Originally posted by labbishLife:what if they are the type that take will never realise they got problem? even when the situation is so obvious? the type that will get revenge on you for making them feel so wrong~ =.=
First of all, who are these people? a) your family, b) good friends, c) casual friends, or d) people you don't consider your friends? If they even feel like "taking revenge" on you, I hope they're in group (d). If they are not in group (d), you must seriously ask yourself why are they even in group (b) and (c)!
If they are in group (d), why do you bother wasting your energy and time thinking of them?? :)
Thoughts carry energy, either positive or negative. The less negative thoughts you have all the time, everyday, the happier you'll become. Don't just take my words for it. Try it consistently, and experience it for yourself!
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
in short, the choice is yours
there are always grey areas in life that begs Shakespeare's famous question "To do or not to do" which has been vexing humans for eons..and in many situations, one cannot but digress into paths not of choice but choicelessness; that, within its limits, one continues to prod on while waiting for something that may or may not come; and, in turn leads one to question that one's own little life in a fine line between the unbearable lightness of being and nothingness...
with a cup of double shot coffee...one philosophizes the miseries of other peoples' lives in the comfort of their floody home sweet homes
Originally posted by Rainbow Jigsaw:Do you prefer to see the goodness in people or prefer to find weakness in people? It makes a huge difference in your life and what type of person you develop to be, depending on your preference.
Feel free to share your views.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
'See the strengths in others and seek to emulate them.
See the weaknesses in others and seek to prevent them.'
Simple Bear
seeing goodness in people needs practice
cos in some people, the goodness is hidden under the many hard layers that their life and experiences had given them
but usually when we see the hard shell, most times we give up and say we cannot find any goodness...
cos .. our own hard shell find it hard and painful when we knock on other people's hard shells.
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:seeing goodness in people needs practice
cos in some people, the goodness is hidden under the many hard layers that their life and experiences had given them
but usually when we see the hard shell, most times we give up and say we cannot find any goodness...
cos .. our own hard shell find it hard and painful when we knock on other people's hard shells.
Yes, you are right
Got some exp on it
Originally posted by Simple_Bear:'See the strengths in others and seek to emulate them.
See the weaknesses in others and seek to prevent them.'
Simple Bear
True, but caution must be taken not to try and dictate our expectations on others. It's a VERY common problem where self-righteous folks think someone else has a certain weakness, and tries to force his way to make the other person change, or over-critisize the other person, when he himself has the same weakness or even more weaknesses within himself. It's a common case of self-denial of personal faults.
First of all, everyone should try to ensure we're ready first, before we try to 'teach' others. If we're not healed ourselves, we should not try to heal others. Then there'll be so much less conflicts. Such conflicts happen at all levels in this world, from person-to-person to country-to-country level.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:seeing goodness in people needs practice
cos in some people, the goodness is hidden under the many hard layers that their life and experiences had given them
but usually when we see the hard shell, most times we give up and say we cannot find any goodness...
cos .. our own hard shell find it hard and painful when we knock on other people's hard shells.
But why are you carrying around a hard shell around in your life?? Isn't it a burden? :)
Protective shells are often a make-believe external image that you wish to portray to the world, to hide and protect your inner and true self, usually out of fear of being hurt or discovered. When you're prepared to improve your inner and true self, you'll have no fear to show it to the world, and you can drop that shell forever.
When people come together in genuine communication without any pretences, or protective shells, the relationships (friendship/family/romantic) will progress much better.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
Originally posted by Rainbow Jigsaw:But why are you carrying around a hard shell around in your life?? Isn't it a burden? :)
Protective shells are often a make-believe external image that you wish to portray to the world, to hide and protect your inner and true self, usually out of fear of being hurt or discovered. When you're prepared to improve your inner and true self, you'll have no fear to show it to the world, and you can drop that shell forever.
When people come together in genuine communication without any pretences, or protective shells, the relationships (friendship/family/romantic) will progress much better.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
Err I not talking abt myself - talking about it theoretically that usually people, due to their negative experiences, tend to protect themselves with shells. Thus, it makes it hard to see the goodness they have inside and hard to see the goodness in each other - but it doesn't mean it isn't there, but need more practice in observing.
Err my point being that I agree with you - that people should try and see goodness in others and not give up on other people too easily.
Originally posted by ShrodingersCat:
Err I not talking abt myself - talking about it theoretically that usually people, due to their negative experiences, tend to protect themselves with shells. Thus, it makes it hard to see the goodness they have inside and hard to see the goodness in each other - but it doesn't mean it isn't there, but need more practice in observing.Err my point being that I agree with you - that people should try and see goodness in others and not give up on other people too easily.
My apologies. Thought you're referring to yourself. hehe...
Of course, it takes practice, and effort, as it's often so much easier to just critisize people than compliment people (genuinely). But it'll definitely pay off for you and people around you. :)
People who often have behavioural or personality issues, usually have a root cause that started the whole thing, way back in their past, either childhood times, or even past lives. So, it's not always fair to blame people for the way they are now, as often, they really can't help it, as it has gone into their subconscious mind. Actually, this affects almost everyone, whether we realise it or not.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
I'll pick more on the weakness.
i see goodness in people, but also their flaws, sometimes their flaws are so much bigger den their good parts...Sad~ :(
Originally posted by »¤ Liquified ¤« ...:i see goodness in people, but also their flaws, sometimes their flaws are so much bigger den their good parts...Sad~ :(
It's a good start that you can at least see goodness in people. Many people have goodness-blindness, no matter how good the other person is. :)
The next steps are to be forgiving towards others, and work on your own weaknesses as well, as no one is perfect. I'm sure you'll want others around you to also appreciate you for the goodness in you, and not just focus on your weaknesses.
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
weakness in a person is always there. goodness too,
but people will use the weakness of another person for the goodness he/she can get.
That's the world. not only in singapore.