Originally posted by Chunhow:Hey, thanks for your views!
Maybe a 100% and a 95% seems trivially different. Maybe a better way of describing my situation is saying that I own a cat but she's allergic to cat hair. Or if I love smoking but she hates smokers.
Anyway, I'll try to find a way around it.
make yr cat smoke - kill 2 bird with 1 stone, 1 - remove the cat, 2 - can help u quit smoking
Originally posted by FrozenDuck:make yr cat smoke - kill 2 bird with 1 stone, 1 - remove the cat, 2 - can help u quit smoking
It's just an analogy, because I don't want to reveal other stuff ba. I guess I'll compromise.
LOL.....if she allergic to cat hair huh??is anyone here watch **FRIENDS**?? in one of their episode, Racheal brought back this one cat for 1000bucks and most importantly the cat have no hair ,maybe u should try to get her one of those....hehe
LOL...allergic to cat hair huh??try this-have anyone watch **FRIEND**?? in one of the episode racheal brought back a cat for 1000bucks and most importantly this cat have no hair...you can get her one of those...
what i'm trying to say is that you will find your 100% girl bcos nothing is impossible but first you must find out what is that 5%??Ask yourself,is that 5% mean that mch to you??bcos no point you keep searching for that 5% and losing the rest of the 95%...isnt it a bit too much to lose??
Originally posted by Chunhow:It's just an analogy, because I don't want to reveal other stuff ba. I guess I'll compromise.
Hi Chunhow,
You do not need to worry about revealing too much, for as long as you do not reveal your personal identity, no one online will know who you are in the real world.
If you share your exact problems with us, perhaps we will be able to help you out by suggesting some feasible solutions.
Cheers.
Originally posted by Chunhow:All of us would like to meet our very own 100% perfect girl/boy someday. That someone special just to ourselves, with the X factor others cannot appreciate.
Recently I met my 95% perfect girl. I enjoy talking to and hanging out with her. but I think the missing 5% is the same reason which I broke up with my ex-gf for. kinda torn...
what about you people? ever liked/fallen in love helplessly with someone you suspect is not totally compatible with you?
Logically, it's fundamentally flawed.
If you have met someone who is 95% perfect - yet you choose to give her up because of the minority aspects of 5%, it means that:
i) The 5% component actually holds a lot more weight than 5% (it's probably 51%).
OR
ii) Your percentage is based purely on one or a couple of dimensions - in which these may be 95% perfect, but across ALL dimension, it still fails (average of all dimensions is less than 50%).
OR
iii) Your passing grade is 96% - so 95% is still a failed grade.
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I find it amusing when people make claims like these - for example: this particular person is 95 - 99% of what he/she looks for, but because of that few percentage of 'flaws', it renders them 'flawed' and 'impossible' to be with.
Nobody is 100% perfect - the only 100% perfect person exist only in our imagination.
So it's totally a flawed concept if we demand a 100% perfect mate, when the truth is that we are not even 100% perfect ourselves.
Irony. ![]()
Cheers
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Logically, it's fundamentally flawed.
If you have met someone who is 95% perfect - yet you choose to give her up because of the minority aspects of 5%, it means that:
i) The 5% component actually holds a lot more weight than 5% (it's probably 51%).
OR
ii) Your percentage is based purely on one or a couple of dimensions - in which these may be 95% perfect, but across ALL dimension, it still fails (average of all dimensions is less than 50%).
OR
iii) Your passing grade is 96% - so 95% is still a failed grade.
***
I find it amusing when people make claims like these - for example: this particular person is 95 - 99% of what he/she looks for, but because of that few percentage of 'flaws', it renders them 'flawed' and 'impossible' to be with.
Nobody is 100% perfect - the only 100% perfect person exist only in our imagination.
So it's totally a flawed concept if we demand a 100% perfect mate, when the truth is that we are not even 100% perfect ourselves.
Irony.
Cheers
I see your point. Thanks!
I think you are perhaps oversimplifying the compatibility issue.
if you are taking the 100% as compatibility
then I think you need to 'weigh' what are your factors in terms of which factors having higher priority in the whole issue.
Example:
If the 5% has to do with something less important to long term commitment - i.e. She is 5% physically less ideal then u need to ask urself.. are you putting too much emphasis on the 5% cos generally hor.. over time she will just become 10% less ideal.. then 20% less.. etc etc
If the 5% has to do with lifestyle choices, then you need to consider whether you are willing to meet and compromise halfway...
If the 5% has to do with personality and character, then you need to consider if the 95% are so good that you are more than happy to accept it as 100%.
If the 5% has to do with life values - THEN I think you need to seriously consider - especially if both of you are mature in life - cos if there is a difference in thinking in important life values, then it is very difficult for a long term rship be maintained.
Originally posted by Yunhaier:
Nobody is 100% perfect - the only 100% perfect person exist only in our imagination.
Paul, John, and the rest of the Christian fraternity says:
Jesus says hi.
Originally posted by Lord dejavu:
Paul, John, and the rest of the Christian fraternity says:
Jesus says hi.
How about we change it to nobody living in SG? ![]()