In love with a girl with has an oversea boyfriend
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i got to know this girl from my work place. We take the same bus after work everyday. We clicked pretty well and one day i asked if she had a boyfriend and she said yes but thats all. She never talks or mention anything about him. I asked around about her from a colleague of mine and she said her boyfriend works overseas and that she visits him a few times a year. Other than that no one have any idea how close and intimate her relationship with her current boyfriend is as she hardly mentions about him.
One day i took the courage and asked for her number and she gave it to me without any hesitation or questions. Then immediately she asked if me out for a swim. I then suggested dinner and she agreed. I am really surprised how easy it is to ask her out but to be honest i feel somewhat confused. I really like her a lot, i feel she's the perfect girl! But knowing she has a boyfriend overseas some how discourages me. I really need some advice on how to go about it. Should i continue with the dinner outing with her? Should i back off completely? Should i get slowly get closer to her and ask her out more often?
I really have no idea what should i do.... most of my friends told me to go ahead and wait for the chance. Be a close friend to her and reveal my feelings for her at the right time when her current relationship is rocky. Please help. I really need more opinions on this. -
mmm....could it be she is just being friendly to you?
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Ask about her boyfriend more often when you talk to her.
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spike her drinks than sleep with her than she is all yours
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Take some time to get to know her better. When she feels comfortable with you, hopefully she would let you in on her feelings. Then at the opportune moment, you let her know your feelings a.k.a confess. If possible, try to enquire more about her relationship with her boyfriend. Whether is it still "hot or cold". But most importantly, you should go slow and gain her trust over time...
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yeah she's a very friendly girl. going to have dinner with her this friday. What should i ask about her bf?
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ask her if her boyfrend has got big muscles and if he is a gangster or is rich.chances are that she is fooling wiv yer emotions and u might end up hurt....and end up singin the bleeding>>>"TELL LAURA I LUV U...TELL LAURAAA I LUV U..TELL..."......AND DRIVE YER RACE CAR INTO A STACK OF FLAMING TYRES OR PLOW INTO SOME CAR MECHANICS IN SOME RACE PIT!
SERIOUSLY...ASK HER WHY SHE IS DOING THIS?AND IT WILL HURT U BAD IF BOYFREND COMEs BACK N SHE GOES BACK TO HIM..for all u know she is already married.....or very close to boyfrend as she visits him overseas often(only married couples visit one another overseas.)..WHere do u fit in then???me watch plenty of sob stories from chinese movies in past!!:)just eat at macdonalds or burger king meal is sufficient.
possible scenario:
just simply ask her why?why?why? why?
then she would ask u,"why what?"
you:"why are u so fucked up?"
or
you:why are u doin this?
her:lonely leh..
you:invites her to meet yer mom n dad
her:looks like everything is ok n you are both on way to marragedom
you:discovers she leaves you fer boyfrend who comes back later on this year to marry her
her:sowwy
you:jumps off building wiv suicide note
or
just be good frends and keep distance apart till she says shes breakin up wiv boyfrend
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Originally posted by Hseng25:
i got to know this girl from my work place. We take the same bus after work everyday. We clicked pretty well and one day i asked if she had a boyfriend and she said yes but thats all. She never talks or mention anything about him. I asked around about her from a colleague of mine and she said her boyfriend works overseas and that she visits him a few times a year. Other than that no one have any idea how close and intimate her relationship with her current boyfriend is as she hardly mentions about him.
One day i took the courage and asked for her number and she gave it to me without any hesitation or questions. Then immediately she asked if me out for a swim. I then suggested dinner and she agreed. I am really surprised how easy it is to ask her out but to be honest i feel somewhat confused. I really like her a lot, i feel she's the perfect girl! But knowing she has a boyfriend overseas some how discourages me. I really need some advice on how to go about it. Should i continue with the dinner outing with her? Should i back off completely? Should i get slowly get closer to her and ask her out more often?
I really have no idea what should i do.... most of my friends told me to go ahead and wait for the chance. Be a close friend to her and reveal my feelings for her at the right time when her current relationship is rocky. Please help. I really need more opinions on this.HSeng25 - Frankly a lot of oversea relationship does not work out.
