Many problems in our daily lives revolves around relationships between couple, family members, friends, etc. Often, we get angry or disappointed when we don't get what we expect from them, be it love, attention, money, help etc.
Have you thought if you're able to give unconditional love to people around you? And are people around you able to also give that? If everyone can do that, many of our life problems will be solved. :) "Love" simply means genuine care and concern for people, and doesn't just refer to romantic love. It could be family love, friendship type of love, love towards pets, etc.
http://www.rainbowjigsaw.com/2010/05/when-only-unconditional-love-remains.html
Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
Yes
depends on the situation..it doesn't depend on the person
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Unconditional love is easy to say hard to do.
it is best not to anyhow like that give....
u will become emotionally drained
therefore, see situations then give
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
it is best not to anyhow like that give....
u will become emotionally drained
therefore, see situations then give
hahaha
Originally posted by -StarDust-:Unconditional love is easy to say hard to do.
very true indeed. often people will say they will always love/care for someone (be it lover, family member, friend, etc), but when the time comes for them to actually do it, it doesn't happen, cos people think of what they need to give up, eg. time, energy, money, etc.
but if we can slowly try to keep doing it, it'll become more natural to do it, then we won't naturally think of what we're giving up without getting anything in return. :)
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
it is best not to anyhow like that give....
u will become emotionally drained
therefore, see situations then give
If you can truly give unconditionally, you won't even expect anything in return, so you won't be overly concerned about the outcome. If you're not that concerned about the outcome, then you won't feel emotionally drained. :)
Reason that someone becomes emotionally drained is cos he/she is expecting the other party to return the 'favour', in terms of feelings or actions. when you expect something in return, it becomes conditional love.
If you truly care about someone, you'll just do stuff to show your care and concern for that person. Whether that person reciprocates in actions or words shouldn't be of the greatest importance to you, as long as he/she feels better cos of your actions. Of cos, if you love that person romantically, if things are meant to be, then your actions will eventually touch that person's heart. If not, at least, you're slowly growing your caring side, which will help you in your own life anyway. It could also prepare you better for 'The Special One' meant for you in future.. :)
unconditional love is in all forms and guises....its there when u know it but there right before the eyes but deny or refuse to believe in it....
it can be just letting go when u want to hold it most...
Hard to give unconditionally. Most cannot.
most manifestations of unconditional love are truly shown in war or troubled times or when one or both undergo certain crisis....
a rose during peace time could turn betrayal during crisis
I see .
Why is this in Aunt Agony?
Nvm..to ans the qn...yes...but only to people I love...me ish not saint...hard to give unconditional love to people I dunno ![]()
Ask mother teresa
Originally posted by Rainbow Jigsaw:
If you can truly give unconditionally, you won't even expect anything in return, so you won't be overly concerned about the outcome. If you're not that concerned about the outcome, then you won't feel emotionally drained. :)Reason that someone becomes emotionally drained is cos he/she is expecting the other party to return the 'favour', in terms of feelings or actions. when you expect something in return, it becomes conditional love.
If you truly care about someone, you'll just do stuff to show your care and concern for that person. Whether that person reciprocates in actions or words shouldn't be of the greatest importance to you, as long as he/she feels better cos of your actions. Of cos, if you love that person romantically, if things are meant to be, then your actions will eventually touch that person's heart. If not, at least, you're slowly growing your caring side, which will help you in your own life anyway. It could also prepare you better for 'The Special One' meant for you in future.. :)
what i mean is, give unconditionally when it is justified. this applies to many situations.
some people dun deserve it at all
it's easy to talk theory. but in practice, it depends on situation.
give you some extreme examples -
can you unconditionally love someone who rape your wife / daughter ?
can you unconditionally love a brother who cheat you and make you bankrupt so that you have to suffer hardship for the rest of your life ? (this is real life example)
can you unconditionally love a girl / boy who make you lose your career and future ?
can you unconditionally love someone who hit you in a car accident and make you handicapped and bed-ridden for life ?
Originally posted by ayeyo:it's easy to talk theory. but in practice, it depends on situation.
give you some extreme examples -
can you unconditionally love someone who rape your wife / daughter ?
can you unconditionally love a brother who cheat you and make you bankrupt so that you have to suffer hardship for the rest of your life ? (this is real life example)
can you unconditionally love a girl / boy who make you lose your career and future ?
can you unconditionally love someone who hit you in a car accident and make you handicapped and bed-ridden for life ?
see,
this is what i mean
can anyone do that?
NO!
Originally posted by ayeyo:it's easy to talk theory. but in practice, it depends on situation.
give you some extreme examples -
can you unconditionally love someone who rape your wife / daughter ?
can you unconditionally love a brother who cheat you and make you bankrupt so that you have to suffer hardship for the rest of your life ? (this is real life example)
can you unconditionally love a girl / boy who make you lose your career and future ?
can you unconditionally love someone who hit you in a car accident and make you handicapped and bed-ridden for life ?
Those are extreme examples. Think about normal life, giving money to a beggar etc etc
Originally posted by Mr Milo:see,
this is what i mean
can anyone do that?
NO!
Let's not be narrow minded and make absolute/sweeping statements
I'm sure there are some superhumans out there who can.
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Originally posted by TTFU:Those are extreme examples. Think about normal life, giving money to a beggar etc etc
that is still ok
but....still...
it takes time & energy to shower people around u with such love
won't u feel tired?
won't u want to rest b4 going on?
won't u know u will die of over-exertion?
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:Let's not be narrow minded and make absolute/sweeping statements
I'm sure there are some superhumans out there who can.
Yah....
in ur dreams ba
maybe mother teresa talked to u in ur dreams
she psycho u
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
Yah....in ur dreams ba
maybe mother teresa talked to u in ur dreams
she psycho u
>=(
U ish narrow minded!
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Originally posted by Mr Milo:that is still ok
but....still...
it takes time & energy to shower people around u with such love
won't u feel tired?
won't u want to rest b4 going on?
won't u know u will die of over-exertion?
Ya. humans are humans. Ofc not 24/7 with love.....
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:>=(
U ish narrow minded!
that's not being narrow minded!
that's what everyone will think or behave!
i suppose there is no one on earth who still can do like what u said
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
that's not being narrow minded!that's what everyone will think or behave!
i suppose there is no one on earth who still can do like what u said
How you know?!
U've met every1 ah?
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