I have a Social-Communication Problem with friends

• mixedblooder

  11 Apr 03, 17:31

  be urself be natural.. dun change urself to adapt others..
  
  Yeah bloody right girl! The way to get on in these schools now adays is to be a clone; do what the crowd does, that is basically it, if u are different and at least have a few people like you (same likes dislikes etc) you can have a shot at having a good social circle. But however if u are different in both race and personality, and like with no one who is the same; like in my sad case; how many caucasian/eurasians do you see in local schools? I am different both in race/culture and personality. There will never be a circle for me. I am disgusting, neither here nor there without a soul in the world; well maybe not the world, but certainly not here in Singapore. Either that or ppl are too shy cos they think people like me talk better than them...whatever.
• mixedblooder

  11 Apr 03, 17:31

  So to the guy who started this post, don't despair you are the same race as them, just get into their same books and stuff and u will be fine, be yourself only when u are alone.
• boy in blues

  12 Apr 03, 01:39

  not sure how to help you also. but how about try to relax a little and try not to take other ppl views too seriously. have a good sense of clean humor and a hearty appreciative laugh ready. be immune to critism and sarcasm and take everything with a pinch of salt, and that also applys to how u control your body and facial language and intonation to not betray emotional weakness. lighten the atmosphere by maybe cracking a few jokes here and there in between sombre discussions. try to let others understand you bit by bit each day after that also hear from others. reveal enough abt yourself and let them trust u enough before asking about others. don't ask personal or sensitive questions but first touch on common grounds like common interests, current news, studies, work. don't try to impress ppl but sometimes also reveal some weaknesses or foolish experiences and have a good laugh over yourself to assure ppl that u not arrogant. try to identify with them whenever possible. be appreciative of other ppls humor. because it takes courage and they risk recieving a cold response from the audience and we all know how embarassing that feels. thats all for now. will keep u posted if i think of more. Cheers
• eurofighter

  14 Apr 03, 03:15

  I also have this problem. Somtimes very talkative, sometimes very quiet. Also if speak to girls or someone superior , always stumble. Just cannot find the right words. Anyone help?
• Devil1976

  14 Apr 03, 11:18

  Originally posted by eurofighter:

  I also have this problem. Somtimes very talkative, sometimes very quiet. Also if speak to girls or someone superior , always stumble. Just cannot find the right words. Anyone help?

  Well... Let me handle the girls for you...? "
• Seshiro

  14 Apr 03, 11:20

  I don't mind to help too...