. If (touchwood) someone comes along the way and showed her sincerity and compassion, do u think she will not relent?
Just be realistic.
Mi hav friends who do not stand up to the test of LDR, onli 2 couples did... tat's after they broke off and patched back when both are back in sg.
We humans are emotional creatures...with feelings. Gone are the days when 1 will keep oneself for the love 1 forever...
Mi advice is that u hav to be practical about things... think abt your parents who spent so much to send u overseas for study... u hav "signed a contract" with your parents when u enrol yourself in this foreign U. Breaking tis contract is not just abt $$, it is oso breaking hearts too.
Think over it. Talk to a friend u hav, or even talk to your professors.
My best wishes to you.
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yoz try to quote when u reply (ya know the "quote" button)..
tell u wat.. why dun u like get some sleep, do ur shit, do SOMETHING.. get ur mind off things a bit.. call a fren for lunch? it's goddam sunday! go out and smell the fresh air!
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nonetheless tats one thing i'm afraid of (being cheated behind my back)... she's a student btw.
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its 4am at my place ... me in europe..
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tat's trust... u are starting to question your trust for her liao.Originally posted by man12:nonetheless tats one thing i'm afraid of (being cheated behind my back)... she's a student btw.
Nevertheless, this will just go in circles....
Tell her how u feel in an email. If she still insists on the breakoff, guess there's little 1 can do if the other hav changed her mind.
Do a cost-benefit analysis on the viability of your return to sg. The cost is not about $$ onli, the intangibles too.
Good luck
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i was kinda in that position when i was courting her. but managed to survive thru the hard times she had while we are together, thus think differently of me.Originally posted by sgboy2004:while...she has got to live a life of her own too. If (touchwood) someone comes along the way and showed her sincerity and compassion, do u think she will not relent?
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tat's trust... u are starting to question your trust for her liao.
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trust have lar but being so far away and she MIA so many times a week how can i not be scared. i'm more of a pessimist thinking of all outrages possibilities... sometimes i wonder if i know her too well liao..(she needs a lot of attention) -
wah lau europe.. that's far..
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attention seeking...hmmm.. not a good characteristics for LDR...Originally posted by man12:[quote]Originally posted by sgboy2004:
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tat's trust... u are starting to question your trust for her liao.
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trust have lar but being so far away and she MIA so many times a week how can i not be scared. i'm more of a pessimist thinking of all outrages possibilities... sometimes i wonder if i know her too well liao..(she needs a lot of attention)
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when u planning on coming back?
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in another mth.. for a while before i go back again to finish finals..
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when's finals? so u gonna miss classes and still take exams?Originally posted by man12:in another mth.. for a while before i go back again to finish finals.. -
I rather you finish your business at overseas, come back and start everything anew.Originally posted by man12:my so-called gal now says that she felt too neglected and i am too possessive hence she decided not to continue this r/s anymore. she had initiated many break ups and patching back now she more affirmed that this will have no good ending..
sianz.... i did watever i can liao to reassure her that i am doing it for us.. now overseas studying and taking all this crap... really shitz.. and i really dunno wats she's thinking.... no mood for anything but feel like 'slapping' her awake.
she's right now into thise wait and see kind of attitude... and i dunno wats the underlining issue. if there's one??..
those who read my previous posts would probably know better..
Cheers