Help....love prob over here...
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hi guys..well,ya see..i've been likin this guy here for a year or so. he knows about it...and whenever i see him at school..he's like avoidin me..but when we had to pass each other..he acts as if he's cool or something...he loves to act infront of me...i dunno y. while i was peeping him(i always do dat), he saw me..and when i look into his eyes and he looked in mine..i was like..stunned..then i will go all red..and i feel hot & cold at the same time..in & out of me...i dunno how to describe..but it's juz the feeling i get..when we two look at each other in the eye or when we walk pass each other. He used to sms me and we chat often..but after he knew i liked him...he stopped. and i think he's avoidin me now..his bdae was juz over..i spent over a hundred for his gift..and not even a thank you from him...sometimes, at night i cry myself to slp...i dun even know why i like him so much...all my frens say he dun worth me...but i think it's the opp way...i think he's too good for me..sighx..and whenever i sms him..i knew he saw that msg..but he jus wouldnt reply..i really dunno wat can i do..i feel like giving up..but when i saw him..it all goes back...help..!!
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Xiao mei mei shouldn't have a bf...
Study come first...
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WEll i understand how u feel... dun despair.... go slow with him.. u gotta slowly win him... make him feel comfortable when facing you.. only den u can proceed on to others... Cos right now he know u like him..Originally posted by sunpastilles:hi guys..well,ya see..i've been likin this guy here for a year or so. he knows about it...and whenever i see him at school..he's like avoidin me..but when we had to pass each other..he acts as if he's cool or something...he loves to act infront of me...i dunno y. while i was peeping him(i always do dat), he saw me..and when i look into his eyes and he looked in mine..i was like..stunned..then i will go all red..and i feel hot & cold at the same time..in & out of me...i dunno how to describe..but it's juz the feeling i get..when we two look at each other in the eye or when we walk pass each other. He used to sms me and we chat often..but after he knew i liked him...he stopped. and i think he's avoidin me now..his bdae was juz over..i spent over a hundred for his gift..and not even a thank you from him...sometimes, at night i cry myself to slp...i dun even know why i like him so much...all my frens say he dun worth me...but i think it's the opp way...i think he's too good for me..sighx..and whenever i sms him..i knew he saw that msg..but he jus wouldnt reply..i really dunno wat can i do..i feel like giving up..but when i saw him..it all goes back...help..!!
And when he can feel realx facing you knowing that u like him.. better will change for e beta i guess... gd luck..
that all for now.. gotta slp soon..so cant write much..
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wow... 14 years old... sec 2?
this is the time when the world revolves around infatuations. i'm quite astounded that u spent 100 bux on his gift. i don't think i could have afforded that ooh... 13 years ago?
lil sis, i hope u can try to kerb ur feelings. it's hard when u're young (i remember when i was ur age). i'm not saying u cannot have romantic feelings for guys at that age, but it's the lack of self-control that i'm probably referring to.
now, some advice for all ages, i don't feel it necessary for a gal (or guy, for that matter) to throw oneself at another. he knows u like him, which is to me, is a good thing! now the so called "ball" is in his court. it's up to him to react, and u can only see how he does, WITHOUT continually throwing urself at him. he ALREADY knows that u like him, he doesn't need to be reminded.
now, back to the age thing. there is a high chance that he has NO IDEA how to react. yeap, he is probably acting cool and all that, but inside totally excited and confused. he also most likely has no idea how to communicate back to u that he does like u, or doesn't. i assume he's around ur age. mind you, many pple much older still have NO CLUE....
i feel u have to pull back. yes, he knows u like him, but those stares and gifts and stuff have to stop, if not hidden. ur heart may be beating double time everytime he's within a 50 mile radius but do not let him know that. pull back, let him notice ur nonchalance, and then u may be able to "extract" a reaction from him. he's just basking in ur attn now, and doesn't need any action on his part. make him work hard for that attn!
