Originally posted by Parren2010:Thx for all your comments, i have been trying hard to make time for communication. it seems difficult but i'm trying...
I did not sack my maid of course, and i think she is doing a good job so there's no reason for me to sack her. btw my kids are 4,6 and 7 respectively and i am happy that they are coping well in their kindergarten/pri school. I'll try to make time sending/fetching them to school and talk to them on the way
It's good to see that you have finally wised up and started taking responsibility..... both as a parent to your children, and as an employer to your maid. It was very immature of you to have been jealous of your maid and to have tried to pin the blame on her.
Like everyone else here has said, if you don't have the time, then make the time. It doesn't have to be a lot. Some of the best memories of my childhood involved my mom taking me and my siblings out to the neighbourhood library on Saturdays. We would then go and visit the nearby NTUC after that for shopping.
In hindsight, my mom was smart: in one fell swoop she combined children's education + parent-children bonding time + weekly grocery shopping.... and all at low cost. Go figure.
Originally posted by Parren2010:I'm a parent of 3 and both my husband and i are working hard to pay off our housing debt. To take care of my children during my working hours, i hired a maid about 3 years ago.
However, it has become increasingly evident that my kids are more attached to the maid than me! They always talk with the maid and when i try to talk to them, they either give me short answers or just stare blankly at me. I feel frustrated and so does my husband.
Sometimes I feel like sacking the maid and hiring another one, so that at least i become the more 'familiar' person to them in the house. However, i don't think my kids are willing to part with my maid so easily... Can anyone tell me how to deal with this??? thx alot in advance
Sack the maid for doing a good job ? Well done !
You are such an asshole and a selfish person.
You are the one who is unwilling to commit the time. The fault lies in you. Can't you see that?
Like everyone else here has said, if you don't have the time, then make the time. It doesn't have to be a lot. Some of the best memories of my childhood involved my mom taking me and my siblings out to the neighbourhood library on Saturdays. We would then go and visit the nearby NTUC after that for shopping.
In hindsight, my mom was smart: in one fell swoop she combined children's education + parent-children bonding time + weekly grocery shopping.... and all at low cost. Go figure.
Thanks fudgester I think it is a great idea!