Hi,
Has anyone been in a situation where you and your spouse have been married for less than 2 yrs and you wanted an annulment but he/she doesn't agree?
U consumed the married yet? That is to say "Have sex already" ?
You want to avoid divorce, is it?
To nullify the marriage you need to give proof.
Like the other party is already married and still is.
The other has no capacity to contract, ie retarded, under aged, forced..
The woman is pregnant by someone else and the fool does not know it. (This not applicable to a two year marriage).
The marriage was done under threat, duress.
No sex is the famous reason. Premarital sex is not counted.
There are two categories, void marriage and voidable marriages,
Void marriage is that the marriage is not valid from the start. Mostly due to legal reasons. Polygamy, underaged.
Voidable marriage is the marriage is ok, but due to arising factors should be quashed. Like the pregnant scenario, or no sex case.
Just prove it.
Originally posted by Febby:Hi,
Has anyone been in a situation where you and your spouse have been married for less than 2 yrs and you wanted an annulment but he/she doesn't agree?
Why you want to divorce her ?
You think women are like tissue paper issit ? Used already throw har.
She's another one of those mail order bride and you are one of those shameless Ah PEK.. right ?
Men like you should be duly CASTRATED.
Originally posted by Arapahoe:U consumed the married yet? That is to say "Have sex already" ?
Yes, we had consummated.....
if sluts can initiate divorces and get awards out of a lop sided system, men should question by now how to best protect themselves...by being more cunning ...forced by the system that largely neglected their own balls
Originally posted by jojobeach:Why you want to divorce her ?
You think women are like tissue paper issit ? Used already throw har.
She's another one of those mail order bride and you are one of those shameless Ah PEK.. right ?
Men like you should be duly CASTRATED.
Hey, I'm the lady, not the guy......He turns violent after the marriage.
In order to keep our flat for himself, he wants me to wait for 4 years till he turns 35 then only he can transfer the flat to himself.
Originally posted by Febby:Hey, I'm the lady, not the guy......He turns violent after the marriage.
In order to keep our flat for himself, he wants me to wait for 4 years till he turns 35 then only he can transfer the flat to himself.
He's a jerk. So why are you letting him treat you like an animal ? Given his selfish personality, he won't let you off with just an annulment.
Go and talk to a good lawyer. They will tell you what to do.
And no, he can't keep the flat for himself if you DON'T AGREE to it.
He'll have to negotiate with you, don't let him intimidate you.
Initiate the divorce NOW, don't wait till 35. Why should you have to wait for his convenient? Asshole like him will not let you have the easy way out.. you'll have to FIGHT your way out of this one.
I can't believe that moron thinks he is the DICTATOR in his household.
Just SELL the flat, take whatever is left and go your own separate ways. He can go get his own flat himself.
Whenever he physically hurt you, MAKE A POLICE REPORT. Keep a copy for the divorce.
Get your parents involve..you need their support. Rally your friends around you , don't battle this alone.
Good luck and be strong.
Originally posted by Fcukpap:if sluts can initiate divorces and get awards out of a lop sided system, men should question by now how to best protect themselves...by being more cunning ...forced by the system that largely neglected their own balls
Men like you don't have any balls.. what's there to neglect ?
Originally posted by Febby:Hey, I'm the lady, not the guy......He turns violent after the marriage.
In order to keep our flat for himself, he wants me to wait for 4 years till he turns 35 then only he can transfer the flat to himself.
why can't you be like Jack Neo's wife and be forgiving? maybe your husband has a psychological disorder or he has mental illness?
listen to jojobeach, she's right!
Originally posted by SgLoveCop@blogspot:why can't you be like Jack Neo's wife and be forgiving? maybe your husband has a psychological disorder or he has mental illness?
listen to jojobeach, she's right!
You're getting real pathetic you know.
So you want divorce, not annulment.
Annulment has its advantages in that you don't have to contest, just prove on points of law that the marriage is not valid.
Ok, for divorce you just have to say you can't tolerate your husband anymore for.... whatever reason, and the marriage has irretrievably broken down as a result. The two catch word is can't tolerate and irretrievably broken down. Tell this convincingly to the judge, with the help of a lawyer.
Then fight for the asset. How much you get depends how hard you fight. Back it up with receipts, bank statements, and emotions.
Wait four years for him to be 35 years old, is laughable. I think he wan to pay you to keep the flat for himself. A 35 year old single is allowed to buy at most a three room flat on the resale market. And the transaction will take a while. So don't waste time.
Remember if you can't tolerate any more and the there is no hope for reconcillation, then initiate the divorce straight away,don't wait.
