Never...........
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expect that now would be my turn to post my sorrow here
I had a talk with my bf yesterday.
it's all about us. talk about my temper lately, the things that happened to us.
he told me that I blew up my temper very easily lately. I knew that. but I couldn;t help it. I know I am very depressed and stressed over my poly attachment stuffs. In office I have no one to tok to. I was always alone. When I got home, sometimes when I see my bf play mahjong and would not bother me, I would find very annoying and sad, cos he will not even listen to a single word I said cos he so "focus" on his mahjong.
Then I would sit alone at a side to cool myself down. ever since attachment I did not contact my poly frenz cos everyone is so busy with their project. Been keeping a lot of things inside my mind...when my parents saw that I'm depressed in front of my bf, they would scold me for being petty.(they tot I'm angry with him)
When they are in bad mood, they would blow their temper to me. When I;m in bad mood, i keep quiet (to keep myself from blowing) and they also scold me.
I wanted so much attention from them(parents and bf) but they don't know. haiz.. life suxx at times.
there's this thing I kept in my mind for a very long time but I dun think it's appropriate for me to tell my bf.
He always told me that in between us we shouldn't have secrets but he actually has it and didn't tell me. well me, i would tell him anything. yesterday he ask me, ' we do not have any secrets kept right?" I didn;t say anything. but in my mind, i 'nod my head' and ans 'yes you have but you forgot that you never told me and you never meant to tell me'
he share a secret with a 'gf' of his,(well i wouldn;t mind that he has 'gf'), they tok for 5 hrs that night while they share this secret. i didn't knwo but I panick when I saw the both of them together, and the girl would msg him at times, with very sweet msgs etc...
he told me he could not tell me the 'secret' they shared as he promised thr girl but he would expect me to tell him my friends secret to him. I was so upset. but it''s his friend. I dun want to be unreasonable. so I kept it.
his bday is coming soon, so i search quite a long time for a set of 12 player pack of liverpool corinthian figures in 1995( for guys who might know) and finally got one shop to import it me from london. I was so happy when i got it. so I gave it to him....
because i know he likes soccer, so i tried all my best to learn players and team in EPL learn about what is all the so call 'odds' for soccer gambling...
but sometimes i just would like him to get more sensitive just by a little bit that would be enuff.....
I am not a person that like to blew up my temper, but I really have no one no confide in when I'm in great depression. cos my bf wouldn;t care more or less, he would just ans: relax a bit loh....
haiz... very sad lah...
hope these 2 days will get my mood better...
thanks for reading huh
cheers -
/me sayang angeline
dun be sad... i am here for u -
Gee thanks.....Originally posted by Master -_-:
/me sayang angeline
dun be sad... i am here for u
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I read liao... share yr sentiments... Sometimes U need to voice out (not lose temper hor...) wat U wanna sae, how & wat U felt... Ask him he got any things he wanna confide in U...
Try to tell him yr prob... tell him U really wan his attention & company coz of yr situation at da attachment & stuffs. If prob still persists, relax & cool down... Take some time & space to tink thru all dats happened...
There r times U really cannot help it, but no 1 to stand by U when U needed most. I've been there & done it. Or da most U post watever msg U wan here lah! Sure got ppl read 1!
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hi angeline,
briefly, i would say that keeping quiet isn't the best thing in this situation. communication is important and sometimes the other party just cannot tell wat u're feeling.
you can voice out ur concerns without losing ur temper. and even if u do, so what? u came as an entire package, including ur temper, and it's not that he can pick and choose. altho of course, keeping a lid on one's temper is always a prudent thing to do.
let me give u a personal experience on wat i mean by communication (or rather a lack thereof)
when my ex-gf and i were together i thot things were fine and dandy and i was really happy. after we broke-up, suddenly i had SO MANY short-comings that i didn't know about. she would tell me that i had been sh[/i]it at this and sh[/i]it at that. maybe true, maybe not, but that's not the point. had she voiced all this out, i MIGHT have changed, or taken heed, but i was lead to believe that things were good and that'd we last ages and ages.
u might call me insensitive and unable to "tell what she was thinking" (in her exact words). but u know i do have (at least a logical) point in my account above.
hope things work out for you.
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a long story indeed. Ok.
Your bf is busy with his mahjong everyday huh? If that's the case, I think he needs to cut down some time and spend more time with you. You can go and watch some tv or call some of your friends while he's playing his mahjong.
