I just have a question... to guys who may ans
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y u feel guilty? The fact that he rejected others bcos of u shows he got motive liao... Proves ur bf right.....Originally posted by IamAngeline:I understand that sometimes partners tends to get insecure, so i actually rejected the previous time. this time he sound that he really wanted me to be his date.. Although I rejected but feel a bit guilty loh. cos he actually told me that there are gal friends of his that called him and wanted to be his date but he rejected 'becos of me'? -
Hmm yah... quite right hor..Originally posted by shaunlaw:y u feel guilty? The fact that he rejected others bcos of u shows he got motive liao... Proves ur bf right.....
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just go for the date lor and u will the ans. then
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Add in 1 more thing... Junior! When U go wif yr buddy (IF U go...) ask him he interested in U or not? then U can decide wat to do lah!Originally posted by life:just go for the date lor and u will the ans. then -
Senior... It's impossible for me to ask him one lah... cus I a kind of person that can't speak outOriginally posted by loneryu00:Add in 1 more thing... Junior! When U go wif yr buddy (IF U go...) ask him he interested in U or not? then U can decide wat to do lah!
yesh i miss one point is before i'm with my ex, my ex ever told me my buddy MAY also like me when my ex is going after me.
but till now, i still couldn't figure it out cos I am a totally different kind of gal he is going for, so where can it be possible?!
i cannot go for the date lah, i dun want my bf to be angry. he sure later on burst out one.. so can avoid try to avoid lah.. i dun like arguments
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Liddat U tok to yr buddy on da phone... cannot let dis drag on & him (yr buddy) bugging U wat... need to settle it early to prevent later complications...Originally posted by IamAngeline:Senior... It's impossible for me to ask him one lah... cus I a kind of person that can't speak out
yesh i miss one point is before i'm with my ex, my ex ever told me my buddy MAY also like me when my ex is going after me.
but till now, i still couldn't figure it out cos I am a totally different kind of gal he is going for, so where can it be possible?!
i cannot go for the date lah, i dun want my bf to be angry. he sure later on burst out one.. so can avoid try to avoid lah.. i dun like arguments -
eh ok lah listen to u i call him.Originally posted by loneryu00:Liddat U tok to yr buddy on da phone... cannot let dis drag on & him (yr buddy) bugging U wat... need to settle it early to prevent later complications...
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Once U ask him he interested in U or not, then U shld noe wat to do next. If not, I got some "guidelines"...
He sae yesh... reject him FLATLY.
He sae no... U ask yr bf for his comments 1st b4 attempting to go out wif him.
U can decide wat U wanna do anywae... mine only example. -
I tired posting this at 10+ but there's network probs in my office. So here's my op.
Hmmm.....he reject other girls all becos of you.Originally posted by IamAngeline:Replying to all at one go: heez
My bf do know my buddy but not very familiar with him. Perhaps I suppose this will link somethimg to do with my ex, as when I;m with my ex(a flirt who two timer me a couple a time thruout our relationship). Why? Cos during that time, all of my ex's buddies was so closed to me(cos they think my ex is a 'ba***rd) and got 2 of his buddies actually wanted to 'get' me out of my ex and decide to take care of me.(Excluding my buddy who i have mentioned)
I understand that sometimes partners tends to get insecure, so i actually rejected the previous time. this time he sound that he really wanted me to be his date.. Although I rejected but feel a bit guilty loh. cos he actually told me that there are gal friends of his that called him and wanted to be his date but he rejected 'becos of me'?
I not very sure lah..
Well then i just my B.O.D for your buddy is no longer valid.
And i say you're a nice girl, sometimes too nice to know where you're standing, hence might hurt some people. (i don't know if i'm right in this sense, you may correct me if i'm wrong.)
May i ask if you would be his date if he spends more time persuading you?
And would you help him out by introducing other girls to be his date?
Try to keep things casual and maybe letting him know that you're fine with lunch and some catching up. But not the date thingy...
I suggest changing his perspective is a better solution.
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Yah, I never contact him for almost a yr before he actually ask me to be his date the first time. I rejected it and have told him like what you mention casual dinner or some catch up will be fine therafter.Originally posted by M©+square:I tired posting this at 10+ but there's network probs in my office. So here's my op.
Hmmm.....he reject other girls all becos of you.
Well then i just my B.O.D for your buddy is no longer valid.
