What to do if u can't forget your first love?
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Hi guys and gals,
Tell me how u feel, and what will u do then? Like to hear from u...
Cheers,
takumi -
It's not about forgetting your first love. First love are meant to be memorable, something you will remember for life. The point to note is how you can move on in life should your first love not be your last. To be able to accept another person, to be true to the person.
You can still be friends with your first love, but both parties should know their stand.
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It's not about forgetting your first love. First love are meant to be memorable, something you will remember for life. The point to note is how you can move on in life should your first love not be your last. To be able to accept another person, to be true to the person.
You can still be friends with your first love, but both parties should know their stand. -
it's NOT easy staying frenz wif my first love... it's really not easy.. can someone tell me how to?
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Well, dun have a first love lor. LoL
The more you want to forget something the more you can't forget the thing.....
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The Prince Of Death...
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I agree with Nivlek...
The harder you try to forget...the more you will remember.
You can't forget your first love and you also can't do anything else either other than moving on with your life. -
hmmz.....dun forget, but move oon, so let's just say, what if we are unable to move on? something like, ok i'm in this new r/s, but i keep imagining that the present bf is my ex (first bf). it's like, i hope and wish and even imagine this bf as the ex one......how? btw, how does one move on?
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How to move on..? You just carry on with your life as usual and try not to think too much about the issue. Occupy yourself with tons of other stuff to do so that you will not be thinking too much of your past relationship.
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Locutus: but i've tried........occupy, but u can't possibly be doing work 24hrs a day right? like for example, everytime before i go to sleep, i'd be thinking of him. as in my first bf...just like try to remember as vividly as i can the times io've spent with him.......i try not to think of it, but i just can't help it......
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give yourself a break, dun commit yourself into another r/s before you get over the previous one, you are just going to mess everything up.Originally posted by t|rEd:Locutus: but i've tried........occupy, but u can't possibly be doing work 24hrs a day right? like for example, everytime before i go to sleep, i'd be thinking of him. as in my first bf...just like try to remember as vividly as i can the times io've spent with him.......i try not to think of it, but i just can't help it...... -
T|red, I'm just wondering since you like your first b/f so much, why did the two of you break up? Is it because he is not interested anymore?
I know this is kinda personal but I'm curious. Think it might help me in some ways. I have been in a pretty bad shape since my relationship hits a rough patch a month ago. She is my first love... -
I agree with Luf
I don't think its easy to forget someone that you have love before..not even if you are the one who initated break up...though i don't have such experience, i think its the same as one sided love bah. I didn't forget...
Now that he has got himself a girlfriend...I still love him..its love, not like, and its not puppy love or crush, the feeling jus get deeper and deeper everyday, and this kind of feeling has been goin on for the past 3 yrs, faithful ain't I?? I used to push all my appointments for fearing that he might call me up anytime to ask me out, how foolish i am....But I wish all the best for him..we have not met each other since i know abt his latest relationship, couldn't bring myself to face him. But I'm happy for him, and I'm starting to pull myself out of all these mess and go on with my life. But he will always be deep in my heart...maybe I'm still waiting for him..i dunno, I dun dare to give my heart away anymore unless I have meet one that can really touch my heart, I can't stand the pain anymore..its too painful.
Therefore...there's no need to forget..coz its memorable, its a memory to tell you that you have love deeply before. Pick up ur life and go on, living ur life to the fullest, thats all I can say...Love is not the only thing in life, there are other things to pursue....but nevertheless...can anyone escape from LOVE??
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Well t|red...i understand how you feel. It ain't easy and it ain't possible to stop thinking of it. Im not saying you will be able to totally forget him. Perhaps you might think of him just before you sleep or stuff like that...its normal. But try not to let this matter be totally involved with ur whole life. Life goes on...
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dear UgLy BuT AdOrabLe... i am in the same situation wif u...!!! only that i still meet him now n then although i noe that he's got someone new too... i used to ask myself how can he find someone new so fast. am i already erased from his heart.. up till now, i dunno...Originally posted by UgLy BuT AdOrabLe:I don't think its easy to forget someone that you have love before..not even if you are the one who initated break up...though i don't have such experience, i think its the same as one sided love bah. I didn't forget...
