Hello,
I just want to clarify with things here. I'm quite new to clubs and pubs. In fact, last saturday was my very first time went to night club (gotham penthouse). I've been to zirca before and that was the first too quite a few weeks back but i never really entered that place, just outside the area. Since its my first time i was quite excited about this. Because i never had a friend to ask me out go to this kind of place and it looks like my dream come true. I always fantasize myself in those places, u know.. dancing around, talk to the girls, bump into one of the strangers then starts to apologize and had a conversation since its a good place to socialize and stuff.
Ok, last sat when i stepped into the place. I was "wow", u know. But looking around with the girls dancing and those drinks (i never drink before but i would love to try one) and those peoples around me, i felt kind of scared u know. Not like terrified, just a confuse scared. Its strange, i mean i suppose to enjoy this but why am i felt that way? I usually the type those who are really outgoing person but when i entered that place, i felt this fear in me and i went quiet all 4 hours straight. Not literally quiet though. Then when i got back home, i was thinking why this is happening? its a club... a place where teens like me to enjoy but yet it scares me. I was so excited but i never expected this feeling when i entered there.
So i just want to know that anyone of those in clubs/pubs went in the first time got this feeling?
There are different degrees of outgoingness and it does not mean a outgoing person sure will like a club sort of environment.
Sometimes people think a place is such a way but when they go and it doesn't meet their expectation, they may not enjoy it.
Maybe u can try going 1-2 times more and if u still don't like the place, maybe its just not suitable for u. There are many other ways to get to know people and enjoy urself without going to such clubs/pubs.
ehh? ur a teen and u went drinking in bars?
Originally posted by »¤ Liquified ¤« ...:ehh? ur a teen and u went drinking in bars?
In his past posts, he mentioned hes working in a company already so he should not be that young.
Sounds like someone's going to get thier cherries popped. lol
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Sounds like someone's going to get thier cherries popped. lol
there'll always be the first time ma... U expect first-timer act and perform like pros???
Originally posted by dkcx:There are different degrees of outgoingness and it does not mean a outgoing person sure will like a club sort of environment.
Sometimes people think a place is such a way but when they go and it doesn't meet their expectation, they may not enjoy it.
Maybe u can try going 1-2 times more and if u still don't like the place, maybe its just not suitable for u. There are many other ways to get to know people and enjoy urself without going to such clubs/pubs.
ya i guess you're right maybe i try to go there a few more times to get a hang of it. btw u mention there is another place to socialise? where?
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Sounds like someone's going to get thier cherries popped. lol
im not ready for sex. Although i do having thoughts of getting laid.. there's so much things i want to enjoy yet im afraid of it. i dont know why
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
ya i guess you're right maybe i try to go there a few more times to get a hang of it. btw u mention there is another place to socialise? where?
I didn't say places, i said ways.
U can get to know people through forums, online games, sch, work, through friends etc. Clubbing etc are not always the best way to know people unless of cos u want more of that type of friends which personally is not my cup of tea.
U could also consider joining things like volunteery work, community events etc and they are good ways to know new people as well but make sure u have passion it and not just aim to do it to make friends.
As a volunteer, i can clearly tell u that without some sort of passion, u cannot 'survive' doing volunteery work for long.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
im not ready for sex. Although i do having thoughts of getting laid.. there's so much things i want to enjoy yet im afraid of it. i dont know why
How old are u?
I would say that there are alot of things everyone wants to try but there are lots of things best not to try until its the proper time to. Don't let a rash decision ruin ur future life.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
im not ready for sex. Although i do having thoughts of getting laid.. there's so much things i want to enjoy yet im afraid of it. i dont know why
Fear of the unknown.
U can enjoy the little simply things in life man.
Just do what u feel is you. U dont have to BE someone u are not.Relax... observe.. get a drink or two. Feel the mood.. the ambience. aaah.. the bass.. the beat.. the music. Can u feel it ? Is that you ? Is this the place ? Do u feel the mojo..
When i meant cherries to be popped , i didnt mean it sexually. More like, sometimes first timers expect alot. And some may grow accustomed to it, some may suddenly do a 360 n become a fiend.. once tasted the forbidden fruits.. losses all sense of self and becomes the extreme of his former self.
Know ur limits la ya. keke.
Originally posted by ^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~:
there'll always be the first time ma... U expect first-timer act and perform like pros???
Of course not.;p
But each got thier own style n character ma.
Originally posted by dkcx:I didn't say places, i said ways.
U can get to know people through forums, online games, sch, work, through friends etc. Clubbing etc are not always the best way to know people unless of cos u want more of that type of friends which personally is not my cup of tea.
U could also consider joining things like volunteery work, community events etc and they are good ways to know new people as well but make sure u have passion it and not just aim to do it to make friends.
As a volunteer, i can clearly tell u that without some sort of passion, u cannot 'survive' doing volunteery work for long.
why i cant survive volunteer work? please tell me the flaws.
And yes, i dont mean to brag but i already had quite a number of friends but i want to know more. So i do have a passion about it. I know community events but volunteer work? really sorry for being picky but i want to make friends that around my age i believe volunteer work is for 27+ ?
Btw, im 18 now. I just have this mindset that i want to try and enjoy everything that i wanted to do before i reach 20. somesort of my goal
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Fear of the unknown.
U can enjoy the little simply things in life man.