You'll regret not doing, rather than going ahead.
The lawyer is obliged to ask you to consider reconcillation. Think about it seriously. Of course it takes two to tango.
Originally posted by jojobeach:He's a jerk. So why are you letting him treat you like an animal ? Given his selfish personality, he won't let you off with just an annulment.
Go and talk to a good lawyer. They will tell you what to do.
And no, he can't keep the flat for himself if you DON'T AGREE to it.
He'll have to negotiate with you, don't let him intimidate you.
Initiate the divorce NOW, don't wait till 35. Why should you have to wait for his convenient? Asshole like him will not let you have the easy way out.. you'll have to FIGHT your way out of this one.
I can't believe that moron thinks he is the DICTATOR in his household.
Just SELL the flat, take whatever is left and go your own separate ways. He can go get his own flat himself.
Whenever he physically hurt you, MAKE A POLICE REPORT. Keep a copy for the divorce.
Get your parents involve..you need their support. Rally your friends around you , don't battle this alone.
Good luck and be strong.
Thanks for your encouragement, jojobeach........ I had agreed to his conditions cause he threatened that he will come up to my home to make a mess if I dun agree to him. We had already signed the separation papers and he wanted me to tell the lawyer that I dun wan any maintenancs fees or assets. I even agreed to that and had told the laywer........
He even took back the dowry jewellery from me.........the angbao money that my relatives and parents gave us he tried to snatch from me too........He is so fierce and violent, I'm really very scared of him.......
woohoo........another marriage bites the dust................
when the game ends, it all comes down to dollars and cents............
the one with the tits always has the advantage so no worries.................
Originally posted by SgLoveCop@blogspot:why can't you be like Jack Neo's wife and be forgiving? maybe your husband has a psychological disorder or he has mental illness?
listen to jojobeach, she's right!
Jack Neo and my husband are totally different. At least Jack Neo isn't violent to his wife.........My husband can break the walls in our new flat, slammed his $2000 plus laptop, locked the door and dun allow me to leave the hse during arguments and many other acts of violent.........
When I told him I wanted a separation, he demanded me to remove all my things in the flat by next day when he came back from work. Can u imagine how heartless he can be? Not even at least 3 days for me to move my things.........I had no one to ask for help so in the end I had to hire a hse remover to move my things back to my parents' hm......
I had developed such terrible fear and trauma that it's impossible for me to be back with him.........
Originally posted by mancha:So you want divorce, not annulment.
Annulment has its advantages in that you don't have to contest, just prove on points of law that the marriage is not valid.
Ok, for divorce you just have to say you can't tolerate your husband anymore for.... whatever reason, and the marriage has irretrievably broken down as a result. The two catch word is can't tolerate and irretrievably broken down. Tell this convincingly to the judge, with the help of a lawyer.
Then fight for the asset. How much you get depends how hard you fight. Back it up with receipts, bank statements, and emotions.
Wait four years for him to be 35 years old, is laughable. I think he wan to pay you to keep the flat for himself. A 35 year old single is allowed to buy at most a three room flat on the resale market. And the transaction will take a while. So don't waste time.
Remember if you can't tolerate any more and the there is no hope for reconcillation, then initiate the divorce straight away,don't wait.
You'll regret not doing, rather than going ahead.
The lawyer is obliged to ask you to consider reconcillation. Think about it seriously. Of course it takes two to tango.
Even if I choose to divorce, I'll still have to wait for 4 yrs cause he will not agree to the divorce..........
Ts,
Take pre-emptive measures before u embark on a divorce cos this spouse of yours operates on your fears!
Eg, seek suggestions or advice from family service centre or make police report before matters worsen.He does not have to know. As for the lawyer make him/her do the work.
LOL....slamming one's $2000 laptop isnt very logical. He has got emotional problems and I'm sure u saw the signs before u married him.
Yes divorce this chap and I hope u milk the shit out of him. Gd luck.
Originally posted by Febby:Jack Neo and my husband are totally different. At least Jack Neo isn't violent to his wife.........My husband can break the walls in our new flat, slammed his $2000 plus laptop, locked the door and dun allow me to leave the hse during arguments and many other acts of violent.........
When I told him I wanted a separation, he demanded me to remove all my things in the flat by next day when he came back from work. Can u imagine how heartless he can be? Not even at least 3 days for me to move my things.........I had no one to ask for help so in the end I had to hire a hse remover to move my things back to my parents' hm......
I had developed such terrible fear and trauma that it's impossible for me to be back with him.........
So he intimidates you by destroying objects. Did he hit you ?