And i say you're a nice girl, sometimes too nice to know where you're standing, hence might hurt some people. (i don't know if i'm right in this sense, you may correct me if i'm wrong.)
May i ask if you would be his date if he spends more time persuading you?
And would you help him out by introducing other girls to be his date?
Try to keep things casual and maybe letting him know that you're fine with lunch and some catching up. But not the date thingy...
I suggest changing his perspective is a better solution.
That's all for now...
and this is what i did in the past by introducing girls to him and help to to get fone numbers from girls he wish to know...
this is the second time and I have not ans him yet.
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It's good to solve it as soon as possible.
Unless if you enjoy the chase....then i've got nothing to say.
Pls disregard my earlier comment if you disagree.
However, it's better for him if you can draw a clean line between the both of you, it wouldn't hurt him so much if you shorten the torture process.
I don't know how you feel....but i guess it's tormenting to both yr boyfriend and your buddy.
Please be fair and make your decision soon.
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ya.. i understand... keke when I post this thread here, i just have the intention of asking whether you guys will have the same thinking like my bf..Originally posted by M?square:It's good to solve it as soon as possible.
Unless if you enjoy the chase....then i've got nothing to say.
Pls disregard my earlier comment if you disagree.
However, it's better for him if you can draw a clean line between the both of you, it wouldn't hurt him so much if you shorten the torture process.
I don't know how you feel....but i guess it's tormenting to both yr boyfriend and your buddy.
Please be fair and make your decision soon.
Cheers.
I do not like my buddy and will never lah kekke
I love my bf so dun worry i might be like undecisive kekekkeke
not very sure how to express my feelings too...
but definitely, if my buddy have that intention i wun let him carry on..
he will be my buddy and that's it! right?
thanks for ur comment MC square!!!!! -
Well it good that u know ur stand..Originally posted by IamAngeline:ya.. i understand... keke when I post this thread here, i just have the intention of asking whether you guys will have the same thinking like my bf..
I do not like my buddy and will never lah kekke
I love my bf so dun worry i might be like undecisive kekekkeke
not very sure how to express my feelings too...
but definitely, if my buddy have that intention i wun let him carry on..
he will be my buddy and that's it! right?
thanks for ur comment MC square!!!!!
IMHO:
i feelt that it alright to be his date afterall its a guy frenz..
Even if he has a motive like what ur BF claim to be, as long as you show him that u 2 are not possible, i believe he is okie abt it.
E fact that he contact u after yrs show that he treasure this relatiophship be it as frenz or what...
And like u say been a long time since u 2 catch up.. u can ask ur BF to fetch u back after that.. i believe your Bf would be understanding enuff..
Let say he has a motive, perhaps it a good time to tell him abt how u feel after dinner. this way he get e message earlier.
Even if he like you and often do ur bidding.. i believe that if u treat him as frenz & him treating you as frenz but in his heart he rather be ur BF. i think e reason why he still contact with u is to know how have u been doing..? are u happy all this while..?
he just miss you and just wanna see u that all.. See u smile that all.. perhaps its just that simple...
he know that u have a wonderful BF and at e same time, he like you..
maye that why.. u e only one he ask before he left and for his date at e ns function...
** Not sure whether am i right...*
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I wonder if you're a male of a female.Originally posted by [ X ] & [ L ]:Well it good that u know ur stand..
IMHO:
i feelt that it alright to be his date afterall its a guy frenz..
Even if he has a motive like what ur BF claim to be, as long as you show him that u 2 are not possible, i believe he is okie abt it.
E fact that he contact u after yrs show that he treasure this relatiophship be it as frenz or what...
And like u say been a long time since u 2 catch up.. u can ask ur BF to fetch u back after that.. i believe your Bf would be understanding enuff..
Let say he has a motive, perhaps it a good time to tell him abt how u feel after dinner. this way he get e message earlier.
Even if he like you and often do ur bidding.. i believe that if u treat him as frenz & him treating you as frenz but in his heart he rather be ur BF. i think e reason why he still contact with u is to know how have u been doing..? are u happy all this while..?
he just miss you and just wanna see u that all.. See u smile that all.. perhaps its just that simple...
he know that u have a wonderful BF and at e same time, he like you..
maye that why.. u e only one he ask before he left and for his date at e ns function...
** Not sure whether am i right...* (no sacarsm meant)
Your opinions may be right.