You said that you are lonely during attachment, you can come to sgForums, icq, irc and chat mah.. And for me, during attachment, I did lost some of my friends too.. I'm currently on attachment now. opps. It's working life you know, when you go out work next time, you'll also be by yourself. You have to do everything on your own, cannot depend on others already. Learning every step you take, the mistake you have made.
Your mother don't understands you? Why not try telling her about your problems you have faced during the attachment. Maybe she will understand you better after that..
You like to keep things to yourself. Am i wrong to say that? You should try to speak up and tell your problems to your bf and parents. If not who can help you? No one eh.. only you can help yourself.
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i did told him that i do not know why but lately i really wanted a lot of attention from him, he ask me dis: didn't i give you enuff attention meh?'Originally posted by loneryu00:I read liao... share yr sentiments... Sometimes U need to voice out (not lose temper hor...) wat U wanna sae, how & wat U felt... Ask him he got any things he wanna confide in U...
Try to tell him yr prob... tell him U really wan his attention & company coz of yr situation at da attachment & stuffs. If prob still persists, relax & cool down... Take some time & space to tink thru all dats happened...
There r times U really cannot help it, but no 1 to stand by U when U needed most. I've been there & done it. Or da most U post watever msg U wan here lah! Sure got ppl read 1!
by then I'm stuck tongue tied dunno how should i continue my conversation.
I understand how terrible it is if I was to tell him,"I am very sensitive to XXXX, cos you kept both of ur secret to me and I dunno" i mean it's his friend, i couldn;t be unreasonable.....
his poly friends all don't like me especially the females(reason you all should know lah) I remember the 1st time i met them I bought my favourite chocolates for them(with liquor). and you know what they say behind my back, they say I'm a spendthrift and would spend all my bf's $$. but I dare to say that I didn;t spend his $$ always. we treat each other for dinner or but special gifts in turns.. I cried when I heard that.. I just want to meant gd to them but this is how they 'stab' me behind....
but dun want my bf to stuck, i choose to tolerate...
haizzz... life really suxxxxx
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I tink U shld still tell yr BF all those stuffs... It may be better...Originally posted by IamAngeline:i did told him that i do not know why but lately i really wanted a lot of attention from him, he ask me dis: didn't i give you enuff attention meh?'
by then I'm stuck tongue tied dunno how should i continue my conversation.
I understand how terrible it is if I was to tell him,"I am very sensitive to XXXX, cos you kept both of ur secret to me and I dunno" i mean it's his friend, i couldn;t be unreasonable.....
his poly friends all don't like me especially the females(reason you all should know lah) I remember the 1st time i met them I bought my favourite chocolates for them(with liquor). and you know what they say behind my back, they say I'm a spendthrift and would spend all my bf's $$. but I dare to say that I didn;t spend his $$ always. we treat each other for dinner or but special gifts in turns.. I cried when I heard that.. I just want to meant gd to them but this is how they 'stab' me behind....
but dun want my bf to stuck, i choose to tolerate...
haizzz... life really suxxxxx
As for da "attention" thing... U have to define to him wat kinda "attention" U wan...
Those kind of poly frens (da gals lah) r da "Tiao(3) Puo(1) Li(2) Jian(1)" type... or trying to bring friction to yr r/s... typical of them... I got 1 fren who lost his GF of 3 yrs due to da influences of her "gal" frens... saeing bad things abt my fren. For wat? So dat they can break my fren's r/s wif his GF... & they succeded... dis ppl I despise... "Chi(1) Bu(4) Dao(4) Pu(2) Tao(2), Shuo(1)Pu(2) Tao(2) Suan(1)"
Sad to sae but... dis is life! Dun worry, we all goin thru some diff road... & we got one another's back, rite? -
take care angeline
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cheer up.. hope u these two days will get better...
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Thanks guys for reading what I have posted...
Alright lah. I just want to be a gd gf loh... so I'm trying my very best..
not to be so unreasonable yet understanding.
ok lah life's ups and downs. Things will be fine, hope it turn out right loh.
have to tell myself this: CHeers! -
Cheers! with a big wide smileOriginally posted by IamAngeline:Thanks guys for reading what I have posted...
Alright lah. I just want to be a gd gf loh... so I'm trying my very best..
not to be so unreasonable yet understanding.
ok lah life's ups and downs. Things will be fine, hope it turn out right loh.
have to tell myself this: CHeers! 
not an angry face.. -
u r right.. hehe.. life is full of ups n down.. try sloving the problem.. hehe.. it will be solved.. send u all my blessings..Originally posted by IamAngeline:Thanks guys for reading what I have posted...
