hmm. i am trying. i think it's gonna be a hard journey. cos it's like. i am so inexperience. and also i really duno how does she think about me.
sometimes it's very easy to say but when put to actions, its the hardest.
i am really trying my best to be positive and also telling myself if it did not happen, then let it be, but still. it's hard. sigh she talk to me like a friend for now. like laugh at my jokes, we talk. then she ask me normal qns etc etc.
infact i still gave her a surprise by appearing at her workplace cos she is feeling down that time.
do u all think after that surprise, she know i like her?
Originally posted by mitgalant:hmm. i am trying. i think it's gonna be a hard journey. cos it's like. i am so inexperience. and also i really duno how does she think about me.
sometimes it's very easy to say but when put to actions, its the hardest.
i am really trying my best to be positive and also telling myself if it did not happen, then let it be, but still. it's hard. sigh she talk to me like a friend for now. like laugh at my jokes, we talk. then she ask me normal qns etc etc.
infact i still gave her a surprise by appearing at her workplace cos she is feeling down that time.
do u all think after that surprise, she know i like her?
Flow like a gentle river.
Subtlety is key.
Only when she gets tempted, do you sweep her off her feet..
Set aside all your motives.. and be a genuine caring guy.
No woman can resist a gem ...that is hard to come by.
Originally posted by mitgalant:hmm. i am trying. i think it's gonna be a hard journey. cos it's like. i am so inexperience. and also i really duno how does she think about me.
sometimes it's very easy to say but when put to actions, its the hardest.
i am really trying my best to be positive and also telling myself if it did not happen, then let it be, but still. it's hard. sigh she talk to me like a friend for now. like laugh at my jokes, we talk. then she ask me normal qns etc etc.
infact i still gave her a surprise by appearing at her workplace cos she is feeling down that time.
do u all think after that surprise, she know i like her?
I dont think that surprise you gave her will make her like you.
Try harder, dont give up.
Originally posted by likeyou:I dont think that surprise you gave her will make her like you.
Try harder, dont give up.
i feel like giving up (my situation)
If one is simply being love, that is loving, why the necessity to try, to cajole to woo - beware the fallacy and the illusory projections!
sometimes i feel weird. like she will still speak to me as a friend i guess. and also i really feel very nice with her. but sometimes i sms her, she will not reply. i guess its like dont wanna lead me on. sigh. shd i hang on and go for it. or shd i just know my limits and back out?
hate this situation
Relax bro!
You need to access the situation.
As what you describe, she seem to treat you as her any ordinary friends.
You need to get close to her as often as possible. Only then, you will know where you stand.
but its like, i dont dare to sms her cos for fear of she not replying me.
it's such a hard thing to do. yet i start to miss her so often. trying to keep it away but it just came back.sigh. what can i do to make her divert her attention to me huh.
like, make her think actually hmm.. this guy can consider etc
Originally posted by mitgalant:sometimes i feel weird. like she will still speak to me as a friend i guess. and also i really feel very nice with her. but sometimes i sms her, she will not reply. i guess its like dont wanna lead me on. sigh. shd i hang on and go for it. or shd i just know my limits and back ut?
hate this situation
If she is not to speak to you like a friend.. then what... treat you like an enemy ?
Stop thinking so much into her actions already. Doing so will only make you feel awkward and start to act weird infront of her.
Girls will pick up the awkwardness and it'll be a turn off.
Let her enjoy your company. COnfidence is attractive.
Originally posted by mitgalant:but its like, i dont dare to sms her cos for fear of she not replying me.
it's such a hard thing to do. yet i start to miss her so often. trying to keep it away but it just came back.sigh. what can i do to make her divert her attention to me huh.
like, make her think actually hmm.. this guy can consider etc
If you want her to put you on her " can consider" list.
Treat the others around you with genuine kindness and be helpful.
She will see it with her eyes.
u must give yourself a reasonable time frame with genuine and sincere effort... not advisable to hang on forever...that would make yourself more miserable and wouldn't improve any situation...
as always the same best policy, put your career first ... its the law of attraction ...many good guys were wrongly and sadly termed as stalkers in the end even when they put in great effort...
likewise women will surely put her own interests first due to her security needs, but as a guy...don't neglect your own too...
good luck and all the best!
the best way is to ask her...
well. i think she should know how i treat other people cos i'm really myself all the time. i dont give a fake front.
but the problem is. i think or i know she still miss her ex bf although its over like 2 yrs ago. that's the issue actually.
what can i do on this part ?
can i say its a positive sign that at least she know i like her but she did not turn me down. in fact she still continue to go out with me?
Let her have time to forget her ex.
You should also let yourself have time to relax and not too tense and think unneccessary.
