interest or just being polite?
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I just went on a date with a guy i knew from the net.
At the end of the date, he said if there's time, i could ask my single friends out and join his friends for an outing. He didn't go his way out to please me and we went dutch. When i told him I'm interested in a particular activity, he just simply dismissed it as not his cup of tea. Nor did he behave like a gentleman during the date..
I thought this means that he is not interested to see me again. Then he said if there are nice movies, he can ask me out for a movie date again. I tried to tell him that I'm interested in watching one movie, but he quickly said he isn't a nice movie, and that he will decide again.
He did not send me home or send me a sms to ask if i have safely arrived home at 11 plus. Then later in the evening, we "met" each other on msn. To my surprise, he said i hope u enjoyed the date...and i hope we can do it again. Then he said he believe if i work hard in exercising and training, i would attain a good figure. He feels that it will be a waste if i just don't toned up as he sees that i have a good"bone structure". Well, during the date, we did discuss on exercising and body training matters.
My question now is " Is he interested in me?" He got me confused with his mixed messages.. first with his nonchalance attitude during the date..then asking me to invite my single female friends for a group outing..then telling me he hopes he can go out with me again.. -
well first of all, is it a date or is it a outing just a online friend?
perhaps he don't react as a gentlemen, but why should he please you when you are not his gf? lols.
in this case, i think he just wants to make more friends. or perhaps he wants to know more female friends through you, since he suggest to you to bring your single friends along to join him for an outing. back to your question interested in you wise, i doubt so.
just my thoughts. ;)
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"At the end of the date, he said if there's time, i could ask my single friends out and join his friends for an outing. He didn't go his way out to please me and we went dutch. When i told him I'm interested in a particular activity, he just simply dismissed it as not his cup of tea. Nor did he behave like a gentleman during the date."
1) As this is the first date, he may want to go slow. Therefore the suggestion of group dating. Maybe he is shy. Maybe he is uncomfortable on a single date.
2) From the way you described him, he seems very much like a novice when come to dating and woman. No 'experienced' guy would go Dutch with a woman on the first date. But everyone else has a first so be a little gentle and forgiving on him. He is learning the role - so to speak.
"I thought this means that he is not interested to see me again. Then he said if there are nice movies, he can ask me out for a movie date again. I tried to tell him that I'm interested in watching one movie, but he quickly said he isn't a nice movie, and that he will decide again."
3) Switch from net dating to face-to-face dating is a whole new experience. He is trying to seize you up as much as you are trying to seize him up. The way he seized you up may not be comfortable or agreeable to you. Because both of you have diff expectations, his action may seems contradictory or confusing to you.
"Then he said he believe if i work hard in exercising and training, i would attain a good figure. He feels that it will be a waste if i just don't toned up as he sees that i have a good"bone structure".4) Maybe he is not implying anything. Maybe he said it tongue-in-cheek manner - that if you exercise, you will have better figure. I read from somewhere that man and woman have diff references when come to communicating. You may want to ask yourself if your reference point on this area is the same as his.
"My question now is " Is he interested in me?""
5) Just go slow. Interest should not be an area of discussion at this point - unless both of you are in your late 30s and rushing to get hitched asap. If you are still young, in 20s - take your time to peel off layer-by-layer your partner's personality and character - to find out if both of your are really compatible, and this is a more important factor than anything else.
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High chance of a No. You interested in him ? I guess just friend friend for now, expectation dont too high
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Its your first date, and you are expecting too much from the guy. He's not your official bf yet. Anyway, your post is your own perspective, and it can be quite lopsided. If you are really interested in him, (don't bother to think too much if he is interested in you, if it works it works), go on a few more dates. If you keep thinking about what he thinks of you, it gives you more undue stress instead of being true to yourself.
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I saw your previous posts, somehow all your posts are like this kind...
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y do u like a cheepskate.
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TS,U A COMPLETE,TOTALY SHAMELESS MOTHER FUCKING BITCH!!!!U BLOODY FUCK GOT THE CHEEK TO EXPECT HIM TO PLEASE YOU?HE COMMENTED ON UR BODY,THAT MEANS U EITHER FAT OR SCRAWNY.ITS THE 1ST DATE,1ST DAY MEETING,GO SLOW.UNLESS U SUCK HIS COCK,DEN U CAN EXPECT HIM TO PLEASE U.RETARDED MORON!!!!!!!!!!
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you must be pretty ugly
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typical fucked up guy..ditch him..he's prolly got bored of u hence, he tried to widen his chances by getting u to invite more single ladies. Thus coming out with such excuses. Its not about whether he is ur bf yet but i personally believe a date is like a game, u have to play thru its rules, each has a specific role to play. And him, total screwed up, 没风度(not sure correct spelling anot) kinda guy.
going dutch on first date, big mistake. telling u to do sth bout ur figure, wrong move. tho not obliged to send u home but not msging u just shows how nonchalant he is.
whats more, going on a movie for first or first few date, terrible mistake because pple dont take enough time to get to know each other.
so final conclusion, quoting him "Then he said he believe if i work hard in exercising and training, i would attain a good figure. He feels that it will be a waste if i just don't toned up as he sees that i have a good"bone structure".
yes he is interested in u, just on the appearance/body, nothing else.
just my two cents
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the manchester united fc guy, mind your words!