Just do what u feel is you. U dont have to BE someone u are not.Relax... observe.. get a drink or two. Feel the mood.. the ambience. aaah.. the bass.. the beat.. the music. Can u feel it ? Is that you ? Is this the place ? Do u feel the mojo..
When i meant cherries to be popped , i didnt mean it sexually. More like, sometimes first timers expect alot. And some may grow accustomed to it, some may suddenly do a 360 n become a fiend.. once tasted the forbidden fruits.. losses all sense of self and becomes the extreme of his former self.
Know ur limits la ya. keke.
But i want to blend in with these generation of youngsters(NOT KIDS those that are 18 above) nowadays, u know. I mean its like all of your friends enjoy these stuff and fun of life and yet u ponders and wondering how does it feel like. this kind of feeling makes u feel more exciting and burst out with joyness but u still cant do anything about it.
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Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:why i cant survive volunteer work? please tell me the flaws.
And yes, i dont mean to brag but i already had quite a number of friends but i want to know more. So i do have a passion about it. I know community events but volunteer work? really sorry for being picky but i want to make friends that around my age i believe volunteer work is for 27+ ?
Btw, im 18 now. I just have this mindset that i want to try and enjoy everything that i wanted to do before i reach 20. somesort of my goal
There are many different types of volunteer work. Some work with elderly, some work with children, some with the physically handicapped etc etc.
Personally i work with youths and children providing tuition and organising activities for them.
There are a large range of age for volunteers depending on what sort of vol work u do and where u do it. Knowing people older might not be a bad thing as well since u can learn from their experiences etc.
I said u won't 'survive' because without commitment, there is litte push factor to make u continue volunteery work. People with the passion for it will feel happy just doing it regardless whether they have friends going as well or anything. Its the actual task perform that keeps them going. However if u go only to make friends, u will loss motivation if ur friends decides to stop, change place etc etc. Very often, ur beneficeries can 'detect' whether u are really sincere in being there with them.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
But i want to blend in with these generation of youngsters(NOT KIDS those that are 18 above) nowadays, u know. I mean its like all of your friends enjoy these stuff and fun of life and yet u ponders and wondering how does it feel like. this kind of feeling makes u feel more exciting and burst out with joyness but u still cant do anything about it.
I find that a very stupid thought. There is no point in trying to be someone you are not. What others enjoy doesn't mean it is something u will enjoy and vice versa. Everyone have different interest that suits their personality and there is no 1 model fit all thing that u can do.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
But i want to blend in with these generation of youngsters(NOT KIDS those that are 18 above) nowadays, u know. I mean its like all of your friends enjoy these stuff and fun of life and yet u ponders and wondering how does it feel like. this kind of feeling makes u feel more exciting and burst out with joyness but u still cant do anything about it.
Maybe because u are meant for something more. Something greater. What seperates u from these... fools. lol
Everyone go geylang and loving it doesnt mean u have to go n love it too right ?
Originally posted by dkcx:There are many different types of volunteer work. Some work with elderly, some work with children, some with the physically handicapped etc etc.
Personally i work with youths and children providing tuition and organising activities for them.
There are a large range of age for volunteers depending on what sort of vol work u do and where u do it. Knowing people older might not be a bad thing as well since u can learn from their experiences etc.
I said u won't 'survive' because without commitment, there is litte push factor to make u continue volunteery work. People with the passion for it will feel happy just doing it regardless whether they have friends going as well or anything. Its the actual task perform that keeps them going. However if u go only to make friends, u will loss motivation if ur friends decides to stop, change place etc etc. Very often, ur beneficeries can 'detect' whether u are really sincere in being there with them.
i see. U maybe right about me that i wont survive on volunteer work knowing that my objective is to make friends and such. I try to brush up on that. thanks alot for the advice. U really help me :)
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
i see. U maybe right about me that i wont survive on volunteer work knowing that my objective is to make friends and such. I try to brush up on that. thanks alot for the advice. U really help me :)
If u feel u can find the interest in vol work, u can still try. Don't just think of making friends but think of helping ppl etc and thats what most vol thinks.
The purpose many of us volunteer is that we wish to return something to the community, to help ppl while we can etc. Friends, recognition etc etc are secondary to us.
Originally posted by BadzMaro:Maybe because u are meant for something more. Something greater. What seperates u from these... fools. lol
Everyone go geylang and loving it doesnt mean u have to go n love it too right ?
i wont go to such extend of going to geylang though. Just those "in thing" nowadays, u know. Like clubbing, concert, smoking, drunk, getting laid, girlfriend etc etc
Originally posted by dkcx:If u feel u can find the interest in vol work, u can still try. Don't just think of making friends but think of helping ppl etc and thats what most vol thinks.
The purpose many of us volunteer is that we wish to return something to the community, to help ppl while we can etc. Friends, recognition etc etc are secondary to us.
but its hard to have that mindset, u know. My primary in life is to widen my social circle. But its ok, i try to have that mindset of helping people is more important.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
but its hard to have that mindset, u know. My primary in life is to widen my social circle. But its ok, i try to have that mindset of helping people is more important.
Its more important to have true friends. A person who has 5 true friends is ALOT more 'wealthy' than a person who has hundreds of friends but none of them who can be turned to in time of need.
Originally posted by boi_cant tahan:
i wont go to such extend of going to geylang though. Just those "in thing" nowadays, u know. Like clubbing, concert, smoking, drunk, getting laid, girlfriend etc etc
lol.
The in-Thing huh.
;p
hahahhaahhaa so ke ai