If your close friend is also a good friend with your enemy
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What do you feel?
What will you do?
What can you do?
Why must people be so selfish because they wanted the best of both worlds by being my friend and the friend of my enemy?
I don't really know how to accept it.....quite upset about it since 2 days ago.
Can someone help me please?
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Originally posted by parn:
What do you feel?
What will you do?
What can you do?
Why must people be so selfish because they wanted the best of both worlds by being my friend and the friend of my enemy?
I don't really know how to accept it.....quite upset about it since 2 days ago.
Can someone help me please?
Trust is the key word here.
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i will feel not happy
but wad can i do, my best fren is his fren too
i cannot ask my best fren to avoid him juz becoz he my enemy..
i cannot be so selfish too -
Then all my other friends will also slowly become the friend of my enemy if my close friend went to invite my enemy to go out with my other friends.
Feeling so sad that friends nowadays are so selfish and only want the best of both worlds, without any regards for what I'm feeling.
Worse thing is when my friend doesn't want to help me to clear up all the injustice that I have experienced from my enemy and tell me it's been so long ago already and I should just let it go.
It's so easy to say kind words such as "let it go", but how to let it go when I'm the victim...silently and quietly bearing with all these nonsense from my enemy in the past.
I'm very nice to all my friends, would do anything for them...almost anything. But I'm feeling so sad and depressed that my friend would rather allow me to feel worse than helping to find out why my enemy did all those things to me and why my enemy said all those things about me in the past.
Rejection from a friend disappoints, but a rejection from a close friend killed my heart and it's very painful and sad everytime I realised what a fool I have been to treat her like my close friend.
What if she go and tell my enemy or anyone about my secrets?
I think I will go kill myself if I'm being blackmailed by her in the future.
I cannot defriend her and I cannot bring myself to befriend her anymore and I'm really feeling very trapped.....so very trapped right now and I really don't know what to do.
Been crying myself to sleep for the past 2 days ever since it happened.
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parn also will emo one ar.
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Originally posted by parn:
Then all my other friends will also slowly become the friend of my enemy if my close friend went to invite my enemy to go out with my other friends.
Feeling so sad that friends nowadays are so selfish and only want the best of both worlds, without any regards for what I'm feeling.
Worse thing is when my friend doesn't want to help me to clear up all the injustice that I have experienced from my enemy and tell me it's been so long ago already and I should just let it go.
It's so easy to say kind words such as "let it go", but how to let it go when I'm the victim...silently and quietly bearing with all these nonsense from my enemy in the past.
I'm very nice to all my friends, would do anything for them...almost anything. But I'm feeling so sad and depressed that my friend would rather allow me to feel worse than helping to find out why my enemy did all those things to me and why my enemy said all those things about me in the past.
Rejection from a friend disappoints, but a rejection from a close friend killed my heart and it's very painful and sad everytime I realised what a fool I have been to treat her like my close friend.
What if she go and tell my enemy or anyone about my secrets?
I think I will go kill myself if I'm being blackmailed by her in the future.
I cannot defriend her and I cannot bring myself to befriend her anymore and I'm really feeling very trapped.....so very trapped right now and I really don't know what to do.
Been crying myself to sleep for the past 2 days ever since it happened.
Don't hurt yourself as it will make your enemy happy.
Be strong, life is full of pitfalls.
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where's keng keng to the rescue???
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how old are u??? in the kindergarden or wat? so bloody childish.. this kind of things also wanna complain.. wait till u go to the society.. when there's only a very thin line btw allies and foes.. frens and opponents.. by tat time u can go die already if this kind of things can cry for 2 days..
solution to ur prob.. dun fren anybody and tell ur secrets to anyone so u wont be blackmailed whatsoever.. if u have a pet dog then let ur dog be ur best fren.. like tat u no need worried abt him making frenswith ur enemy.. but by then i afraid u jealous of other dogs....
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Originally posted by parn:
Then all my other friends will also slowly become the friend of my enemy if my close friend went to invite my enemy to go out with my other friends.
Feeling so sad that friends nowadays are so selfish and only want the best of both worlds, without any regards for what I'm feeling.
Worse thing is when my friend doesn't want to help me to clear up all the injustice that I have experienced from my enemy and tell me it's been so long ago already and I should just let it go.
It's so easy to say kind words such as "let it go", but how to let it go when I'm the victim...silently and quietly bearing with all these nonsense from my enemy in the past.
I'm very nice to all my friends, would do anything for them...almost anything. But I'm feeling so sad and depressed that my friend would rather allow me to feel worse than helping to find out why my enemy did all those things to me and why my enemy said all those things about me in the past.
Rejection from a friend disappoints, but a rejection from a close friend killed my heart and it's very painful and sad everytime I realised what a fool I have been to treat her like my close friend.
What if she go and tell my enemy or anyone about my secrets?
I think I will go kill myself if I'm being blackmailed by her in the future.
I cannot defriend her and I cannot bring myself to befriend her anymore and I'm really feeling very trapped.....so very trapped right now and I really don't know what to do.
Been crying myself to sleep for the past 2 days ever since it happened.
If you have such little faith in your friend, then unfriend her.Slowly stop hanging out with her or something. She'll get the hint soon enough.
Otherwise, if you want to salvage the friendship, tell your friend how you feel about what's happening, how it is affecting you and see what your friend says. If she is adamant in getting you to let go of the past, then she's not a real friend who is compassionate enough to care about the situation. A real friend will take the effort to care about your problem and come to a compromise. to help both parties. Friends care about each other's feelings.
