Feeling Lost in feeling
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There is this guy in my office where both of us are quite close to.. We would always have our breakfast, lunch together at time during weekend we do get together for movie and clubbing. We click so well that both of us have the same frequency.
There are lots of stuff and hint that make me feel he like me. e.g. he would look into my eyes at times when he chatting with me then look away hidding his stare.
When other girls came along in the club caming hugging him, he would stare deep into my eyes as if checking for jealousy in me..There are lots of things he did made me feel he like me, like telling my his lifestyle, bringing me to meet his friends and keep telling me he like me to know what kind of lifestyle he is leading.. i couldn't think of anything else other then he is interested in me.
on xmas night, he held my hand and lead me onto a cab towards our next destination, he asked lots of questions about my liking on what i liking for lifestyle to physical and emotionally.. :((
But then one night over a few glasses, he spouted that he like my company but not as gf. So i leave the friendship as it is.. but his "gf type" treatment continue.. but he would always remind me not to fall for him.. But but.. but...I am lost.. i really dnt know what to do.
tonight i muster all my courage to tell him, stop contacting me anymore except if its on business concern dealing.. It hurts inside me to tell him this, but i just tell myself i need to cut the string off to prevent hurting myself in future.
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Since he's already said he's not interested, then you better not pin any hopes on him.
If he's actually feeling otherwise, then too bad for him.
Look for better guys with more maturity ba.
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Originally posted by littlemissbonkers:
Since he's already said he's not interested, then you better not pin any hopes on him.
If he's actually feeling otherwise, then too bad for him.
Look for better guys with more maturity ba.
yes, he did keep hinting he don't like me as gf but love my company. What a heck..
Just when everytime i wanted to give up on him, he would come up with those "GF treatment" that drive me nuts. Sigh..
I really can't read his reaction and intention.. I am very upset actually yet i have to brave it infront of him no matter in person or sms. Not wanting to look weak infront of him. Sigh.. -
Originally posted by pokka77:
yes, he did keep hinting he don't like me as gf but love my company. What a heck..
Just when everytime i wanted to give up on him, he would come up with those "GF treatment" that drive me nuts. Sigh..
I really can't read his reaction and intention.. I am very upset actually yet i have to brave it infront of him no matter in person or sms. Not wanting to look weak infront of him. Sigh..Aiya dun care him la.
Find better guys.
Or go take revenge by flirting with other guys lol
Don't get cheated hor. Visualise urself being dumped by this asshole in future and you won't feel as strongly towards him liaoz
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Stay clear from guys like these. Constantly having dramas here and there, testing here and there...... he may be playing the field. If he indeed has feelings for you, he wont be hugging any girls.
Stay clear of dramatic guys, find a guy that really loves you
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Originally posted by pokka77:
yes, he did keep hinting he don't like me as gf but love my company. What a heck..
Just when everytime i wanted to give up on him, he would come up with those "GF treatment" that drive me nuts. Sigh..
I really can't read his reaction and intention.. I am very upset actually yet i have to brave it infront of him no matter in person or sms. Not wanting to look weak infront of him. Sigh..If you are having problems with him even before getting together, i think after together you are gonna cry everyday. Dont let your heart overtake your brain, use the two of them. Be more firm with your feelings
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"Never eat and shit at the same place" may be the reason for his "weird" behavior.
Actions speak louder than eords. His actions have told you that he fonds on you. But he may also be minded by the fact that both of you are colleagues in the same office.
While things are sweet, everything is fine. But if things go awry, your working relationship with him in office could suffer. Worse is if his work performance also plummets..........
Instead of guessing this and that, why don't you just go straight to the point to ask him to clarify his stance?
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Originally posted by Fenixx:
"Never eat and shit at the same place" may be the reason for his "weird" behavior.
Actions speak louder than eords. His actions have told you that he fonds on you. But he may also be minded by the fact that both of you are colleagues in the same office.
While things are sweet, everything is fine. But if things go awry, your working relationship with him in office could suffer. Worse is if his work performance also plummets..........
Instead of guessing this and that, why don't you just go straight to the point to ask him to clarify his stance?
Apart from the above stances, we will always try to wait for each other after work to walk out of office together. If he wasn't interested he could jolly well avoid and ignore me. But he didn't .. humh.. and he has been responding hints to me that he dnt wish for me to fall for him, if not i will be upset. Coz he keep telling me he isn't good enough nor suit me. if so.. why did he hav to show me those "GF Treatment" :(
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TS,
How well do you know this guy? Is he married? got kids? sperated.....?
He tell you not interested in you....on the other hand stir up your emotion by asking your personal preferences.....just want to sleep with you....!!!
Stay out...tell him you are not interested in him....Good job.
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Kind like he already have gf (maybe study / attach oversea) and now want to fill the bored and lonely time with you. He have so much spare time that's why he able to show those gf treatment. Better alert.
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obviously he lacks confidence...not becos of his manhood...but becos of "situations" and a deep need for your assurances....
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obviously he lacks confidence...not becos of his manhood...but becos of "situations" and a deep need for your assurances....
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u must know what these situations are that led him to his sober remarks about "not as gf"....its your turn to make your move to assure him....he felt that he has done his....and pending for your proactive move....try it...
