Can you give unconditional love?
-
opps double post
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
How you know?!
U've met every1 ah?
i am just thinking from the standpoint of a normal human being..............from the most basic of emotions
that is not hard to extrapolate....
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
i am just thinking from the standpoint of a normal human being..............from the most basic of emotions
that is not hard to extrapolate....
>=(
Tt's Y I said superhumans wat! Baka
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
>=(
Tt's Y I said superhumans wat! Baka
then u go find ur superhuman baif there is one, then there must be hundreds of others
good luck!
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
then u go find ur superhuman baif there is one, then there must be hundreds of others
good luck!
-_-"
............
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
-_-"
............
forgive me for being so direct...........i am saying these is because humans are EVIL by nature
-
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
forgive me for being so direct...........i am saying these is because humans are EVIL by nature
Humans can changeAnd ppl can change from being evil to good....
And yes, I forgive u! See wat an angel I am?!
lol
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Humans can changeAnd ppl can change from being evil to good....
And yes, I forgive u! See wat an angel I am?!
lol
yah yah yah
being evil by nature...........hahahahaaha
in times of crisis, the evil side always emerge
some use their good side to hide their evil
as for angel, lucky ur not that mamasan who claims she is an angel with the nick of angel7030
muhahahahaahaha!
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Humans can changeAnd ppl can change from being evil to good....
And yes, I forgive u! See wat an angel I am?!
lol
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
yah yah yah
being evil by nature...........hahahahaaha
in times of crisis, the evil side always emerge
some use their good side to hide their evil
as for angel, lucky ur not that mamasan who claims she is an angel with the nick of angel7030
muhahahahaahaha!
Milo sounds like a cynical, jaded old man...
=X
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Milo sounds like a cynical, jaded old man...
=X
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrwhat i am saying what will a human will behave
not some superhuman like batman, wonderwoman, the fantastic 4...blah blah blah
keep dreaming of ur superhumans ba
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrwhat i am saying what will a human will behave
not some superhuman like batman, wonderwoman, the fantastic 4...blah blah blah
keep dreaming of ur superhumans ba
Not gonna argue wif you...we've got different perspectives
-
To my family members yes. But if talking about romantic love, I think I'm pretty selfish, I would want them to give me their love too. =P I can't possibly keep jio-ing ppl but not get anything in return :(
-
see chio anot first.
-
Chio also nono...
-
Originally posted by ayeyo:
it's easy to talk theory. but in practice, it depends on situation.
give you some extreme examples -
can you unconditionally love someone who rape your wife / daughter ?
can you unconditionally love a brother who cheat you and make you bankrupt so that you have to suffer hardship for the rest of your life ? (this is real life example)
can you unconditionally love a girl / boy who make you lose your career and future ?
can you unconditionally love someone who hit you in a car accident and make you handicapped and bed-ridden for life ?
these are situations where normal man-on-the-street are unlikely to have enough strength to do, though there are people in this world who can still find strength in their hearts to forgive and help in these cases. the people who have caused harm could be regretful, and need help to turn their lives around for the better. If no one can forgive them and help them, they will just end up doing worse things.
The purpose of my posting is more of referring to more daily life examples. Giving unconditional love in our daily lives don't need to be very 'high level cases'. Even doing little things for someone close to you to help him/her feel better, without expecting anything in return, is considered unconditional love. :)
-
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Why is this in Aunt Agony?
Nvm..to ans the qn...yes...but only to people I love...me ish not saint...hard to give unconditional love to people I dunno
Reason why it's in Agony Aunt is that many problems raised by forumers here have a lot to do with expectations of people around them. When people are not able to give unconditionally, as they don't get what they expect from someone else, they'll get disappointed and angry with the other party, and human relationship (romantic/family/school/work) problems erupt. -
Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Let's not be narrow minded and make absolute/sweeping statements
I'm sure there are some superhumans out there who can.
we don't need to be superhumans to be able to help people around us feel better. :)if we don't feel 'strong' enough to make strangers or acquaintances feel better unconditionally, then just start with the closest ones to us. If we take time to ponder on this, we'll realise that often we are not even able to give unconditional love to our closest people, eg. family members, spouses, bf/gf. :)
-
I will feel the one of the ppl who will give unconditional love willing will have to be our mothers~!
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
that is still ok
but....still...
it takes time & energy to shower people around u with such love
won't u feel tired?
won't u want to rest b4 going on?
won't u know u will die of over-exertion?
yes, it can be tiring, if we don't love ourselves (ie. appreciate your own strengths and goodness) first before giving unconditional love to others. if you feel you're not 'strong' enough to give so much, start by doing little everyday things to help just the people closest to you. Gradually, over a period of time, you'll find your capacity to give and receive love/care/concern will grow. Try it. You'll be amazed. :)
-
Originally posted by TYING:
To my family members yes. But if talking about romantic love, I think I'm pretty selfish, I would want them to give me their love too. =P I can't possibly keep jio-ing ppl but not get anything in return :(
will you still feel this way when you're married? if a married couple still cannot give unconditional love to each other and their children, there will be serious problems along the way, especially in our materialistic world today.Even for a dating couple, if they cannot give unconditional love to each other, they will have problems along the way too. Eg. guy cannot spend enough time or money on her, or the girl cannot give enough affection to him, etc. Or if the guy lost his job, is depressed, have no money to treat her well. Or if the girl has family problems at home, and is affecting her emotions badly, so cannot care for her bf enough during that period. If either party cannot give unconditionally, the r/s will never last in such cases.
-
Originally posted by Mr Milo:
yah yah yah
being evil by nature...........hahahahaaha
in times of crisis, the evil side always emerge
some use their good side to hide their evil
as for angel, lucky ur not that mamasan who claims she is an angel with the nick of angel7030
muhahahahaahaha!
Yes, in times of crisis, some people will show their worst sides, eg. some people will steal, rob, kill to get what they need/want. Yet, at the same time, other people will show their best and most caring side, which they didn't even know they had, eg. share whatever little food/money/shelter they have with others in need.
Most impt question: which type of person do we want to be when a severe crisis hits us? :) It makes a huge difference to our life journey, depending on our choice.
If we feel most people will be evil and bad, we naturally will see and experience all the worst things to us in life, even in normal every day life, cos we have conditioned ourselves to only look out for bad things. Even good things that happen around you will be missed, subconsciously, as they are always in your blindspot.
On the other hand, if we feel that many people can be good, then we'll appreciate life more, as we can see all the little good things in our daily lives, eg. a young man rushing for work helping an elderly cross the road, or a schoolgirl with a heavy bag giving up her seat on MRT to an elderly man or pregnant woman. we'll naturally feel lighter in our hearts and happier, as we can see and feel the goodness in people around us. :)
-
unconditional love. Maybe mother theresa can.
-
the framework for unconditional love should be balanced with both genders' interests...not just overemphasizing on women....it would be ironic (esp. for women) to talk about unconditional terms when they expect conditional love in return for so-called "women's security" at the expense of men....
modern love is fed on materialistic terms and conditions....remove them first