liking someone who's smarter than you....
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A level doesn't measure how smart or clever a person is..
ur A level results simply shows how exam-smart u r..at least tts wat i tink..
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As quite such.... This situation is really gonna bother you much.... Perhaps more than intelluctual issue...? <- But I'm not saying the 'intellectual issue' is not important.... It would have to depends...? Rather likely, it's not gonna be the MAIN ISSUE you have to overcome....Originally posted by lem0nade:It had been 2 years since their break-up and their relationship only lasted for 2-3 months before my fren kind of dumped her... I felt sorry for her and also angry at my fren for doing that to her...
Honestly, I'm abit close to my fren and I can't imagine what my fren will think of me if I'm together (at all) with his ex. -
Sorry... I usually don't like to poke into people's relationship affairs.... But since you asked....Originally posted by lem0nade:And dear mod, care to elaborate on your rolleyes?
Like I've mentioned in my earlier post, your 'intellectual issue' may be SECONDARY... OR rather, it might not even really exist at all.... Your course of approach for now is AVOIDANCE.... Personally, from the current situation I think you're still QUITE FAR from anywhere near about BGR and thinking about whether the fact that she's smarter than you is gonna affect the relationship....
Is this your 1st relationship wannabe? Or you're probably still rather inexperienced...? A girl whom you've like since the 1st day of a JC school...? Seems like till this very day you're still rather far from knowing her quite well...? Besides, she WAS your close friend's gf...? I sense a NATURAL BARRIER here.... The 'natural barrier' has most probably already been identified in the post which I've quoted earlier.... As you've mentioned in your previous post, you probably mind HOW your friend might think of it if you're to take actions in going after this girl.... My suggestion is somehow this matter has gone SUBCONSCIOUS over time....
This 'intellectual issue' might be something brought up just to fill in the 'hollow barrier' between you and her.... It's only rather linked in the sense that the girl is going for law faculty and she's gonna be exposed to a NEW and large source for a potential bf.... Your mind is already telling you that she's gonna step out of sight soon.... The 'intellectual issue' could be just a casually related 'warning signal'....
ADVICE TIME :
Though CHANCES seems SLIM personally in my eyes from a SURFACE ANALYSIS, anything is not always 100% impossible...
1st thing's 1st... This relationship is for yourself... Though you might treasure your relationship with your friend but between him and her it's somehow ALREADY OVER.... Even if you go for it, it might not neccesarily happen between you and her.... To go through this 1st (main?) barrier, you can either directly go to your friend and express your opinion (also taking into consideration what kinda character your friend has & hence subject to changes in whether you should be straightforward about this...) to him... Try to get his recognition of your feeling for that girl... If he gives the GREEN LIGHT, that's one barrier over...
Alternatively, you can just go ahead and see how it develop between you and the girl... If things stop there, complications should naturally die down from there... If things develop, you naturally incur a RISK of having this friendship between you and the girl's EX JEOPARDISED.... But note at this point that it's NOT morally wrong as they've already broken up (besides, your friend was the one to dummp her..? Can't expect her to remind SINGLE for the rest of her life just because of that yup...?) If your friend is not understanding to the matter, take a SLOW APPROACH in the RECOVERY of his understanding for your stand... IF he's CLOSE enogh and worthwhile enough a friend, he should UNDERSTAND the situation if not be happy for you....?
Oh well.... Enough said.... GEE... I think I'm getting TOO WINDY already...? There're alot of things you'll need to find out... eg. 'if the girl attached already?', 'how she could possibly feels about you?', 'is she thinking of going into another relationship?' etc....
Not that I wanna throw a wet blanket on you... Try if you must but don't pin too high a hope on this one...? -
No. What if someone who's not as smart as you like you? or what is someone who is smarter than you like you? you will also let go?
