cant get over her..........
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hmmm...ok i c.....i wil try...shld concentrate on my softball now...competition cuming....but den again it leads mi 2 tink of her again as she is fm da same cca too....damn it
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hazi... continue be frds with her like normal loh.. i think tt's the best way.... don't do TOO much 4 her... casue if in the end she tells u " u r a very nice guy but there's no "feeling" btw us"..... ya.... but if she got "feeling" 4 u, u don't do anything she will also like u... really loh.. if u really do sooo much 4 her, in the end she rejects u... well.. the feeling..... i know that kinda feeling.... so don't place too much hope... just let nature take course....
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same csae here brudder...Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:i feel so shit.....i fell head over heels in love wif sum1 whu is attached...i noe she is taken awready but yet i dun wanna let go...how i wish its jus sum infatuation but deep inside i noe it is more den dat...much more den dat....
david tao's "liu sha" : ai qing hao xiang liu sha,wo bu zhen zha,sui ta qu ba wo bu hai pa,ai qing hao xiang liu sha,xin li de qian gua,bu yuan fang xia,oh baby rang wo zhe yang ba................
may u have to strength to do whatever u widh to desire..
but u should go listem go rong zu er liu sha too...
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This is life. Xiang jian hen wan a~ It is really hard to meet the right people at the right time. Dun brood over it..Wish her happiness. To love somebody is to want him/her to be happy even if you know you can't afford to lose him/her. Agree? Even if it hurts......
I love you too much to make you stay
Baby fly away
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hiyoh...another fix...
My dear boy... from friends to lovers transition the trickiest... do it well and there you have it... match made in heaven.. if it turns ugly, then yah, she'll probbably never look at you the same way again...
but then again once you tell a girl you like her( or in your case you think itz more) your life (and maybe hers) will never be the same again... i tell u juz swallow yur pride and subtlely tell her yur feelings... over the phone if you're scared of face offs or catch her alone( again another issue on itz own) and gentlely nudge it to her for that x-tra sincerity...i've always believed... regret something you've done rather than something you should've...haiz at the most she reject you then you pick up watever's left of yurself and move on... who's to noe someone else is harbouring thoughts of you?
If you have nothing to lose you have EVERYTHING to gain...
go get her man...
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thanx ppl...u guys' advices realy set mi 2 tinkin......but i feel da prob now is dat she has a bf awready,not dat she is single but dun seem 2 hav an interest in mi...if i confess 2 her...who noes it may affect her in sum way or another...if dats da case...i would rather keep my feelings 4 her a secret 4eva....
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glad tt u tink this way..Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:thanx ppl...u guys' advices realy set mi 2 tinkin......but i feel da prob now is dat she has a bf awready,not dat she is single but dun seem 2 hav an interest in mi...if i confess 2 her...who noes it may affect her in sum way or another...if dats da case...i would rather keep my feelings 4 her a secret 4eva....
just tink..even if she leaves the guy for u..how would u feel if someone tries to take her away in future...?
just leave her alone for now..a ocassional sms or email would bi very nice..to let her noe tt u exist..
n in future if she's meant to bi urs..heaven will create the perfect setting for u 2 to bi together..trust mi..tts no fairytale..it really happens.. -
ur words seems rite n true....hokey....haiz how i wish we r more den frends.....but now i can only hope we can laugh n joke 2gether like we alwaes hav been...
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i mean c'mon let's face it... you'll ALWAYS harbour that thought which will probbably remain in yur smouldering heart (or at least dormant) what if...? you can still be friends but you'll jump on any oppurtunity you get( at least you should)... so you feel that this"perfect one-sided love" or crush is better for you...than probbably her not even being yur friend anymore...you shudder to think rite? since you say you can be close to her...then y not get even closer? i believe wif subtlety and tact you can insidiously nudge your presence around her... she'll prob start to notice too( unless she's the eq-less type which doesn't seem so according to u)... then nvm you... she'll be doin some comparisons herself...if you think i'm encouraging you to plant seeds of doubt in her r/s... well maybe...
