Is this so called " Love"?
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I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise? -
well.if u r a sweet bf..u should find out wats wrong wif her..does she hv a problem or wat..its childish ti jus keep comlaining no love from..her....anyway..i personally..think that to love is to give..since u love her..i should give wifout comlain..n if u do so..hmmmmmmmmmm ur love for her..is doubtful..Originally posted by blowfish:I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise?
n remember..there r no equal sign in relationship
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find out why,,,,then if cannot of cos break up
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Here's a qns: Do you really like this girl? Hey, it takes 2 hands to clap. If you feel that you have tried ur very best and yet she doesn't respond to your pleas, then maybe it's time for you to break it up and move on. You can't be the one who's giving all the time. Come on, you're a man; it's time to show who's wearing the trousers. Women are picky abt being discriminated of being the weaker link themselves and now, they are having the best seats. Hey, they can't always take advantage of that, can they? Enough is enough. I'll say: Be the man!Originally posted by blowfish:I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise?It is not fair to ask of others what you are not willing to do yourself.
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I think your grilfriend is afraid of committment? or maybe she just isn't very expressive?
Have you really gotten to know her as a friend, as a person? is she always so uncommunicative?
Sad truth...you can't make someone love you more. you can only love HER more.
"love is patient, love is kind, love is not jealous, does not resent, and always, Always endures." -
hmm...y did u hint 2 her tat yr ex is much more caring? sometimes n most of the time, in relationship its a taboo to tok about ex n somemore tis time u say even more caring. i think she hear liao oso sianz tll half
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blowfish,
Your gf is a gangster or from the mafia issit? Thats why so unfeeling and like damn busy like that... -
hmmm... from ur point of view, i can see the ger has some prblem communicating with u... haf u found out the reason y? was it because of her character? y in the 1st place did u agree to be her bf when u noe she will be like tt?Originally posted by blowfish:I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise?
I noe guys too need care and love from ur ladies.. BUT one thing u got to bear in mind.... U dun ask ppl to change for u or for ur benefit... when u are in a relationship with the person, u haf to accept who she is and how she is like.... if there is any changes needed, its by eac individual and not demanded by ur partner...
U haven even try to salvage the relationship and u wan to give up.. let me ask u: y did u be in a rls with her? do u love her? if u do, u got to try to make ur point clear to her.. mayb she dun feel tt u love her enuff... and worse come to worse if it doesnt work out, u still need to tell her... a silence walking away isnt too good of a thing for a guy to do.... it can hurt u more and hurt the ger as well....
so try ur best to communicate with her... if it doesnt relly work out, at least tell her and let her noe.. dun walk away without any sound... -
Sounds like you are being used. Find out the reason for her insensitivity quickly because staying in such a relationship will not benefit you in any way.
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Once a month??
Time for some soul-searching.
If you really love her, and she does not love you, there are 2 things to do...
1. let her go by letting go yourself
2. woo her and win her love
If she still does not and you know she will not, it's only misery if you continue... every one-sided love affair turns into misery.
Mostly, you have to do what you feel is right. Think with your head and temper your logic with your heart.
Good luck and may you find happiness
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<- How can you be SURE that she's not jealous at all....?Originally posted by blowfish:I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
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Dear blowfish,Originally posted by blowfish:I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise?
Have you ever ask her why did she agree to be your gf? Its pretty strange eh, for a someone to be in a relationship and to remain so passive eh?
Its strange, but its not impossible and the only possible reason is that, sad to say, I suspect she accepted you for the sake of accepting, with her feelings remaining aloof. Call once a month? Ask any happy lasting couple around, they will tell you this is outrageous. You don't have to call every single minute, but once a month is certainly an issue you ought to look into and from this point, again, it shows how shallow her liking for you too. (Call also nvm, don't call also nvm.)
You said you did alot of romantic thing - but I guess you failed to achieve something; to fully grasp her heart, feeling, emotions and thoughts. She is treating you like a casual friend isn't it? (correct me if I am wrong)
My advice is not give up without a proper fight; you came into this relationship and you did work hard to create a good relation, however you must alter your ways of doing. My suggestion is...
I) Stop hinting, speak from your heart. Don't presume that by hinting she will get the message. If she is inferior by nature and by mentioning how your ex treat you better than she is, she is going to mantain distance with you even further. Date her, find some suitable place and have a heart to heart communication with her.
Four things you must Remember. Don't...
I) Raise your voice to get message across - it never work.
II) Speak round in bush or mention something not really that relevant between the both of you (e.g. You ex lar, etc)
III) Avoid eye contact; always look into her eye.
IV) Expect things will change, time is needed. Tell her you want to see her effort in trying to work for this relation (I said work for this relation, not as in change - alot of difference).
II) After this talk with her. When she did try to do something for the relation, you must encourage and lead her on. She will feel better and would persist. Psychologically, this is called reinforcing.
P.S: Always expect the worst, but tell yourself you gonna best your best.