You can make it.
Try and try, but push arh.
cos i wanna help her move on also. to forget her ex etc. but i am at a lost also.
how to make someone forget abt her past and her ex ?
Originally posted by mitgalant:cos i wanna help her move on also. to forget her ex etc. but i am at a lost also.
how to make someon forget abt her past and her ex ?
Why do you need to make her "forget" her ex ? And how are you gonna do tat ? Rip out part of her brain ?
Her past cannot be erased, and is part of who she is today.
Perhaps her ex had set a very high benchmark, that's why she is having a hard time finding someone who is comparable or better than him.
Focus on your strengths and work on your weaknesses, perhaps then will you stand a chance.
perharps i meant it in a wrong way. i should rephrase it as how to make her realise it's the past and it's the future she should look at.
also to let her see my strength and let her know this guy here (which is me) is worth considering.
cos its very hard to let someone notice you unless u do something that catch her attention.that's my problem cos i think she know i like her and i think she know my strength. but its the past that is hindering i guess. i duno thats what i guess
The 'best' way - love her, partake of her as she IS and if it comes back it always was yours - otherwise be thankful that you had a chance to love lar.
Love is not business!
If you are waiting for it to happen ie. a sign or ... before you start to love or whatever -then know it is not love!!!!
The paramount question that u ought to know and be honestly answering - do i have love to share?
Originally posted by mitgalant:perharps i meant it in a wrong way. i should rephrase it as how to make her realise it's the past and it's the future she should look at.
also to let her see my strength and let her know this guy here (which is me) is worth considering.
cos its very hard to let someone notice you unless u do something that catch her attention.that's my problem cos i think she know i like her and i think she know my strength. but its the past that is hindering i guess. i duno thats what i guess
You cannot "make" her. You can only "motivate" her.
What is worth considering.. is up to her to observe.
You can send her a thousand flowers, but none will reach her heart .. when what you put on is only a show.
You can sit and wait.. but one day another guy will come and take her away.
What you like.. others will like too.
If rejection is wat you fear.. then you are already defeated.
Reach out and grab wat you desire, or leave her be.
Originally posted by jojobeach:You cannot "make" her. You can only "motivate" her.
What is worth considering.. is up to her to observe.
You can send her a thousand flowers, but none will reach her heart .. when what you put on is only a show.
You can sit and wait.. but one day another guy will come and take her away.
What you like.. others will like too.
If rejection is wat you fear.. then you are already defeated.
Reach out and grab wat you desire, or leave her be.
Hi, jo, happy Lunar New Year of Tiger. Do you celebrate CNY in US?
Originally posted by Fantagf:Hi, jo, happy Lunar New Year of Tiger. Do you celebrate CNY in US?
Yes. but not as festive as Singapore lah.
Originally posted by jojobeach:Yes. but not as festive as Singapore lah.
O i c.
actually i know my prob is i dont want later i try then if she dont like me, then she might even end our friendship.
thats what i dont wanna risk. plus i still gotta face her at my friend place. so the situation is very awkward.
is there any way for me to start slow? perharps u all can guide me abit. cos i dont really get in contact with ladies and also i only hv 1 r/s
Originally posted by mitgalant:actually i know my prob is i dont want later i try then if she dont like me, then she might even end our friendship.
thats what i dont wanna risk. plus i still gotta face her at my friend place. so the situation is very awkward.
is there any way for me to start slow? perharps u all can guide me abit. cos i dont really get in contact with ladies and also i only hv 1 r/s
A girl will want to end the friendship when...
1. the guy keeps pestering her after she says no.
2. the guy starts acting weird and awkward around her.
3. the guy becomes emo and embarrass her within her social circle.
4. she is interested in another guy and she don't want you to be a hinderance.
If you just smile, shrug and let the rejection rolls off .. she won't mind keeping a guy friend like you.
We humans like to be popular. We like to be a celebrity, like a pop star. We yearn recognition. We are pragmatic and know that we all can't be superstars of thousands, but we like the feeling.
Here this is what happened to you.
1 She asked if you are single.
2 She asked for "you to be there"
By these she has place you on a pedestal, she make you feel like a superstar of 1 person. You have a fan and you are in love with yourself.
Grow up, stop being childish.
She is a friend, just be a friend, and don't let your ego set your feelings a flutter. Help her, and not woo her. You need a good dose of maturity for that.
And then later, maybe, you will know if she is the one you can spend the rest of your life with or not. At present you just want her for yourself. Hey! She made you feel important and you think she is your fan, and you don't want to lose that precious fan. Thats all on your part, on her side, she is thinking of herself. You are just one of her friends, who is always not busy.
Don't think too much.