SOCIAL ANXIETY
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Seek medical treatment counsuelling or see a psychiatrist.
Are u a christian? If u are u might want to pray for ur problems.
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tell you what..
gather your courage.. join the fellas in the Singles Club for a day out at Sentosa...
go out with them.. keep at it.. tell yourself to talk to people... have a good time with them.. and make friends..
keep at it.. after a while, the anxiety will go away...
i know.. i was like that once, although without the crying bit
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Originally posted by Vote PAP OUT to Save SG:
Should see a psychiatrist soon or counsuellor ASAP. If u are a christian u might wanna pray for ur problems but still must seek treatment.Social anxiety is treatable and manageable. Social theraphy and medicine can control it or sometimes cure it.
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Originally posted by the Bear:
i know.. i was like that once, although without the crying bit
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Originally posted by the Bear:
tell you what..
gather your courage.. join the fellas in the Singles Club for a day out at Sentosa...
go out with them.. keep at it.. tell yourself to talk to people... have a good time with them.. and make friends..
keep at it.. after a while, the anxiety will go away...
i know.. i was like that once, although without the crying bit
When are they gg Sentosa?can u gimme the details. I dont know anybody here at all.
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see? someone to help already...
i met some of them like the yellow rat.. they're nice people
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Hi LonelyApple
there are friends everywhere, even in forums we are here to help you out.
Sometimes is just pushing yourself a little to meet new people but life is about new experience and learning new things.
Try msn, facebook and forums and start chatting first and before you knew it you will know more friends.
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don't worry, i am like you...or in fact..same situation as you..so i have learnt to live alone and fend for myself...everything is on my own...yay! 100% loner desu ne!
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actually i'm like that too. so you see, you are not alone. i have much desire to have someone with me especially when i am confused, to help look out for me (since we usually can't see ourselves), but after praying for very long, i am still alone. as a result, often i make stupid decisions because i was too stuck in my thinking to see the big picture and there's no one to help me see.
anyway, this post is not about me. my purpose of writing is to say you are not alone..... cheer up and like the other forumnites suggest, go join the outing. we have to make the first step.
call a hotline when you are feeling very down. try to diffuse the feelings of loneliness by taking up hobbies, if it helps.
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everyone has their lonely history to tell....some by choice, some by default, some dun even have a choice but being discarded....
whatever the reasons, its good to write them down as part of your reflections and the best way to kill them off is on these white pages and u r not alone...the only thing to remember is not to brood over what has been written off and past...its not easy..but still one of the best therapy...
there are always people listening out with u but never expect them to agree with u...that is not possible for the world is relative than just being round...
remember that literature was first born out by talking to oneself before it is heard by others...
pick a hobby..make some frens...i.e. there was a lonely gal i know in a pub...and i showed her how to play pool...now she got the hang of it and played well ....we remain good frens till this day
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我的Apple~~~ ä½ å›žæ�¥äº†å•Šï¼�ï¼�ï¼�Muacks Muacks!! hehehehz!! xD!! This is a very common problem. Me too a loner. This is what modern people like us face. When you have people around you, you will feel so tired of them when there is no longer a topic to kick off with. But then when they stray away, you feel the loneliness and yearn for friendship. After a period, you get used to it. You will get to know new friends de lah Apple. Its always like this. The pattern of friendship we modern people face. 顺去自然。 Oh~~~ 我的好å®�å®�ä¸�è¦�å“~~
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Theres always someone for you, are you willing to open your eyes ? anyway join sentosa outing loh, they got cookies
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nO worry be happi.. pOky ish here to help too .. (tho i cant do much)
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so now this thread got 3 loners.
hmmm
u 3 should grp together.
and tada.
not loners anymore.
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Originally posted by ChoCoChips:
so now this thread got 3 loners.
hmmm
u 3 should grp together.
and tada.
not loners anymore.
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Originally posted by LonelyApple:
Can God help me?
theres nobody for me. Im stuck forever. Theres nobody around me. I'm extremely lonely and cry many times. Nobody is there. Frustrations.
Hi Apple,It is normal to feel lonely, just don't let it become a disappointment. You need to be more thick skin and have the guts to ask people out. Try to mix with people, sometimes it may seem awkward and you may feel rejected or sometimes you feel you don't get the attention you want. But take everything as a learning experience, you get better at making friends the next time. At first, they may not be so open up to you but you should try to be more open and friendly and from there they may see a different side of you.
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social anxiety arises because of low self esteem. And a lot of the anxiety could be due to over imagining things.....things which are actually non-existent. For example, when one talks, he might think he's making a fool of himself but actually those listening are thinking: "Hmmm, this guy has a different viewpoint" or something like that.
As Henry Ford has put it: You are what you think you are.
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Originally posted by Rock^Star:
social anxiety arises because of low self esteem. And a lot of the anxiety could be due to over imagining things.....things which are actually non-existent. For example, when one talks, he might think he's making a fool of himself but actually those listening are thinking: "Hmmm, this guy has a different viewpoint" or something like that.
As Henry Ford has put it: You are what you think you are.
Correct. Social phobia ppl are overly self conscious and usually low self esteem.One way to cure is to go for social theraphy/cognitive behaviour theraphy.
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i thought at your age, you should have more time for social activities.. also reveal the problem behind...( if there is, it is time for you to change, change for the better )... no school classmates/friends ? quite impossible right ? anything wrong with your attitude towards your friends ?
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TS, I saw your post in another thread about how socially awkward you think you are. And I think this kinda contributes to your social anxiety.
Actually social skills can be learnt. Just observe the people around you and try to figure out their interests and PRACTICE.
Practice makes perfect.
Over time you'll get a "feel" for it and you won't be as socially impaired liaoz.
And if you have no idea what to say...then just keep quiet and listen. No one will fault you for that.
Over time as you get used to being with people, your social anxiety will be reduced and you'll probably feel more comfortable.
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Originally posted by LonelyApple:
Can God help me?
theres nobody for me. Im stuck forever. Theres nobody around me. I'm extremely lonely and cry many times. Nobody is there. Frustrations.
I also facing social anxiety even though i got married at age 25
had a nice family but at workplace i nvr dare go out with colleague cos i feel shy
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dun go out with colleagues la. They are just colleagues :)