Lost feelings
-
Out of curiosity guys, do you think that lost feelings is a good reason to breakup? I mean if you've been together for a long time, say 4 years and one party has suddenly lost all feelings for the other. What do you think? Is it worth it continuing simply because of all that time spent together? Or break up? And what of the other party still has feelings? What would you think the best way to break up is? Opinions are much appreciated. Thanks guys
-
For a relationship to endure through the ages successfully, 2 critical criteria must exist :
1. Love (feelings)
2. Commitment (mental dedication, devotion)
Feelings can rise and fall, come and go. If they are there all the while, staying in a relationship is all the easier. But this is idealistic because under harsh circumstances like stress, lovey-dovey feelings can be rxtremely scarce and indeed hard to come by.
It is in hard times like these that even despite a couple run on empty in the passion/emotion department that the mental faculty should take over to persevere with the relationship for its sake.
A successful relationship should be like a bouncing ball. When it falls, it must bounce back up so that a game can be continued to be played. If it falls and goes splat on the ground, it's no use at all.........
So in the final analysis, it all depends on what kind of relationship TS is referring to.
For a fling, yes, it's time to go when the passion runs dry.
However, if it be a steady relationship, passion running dry should never be the reason to end the relationship.
-
In other words, I should decide what kind of relationship it should be at the start? And if I decide that that particular girl is the one I want to marry I should'nt end it just because I don't feel the same way I did at the start anymore?
-
At the start of most BGRs, it is strictly based on feelings. This is fine. But if you want to escalate the relationship to a higher level, commitment is always critical. This is when you must have a determination to make the relationship work no matter how much shit might stand in the way, including feelings running dry at times.
Well, feelings can come and go. It depends on the 2 of you in the relationship to work it out and re-discover that spark. It's just like the bouncing ball analogy, when feelings fall, it must come back up again.
Feelings -----> Commitment ----> Feelings and so on.
This circular inter-relationswhip must always exist in order to keep relationships going.
-
Thanks a lot, that answered many of my questions:)
-
good luck.. commitment i guess..
-
If even the basic thing you dont have, why borther to talk about the advance things
-
Hi Chris 88110,
Just adding a bit.
During the period you are together, did the friendship grow between the two of you?
Did it get deeper? closer?
Feeling may one day go away, but if your level of friendship gets better there is still a chance.
-
its never a reason...but it is and has often been the best excuse
-
'What will rise will fall but that doesn't mean it won't rise again.'
Simple Bear
-
its never a reason...but it is and has often been the best excuse
-
btw.. does breaking up require a reason?
-
Originally posted by sgcrystalball:
Hi Chris 88110,
Just adding a bit.
During the period you are together, did the friendship grow between the two of you?
Did it get deeper? closer?
Feeling may one day go away, but if your level of friendship gets better there is still a chance.
I'm not together with anyone actually. Just considering a relationship and evaluating what can go wrong. What I'm doing now is just taking my time and looking for advice on things I'm unsure of. What I'm unsure of now is, what will happen if I lose my feelings for the girl?
-
Originally posted by Chris88110:
I'm not together with anyone actually. Just considering a relationship and evaluating what can go wrong. What I'm doing now is just taking my time and looking for advice on things I'm unsure of. What I'm unsure of now is, what will happen if I lose my feelings for the girl?
Sometimes thinking too much is not healthy for a relationship...
-
there are overt and covert reasons...excuses are the front display to save all other explanations
-
to avoid hurting the person whom u have already decided to leave
-
Originally posted by Chris88110:
I'm not together with anyone actually. Just considering a relationship and evaluating what can go wrong. What I'm doing now is just taking my time and looking for advice on things I'm unsure of. What I'm unsure of now is, what will happen if I lose my feelings for the girl?
Sometimes, thinking/analysing too much causes more confusion. Go with your heart. Good luck! :)Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
-
there are often millions of excuses to justify that decision just not to hurt that person
-
Originally posted by Rainbow Jigsaw:
Sometimes, thinking/analysing too much causes more confusion. Go with your heart. Good luck! :)Rainbow Jigsaw of Life
Thank you:)
-
its a learning experience..and reflection is a growing part of the pain to understand...
its all too human
-
becos he or she already knows the answer...but only needed affirmation to make one less guilty and comfortable
-
sighhh... dont break up easily la.. hang on if u think its worth it..
-
perhaps if modern gals think it worth "commercially with insurable interests"
-
?? dont understand.. r u trying to imply that girls see money?
-
love is a game; hate the game, not the players