He's a bully, and a bully picks on a weaker party.. however, deep inside he's really a coward.
If you show him you are not fearful of his ways.. he will have to stop.
Bully feeds on fear. The more fear you show.. the more he will use it against you.
He intimidates you with messing up your house, you intimidate him with telling his boss and co workers about his abusive behavior.
Once he realise he has got something important to lose ( his career) , he'll leave you alone.
3 years or 4 years to divorce is not an issue anymore as long as you leave him now. You drag any longer.. you'll only be the one suffering.
Don't let him intimidate you on the conditions of the divorce settlement.... let the lawyer and family court decide.
If he says anything.. tell him " Go talk to my lawyer". Minimise communication with him.
Originally posted by Febby:Thanks for your encouragement, jojobeach........ I had agreed to his conditions cause he threatened that he will come up to my home to make a mess if I dun agree to him. We had already signed the separation papers and he wanted me to tell the lawyer that I dun wan any maintenancs fees or assets. I even agreed to that and had told the laywer........
He even took back the dowry jewellery from me.........the angbao money that my relatives and parents gave us he tried to snatch from me too........He is so fierce and violent, I'm really very scared of him.......
If you feel threaten, no point being with him especially you have no children and still young.
Originally posted by Febby:Thanks for your encouragement, jojobeach........ I had agreed to his conditions cause he threatened that he will come up to my home to make a mess if I dun agree to him. We had already signed the separation papers and he wanted me to tell the lawyer that I dun wan any maintenancs fees or assets. I even agreed to that and had told the laywer........
He even took back the dowry jewellery from me.........the angbao money that my relatives and parents gave us he tried to snatch from me too........He is so fierce and violent, I'm really very scared of him.......
You can report spouse abuse.
Even psychological abuse is considered spouse abuse
that way, you can probably get a protection order and prevent him from abusing you again.
Originally posted by Febby:Jack Neo and my husband are totally different. At least Jack Neo isn't violent to his wife.........My husband can break the walls in our new flat, slammed his $2000 plus laptop, locked the door and dun allow me to leave the hse during arguments and many other acts of violent.........
When I told him I wanted a separation, he demanded me to remove all my things in the flat by next day when he came back from work. Can u imagine how heartless he can be? Not even at least 3 days for me to move my things.........I had no one to ask for help so in the end I had to hire a hse remover to move my things back to my parents' hm......
I had developed such terrible fear and trauma that it's impossible for me to be back with him.........
This the perfect grounds for divorce.
Get your lawyers to do the work, give instructions to petition for divorce immediately. You be the petitioner, your spouse the defendant. Yours is not going to be an amicable divorce, its going to be a fight. Don't bother about his consent.
The lawyer should only advise you, you tell the lawyer what to do.
LOL gal or aunty... ^^ file a case on him and ask for half of the flat and push hmi to madness!! if hes a jerk than make yourself become a bitch to him.. no offense !!
haha.. maybe divorce with him is better if you have no kids ..dont flame me cause guys..think'' In order to keep our flat for himself, he wants me to wait for 4 years till he turns 35 then only he can transfer the flat to himself.'' thats too over??
i myself used to beat my gf if im angry but as time gets longer shes by my side and i learnt that shes there for me whenever i needed her although shes not pretty but i love her.. lols abit off topic :P
Conclusion.. ask for half of the flat if you really cant stand it..and you have the reason to sell or rent the half of the flat.. and its YOURS not HES!!^^(1/2) ^^
Originally posted by Febby:Jack Neo and my husband are totally different. At least Jack Neo isn't violent to his wife.........My husband can break the walls in our new flat, slammed his $2000 plus laptop, locked the door and dun allow me to leave the hse during arguments and many other acts of violent.........
When I told him I wanted a separation, he demanded me to remove all my things in the flat by next day when he came back from work. Can u imagine how heartless he can be? Not even at least 3 days for me to move my things.........I had no one to ask for help so in the end I had to hire a hse remover to move my things back to my parents' hm......
I had developed such terrible fear and trauma that it's impossible for me to be back with him.........
Your husband sounds like my wife, except the break walls part, since she's not strong enough.
Anyway, an early end is better than taking a longer time to regret. Give some time to heal, but don't be a 'man-hater'.
Not all guys are like that, you just pick the wrong card.
Originally posted by Rock^Star:LOL....slamming one's $2000 laptop isnt very logical. He has got emotional problems and I'm sure u saw the signs before u married him.
Yes divorce this chap and I hope u milk the shit out of him. Gd luck.
I did not see signs of him having emotional problems cause I got married to him only after a yr........guess it's too fast........sigh.....