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sounds like a highly delicate tactical operation. should thread it like a mine field i guess.Originally posted by sorcerer:i mean c'mon let's face it... you'll ALWAYS harbour that thought which will probbably remain in yur smouldering heart (or at least dormant) what if...? you can still be friends but you'll jump on any oppurtunity you get( at least you should)... so you feel that this"perfect one-sided love" or crush is better for you...than probbably her not even being yur friend anymore...you shudder to think rite? since you say you can be close to her...then y not get even closer? i believe wif subtlety and tact you can insidiously nudge your presence around her... she'll prob start to notice too( unless she's the eq-less type which doesn't seem so according to u)... then nvm you... she'll be doin some comparisons herself...if you think i'm encouraging you to plant seeds of doubt in her r/s... well maybe... 
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Learn to give & take... I believe U r more than content to noe she is yr fren instead of total stranger... Life is always contradicting... Be happy, dats all I can sae... coz once U acheive dat... U will be able to face problems & settle them without really getting hurt.Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:ur words seems rite n true....hokey....haiz how i wish we r more den frends.....but now i can only hope we can laugh n joke 2gether like we alwaes hav been... -
u guys made is sound so easy n straight-4ward 2 comprehend....i hope in reality it wil b like dat too....thanx guys.......realy.mebbe sum of da problem is bcoz of myself....im realy timid when it cums 2 dis "liking/loving" business.u noe....i gav her a rose n a note(jus wrote sumthim abt frendship n how i tink of her as a person) on valentine's dae....dat is 1st AND my most most daring thing i did 4 a gal...hav 2 pluck up lots of courage n received tons of encouragement fm my frends...but wel she didn hav much reaction though at dat time....haiz
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it is only simple, not easy. filter out the best suggestions, customize them 2 ur situation. always anticipate her and be prepared for the worst so dat ur face of disappointment wun b exposed in front of her. dats a sign of weakness dey resent.Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:u guys made is sound so easy n straight-4ward 2 comprehend....i hope in reality it wil b like dat too........haiz -
it is only simple, not easy. filter out the best suggestions, customize them 2 ur situation. always anticipate her and be prepared for the worst so dat ur face of disappointment wun b exposed in front of her. dats a sign of weakness dey resent
so u sae she wil not like mi 2 c mi disappointed?so even when she reject mi in da face...i jus hav 2 smile n tk it easy?wow...dats gonna b hard... -
haiz.... time will heal all pain
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If you choose to fall in love with somone attached, you chose to accept the risk that is involved. Accepting the risk that is involved referred to accepting the fact of not able to get if after you tried wooing her. Afterall, a satisfied woman wouldn't turn to, or look for another guy. If she were to 'switch' so easily (in which you will gain temporary happiness), do not be thankful because this serve as a note stating 'Will she do that to other guys when she is with me?'Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:i feel so shit.....i fell head over heels in love wif sum1 whu is attached...i noe she is taken awready but yet i dun wanna let go...how i wish its jus sum infatuation but deep inside i noe it is more den dat...much more den dat....
david tao's "liu sha" : ai qing hao xiang liu sha,wo bu zhen zha,sui ta qu ba wo bu hai pa,ai qing hao xiang liu sha,xin li de qian gua,bu yuan fang xia,oh baby rang wo zhe yang ba................
To love her, you have to allow her happiness. Its her decision and her choice - not your option. Well, in the first place, what makes you think that when she is with you, she would be happier than before?
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well yun hai er....when i fall 4 her in da beginning...i din noe she is attached at all....until when i had fallen deeply den she told mi thru us chattin on da phone(smsing)....
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but aniwae guys....i realy must sae thanx 4 all ur advices...it realy set mi 2 tinkin....guess its all up 2 heaven 2 decide whether she n mi wil hav any love story of our own 2 tel da world....