Cheers -
thank Yunhaier , your effort to guide me. Thanks. Pity to say what u suggest i did already.
I did sit down one to one with her and tell her how i feel. I do tell her to work hard for this relation and she say OK. But i don feel it from her. Yes, they say love is not to expect anything for return but isnt love means to care for each other no matter what... Love need COMMUNICATION.... but she not doing it.. I tired of initiating everything.......
Now my heart is like tired and lost........
I had given my best shot and it take 2 hand to clapped....if she not doing it,, i may as well give up.... I did make effort but in the end....
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You did already? Well pal, I have to comment that you did a great job to trying for a workable relationship. LIke what you have said... if she doesn't want to do anything about it - its time to review what are the options left for you.Originally posted by blowfish:thank Yunhaier , your effort to guide me. Thanks. Pity to say what u suggest i did already.
I did sit down one to one with her and tell her how i feel. I do tell her to work hard for this relation and she say OK. But i don feel it from her. Yes, they say love is not to expect anything for return but isnt love means to care for each other no matter what... Love need COMMUNICATION.... but she not doing it.. I tired of initiating everything.......
Now my heart is like tired and lost........
I had given my best shot and it take 2 hand to clapped....if she not doing it,, i may as well give up.... I did make effort but in the end....
She say she love me but i dont really feel it....
Look for someone who appreciate you and all your doings - you will live a better life. I got this feeling perhaps she doesn't want to be in the relationship already, just that she doesn't know or want to say the word 'breaking up'
Cheers (Slap a pat on blowfish's back) -
why huh? I think she aint ready to settle down yet!!!
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This is the very few time when i'm able to see Yun giving proper comfort and advise in a friend to friend basis.Originally posted by Yunhaier:You did already? Well pal, I have to comment that you did a great job to trying for a workable relationship. LIke what you have said... if she doesn't want to do anything about it - its time to review what are the options left for you.
Look for someone who appreciate you and all your doings - you will live a better life. I got this feeling perhaps she doesn't want to be in the relationship already, just that she doesn't know or want to say the word 'breaking up'
Cheers (Slap a pat on blowfish's back)
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You mean all other times not friend to friend? and last time not proper?Originally posted by M©+square:This is the very few time when i'm able to see Yun giving proper comfort and advise in a friend to friend basis. 
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hahaha... take it easy pal...Originally posted by Yunhaier:You mean all other times not friend to friend? and last time not proper? -
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am still waiting for her call.... been 3 days and still counting....
but somehow, i don really care so much liao.....
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MOVE ON MAN!!!!!
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Maybe she is 1 type of gal who prefers to tink than do? Communication doesn't have to be verbal... Or maybe she is da quiet type? (psychic type???). U dun actually have to do romantic stuffs for her (maybe she dun buy dat...). Maybe all she needs is yr presence? Maybe she lacks human relationship skills or smth similar? Watever it is, take TIME to noe MORE abt her & analyse da situation. Maybe U'll discover a quality she possess dat very few have & will envy? But if U tink its juz a waste of time, clear out EVERYTHING face to face.Originally posted by blowfish:I have a problem. I do really need u people advise....
It like this. I had a gf which i love her alot. But the problem is she do not like to communicate. She seldom call me (once a mth) and i sometimes feel no love from her. Why she wan me to be her bf when she don even try to find out how i feel....
I told her b4 that i dont feel much love from her but she never change even though she say she try. I hint her that my ex is much more caring than her and blar balr.... but she had no reaction. She did not feel jeoloues or what!!!!
I did a lot for her, most romantic things everything, what i ask for is jus to show me her love ... is it too much to ask for? Guy still need love and care from the ladies....
I think am giving up this relationship for good. Love is just like onion, the deeper u peel, u only end up in tears. Now i don bother to call her anymore.....
Now i don even know she really love me or not even she sometimes say she love me.....
give up.....
any advise?
And remember 1 thing: "There are all kinds of people out there" (My trademark sig ) -
Should try looking into the 'ROOT' of the problem instead of digging each other's faults....Originally posted by blowfish:am still waiting for her call.... been 3 days and still counting....
but somehow, i don really care so much liao..... -
yesterday she sms me..
i sms her back saying am feeling very down .....
she sms me back asking why?
i never sms back... I SICK OF SMS...
Cant as a gf she will not call me or find out what really happened?
or is it that she think i need to be alone? But if that is the case cant she just call me at least to find out what happened?
SIANZ.... with a tired heart..
ANY comment? really need you pals out there...... -
U may need to go out wif frens, or tok wif some1 U feel comfortable wif... I noe its hurting, but as long as U have feelings for her, it will... Da rest is up to her...Originally posted by blowfish:yesterday she sms me..
i sms her back saying am feeling very down .....
she sms me back asking why?
i never sms back... I SICK OF SMS...
Cant as a gf she will not call me or find out what really happened?
or is it that she think i need to be alone? But if that is the case cant she just call me at least to find out what happened?
SIANZ.... with a tired heart..
ANY comment? really need you pals out there......