Look at it this way, here is a girl with a boyfriend oversea, next come a nice guy ... of course she would have to be absolutly sure before she switch boat.Well it seem that she is interested in you - since she is willing to go out with you. Also she do not want to talk about boyfriend is a good sign - she does not want to put you off - so stop asking !!!
just be her friend and enjoy her company, let nature take its course - if she find you better deal , she will be yours . Rush it and mostly you will spoilt everything .
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lol.. perfect girl.. does such people exist?
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Originally posted by Anima85:
lol.. perfect girl.. does such people exist?
Love is not about finding a perfect person. It's about seeing an imperfect person perfectly. -
Yeah i agree, no one is perfect lol. But she is someone whom i'm looking for. She's not very pretty nor she has a body that turn heads. Its her personality that attracted me to her. Today at office she looked deep into my eyes when we talked a while about work stuff. Usually she doesn't do that. Maybe i a bit sensitive but i really hope this friday dinner with her will be a sweet one!
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Sorry double post
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Originally posted by storywolf:
HSeng25 - Frankly a lot of oversea relationship does not work out.
Look at it this way, here is a girl with a boyfriend oversea, next come a nice guy ... of course she would have to be absolutly sure before she switch boat.Well it seem that she is interested in you - since she is willing to go out with you. Also she do not want to talk about boyfriend is a good sign - she does not want to put you off - so stop asking !!!
just be her friend and enjoy her company, let nature take its course - if she find you better deal , she will be yours . Rush it and mostly you will spoilt everything .
Perfect answer! Hseng25: All the best and enjoy your first date with her this Friday. Key thing to note: Be natural and be yourself. -
*shudders at the thought of LDR ....* NoOoOoO!!! Why... WHY!!!
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she can leave her boyfriend for you, she can leave u for someone else. u want someone like this?
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@Maxtor Well you are partly right but I've decided to go ahead otherwise i wont know what the outcome be. It really sucks if u hold back everything thinking " Wa cannot la..Wa impossible la..etc" If everything so negative then how to be successful in other areas of my life? In the end its the girl's choice and doesn't mean i will tell her i want chase her or be her boyfriend during the first date. Of cos i respect her relationship and like i mentioned i will take it easy. Be a friend first then say. I'm not those type who like one girl die die must make her mine.
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Originally posted by Daveteo:
spike her drinks than sleep with her than she is all yours
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i hope this friday, her boyfriend comes back for good and joins in for dinner..she's already attached for goodness sake..still harbour intentions to "pry" her away...wat happens if ur overseas and u left your gf/fiancee here and some guy does that to her..song bo?
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Originally posted by maxtor:
she can leave her boyfriend for you, she can leave u for someone else. u want someone like this?
I totally agree...
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Originally posted by Master -_-:
i hope this friday, her boyfriend comes back for good and joins in for dinner..she's already attached for goodness sake..still harbour intentions to "pry" her away...wat happens if ur overseas and u left your gf/fiancee here and some guy does that to her..song bo?
Ya... I dun think its morally right too... I will usually go after someone if she is single...
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all i see are 2 guys punching themselves in a dark alley with a gal screaming in horror.........
then one guy whips out a knife and stabs the other guy in the stomach..........................up lorry!
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You are her toyboy. Need one night stand Singapore dun have a lot of pimps around.
Or maybe she having a spat with the boyfriend. Using you as fake "boyfriend".
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Originally posted by laurence82 father:up lorry!
Or rather known as "Ki Chia"
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lol i just want to hear opinions.. but seems like getting no where.. thanks to those with matured and sensible opinons.. haiz hopes dashed.. she asked another lady friend along
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just stay friends for now. u dont want to be ruining something between 2 people who could really be into each other...how would you feel if someone comes onto your girl when you can't protect her? very angry!
your friends gave some good advice though. if she is worth it then stick around as a friend but make sure you don't do anything that will be a threat to her boyfriend or there could be serious problems. don't get too attached...remember she is already taken and at any moment she could feel guilty and totally stop her friendliness and everything towards you.
good luck!