Fall for an attached girl
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I fall for a girl who is attached...she has some underlying problems with the bf, she mentioned she's quite unhappy yet she chooses to stay on as she has put in alot of efforts into maintaining it (4 yrs)... she finds it hard to let go... don't know how to handle and explain to both she and the bf familiy if she breaks...
she knows how i felt towards her and she did confess to her friends she will consider me if she's single... told her i will wait for the day to come but she ask me not to wait and it will be better if we continue as friend as i will be disappointed because she can't give me any promises... am i being foolish to carry on waiting? i know i won't be able to forget her...can anyone pls advise what shld i do? -
cannot forget then wait...
you will stand a better chance if you are beside her when she eventually breaks up
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Originally posted by Come_5:I fall for a girl who is attached...she has some underlying problems with the bf, she mentioned she's quite unhappy yet she chooses to stay on as she has put in alot of efforts into maintaining it (4 yrs)... she finds it hard to let go... don't know how to handle and explain to both she and the bf familiy if she breaks...
she knows how i felt towards her and she did confess to her friends she will consider me if she's single... told her i will wait for the day to come but she ask me not to wait and it will be better if we continue as friend as i will be disappointed because she can't give me any promises... am i being foolish to carry on waiting? i know i won't be able to forget her...can anyone pls advise what shld i do? <!--IBF.ATTACHMENT_2686613-->
My only advice is to choose your path wisely and not regret it later on in life, be it waiting or forgetting about the girl.I had similar probelms a while back, but think about it, if she really breaks off with her current significant half to be with you, what makes you think she might not do it again in future when she's with you?
I'm not implying anything bad, but respect her choices and make your own choice based on the current situation.
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as long as she is single and not married, u got a chance. heck even if she is married, it wont stop guys from wooing her right?
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I hate this kind of situations... you shld nt be involved in the first place
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this is the most common situation any guy will face....triangular dilemma....
as u said it....she has put in a lot .... if she wants to leave....she would have done so already...u r just her spare in times of her emotional despair with her bf
wait for her?.....BIG FAT NO LAH....MOVE ON, AND SOCIALIZE MORE...shed some private manly tears if u must....but dun be excessive...think and live wider..... what is more important is your career and your family....
if u keep on harping on someone who has deep seated attachments...ä½ ä¹Ÿå�ªä¸�过是妄å�šå°�人罢了!
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the worst thing in love is not the hopeless obsession to want to do something in exchange for one’s love that may or may not happen; but to have found yourself playing a shadow of her past love all this time…
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Find a new gf.
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break. move on. don't waste time. you'll vomit blood being in this kind of situation. such girl not worth it
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Originally posted by Fcukpap:
the worst thing in love is not the hopeless obsession to want to do something in exchange for one’s love that may or may not happen; but to have found yourself playing a shadow of her past love all this time…
i agree.
why be number 2 ? you are allowing your self esteem to be damaged by such a worthless girl
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Wait for her ? Ha.. No. She dint give you any commitments what for ?
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today she leaves someone for u.....tomorrow, she leaves you for someone? They should iron out their problems instead of seeking the easy way out.
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stay a distance... end of the day, the one getting hurt is YOU, not her... she has many other OPTIONS other than sticking with you... so you are getting the shorter end of the stick... keep your distance...
trust me; i've been there and i felt like a "man-whore".
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Problematic BGR.
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Leave her and her relationship alone. Go find a single girl. To be honest, i hate guys who fall for attached girl.
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Originally posted by HeiHao:
Leave her and her relationship alone. Go find a single girl. To be honest, i hate guys who fall for attached girl.
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I think you should distance yourself from her for a period of time, giving yourself ample time to think of your feelings towards her. Only then can you be very certain about how you feel towards her. Be her friend in need. When she encounters problems with her boyfriend, lend her the shoulder to lean on cry on. Its ok to play the 'good guy' at times. Please do not take advantage of the situation to be together with her just because she has problems in her relationship. It would not last. Give both her and you some private space to think about the future.
Good Luck in getting the girl you want! I hope my advice helps! :D
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Don't waste time.... Being 3rd party hurted most... if you are watching too many Korean Drama (always cry like no tomorrow...sobs sobs).. just stop and move on !!!! Wait Long Long may not have also... so.. don't waste your time on her...
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Like i said, empty waiting will only hurt you. Brodern your range of friends and such, good guy also hard to be. I will say the road infront of you is harsh....
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it's better to how the age of TS, your career prospects before we're able to give a good comment
Concentrate on your studies if you're still young.
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Move on. You deserve better and dont bring trouble to yourself.
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Originally posted by dangerboi:
it's better to how the age of TS, your career prospects before we're able to give a good comment
Concentrate on your studies if you're still young.
dear all,really appreciate all your feedbacks and advises
i shall give more details...
i am in my mid 20s, finished my degree and is working now
she told me she's unhappy with her relationship for many years due to her bf shortcomings in the relationship. basically the bf takes a "bo chup" attitude towards her and she kept it to herself only until recently before she decided to tell abt it to friends...
she is the kind of guai guai girl whom i think most men will like to have as a wife...
yes i know i might just be a spare tires to her but it really took me so long to find someone i am comfortable with and have that special unexplained feelings...
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maybe after you have shagged her (just like the current bf), you also act bo chap... then another sad fellow will open a similar thread.... and get similar ans from us... Unregardless whether you are graduate or not = 2 diff matters... falling for somebody's babe = NO MEANING... hence, it is up to you.. Graduate should utilize the brain to think much better....
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Nan ren bu huai nu ren bu ai, Get it ?
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he cant help it lar. the ger is too chio liao. how to resist a girl when the girl looks like lin zhiling?