of course there's the probability that he doesn't like u at all. you'll have to be able to take that, stand strong and move on. it doesn't mean that u're no good, it just means u're not right for him.
btw, try to listen to ur frens abit more. they sometimes tell us things that we cannot see. blinded by love is a common phrase, but i still think blinding by infatuation is much more dangerous.
also, do heed winboi's advice, ur studies should be one of the most important things in ur life rite now. that comes b4 a reln with a guy ok?
best wishes to u and it's quite heartening to be reminded of my childhood pains. i'm sure u'll be fine! -
Originally posted by sunpastilles:hi guys..well,ya see..i've been likin this guy here for a year or so. he knows about it...and whenever i see him at school..he's like avoidin me..but when we had to pass each other..he acts as if he's cool or something...he loves to act infront of me...i dunno y. while i was peeping him(i always do dat), he saw me..and when i look into his eyes and he looked in mine..i was like..stunned..then i will go all red..and i feel hot & cold at the same time..in & out of me...i dunno how to describe..but it's juz the feeling i get..when we two look at each other in the eye or when we walk pass each other. He used to sms me and we chat often..but after he knew i liked him...he stopped. and i think he's avoidin me now..his bdae was juz over..i spent over a hundred for his gift..and not even a thank you from him...sometimes, at night i cry myself to slp...i dun even know why i like him so much...all my frens say he dun worth me...but i think it's the opp way...i think he's too good for me..sighx..and whenever i sms him..i knew he saw that msg..but he jus wouldnt reply..i really dunno wat can i do..i feel like giving up..but when i saw him..it all goes back...help..!!
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thanks guys..but i bet i wun get over him for at least a year or two..reali..
other better guys haf approached me for stead...and i turned them all down..one by one..one thing for sure is that i dun think me and that guy reali do stand a chance..i mean, if there is or there were. He would hab accepted me long ago..y wait til now..all these are too much..i dunno how long more i can wait...everynight and day i've been thinkin of him..every moment..maybe u guys will jus say i'm a kid n shld juz concentrate on my studies..n stop playin ard all these adult thingies. but i'm not...my frens all say i'm reali nutz abt dat guy...and dey say i'm reali in love..their crushes dun stay long. Mine's the longest...haix...the saddest and the painest... -
Ok lah, slowly slowly lor.
U are still very young and this type of thing cannot be rushed...
Let nature takes its course... -
right...
let's see, gimme something more to work with. would u be able to give me more details about your relationship with him now? i mean, are u guys even frens? or just know of each others' existence? how often do you talk? do u have his number (i'm sure pple ur age now carry handphones even!)
and also wat do ur frens say about him? why do u think it's impossible between the two of u. and wat about the guys that have approached you, wat's wrong with them? or just no feeling?
btw the reason why u are not experiencing "love" at the moment is becos i believe u do not know him well enuff. i believe there's no way u can love a person if u don't know them well. -
Hi sunpastilles,Originally posted by sunpastilles:hi guys..well,ya see..i've been likin this guy here for a year or so. he knows about it...and whenever i see him at school..he's like avoidin me..but when we had to pass each other..he acts as if he's cool or something...he loves to act infront of me...i dunno y. while i was peeping him(i always do dat), he saw me..and when i look into his eyes and he looked in mine..i was like..stunned..then i will go all red..and i feel hot & cold at the same time..in & out of me...i dunno how to describe..but it's juz the feeling i get..when we two look at each other in the eye or when we walk pass each other. He used to sms me and we chat often..but after he knew i liked him...he stopped. and i think he's avoidin me now..his bdae was juz over..i spent over a hundred for his gift..and not even a thank you from him...sometimes, at night i cry myself to slp...i dun even know why i like him so much...all my frens say he dun worth me...but i think it's the opp way...i think he's too good for me..sighx..and whenever i sms him..i knew he saw that msg..but he jus wouldnt reply..i really dunno wat can i do..i feel like giving up..but when i saw him..it all goes back...help..!!
