My husband got a China mistress recently. He choose to stay put with the mistress that even come to an extend to get me to go for an abortion as i am currently in my 7 weeks of pregnancy. I cant believed that he is such an young & highly educated man that can do such thing to his own flesh & blood. Can anyone advise where can i get a good Private Investigator so that i can file a divorce with him as soon as possible.
support is wrong forum.. this is for sgforums support in case you find bugs in this site..
try the agony forum..
anyway, if you can use a computer, google is your friend..
failing that, i did see some ads on the windows along the building just facing the City Hall MRT station
good luck suing the shit out of the guy..
Sorry madam , although i feel pity for you but please get this straight . No matter how highly educated young or old is , that does not make that person is a good man . I have seen some very highly educated morons or even beast . A person who is highly educated just means they studied more stuff in school but they may know nothing about moral and ethnics . I notice nowadays schools don't teach a person about moral ethnics , just how to excel in life perhaps .
And on a personal note ... please do not go for abortion ok , cherish your flesh and blood . I wish you success in your lawsuit against your husband .
Originally posted by Angrrry.00:My husband got a China mistress recently. He choose to stay put with the mistress that even come to an extend to get me to go for an abortion as i am currently in my 7 weeks of pregnancy. I cant believed that he is such an young & highly educated man that can do such thing to his own flesh & blood. Can anyone advise where can i get a good Private Investigator so that i can file a divorce with him as soon as possible.
Hi Angrrry,
I am sorry to hear about what you are going through, and you have my sympathy. Before looking for a PI, perhaps you will like to try getting him to admit that he is having an affair outside through a phone, and use a recorder to record it down.
And if you are trying to file for divorce, it will be better for you to look for a good and experienced lawyer first, as he/she will have more ideas on how exactly to nail your unfaithful husband down.
Cheers.
Wow....I dont know what to say....
Hmm...
Really want to divorce..?
(not other methods)
Ok...
I think you can check from Yellow Pages or such.....
Good luck.....
be strong. speak to a lawyer first - they're the best people to advise you on your next steps e.g. PI etc.
is there a friend/relative or counsellor you can speak to?
I wonder whether FI can help re-direct this thread to Aunt Agony. There got quite a few regulars who can give very good advice.
No matter how highly educated one is, there are bound to be mistakes made...
China woman as we all know, are damn good in seducing man and their money. No matter what type of man, they will have the ability to hook him up. Guys on the other hand, always say that they would not cheat on their wife, but then again, guys think using the dick head and not his head.
Some china woman, can be damn pretty and act until damn ke lian to attract sympathy and then start to prey on that poor guy. Many guy cannot resist a girl that is cute, and yet in a sorry state, and would most likely wanna care for them.
I believe your husband fell for the china girl. He has already lost interest in you because he asked you to abort the child. Not because he cannot afford the child but abort the child due to the china woman. Your husband is bad, damn bad.
You should divorce him asap and then when he is cheated off his money, then he will have learnt his lessons and come crying back for you. Then you should just kick him aside.
Furthermore, just incase if he comes back in the future to fight for the custody of the child, maybe you should record down all that he said, when he says something like "go and abort the damn child, i dont not want him/her at all". Or you can ask him to sign a contract that states that the child is yours and he will not come back for him/her again.
Fuck that man for disgracing all other men, fancy falling for a useless slutty china bitch.
Originally posted by Angrrry.00:My husband got a China mistress recently. He choose to stay put with the mistress that even come to an extend to get me to go for an abortion as i am currently in my 7 weeks of pregnancy. I cant believed that he is such an young & highly educated man that can do such thing to his own flesh & blood. Can anyone advise where can i get a good Private Investigator so that i can file a divorce with him as soon as possible.
U are wrong in the first place to think highly educated and young guy shall act responsible and morally.
Maybe u married him in the first place becos he is highly educated, good future prospect with stable highly paid career but u ignore his character and moral value???
Now all the big problem comes...
Must get half of his assets when you divorce him!
Well, if u are willing to fork out at least 3K to prove that he is adulterous and irresponsible - there is a chance to 'win' in some ways lar. Courts decide on facts not what u feel.
As for lawyers - my suggestion, decide and when u really know that is what u want - hire one if necessary- cos it is an expensive affair.
As for the China woman - she is just an excuse lar - your spouse is what he is - what he is actually is what has surfaced now u a facing hell.
i was told that 80% of sg men station in PRC has a 2nd. not sure if it is true????
Originally posted by CannyOng:
U are wrong in the first place to think highly educated and young guy shall act responsible and morally.Maybe u married him in the first place becos he is highly educated, good future prospect with stable highly paid career but u ignore his character and moral value???
Now all the big problem comes...
Marrying for money is akin to prostituing oneself, marring for security the same!
She need a reason for divorce so that she can get half the assets.
Why would a happily married man look for a mistress ?
Have to see both sides of the story.
Dun be swayed by your emotions.
She may be from china also.
newspaper should have a few ads on PI
set his bird free when he's sleeping...
ugh, i'm sorry to hear about your plight. and nonono, abortion should always be a last resort. not that any one of us here can tell you what to do with your child but yeah, it's a life in there. all the best and stay strong.
Read this from US web site....not sure if it is true.......
When I arrived in China for work a year before, with my fiancé, Gregg, in tow, I'd heard about some peculiar local courtship rituals: parents gathering in parks with their children's résumés to orchestrate matches, high-maintenance Shanghainese women openly seeking wealthy foreign men and the designer bags they could provide.
Originally posted by Fugazzi:Marrying for money is akin to prostituing oneself, marring for security the same!
I am not sure if that hold truth anymore....
My meaning of prostituting oneself is that of compromising oneself (what one is or wants to be) to stay/enter into a ... cos one gains $$$ or .... security.
What happens when the other (another) can no longer provide $$$$ or security. The 'ends' are no longer there. One is bound to feel sore and cheated cos in the first place one was using the other as a means to his/her end. Hence the conflict(s) and blame game.
As to whether it holds true - it depends on whether one is compromising or reconciling oneself to one's choice of making the means as an end unto itself or making the means an end to ... Being self-honest one would know or one can simply ignore and be ...
Originally posted by Arapahoe:Read this from US web site....not sure if it is true.......
When I arrived in China for work a year before, with my fiancé, Gregg, in tow, I'd heard about some peculiar local courtship rituals: parents gathering in parks with their children's résumés to orchestrate matches, high-maintenance Shanghainese women openly seeking wealthy foreign men and the designer bags they could provide.
My co-worker from China also told me there's several "Mistress Village", in pockets of China.
Affluent men keeps their young mistresses, much like Feudal China's concubine culture.
Back in those days, rich men are able to provide for their primary family and keep a concubine.
Singaporean men are a disgrace, they want to keep mistress but their primary wife had to suffer for it.
Embarrasing difference between China men and Singaporean men with mistress...
TWE : Thanks for your advice. I do know is my own flesh and blood but is it fair keeping the child whereby i dont think i can love the child based on what the father did & will the child blame me during the growing stage that i choose to give brith to him/her.It is not healthy for the child to grow up from a single-parent family,the child will face a lot of pressure as well.
True Heart : Thanks for your advice. He admitted everything infront of his parents, my family,counselor and through sms. I also gotten evidence that he was travelling with that woman.