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Originally posted by MANCHESTER UNITED FC:
TS,U A COMPLETE,TOTALY SHAMELESS MOTHER FUCKING BITCH!!!!U BLOODY FUCK GOT THE CHEEK TO EXPECT HIM TO PLEASE YOU?HE COMMENTED ON UR BODY,THAT MEANS U EITHER FAT OR SCRAWNY.ITS THE 1ST DATE,1ST DAY MEETING,GO SLOW.UNLESS U SUCK HIS COCK,DEN U CAN EXPECT HIM TO PLEASE U.RETARDED MORON!!!!!!!!!!
This is an agony forum. If you have something to contribute, contribute.Else, this not a place for you to shout your nonsense or clown your joke.
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Originally posted by 4sg:
This is an agony forum. If you have something to contribute, contribute.Else, this not a place for you to shout your nonsense or clown your joke.
ignore him..he is prolly a clone..notice all his posts are being edited by mods -
Originally posted by bearie000:
I just went on a date with a guy i knew from the net.
At the end of the date, he said if there's time, i could ask my single friends out and join his friends for an outing. He didn't go his way out to please me and we went dutch. When i told him I'm interested in a particular activity, he just simply dismissed it as not his cup of tea. Nor did he behave like a gentleman during the date..
I thought this means that he is not interested to see me again. Then he said if there are nice movies, he can ask me out for a movie date again. I tried to tell him that I'm interested in watching one movie, but he quickly said he isn't a nice movie, and that he will decide again.
He did not send me home or send me a sms to ask if i have safely arrived home at 11 plus. Then later in the evening, we "met" each other on msn. To my surprise, he said i hope u enjoyed the date...and i hope we can do it again. Then he said he believe if i work hard in exercising and training, i would attain a good figure. He feels that it will be a waste if i just don't toned up as he sees that i have a good"bone structure". Well, during the date, we did discuss on exercising and body training matters.
My question now is " Is he interested in me?" He got me confused with his mixed messages.. first with his nonchalance attitude during the date..then asking me to invite my single female friends for a group outing..then telling me he hopes he can go out with me again..Hi bearie,
My opinion is he might be taking things slowly. I think he's testing water and looking for somebody to go out with. I went out with quite a few guys and they all went Dutch, including the one who professed his interest in me before lol.
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Originally posted by MinMuangMo0on:
Hi bearie,
My opinion is he might be taking things slowly. I think he's testing water and looking for somebody to go out with. I went out with quite a few guys and they all went Dutch, including the one who professed his interest in me before lol.
im a guy, and i reckoned that he prolly has an ulterior motive.. -
Originally posted by _Da_Dood_:
im a guy, and i reckoned that he prolly has an ulterior motive..I don't like that he mentioned body to her either. It was either insensitive or reflecting his own intentions or he could be liberal. But anyways, ulterior motive or not, he wouldn't be able to do anything if all she does is just do activities with him and put a wall so thick not even a machine gun can bust through it between them both.
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Originally posted by MinMuangMo0on:
I don't like that he mentioned body to her either. It was either insensitive or reflecting his own intentions or he could be liberal. But anyways, ulterior motive or not, he wouldn't be able to do anything if all she does is just do activities with him and put a wall so thick not even a machine gun can bust through it between them both.
nah..why go thru all the trouble..a simple, reject calls, ignore the fella will do..if im a girl and a guy would ask me all these stuff or talk to me on such stuff, i would have been weirded out de...
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did he make use of u to visit a seafood buffet????he ate too much until he cant walk back with u to yer place?dutch???i think its ok on a first date.....its modern times i think.....mebbe later on it would be somethin else.
yup....he has an ulterior motive,,,,he wants to make use of u to goto seafood buffet...otherwise why would he say see u again.he dun care if ya fat albert as long as ya his seafood buffet kaki!!!
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I love seafood, make use of me to go to seafood buffet plox!
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dump him.
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cant...im in another land.
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eh...whats with seafood and TS???
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feels depressed.....and yearn for KFC!!!godamn me needs to get kfc asap!!!new outlet opened near my place@!
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hoseh liao...now this thread has become crap box
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Originally posted by bearie000:
I just went on a date with a guy i knew from the net.
At the end of the date, he said if there's time, i could ask my single friends out and join his friends for an outing. He didn't go his way out to please me and we went dutch. When i told him I'm interested in a particular activity, he just simply dismissed it as not his cup of tea. Nor did he behave like a gentleman during the date..
I thought this means that he is not interested to see me again. Then he said if there are nice movies, he can ask me out for a movie date again. I tried to tell him that I'm interested in watching one movie, but he quickly said he isn't a nice movie, and that he will decide again.
He did not send me home or send me a sms to ask if i have safely arrived home at 11 plus. Then later in the evening, we "met" each other on msn. To my surprise, he said i hope u enjoyed the date...and i hope we can do it again. Then he said he believe if i work hard in exercising and training, i would attain a good figure. He feels that it will be a waste if i just don't toned up as he sees that i have a good"bone structure". Well, during the date, we did discuss on exercising and body training matters.
My question now is " Is he interested in me?" He got me confused with his mixed messages.. first with his nonchalance attitude during the date..then asking me to invite my single female friends for a group outing..then telling me he hopes he can go out with me again..
If you don't know if he likes you or not, chances are HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU AT ALL...EVER....