But how come if he have any fancy on her or whatever it is.
Can't a casual meal be done?
Why does it have to be a function date?
Hmm....i'm questioning if being a function date could do much 'catching up', personally it's better to concentrate 'catching up with one another' in a restuarant or somewhere.
Well well, it may be very simple for a guy to have simple intentions of just seeing a friend smile and he'll be happy. Does the intention stop there??? I personally doubt so.
Let's bring the attention to boyfriend. I wonder how does BF feel now. *wonders*
Let's ask our topic starter.
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Originally posted by M©+square:
haha my bf says if he was to see my buddy he wun tok to him nicely.. although i promise him that I'm not going for the function
I wonder if you're a male of a female. (no sacarsm meant)
Your opinions may be right.
But how come if he have any fancy on her or whatever it is.
Can't a casual meal be done?
Why does it have to be a function date?
Hmm....i'm questioning if being a function date could do much 'catching up', personally it's better to concentrate 'catching up with one another' in a restuarant or somewhere.
Well well, it may be very simple for a guy to have simple intentions of just seeing a friend smile and he'll be happy. Does the intention stop there??? I personally doubt so.
Let's bring the attention to boyfriend. I wonder how does BF feel now. *wonders*
Let's ask our topic starter.
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I'd do the same as your boyfriend too. I'm getting paranoid nowadays.Originally posted by IamAngeline:haha my bf says if he was to see my buddy he wun tok to him nicely.. although i promise him that I'm not going for the function -
Its normal...Originally posted by M©+square:I'd do the same as your boyfriend too. I'm getting paranoid nowadays.
But for me I see 1st... maybe I get close to da buddy... I have complete trust in "my" gf wat... then later decide wat to do lor... BUT if got wat snatch my GF, betray me or wat... I m well known for revenge...
I make sure da "guilty" party "Qiu Shen Bu Neng, Qiu Si Bu De"...
Muah ha ha ha ha ha ha................. -
We should not seek revenge if that's the case. BEcos it takes two hands to clap.Originally posted by loneryu00:Its normal...
But for me I see 1st... maybe I get close to da buddy... I have complete trust in "my" gf wat... then later decide wat to do lor... BUT if got wat snatch my GF, betray me or wat... I m well known for revenge... I make sure da "guilty" party "Qiu Shen Bu Neng, Qiu Si Bu De"...
Muah ha ha ha ha ha ha.................
Remember that it takes only one event to change a person's life(and it might take one function or one dte, one meal to fall for a person), and i'm going to share with you and the rest of the people here too.
If any one leaves and chooses the other person....wish them well. -
Har har... actually I noe revenge is no good... hurts da avenger MORE than da hurt... so dun worry! & do share wat U wanna share hor... as do I lah!Originally posted by M©+square:We should not seek revenge if that's the case. BEcos it takes two hands to clap.
Remember that it takes only one event to change a person's life, and i'm going to share with you and the rest of the people here too.
If any one leaves and chooses the other person....wish them well. -
Originally posted by M©+square:
To M©+square:
I wonder if you're a male of a female. (no sacarsm meant)
Your opinions may be right.
But how come if he have any fancy on her or whatever it is.
Can't a casual meal be done?
Why does it have to be a function date?
Hmm....i'm questioning if being a function date could do much 'catching up', personally it's better to concentrate 'catching up with one another' in a restuarant or somewhere.
Well well, it may be very simple for a guy to have simple intentions of just seeing a friend smile and he'll be happy. Does the intention stop there??? I personally doubt so.
Let's bring the attention to boyfriend. I wonder how does BF feel now. *wonders*
Let's ask our topic starter.
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WEll i am a male... Did i disappoint you.!!! lolx...
Hm. today i just went for my Uni medical review... Saw many babes sia.. saw one quite attractive girl... i lok at her and she look at me and smile... She den walk towards me and say how am i?
i was stun. Then i realise that is one of my long long god sister...
Ha... Sometimes life is really ironical and amusing.. lolx.. Anyway thst another story...
K back to e topics by Miss Wendy..
Well, its a nice function and perhaps it mean sth special abt that night function and he very much wanted to shre it woth Wendy. He dun know mind if she is there as a friend. As long she is there he is glad and happy. I got a feeling even if that function was to announce that he is e most talent soldier and watever which he should be feeling elated abt..