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Originally posted by user@user:
Kind like he already have gf (maybe study / attach oversea) and now want to fill the bored and lonely time with you. He have so much spare time that's why he able to show those gf treatment. Better alert.
just like what user@user said. if not, he is not prepared for a relationship. but the way he gets hugged by girls in club and on-off relationship shows that hes quite a player. dont get fooled.
remember, the guy for you would never treat you badly. it just shows he aint the one for you. if you are this sad now, what would be the future?
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its common to hug....when in another post...u have married sluts thinking about bf....
so if hugging is that bad...then married cinderellas thinking of other guys is sluttish to the core
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hmm you're right. but this guy is making TS sad, something which a guy should never do. plus he quite playing TS. you dont do all the couple stuffs and say hey dont fall in love with me in this love game, if you do, you lose and i win.
oh..that married girl thinking about her crush, well, you cant say shes a slut, she just need to give herself and her husband a some time. shes a human like us too, it justs that her emotions and infactuation are toying with her only.
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alamak... guys that said this u better beware lor.
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????main thing is have u both went out for seafood buffet???!!!!dun need to llook at eyes n stuff...just look at prawns and clams floating on steamboat!!!yumm
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misuses gals just to blend in with buffet crowd.:)
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He just gets a kick out of flirting with you. Since he himself said he not interested in you as a girlfriend then you're right to just treat him as a co-worker only.
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Originally posted by pokka77:
There is this guy in my office where both of us are quite close to.. We would always have our breakfast, lunch together at time during weekend we do get together for movie and clubbing. We click so well that both of us have the same frequency.
There are lots of stuff and hint that make me feel he like me. e.g. he would look into my eyes at times when he chatting with me then look away hidding his stare.
When other girls came along in the club caming hugging him, he would stare deep into my eyes as if checking for jealousy in me..There are lots of things he did made me feel he like me, like telling my his lifestyle, bringing me to meet his friends and keep telling me he like me to know what kind of lifestyle he is leading.. i couldn't think of anything else other then he is interested in me.
on xmas night, he held my hand and lead me onto a cab towards our next destination, he asked lots of questions about my liking on what i liking for lifestyle to physical and emotionally.. :((
But then one night over a few glasses, he spouted that he like my company but not as gf. So i leave the friendship as it is.. but his "gf type" treatment continue.. but he would always remind me not to fall for him.. But but.. but...I am lost.. i really dnt know what to do.
tonight i muster all my courage to tell him, stop contacting me anymore except if its on business concern dealing.. It hurts inside me to tell him this, but i just tell myself i need to cut the string off to prevent hurting myself in future.
Can someone tell me what is going on in this relationship ?Aiyah.. he enjoys teasing you to see your reaction lah.
I bet you $50 , he behaves very differently infront of the girl he really likes for a gf.
This kind of guys a dime a dozen lorh.
No other guys interested in you meh ? He wants to play games..let him be bah.
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Originally posted by pokka77:
Apart from the above stances, we will always try to wait for each other after work to walk out of office together. If he wasn't interested he could jolly well avoid and ignore me. But he didn't .. humh.. and he has been responding hints to me that he dnt wish for me to fall for him, if not i will be upset. Coz he keep telling me he isn't good enough nor suit me. if so.. why did he hav to show me those "GF Treatment" :(
His actions show his heart. His hesitation/denial/telling you not to fall for him come from his head lah........
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Originally posted by pokka77:
Apart from the above stances, we will always try to wait for each other after work to walk out of office together. If he wasn't interested he could jolly well avoid and ignore me. But he didn't .. humh.. and he has been responding hints to me that he dnt wish for me to fall for him, if not i will be upset. Coz he keep telling me he isn't good enough nor suit me. if so.. why did he hav to show me those "GF Treatment" :(
depending on the relationship status of both of you..if you like him tell him..
there is a gamble here.
1) he likes you and wants to get into a relationship with you but he wants u to make the first step. because all along he treats you like a princess so he hopes that u reciprocate that reaction by asking him whether you want to date
2) he is just plainly flirting because he "does not want to shit and eat at the same place". he can't date you so the best he can do is flirt with you.
either way, if this reaction is making you unhappy, you have to take a gamble and ask him to make a stance. do it in a subtle way like over a quiet drink or something to lighten the mood. The gamble is that either you lose a friend who is treating u like gf or you gain a bf who might still treat u like a gf after dating you haha
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end of the day he just wan you to offer you body to him
and when he leave you he just tell other that "she is the 1 that offer herself to me, i never say i like her. so if can eat Y not eat? correct ?
you will be making yrself cheat if you do that
relationship never pass the test if some1 like to play this game
best is never ever suspect this suspect that.
all i can say is the guy is a "fucker"
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well he's drunk and he said he like your accompany only correct?
maybe he don't know what's he talking about.
Do u love him? if you love him then go after him. why just let the relation end like that?
10 years ago there's this lady which i counted so hard for so many years, yes she know I like her but she doesn't accept. until now when I found another lover and she told me what if we are together 10 years ago... blah blah. she's still single. not as pretty anymore.. no bf and finding someone....
don't let your chance went off. give it a try, unless you got no feeling for him.