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Uh uh... I think you misread my point... What I'm trying to bring across is whether my intelligence (or the lack thereof) is gonna affect my chances of going after her, not the relationship between us (if ever possible). In other words, will she look down on me and choose other people of higher calibre instead?Originally posted by Devil1976:.... Personally, from the current situation I think you're still QUITE FAR from anywhere near about BGR and thinking about whether the fact that she's smarter than you is gonna affect the relationship.......Is this your 1st relationship wannabe? Or you're probably still rather inexperienced...? A girl whom you've like since the 1st day of a JC school...? Seems like till this very day you're still rather far from knowing her quite well...?
I had one before I went to college and actually I began to like her only after she told me that she had broken up with my close fren. I wouldn't say we are just plain aquaintance, but there is a certain level of friendship between us..... As you've mentioned in your previous post, you probably mind HOW your friend might think of it if you're to take actions in going after this girl....
Yeah...This 'intellectual issue' might be something brought up just to fill in the 'hollow barrier' between you and her.... It's only rather linked in the sense that the girl is going for law faculty and she's gonna be exposed to a NEW and large source for a potential bf.... Your mind is already telling you that she's gonna step out of sight soon.... The 'intellectual issue' could be just a casually related 'warning signal'....
What hollow barrier? Our friendship not close enough or my insecurity? I do NOT think that the 'intellectual isue' is just a casaul remark, it is the problem itself.
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u sound like quite lacking in confidence. many have overcome disadvantages of not having good grades. they discovered their own strengths and became successful by working on them, self-confidence is a must. we have all heard of professionals crossing over to non-related fields, eeerrr...maybe partly because it doesn't pay so well to be an employee right now?Originally posted by lem0nade:This particular ger whom I liked since the first day of school got straight As for her A level exams and she intended to go to the law fac while I'm taking my As this year (I repeated my first year)... should I just give up on her?
letting her know of your inferiority complex wouldnt help her trust that u capable of taking care of her. psycho your confidence level up a bit OK? Cheers. 
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personally, i not quite sure about the accuracies of IQ and EQ in defining a person's capability. every1 is unique in his own right. has the ability to learn and succeed as long as he/she possesses the correct attitude. a smart man once said 'success comes more from hardwork than intelligence(whatever that word means)'. besides grades, very many other of your attributes you can work on. Cheers.Originally posted by lem0nade:What hollow barrier? Our friendship not close enough or my insecurity? I do NOT think that the 'intellectual isue' is just a casaul remark, it is the problem itself.
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Sorry but I think I'm inadequate to give you much advices in your case.....Originally posted by lem0nade:What hollow barrier? Our friendship not close enough or my insecurity? I do NOT think that the 'intellectual isue' is just a casaul remark, it is the problem itself.
As for the rest, notes taken and I appreciate your invaluable help. Thanks to the rest as well.
'Hollow barrier' often refers to a barrier which is naturally there but not often noticed unless the subject involved makes a conscious effort to its existence or to adopt a view from a different perceptive....
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If she really mind da "intellectual" thing... I can tell YOU, she's NOT worth chasing. She ain't da only pebble on da beach. & furthermore, "intellectual" can mean MANY things... good in studies, hi IQ, good analysis on life (like many here, U noe who I toking hor... give super long posts...Originally posted by lem0nade:What hollow barrier? Our friendship not close enough or my insecurity? I do NOT think that the 'intellectual isue' is just a casaul remark, it is the problem itself.
As for the rest, notes taken and I appreciate your invaluable help. Thanks to the rest as well. ) good EQ, good in making money, etc, etc...
She being good in studies (unless she oso got other "good" int in other areas...) doesn't mean she DAT good. U r not as good as her in studies DOESN'T mean U are NOT as good as her in other "intellectual" areas... & as wat Dev76 said... wat U really "mind" is da "hollow barrier"... its not easy to explain... but If U can remove dis "intellectual" thing initially... da rest shld be no prob. -
bigger cock?Originally posted by lem0nade:She will probably meet better guys in there... what do I have to compete with them? -
Originally posted by AzRaeL:bigger cock?
Actually I wld sae yr heart. -
Originally posted by AzRaeL:bigger cock?