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it is the bloody problem of TS. bloody control freak. wanna control everything of frens. so possessive. controlling a person emotions and thinking is worse that the controlling of movements. TS is a bian tai woman la. dun befriend anybody la.. get urself a sex doll and tat one can be ur fren.. control every aspects of it..
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how deep is your grudge with ur enemy?
if your close friend care about you. like you said, she would try to solve the injustice or probably misunderstandings between you and your enemy because she sincerely wants you to recover ("let go").
i agree with the above Friends care about each others' feelings.
yea talk to her. is she worth you calling her your close friend if she still does not react to this kinda situation?
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Originally posted by parn:
Then all my other friends will also slowly become the friend of my enemy if my close friend went to invite my enemy to go out with my other friends.
Feeling so sad that friends nowadays are so selfish and only want the best of both worlds, without any regards for what I'm feeling.
Worse thing is when my friend doesn't want to help me to clear up all the injustice that I have experienced from my enemy and tell me it's been so long ago already and I should just let it go.
It's so easy to say kind words such as "let it go", but how to let it go when I'm the victim...silently and quietly bearing with all these nonsense from my enemy in the past.
I'm very nice to all my friends, would do anything for them...almost anything. But I'm feeling so sad and depressed that my friend would rather allow me to feel worse than helping to find out why my enemy did all those things to me and why my enemy said all those things about me in the past.
Rejection from a friend disappoints, but a rejection from a close friend killed my heart and it's very painful and sad everytime I realised what a fool I have been to treat her like my close friend.
What if she go and tell my enemy or anyone about my secrets?
I think I will go kill myself if I'm being blackmailed by her in the future.
I cannot defriend her and I cannot bring myself to befriend her anymore and I'm really feeling very trapped.....so very trapped right now and I really don't know what to do.
Been crying myself to sleep for the past 2 days ever since it happened.
parn take it easy...true frens are hard to find and there people who appreciate you who what you are. just that you haven't find that person yet.
And dun ever think of trying to commit suicide. You are quite fortunate to survive one attempt and may not survive another.What would happen to your love ones and those who appreciate you as a good fren? won't they be devastated?
well...if you cannot friend or de-friend her, why not plot to make ya fren de-friend you enemy..?
Just another words : I am always waiting for you to bare ya heart to me..
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Originally posted by ^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~:
where's keng keng to the rescue???
finally.
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you are very petty. why cant your friend friend your enemy? why cant you friend your enemy instead is the question you should be asking yourself.
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Originally posted by ^Acid^ aka s|aO^eH~:
where's keng keng to the rescue???
acid u are very funny u know
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Originally posted by multipleviews:
it is the bloody problem of TS. bloody control freak. wanna control everything of frens. so possessive. controlling a person emotions and thinking is worse that the controlling of movements. TS is a bian tai woman la. dun befriend anybody la.. get urself a sex doll and tat one can be ur fren.. control every aspects of it..
You also have problem with TS is it?What happened? Care to share your story here?
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
you are very petty. why cant your friend friend your enemy? why cant you friend your enemy instead is the question you should be asking yourself.
It's not about petty or not, but I'm not perfect like Jesus.Only Jesus can do it, I cannot because I am still of this world.
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Originally posted by parn:
It's not about petty or not, but I'm not perfect like Jesus.Only Jesus can do it, I cannot because I am still of this world.
you mean Jesus only and not the Buddha can do it?
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BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!!!!!!!
Tee hee.
Heh.
"If you are my friend, you cannot friend him or else I don't friend you". Oh. My. Fucking. God. What the fuck is this, fucking preschool?!
Sweet Jesus, I've had a good day but this really takes the cake. It's the best laugh I've had all day.
Jeez.
Heh.
BWAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHA!!!!!!!!!
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Originally posted by Rooney9:
you mean Jesus only and not the Buddha can do it?
You mean you don't know and you need me to spoon feed you with answers?I hope you still have a brain that you can use to think for yourself.
Let me know if you need help, I'm sure there are many people here who will be willing to help you out with your difficulties by explaining it to you using pictures to form a storyboard.
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Originally posted by parn:
What do you feel?
What will you do?
What can you do?
Why must people be so selfish because they wanted the best of both worlds by being my friend and the friend of my enemy?
I don't really know how to accept it.....quite upset about it since 2 days ago.
Can someone help me please?
Why don't you think that you are being selfish by expecting your friend to take your side because you don't like the other party?
This is dumb, kinda like kindergarden kids that "If you friend her I don't want to be your friend"
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Originally posted by elindra:
Why don't you think that you are being selfish by expecting your friend to take your side because you don't like the other party?
This is dumb, kinda like kindergarden kids that "If you friend her I don't want to be your friend"
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Originally posted by parn:
You also have problem with TS is it?What happened? Care to share your story here?
haha... sorry but i am too old to have such story la.. tot only pri school kids got this prob.. if u are a young gal nvm.. but if u above sec 1 then u really should seek help for being a control freak.. get a sex doll like i propose.... -
Originally posted by parn:
You mean you don't know and you need me to spoon feed you with answers?I hope you still have a brain that you can use to think for yourself.
Let me know if you need help, I'm sure there are many people here who will be willing to help you out with your difficulties by explaining it to you using pictures to form a storyboard.
LOL. when you point a finger at someone else, another 3 fingers will point back at you. you know how to say people, dunno how to say yourself lol, brilliant. clap hands.
can someone pls help somemore lol. well I help you cross the road.
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Calm down and take it easy ba. Maybe your friend is also feeling sandwitched... If you are not confortable just tell her, or when she is around with your enemy, dont stick to her too much. if she is your best friend she will understand...