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One of my favourite songs too...? <Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:david tao's "liu sha" : ai qing hao xiang liu sha,wo bu zhen zha,sui ta qu ba wo bu hai pa,ai qing hao xiang liu sha,xin li de qian gua,bu yuan fang xia,oh baby rang wo zhe yang ba................ " -
Let's FACE it.... There probably really ain't much you're gonna accomplished if you're gonna tell her about how ya feel for now...? Unless you're mentally prepared for a GAP between you and her after what you're gonna tell her and perhaps more complications to come in, you just go ahead...?Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:im at a loss now...i dunno whether i shld tel her how i feel abt her...im afraid dat i wil scare her off...den we cant even b close as frends...it wil b veri awkward rite??
And WHAT do you really WISH to happen after you tell her those things...? Possible scenerios like...
1. She avoid you and perhaps things about you and her which MIGHT affect your reputation OR her relationship with her bf OR perhaps further disrupt your friendship with her...?
2. She LEAVE her bf for you..? UNLESS her bf really SUCKS... I don't see much GOOD in this happening...? BESIDES... Be HONEST with yourself...? What are the CHANCES of things to go this way...? And the CRUCIAL thing is... It's NOT really up to you to judge whether her bf SUCKS or not...?
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Then you have step into a pirate boat!Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:well yun hai er....when i fall 4 her in da beginning...i din noe she is attached at all....until when i had fallen deeply den she told mi thru us chattin on da phone(smsing)....
Well, anyway, when you (at that point of time) know that she is attached, there will be this calculation and pondering about whether to go on or to give up. You didn't give up eh? That's why subconsciously you have accept the risk, in exchange for the possible reward (her).
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to devil: well,if she is unhappy wif her bf,she wanted a separation n b wif mi instead,of course i wil b veri veri happy.but if she is gettin along fine wif her guy....n bcoz of mi their relationship is strained,dat is sumthin dat i wil nvr wan it 2 happen...dats y i wun confess my feelings 4 her...at least 4 now.
to yunhaier: haiz,i cant help it...i noe she is attached,yet i stil pin 4 her....wat m i 2 do...i cant control myself...
liu sha: "shi yi zhai de zhuo,shi yi zhai de chuo,bu you wo.....,wo yi bu yi bu yi bu yi bu man man zhou xiang liu sha" -
Originally posted by JAYRAWKS:to devil: well,if she is unhappy wif her bf,she wanted a separation n b wif mi instead,of course i wil b veri veri happy.but if she is gettin along fine wif her guy....n bcoz of mi their relationship is strained,dat is sumthin dat i wil nvr wan it 2 happen...dats y i wun confess my feelings 4 her...at least 4 now.
to yunhaier: haiz,i cant help it...i noe she is attached,yet i stil pin 4 her....wat m i 2 do...i cant control myself...
Hey u know sumthin' u sound like in yer heart u noe wat u want already & also u noe the rite thing to do.....so follow ur instincts. Like u say, it's not tat hard to find out if a gurl likes u or not, won't it be better if she ends up wif u cos she really feels for u & not cos she's jud havin' a rough time wif her guy. In a way, though am a gurl, I understand how u feel, I onli noe tat my fren likes me months later & actually some of my frens (they are all good brudders) decide not to go after me and be my fren instead cos they felt tat frenship can last, if they let me know how they feel I may avoid em. See, u're also veri kind wat, u dun wish to hurt their relationship so let live and let go. It won't be easy but when she can trust u and rely on u as a fren, she may find u of importance in her heart in future, who noes? Or by tat time u may find someone who realli treasure u???
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time will heel
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to iceangel : wel i noe time heals everything....it jus gonna tk a long time 4 mi...dis is da 2nd gal i had liked so much...da 1st one when it ended...i took like 2 whole mths 2 get over it....darn mi....n 4 now dis wonderful special gal....i wonder how m i gonna tk again...everytime i c her my heart wil literally beat faster...den dropped bcoz i noe i cant more den frends wif her....