i need help.
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poor child.
You are in risk of becoming a juvenile delinquent
doing housework is part of each family member responsibility.
But you are not her maid and you are not paid to do house chores. Even if you are her maid, the MOM is not supposed to beat up the maid, when the maid has done things wrong.
Make a police report (before your wound heal up), perhaps you mom is having some mental issue (womans sometimes having depression and anger management problem). You never know if next time she is going to use hot iron instead... wow fire branding...
But you yourself have to be a fair judge for yourself. if you think you have grown up and if you believe so, have you been doing the right things? Such as studying hard, commit to your CCA and be a typical good student? Something it is important to do things that is good for yourself, good for your own future. Because when your parent die when they are old. you only have yourself to be with. What things do you have then?
Listening to others, observing, following a role model are way to improve yourselves.
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if i were u
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poor child
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Originally posted by Lokey:
poor child.
You are in risk of becoming a juvenile delinquent
doing housework is part of each family member responsibility.
But you are not her maid and you are not paid to do house chores. Even if you are her maid, the MOM is not supposed to beat up the maid, when the maid has done things wrong.
Make a police report (before your wound heal up), perhaps you mom is having some mental issue (womans sometimes having depression and anger management problem). You never know if next time she is going to use hot iron instead... wow fire branding...
But you yourself have to be a fair judge for yourself. if you think you have grown up and if you believe so, have you been doing the right things? Such as studying hard, commit to your CCA and be a typical good student? Something it is important to do things that is good for yourself, good for your own future. Because when your parent die when they are old. you only have yourself to be with. What things do you have then?
Listening to others, observing, following a role model are way to improve yourselves.
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Poor Child, tell your mom that you will go to the police if this continues. Do you have any relatives you can rely on ?
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im gonna delete all my posts just in case =)
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i do not know the sentence of child abuse but the possible outcome of making a police report will be
1. ur mon get some kind of counseling and she change for the better.
2. you might not get physical abuse in future but will hv lotsa of mental abuse like scolding, dun talk to u, treat u as stranger in future.
As i do not know how old n ur gender, i got 2 suggestion for u. 1. talk to ur father and ask him to be the peace maker. 2 retaliate-----of cos not asking u to beat her but put up a brave front as to show u are not an "easy prey" meaning to say u r not young anymore and u dun deserve the punishment.
Last but not least....Happy birthday to u. May all ur wishes come true.
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try talking to your dad about it..
if that still doesn't work, there are other ways apart from the police.. seek help...
the police may be able to help without actually making a police case out of it..
good luck..
but if it becomes like that again, you will be forced to report it to the police as personal protection is paramount for you...
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may i suggest go for counselling? they can work out a solution or maybe talk to yr parents for u and all info is kept confidential.. i got some good advice from that
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Originally posted by Mybluemoon:
thanks for all your advices. ive talked to my dad about it and he told me not to report. he told me he would talk to her about it [i doubt it will work though] because from what i know, she wont think she's done anything wrong. im a girl, aged 14 btw. and i want to take action because this time, its plastic, next time, it'll be metal. and i dont want my sister to be in danger as well. i made it clear to my father that this is the last time im going to let this happen, if this happens again, i will go straight to the police because she needs help.
i hope all will be well... and your bravery will be rewarded..but really.. if it happens again or even worse, escalates, do go to the police or MCYS for help..
your folks need not know.. they will be in a better position to give you good advice and help as they are trained in such matters..
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Come to my place when she kicks you out :)
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u can try that, but let me ask u this: 1 will walking out solve anything? its only a temp solution 2 how are u going to survive out there w/o money?
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i hope it is the last resort.. not to be taken lightly..
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Originally posted by FrozenDuck:
u can try that, but let me ask u this:
1 will walking out solve anything? its only a temp solution
2 how are u going to survive out there w/o money?----
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Originally posted by Mybluemoon:
thanks for all your advices. ive talked to my dad about it and he told me not to report. he told me he would talk to her about it [i doubt it will work though] because from what i know, she wont think she's done anything wrong. im a girl, aged 14 btw. and i want to take action because this time, its plastic, next time, it'll be metal. and i dont want my sister to be in danger as well. i made it clear to my father that this is the last time im going to let this happen, if this happens again, i will go straight to the police because she needs help.
I would suggest you report before she kill you. I have seen many crazy people around in the hospital. You never knew whether you will be alive next time ... Sometimes, they do things without consciously aware of what they are doing. It is different from you writing now, you are aware and conscious of your posting and languages, gestures...
If you are 14 now, and you think you have grown up, your parents should act like advisors. When you are lost, then they comes in consulting you. When you seems to be too off track then they will come to interfere with you.
You should know how to automatically study when exam comes, govern you own pocket money know what to spend what to not spend, when to sleep....
Talk to your dad first.
FYI, My parents hardly interfere with my life since secondary school.
Happy birthday. Good Luck.
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@Mybluemoon: check yr mailbox, if u need help u can just feel free to sms me, i'll see how i can help. i know your pain because my childhood is only slightly better than yours
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wan me to buy u a cake? and maybe get u some cream for yr bruise? that's all i can do for u ps: happy advance bday
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I know how this feels like, as it happened to me before in a slightly different level of lesser severity, of course. I believed no one should ever resort to violence as a means to solve any problems. It only makes matter worse.
Clearly, If things don't worked out like what ocy said, then perhaps it's time to take a firm stance towards the situation by bringing the matter to officials, who would be able to take whatever means necessary to rectify the situation.
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Originally posted by Mybluemoon:
yes, i believe i have helped out alot. i am an academically inclined student with reasonable grades. i study hard when it is necessary and i never ever gave my parents problems over my results. i am in the IP stream, students from there are academically gifted and do not have to take o levels. however, she is not pleased. she gives all kinds of comments about my results just because i didnt do well for my EOYs this time. im sec 2 by the way. and i participate actively in my CCA and never once have my teachers called my parents up to complain about my results. i pass the promotion criteria as well every single year. my sister faces the same problem as i do. except that she's smarter and moving on to JC next year. we help out alot in the household, and we're not like other spoilt kids who demand to be paid for doing household chores. we can cook, fold and hang the clothes, iron the clothes, sweep and mop the floor, you name it, we do it. i dont deny that sometimes we may be a bit lazy, but, we ultimately still contribute to the family and play our part.
its not just about all the stuff we do at home. i am in a reasonably good school, and all she knows is to throw me crude remarks which make me feel bad instead of encouraging me. she tells me that with my kind of results, i will only manage to have a job as a roadsweeper next time and with my kind of results now, i can only make it to poly. i am only sec 2, there is still room for improvement, and i alr told myself that i need to study hard for the upcoming years.
What the heck! you are saying that I am a spoilt child! . Have you heard of "one to one equivalence exchange"?
just ignore her. dont need to think too much about your academic.
if exam just study, if you failed, you failed , if you score well then go on higher level. Whether you ended up in ITE, Poly, Uni. just try your best. it is unnecessary to compare to other. The FACT is you dont need to be the top in school to be successful in this world. Just pass can already.
Try to develop other talents like swimming, piano, singing...
your mom is very weird.
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but will it help in preventing infection? aiya, where u stay? i drop by and give u some cream after my work (if u wan)