Originally posted by sunpastilles:
hi guys..well,ya see..i've been likin this guy here for a year or so. he knows about it...and whenever i see him at school..he's like avoidin me..but when we had to pass each other..he acts as if he's cool or something...he loves to act infront of me...i dunno y. while i was peeping him(i always do dat), he saw me..and when i look into his eyes and he looked in mine..i was like..stunned..then i will go all red..and i feel hot & cold at the same time..in & out of me...i dunno how to describe..but it's juz the feeling i get..when we two look at each other in the eye or when we walk pass each other. He used to sms me and we chat often..but after he knew i liked him...he stopped. and i think he's avoidin me now..his bdae was juz over..i spent over a hundred for his gift..and not even a thank you from him...sometimes, at night i cry myself to slp...i dun even know why i like him so much...all my frens say he dun worth me...but i think it's the opp way...i think he's too good for me..sighx..and whenever i sms him..i knew he saw that msg..but he jus wouldnt reply..i really dunno wat can i do..i feel like giving up..but when i saw him..it all goes back...help..!!

Hi sunpastilles,
You liked him for one year.. How does he know about you like him?? Through spreading by friends?? Or you told him you like him??

You both used to SMS and chat often before.. but once he knows about the liking you have for him.. he starts to avoid you and always "act" infront of you... There might be 2 possibilites to this..

1) When he found out that you actually like him.. he doesnt know what to do... Cos you have been friends for almost a year (i guessed) and have been chatting like any other friends.. He may treat you as someone who is very close to him.. but not to the extend of BGR! Someone who is always there for him.. listening and caring.. jus like a platonic friend..

He feels very comfortable talking to you.. But when he got to know about the news of you liking him.. He suddenly doesnt know how to react.. In his mind.. he might be thinking.. "all the while have been so good friends.. but now you've come to me and said that you like me!! Well, i only can say.. i dun believe this.. and i've always treated you like my "sister" or a very good friend of mine." He "act" cool simply becos he wanna treat it as if nothing has happen.. And He wants to tell himself that the truth about you liking him wasnt even real AT ALL!

Since he cant take it.. This maybe the reason of why he is avoiding you and keeping a distance away from you.. The eye contact made becos he still feels that you are his good friend.. He dun wan to lose such friend... The birthday gift you gave is a little too much.. Hundred over dollars for someone who you doesnt even know he's worth it or he likes you anot.. Moreover he din even come to say/SMS "Thank you" to you.. I bet he really dunno how to face you...

2) He knows he likes you.. but he jus simply dunno how to express himself.. He's avoiding you becos he's scare that if he take actions maybe things wont come out as what he wanted or wish for.. So he somehow back off a little.. ANd he may find it hard to accept the fact/reality he's facing now.. So slowly take your time..

When he walk pass you.. and sees you.. He cant run away or what.. So he take it that you are invisible.. BUt actually deep down in his heart it was pumping so fast.. and of cos.. embarassment, blush, whatso ever..

He knows you are peeping him.. cos he himself oso does that.. when comes to eye meet eye.. both jus stared into each other's eyes.. as if you 2 have fallen in love.. As for the gift.. i mentioned is too much.. he may wan to say thanks.. but he got no courage to come up to you...

Now that you have make it know to everyone you like him.. And definitely people around him will give him pressure and stress.. by making fun of you and him together and blah blah all that things... The worst thing is that it seems like is only one-sided.. Noone knows whether he likes or dun likes you..

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So how?

You both are still very young.. 14 years old only.. HOw well you know about love? how well can you defined love? And how many relatioinships you've been thru?

When comes to a relation is not as easy as you think it is.. Is not jus liking each other and that's about it.. You need alot of communications (which both of you now seems to have problem with), a good listener, chemistry and feelings (applies to both parties) and compromising with each other.....

I know you get to see him everyday in school.. if you really want to give up.. face it.. and have determination on doing it.. tell yourself you can do it.. You have to go on with your life.. Remember your life doesnt only CIRCLES around him!! Get yourself occupied.. Got time do something useful or something you like instead of staying at home thinking of all these useless stuffs.. Have some confidence in yourself.. dun make it sound like you don't worth a single cent!!! Stop crying and move on ok?? Afterall maybe he's really not worthy for you.. and not "HE's Too good For you"!!

Right now.. i suggest you to concentrate more on your studies.. This matter you can jus let it rest.. If it was meant to be yours.. Someday, somehow, somewhere.. it will come back to you..

Down the years maybe you'll find another better guy than him.. He's not the one only in this world!! Someone might be there waiting for you.. to love and care for you more!! Wait patiently for the day to come.. This kind of thing cannot rush one.. Let nature takes its course!

Cheers!