Alright lah. I just want to be a gd gf loh... so I'm trying my very best..
not to be so unreasonable yet understanding.
ok lah life's ups and downs. Things will be fine, hope it turn out right loh.
have to tell myself this: CHeers!
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Cheers!!!!!!!!!!Originally posted by kohanson:Cheers! with a big wide smile
not an angry face.. 
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Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...... (La Pi Xiao Xin style)
*I got corrupted by my younger brother & his (La Pi Xiao Xin) vcds......* -
Originally posted by IamAngeline:Cheers!!!!!!!!!!
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Originally posted by IamAngeline:Cheers!!!!!!!!!!
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Haha I love that and I have a friend that imitate his voiceOriginally posted by loneryu00:Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha...... (La Pi Xiao Xin style)
*I got corrupted by my younger brother & his (La Pi Xiao Xin) vcds......*
"Dong Gan Chao Ren"!!!
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Now I got lots of frens imitate... sometimes I oso, unknowingly... I tried to knuckle my younger brother (da twisting on da temples 1...) & then shoot da "Dong gan guang po" on him too! Later than I noe I super corrupted... -______-'''Originally posted by IamAngeline:Haha I love that and I have a friend that imitate his voice
"Dong Gan Chao Ren"!!!
Dong Gan Guang Po~~~!!!!
Bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi.................. -
Haha still got:Originally posted by loneryu00:Now I got lots of frens imitate... sometimes I oso, unknowingly... I tried to knuckle my younger brother (da twisting on da temples 1...) & then shoot da "Dong gan guang po" on him too! Later than I noe I super corrupted... -______-'''
Dong Gan Guang Po~~~!!!!
Bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi bi..................
"Xiao Jie, ni xi huan chi ching jiao ma?" keke
"Xiao Bai..." -
Or better... "Nan Dao... Pa pa, Ni Bu Ai Wo Le Mah?"Originally posted by IamAngeline:Haha still got:
"Xiao Jie, ni xi huan chi ching jiao ma?" keke
"Xiao Bai..."
"Wo Bu Shi Zhe Ge Yi Shi...!"
"Eh Heh Heh Heh......" -
haiz...
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Now yr turn to "Sian Ru Di Chao"? *Eng ver: Enter anti climatic mood*Originally posted by Qoo`~`:haiz... -
Y QOO~Originally posted by Qoo`~`:haiz... -
Hi Angeline,Originally posted by IamAngeline:Thanks guys for reading what I have posted...
Alright lah. I just want to be a gd gf loh... so I'm trying my very best..
not to be so unreasonable yet understanding.
ok lah life's ups and downs. Things will be fine, hope it turn out right loh.
have to tell myself this: CHeers!
I actually wrote jus now.. but somehow its Gone! but nvm.. i jus cut it short...
Communication is the kep point in relationship.. There;s no way to continue if communication breaks down.. You said you had a talk with him yesterday.. i hope both of you have come out with a solution with it or compromise with each other...
You bf is Sheng zai fu zhong bu zhi Fu.. You are a good gf.. but he dun Appreciate what you've done.. You can talk to him when he's not playing mahjong.. or after that... GUys cant do Two Things at one Time!! You rather you talk to him when he's playing.. and replying jus by "yes", " i know" or jus nodding his head.. meaning he undersatnd what you saying.. Which is Not! go have a good bath.. take a rest.. listen to some soft music.. when he's done then go talk to him...
Parents are always naggy.. but sometimes is for your own good.. Communicate with your parents too.. you need their attentions.. they need your attentions too.. try to haf a good chat with them... In the end if there's noone there to help you.. your parents will always be there to support always!!
You are really thoughtful... go around and search for a present that he likes.. and i guess it not cheap... Hope he will apprecaite your effort...
Life is full of ups and downs.. Things will be fine only if you solved it... dont HOPE that things will be alright after awhile.. Matters or problems will soon to come back again.. if you jus put the matter right at the back of your head.. thinking that its over.. nothing will happen... Try to come out wif a soltuion to this.. together with your bf.. n not alone...
Sharing secrets is between you and someone else.. You can chose not to tell your bf.. If he insists.. asak him whether he rather you not to say or wold rather you to lie to him.. He's making things difficult for you..
Remember try not to blow your temper up... Dun wait till when you reall cant take it then say it out.. Talk nicely.. find a good n quiet place to talk.. dun use harsh words..
All the best to You!!
P.S: Pardon me for my English!!