You liked him for one year.. How does he know about you like him?? Through spreading by friends?? Or you told him you like him??
You both used to SMS and chat often before.. but once he knows about the liking you have for him.. he starts to avoid you and always "act" infront of you... There might be 2 possibilites to this..
1) When he found out that you actually like him.. he doesnt know what to do... Cos you have been friends for almost a year (i guessed) and have been chatting like any other friends.. He may treat you as someone who is very close to him.. but not to the extend of BGR! Someone who is always there for him.. listening and caring.. jus like a platonic friend..
He feels very comfortable talking to you.. But when he got to know about the news of you liking him.. He suddenly doesnt know how to react.. In his mind.. he might be thinking.. "all the while have been so good friends.. but now you've come to me and said that you like me!! Well, i only can say.. i dun believe this.. and i've always treated you like my "sister" or a very good friend of mine." He "act" cool simply becos he wanna treat it as if nothing has happen.. And He wants to tell himself that the truth about you liking him wasnt even real AT ALL!
Since he cant take it.. This maybe the reason of why he is avoiding you and keeping a distance away from you.. The eye contact made becos he still feels that you are his good friend.. He dun wan to lose such friend... The birthday gift you gave is a little too much.. Hundred over dollars for someone who you doesnt even know he's worth it or he likes you anot.. Moreover he din even come to say/SMS "Thank you" to you.. I bet he really dunno how to face you...
2) He knows he likes you.. but he jus simply dunno how to express himself.. He's avoiding you becos he's scare that if he take actions maybe things wont come out as what he wanted or wish for.. So he somehow back off a little.. ANd he may find it hard to accept the fact/reality he's facing now.. So slowly take your time..
When he walk pass you.. and sees you.. He cant run away or what.. So he take it that you are invisible.. BUt actually deep down in his heart it was pumping so fast.. and of cos.. embarassment, blush, whatso ever..
He knows you are peeping him.. cos he himself oso does that.. when comes to eye meet eye.. both jus stared into each other's eyes.. as if you 2 have fallen in love.. As for the gift.. i mentioned is too much.. he may wan to say thanks.. but he got no courage to come up to you...
Now that you have make it know to everyone you like him.. And definitely people around him will give him pressure and stress.. by making fun of you and him together and blah blah all that things... The worst thing is that it seems like is only one-sided.. Noone knows whether he likes or dun likes you..
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So how?
You both are still very young.. 14 years old only.. HOw well you know about love? how well can you defined love? And how many relatioinships you've been thru?
When comes to a relation is not as easy as you think it is.. Is not jus liking each other and that's about it.. You need alot of communications (which both of you now seems to have problem with), a good listener, chemistry and feelings (applies to both parties) and compromising with each other.....
I know you get to see him everyday in school.. if you really want to give up.. face it.. and have determination on doing it.. tell yourself you can do it.. You have to go on with your life.. Remember your life doesnt only CIRCLES around him!! Get yourself occupied.. Got time do something useful or something you like instead of staying at home thinking of all these useless stuffs.. Have some confidence in yourself.. dun make it sound like you don't worth a single cent!!! Stop crying and move on ok?? Afterall maybe he's really not worthy for you.. and not "HE's Too good For you"!!
Right now.. i suggest you to concentrate more on your studies.. This matter you can jus let it rest.. If it was meant to be yours.. Someday, somehow, somewhere.. it will come back to you..
Down the years maybe you'll find another better guy than him.. He's not the one only in this world!! Someone might be there waiting for you.. to love and care for you more!! Wait patiently for the day to come.. This kind of thing cannot rush one.. Let nature takes its course!
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wah.. i think u can rise to be one of the aunt agony's together with yun, devil and i.
STEADY lar~~ nice to have a female analysis on board. -
i think its yun... strong feeling...Originally posted by jOhO:wah.. i think u can rise to be one of the aunt agony's together with yun, devil and i.