Now that he has got himself a girlfriend...I still love him..its love, not like, and its not puppy love or crush, the feeling jus get deeper and deeper everyday, and this kind of feeling has been goin on for the past 3 yrs, faithful ain't I?? I used to push all my appointments for fearing that he might call me up anytime to ask me out, how foolish i am....But I wish all the best for him..we have not met each other since i know abt his latest relationship, couldn't bring myself to face him. But I'm happy for him, and I'm starting to pull myself out of all these mess and go on with my life. But he will always be deep in my heart...maybe I'm still waiting for him..i dunno, I dun dare to give my heart away anymore unless I have meet one that can really touch my heart, I can't stand the pain anymore..its too painful.
Therefore...there's no need to forget..coz its memorable, its a memory to tell you that you have love deeply before. Pick up ur life and go on, living ur life to the fullest, thats all I can say...Love is not the only thing in life, there are other things to pursue....but nevertheless...can anyone escape from LOVE??
Sam Sam
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audlenelee, at least, you have a "cheng jing yong you" and I, have gain nothing, but lost a lot of heart....sad isn't it?? I wanted so much to see him again, so very much, but perhaps its becoz i'm too bz with my work now...and the increasing workload ... highly associated with him...to keep myself occupy
Sam Sam -
hey, sorry for the late reply. was rather busy the whole week. anyway, i initiated the break-up......some misunderstanding on my part, and also coz he din love me like he used to.......saw it coming actually.....but i just still miss him....Originally posted by dil:T|red, I'm just wondering since you like your first b/f so much, why did the two of you break up? Is it because he is not interested anymore?
I know this is kinda personal but I'm curious. Think it might help me in some ways. I have been in a pretty bad shape since my relationship hits a rough patch a month ago. She is my first love...
anyway, i'm sorry to hear bout ur misfortune too.....cheer up. it's not the end of the world yet. as for me, i shall just b glad that at least he still cares for me like a friend. =) given up hoping for a miracle, patching with him, to happen...tried, n m tired of trying anymore, so i shall just try to b contented with life now. =) -
I also have the same problem.
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Well I had my 1st gf for a year and a half but she went off with a guy she knew for a month.
All I can say is that I still want her as my gf or rather wife. All my other gf's I could not find anywhere in my heart to find that speacial feeling I had for her. Its like its been lost.Even though she broke off with her then bf because he ran off with another girl,she still would not give me a chance.Irony rite? She ran off with some1 and yet that some1 ran off with another person as well.
I really wish to be with her.But 2mths ago she said that she does not want anything to do with me anymore.That hit me really really hard.But what can I do?
I even had a year and a half in Australia to stop my feelings for her.Its not working even as the minute I am typing this.I really wonder how long isit going to take.I hope its not to long cause I really hate this feeling and i wish to get on with my life.
The only thing i am better off with you guys is that i had no choice to see her cause I know if I am in Spore I would have grapped every chance i had just to grap a glimpse of her.Don't worry I won't stalk her.I am NOT A STALKER.But you know its just a feeling or just to make sure she is fine and getting on with life.... -
Cannot forget 1st Love.... errrr wat 1st love???
Life goes on .... so does U and ur ex..ex..ex
so why bother about it and be sad about it.
Be a winner ...... fuck em all.
Dont look back regrettin for not doing anything about it .... Looser!!!!!! -
Dear SNAFU, it's easy to say, hard to do wat u preach.. and we're not losers... it's just that we're not that hard hearted to forget everything...
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if love was a choice, who would ever choose such
exquisite pain?
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Dearie A. .... iz easy just do it. There iz nothing to think about.. wat iz gone iz gone and life goes on .... this iz not a sitcom or movies.
Keep moving ahead ... if u wait u will fall behind. The choice iz urs .... winner or looser in life. -
Dear SNAFU, i'll try...
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SNAFU: wat if i dun wish to b a winner or loser in life?
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I got dumped by my first love, who couldn't get over his first crush....
Anyway, it took 3 mths to get over him. During those 3 mths it was really painful and lonely, but thankfully i had great friends who were by my side when i needed them.
Anyway, I knew that I still loved and cared for him deeply, and the more i talked to him, the harder it was for me to get over the relationship. So in the end I told him that I couldn't talk to him anymore as it hurts me.
2mths later, i found out that he was going out with my irc mei mei. I was actually happy for em.. surprisingly, but hai.. now she wants to break off wif him cos she feels as if she's being controlled.. oh well..
can u belive he told me b4 that he felt controlled in our relationship?? hrm... oh well.
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I stand for the same thing!
------------------Originally posted by Luf:It's not about forgetting your first love. First love are meant to be memorable, something you will remember for life. The point to note is how you can move on in life should your first love not be your last. To be able to accept another person, to be true to the person.
You can still be friends with your first love, but both parties should know their stand.
See Ya!
Lue Ya!