But hey one always want to shre his/her happy moment with someone that he/she like. Be it a BGR relationshp or just as frenz.
I too sometime would like to share some happy moment with someone even if it is my frenz...
In his yearning heart, he must have always wanted to ask e ger out but he keep on holding back. Cos he knows that he does not stand a chance.
however every time before he close his eyes on his bed, he would take a deep breath and look into e far far away sky. and ask Mr Moon whether how is she been all this while.. Been a real long time since he had a good look at her.
And hapen that one day he got a function perhaps its really abt himself, perhaps not. but he would like to share with someone that he feel special with.
and he at last summoned his courage to ask this wonderful ger to be his partner on that happy night of his.
but at last e leading actoress did not turn up.. wow he must have feel realli sad abt it. Even if he got e whole world in his hands...
Anyway from e way he stand his approach this is wat i feel abt it..
Well its urs decision to go or not to.
Hm.. ur BF i feel should allowed you to go. anywayit a chance to c how u treat him as well... it like a test in heart.. lolx...
End of e day if there is trust and understanding mind bet e two , they should be able to teat against time!
Hm.. make mi rem a phase:
Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry...
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To [ X ] & [ L ]:Originally posted by [ X ] & [ L ]:To M©+square:
WEll i am a male... Did i disappoint you.!!! lolx...
Hm. today i just went for my Uni medical review... Saw many babes sia.. saw one quite attractive girl... i lok at her and she look at me and smile... She den walk towards me and say how am i?
i was stun. Then i realise that is one of my long long god sister...
Ha... Sometimes life is really ironical and amusing.. lolx.. Anyway thst another story...
K back to e topics by Miss Wendy..
Well, its a nice function and perhaps it mean sth special abt that night function and he very much wanted to shre it woth Wendy. He dun know mind if she is there as a friend. As long she is there he is glad and happy. I got a feeling even if that function was to announce that he is e most talent soldier and watever which he should be feeling elated abt..
But hey one always want to shre his/her happy moment with someone that he/she like. Be it a BGR relationshp or just as frenz.
I too sometime would like to share some happy moment with someone even if it is my frenz...
In his yearning heart, he must have always wanted to ask e ger out but he keep on holding back. Cos he knows that he does not stand a chance.
however every time before he close his eyes on his bed, he would take a deep breath and look into e far far away sky. and ask Mr Moon whether how is she been all this while.. Been a real long time since he had a good look at her.
And hapen that one day he got a function perhaps its really abt himself, perhaps not. but he would like to share with someone that he feel special with.
and he at last summoned his courage to ask this wonderful ger to be his partner on that happy night of his.
but at last e leading actoress did not turn up.. wow he must have feel realli sad abt it. Even if he got e whole world in his hands...
Anyway from e way he stand his approach this is wat i feel abt it..
Well its urs decision to go or not to.
Hm.. ur BF i feel should allowed you to go. anywayit a chance to c how u treat him as well... it like a test in heart.. lolx...
End of e day if there is trust and understanding mind bet e two , they should be able to teat against time!
Hm.. make mi rem a phase: Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry...
How does it sounds...
I figured out that you're a male when you expose your gender in other threads. And nope, ain't disappointed at all.
If her buddy's intention is purely just that he wants to share his happiness with someone he likes. I believe the honor of invitation is his mother - HA! that's not the point anyway...but you know what i mean....and yes there's a tinge of sarcasm in there.
Well...we could only call him up and and have a talk wih him to find out what does he actually want from Wendy. With your perspective...it's nice and touching, but it's from you and your thoughts, not what Wendy's buddy is thinking. You made some very good point in regards of having a special friendship and bringing it to a higher level. I appreciate you in support that ideal relationship between opposite sex. Cos i believe in close and special friendship between guy and girl too.
But by him calling her up after a some period of interval. I refer to the quote below:Originally posted by IamAngeline:Yah, I never contact him for almost a yr before he actually ask me to be his date the first time. I rejected it and have told him like what you mention casual dinner or some catch up will be fine therafter.
Hmmm....
I'm not very sure if it's that right for him to tell her how important or special she is to him and how much he needs her to be around for the function....i guess it's sometimes too sudden not to doubt. One Year..... *Raise Eyebrow*
If they were to have continual contact with one another and he invited her for the funtion. Why not? And why are there doubts?
I wish Wendy's buddy is the guy you have described.