STEADY lar~~ nice to have a female analysis on board. -
me???? still not good enoough eh~~~ got to learn alot from all of you!!!Originally posted by jOhO:wah.. i think u can rise to be one of the aunt agony's together with yun, devil and i.
STEADY lar~~ nice to have a female analysis on board.
i'm jus stating how i feel.. looking at both parties.. actually me have similar case when i was that age too..ahahhaha that's why i know roughly how it was like...
but mine not as bad as hers.. the guy like me and of cos i like him too.. but then when everyone knows he likes me.. people's mouth cannot shut up.. keep spreading.. then make fun of him.. then my friends come tell me.. then i shocked.. then ask me i like him anot blah blah.. Well then.. he so paiseh until we never talk to each other anymore since the day everyone knows about it.. he was very shy also..
Imagine same class for 2 years.. and he's the only person in class i never talk to.. young mah.. dunno how to face such situation.. but i jus let it be.. cannot run away.. life have to go on right...
but in the end wasnt meant to be together.. so be it lor! -
Yun?? lolZzz me girl leh.. he guy leh.. how can be him.. unless he got 2 personalities lah.. sometime guy sometime girl!! aahahaaOriginally posted by Master -_-:i think its yun... strong feeling...
*think of that*
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u think it's yun wat? posting as another user?Originally posted by Master -_-:i think its yun... strong feeling...
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He tot yun is a female...Originally posted by jOhO:u think it's yun wat? posting as another user? 
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And Mr. jOhO, u miss out an very important person...
RealliRaw? (think spell wrongly le)
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oh yes haha she's been around more recently. disappeared for a while. yes she's definitely one of them. geez how could i forget my dear RAW.Originally posted by WinBoi84:And Mr. jOhO, u miss out an very important person...
RealliRaw? (think spell wrongly le) -
Wah lau, how can u forget abt her?Originally posted by jOhO:oh yes haha she's been around more recently. disappeared for a while. yes she's definitely one of them. geez how could i forget my dear RAW. 
I will never forget abt my dear mapp|ezz one... -
Originally posted by WinBoi84:Wah lau, how can u forget abt her?
I will never forget abt my dear mapp|ezz one...
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Wow, some of u write so much that I am even mixed up myself reading it ... hahahaha
But that doesn't mean what you all wrote isn't true ....
But still ... I guess people just have to go through life experiencing things for themselves ... even if it means making mistakes ..... that is how it should be ... -
hehe u make heaps of sense too, except not as long-winded as some of us.Originally posted by PuRe-EviL:Wow, some of u write so much that I am even mixed up myself reading it ... hahahaha
But that doesn't mean what you all wrote isn't true ....
But still ... I guess people just have to go through life experiencing things for themselves ... even if it means making mistakes ..... that is how it should be ...
i totally agree with making mistakes and learning from them. in fact, it's one of the few things i feel strongly about life. i'd rather make a mistake, than not make a decision. -
Yah, same here ...Originally posted by jOhO:hehe u make heaps of sense too, except not as long-winded as some of us.
i totally agree with making mistakes and learning from them. in fact, it's one of the few things i feel strongly about life. i'd rather make a mistake, than not make a decision.
Always believe in trying and experiencing things for urself ... and then u will know what it is like ... sometimes there is not much point asking too much about other people's opinion to the extent that you dun even have the slightest idea what to do urself .... -
Originally posted by Master -_-:i think its yun... strong feeling...
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forget about him lah...although in the intital stage is hard...but will get use to it!!! YOU HAVE NO CHOICE
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I like your statement.Originally posted by jOhO:hehe u make heaps of sense too, except not as long-winded as some of us.
i totally agree with making mistakes and learning from them. in fact, it's one of the few things i feel strongly about life. i'd rather make a mistake, than not make a decision. 