Awkward moment these few weeks
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T-T walan u guys. im not sure ok if its i sending signals or whatever, i just trying to cheer him up. i miss the old him.
haha parn, thats a little bit extreme calling guys stupid >-<. ok look u guys, i really like this guy ok but i dont see him in a couples way ok. so stop judging me T-T.
I took most of your guys advice about let it be so i did. And things isn't going what i've expected. He still wont talk to me like as usual. Just a simple of his nervousness conversation. And we out in groups, i know he look at me when i wasn't looking because my friends told me that but when i try go near him, he would just go to the other side like im some stranger. Are u guys sure this ignoring thing will work? T-T is there something else i can do?
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Your guy friend seems to want to rebound fast. If I were you, a few weeks on ignore will put him back on track. Instead of being the pro active party, turn passive. Once he senses something, he'll try to right it back.
You're not the one in the wrong.
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haha yeah. finally someone thinks im not in the wrong xD. thanks ditzy. ok sure, i try to avoid him too, hopefully it works but it will be hard not talking to him
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Originally posted by Simple~Gal:
T-T walan u guys. im not sure ok if its i sending signals or whatever, i just trying to cheer him up. i miss the old him.
haha parn, thats a little bit extreme calling guys stupid >-<. ok look u guys, i really like this guy ok but i dont see him in a couples way ok. so stop judging me T-T.
I took most of your guys advice about let it be so i did. And things isn't going what i've expected. He still wont talk to me like as usual. Just a simple of his nervousness conversation. And we out in groups, i know he look at me when i wasn't looking because my friends told me that but when i try go near him, he would just go to the other side like im some stranger. Are u guys sure this ignoring thing will work? T-T is there something else i can do?
Told you already guys are stupid, why you go and listen and take their advices?How do you expect your guy to recover and be back to his old wonderful self again if your behaviour are showing him that you don't give a damn about him?
We have the power to hurt guys but we also have the power to heal them.
Go grab his arm one day and forced him to go shopping with you to buy something that he's an expert in. Let him know you need his expert help like you really need him to accompany you.
Be assertive! Take control on your guy's neck and steer his emotions in the ways that you want him to feel. If you want him to be happy and normal again, by all means let him feel WANTED again and he will recover in no time like a dried starfish in a bowl of water.
Make him feel wanted and you can proceed to hurt him over and over again and he will be so addicted to your mental torture that he will never be able to get out of it.
We're not evil, we're just being women.
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Originally posted by parn:
Told you already guys are stupid, why you go and listen and take their advices?How do you expect your guy to recover and be back to his old wonderful self again if your behaviour are showing him that you don't give a damn about him?
We have the power to hurt guys but we also have the power to heal them.
Go grab his arm one day and forced him to go shopping with you to buy something that he's an expert in. Let him know you need his expert help like you really need him to accompany you.
Be assertive! Take control on your guy's neck and steer his emotions in the ways that you want him to feel. If you want him to be happy and normal again, by all means let him feel WANTED again and he will recover in no time like a dried starfish in a bowl of water.
Make him feel wanted and you can proceed to hurt him over and over again and he will be so addicted to your mental torture that he will never be able to get out of it.
We're not evil, we're just being women.
ya parnie....so that's how u did it, yeah? But it's now too late for me le...by now u have already got me pinned down already. I can never escape from u liow...
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laughing my ass off at kengkia...
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Originally posted by Simple~Gal:
T-T walan u guys. im not sure ok if its i sending signals or whatever, i just trying to cheer him up. i miss the old him.
haha parn, thats a little bit extreme calling guys stupid >-<. ok look u guys, i really like this guy ok but i dont see him in a couples way ok. so stop judging me T-T.
I took most of your guys advice about let it be so i did. And things isn't going what i've expected. He still wont talk to me like as usual. Just a simple of his nervousness conversation. And we out in groups, i know he look at me when i wasn't looking because my friends told me that but when i try go near him, he would just go to the other side like im some stranger. Are u guys sure this ignoring thing will work? T-T is there something else i can do?
Just tell him directly you dont like him and stop playing with his feelings. Be clear cut, straight to the point. If you feel face to face is too embrassing, try sms.
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You're gonna fail big time in life if every trivial matter u face requires u to get help from forum.
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Aww c'mon, cut her some slack, its not as bad as that particular someone who keeps posting rubbish at speaker's corner.
We should help when we can. Some people are worse, got problems and keep it to themselves then explode later. I happen to be one of them.
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the only cure is to keep hugging him but remain friends. he will get the signal sooner or later.
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im really sorry parn. but i cant do that. thats way too mean and aggressive. I normally dont force my friends including him to go with me =.=. But i do ask them nicely though. If they dont want, then its ok. But if they ask me out, i must come haha. its a somesort of friendship relationship mindset. im sorry parn, i can't just do that but i do take your words about healing him. Yeah i think i'm going to heal him xD. Although im not sure what healing are u really refering to.
Besides i dont think he will agree to go out with me since all of these incident. So yeah, like u guys said time heal all wounds right?
hey maskedangel, ok sorry if im being rude but ur really mean saying that to me. i can't said these problems with my friends. Thats why i post here behind their back, i dont want them to know ok. *pinch your ear* got it?
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haha thanks again ditzy xD
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Originally posted by Simple~Gal:
haha yeah. finally someone thinks im not in the wrong xD. thanks ditzy. ok sure, i try to avoid him too, hopefully it works but it will be hard not talking to him
In the meantime, you can invest this time on other guys wat...... look-see look-see,widen your social circle lah.... -
TS i guess ur fren is just trying to get a rebound relationship...just let him be for the time moment...maybe he will get over it soon..
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Originally posted by Simple~Gal:
im really sorry parn. but i cant do that. thats way too mean and aggressive. I normally dont force my friends including him to go with me =.=. But i do ask them nicely though. If they dont want, then its ok. But if they ask me out, i must come haha. its a somesort of friendship relationship mindset. im sorry parn, i can't just do that but i do take your words about healing him. Yeah i think i'm going to heal him xD. Although im not sure what healing are u really refering to.
Besides i dont think he will agree to go out with me since all of these incident. So yeah, like u guys said time heal all wounds right?
hey maskedangel, ok sorry if im being rude but ur really mean saying that to me. i can't said these problems with my friends. Thats why i post here behind their back, i dont want them to know ok. *pinch your ear* got it?
I'm afraid I cannot help you anymore if what you really need is the support/encouragement to run away from all of it and leave him alone to die/recover by himself.I'm really sorry that I am not able to give you the encouragement that you seeked.
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You receive advice to ignore him.
He receive advice to ignore you.
Looks like he is succeeding, and you are in a quandry.
Play on.
But play too long, and both will be losers.
Let him win.
Parn has got something there.
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why girls are always players
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if i m you, i will ignore it for a few months. then see if its getting better. you just rejected him leh.. give him time la...