I will rest on this case here.
Last Point.....
I'm sure you're into romanticism....
Last Last Point Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry... I don't understand how in the world did this thread remind you of this quote.... -
Hmmm....
I'm not very sure if it's that right for him to tell her how important or special she is to him and how much he needs her to be around for the function....i guess it's sometimes too sudden not to doubt. One Year..... *Raise Eyebrow*
If they were to have continual contact with one another and he invited her for the funtion. Why not? And why are there doubts?
I wish Wendy's buddy is the guy you have described.
I will rest on this case here.
Last Point.....
I'm sure you're into romanticism....
Last Last Point Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry... I don't understand how in the world did this thread remind you of this quote....
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Well.. true that i am not her buddy.. but after one year out of all pple he still rem her. And so much wanted her to come.. i guess he must have suffer all these while... anyway where is WENDY while we are talking abt this guy... lolx...
we chat as thou is our problem come to think of it.. lolx...
Hai.. how u define romanticism.. i dun really consider myself on such things.. But i will make her feel wonderful and comfortable when with me...
Hm.. regarding e phase:
Dun know why i suddenly rem.. u are refering to how it rem mi izzit cos e subject is refering to female..??
Actually i was not refering to e subject but instead e whole theme...
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Oh...if you insist that poor guy has been suffering all the while. Ok..i'll let it rest.Originally posted by [ X ] & [ L ]:Hmmm....
I'm not very sure if it's that right for him to tell her how important or special she is to him and how much he needs her to be around for the function....i guess it's sometimes too sudden not to doubt. One Year..... *Raise Eyebrow*
If they were to have continual contact with one another and he invited her for the funtion. Why not? And why are there doubts?
I wish Wendy's buddy is the guy you have described.
I will rest on this case here.
Last Point.....
I'm sure you're into romanticism....
Last Last Point Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry... I don't understand how in the world did this thread remind you of this quote....
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Well.. true that i am not her buddy.. but after one year out of all pple he still rem her. And so much wanted her to come.. i guess he must have suffer all these while... anyway where is WENDY while we are talking abt this guy... lolx...
we chat as thou is our problem come to think of it.. lolx...
Hai.. how u define romanticism.. i dun really consider myself on such things.. But i will make her feel wonderful and comfortable when with me...
Hm.. regarding e phase:
Dun know why i suddenly rem.. u are refering to how it rem mi izzit cos e subject is refering to female..??
Actually i was not refering to e subject but instead e whole theme...
The quote? Oh...yeah. But it's not as if she's making a decision to marry the right guy..... Yeah, choosing the right guy is the not the theme.
I'm tired...going to sleep.....i'll let Wendy speak her part.
Good night to you [ X ] & [ L ] -.- Zzzzz -
Oh...if you insist that poor guy has been suffering all the while. Ok..i'll let it rest.Originally posted by [ X ] & [ L ]:Hmmm....
I'm not very sure if it's that right for him to tell her how important or special she is to him and how much he needs her to be around for the function....i guess it's sometimes too sudden not to doubt. One Year..... *Raise Eyebrow*
If they were to have continual contact with one another and he invited her for the funtion. Why not? And why are there doubts?
I wish Wendy's buddy is the guy you have described.
I will rest on this case here.
Last Point.....
I'm sure you're into romanticism....
Last Last Point Most woman pray to God that they would marry e man they love, while i will pray to God that i would love e man i marry... I don't understand how in the world did this thread remind you of this quote....
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Well.. true that i am not her buddy.. but after one year out of all pple he still rem her. And so much wanted her to come.. i guess he must have suffer all these while... anyway where is WENDY while we are talking abt this guy... lolx...
we chat as thou is our problem come to think of it.. lolx...
Hai.. how u define romanticism.. i dun really consider myself on such things.. But i will make her feel wonderful and comfortable when with me...
Hm.. regarding e phase:
Dun know why i suddenly rem.. u are refering to how it rem mi izzit cos e subject is refering to female..??
Actually i was not refering to e subject but instead e whole theme...
The quote? Oh...yeah. But it's not as if she's making a decision to marry the right guy..... Yeah, choosing the right guy is the not the theme.
I'm tired...going to sleep.....i'll let Wendy speak her part.
Good night to you [ X ] & [ L ] -.- Zzzzz -
Who's Wendy? Which Wendy?