If you hit your late 20s you will realise that friendship serve very little purpose.
Here is one case: I have a friend who I know for 20 years. We grew up together go to same school and went study overseas together. 7 years ago when he wanted to commit suicide because his ex left him, I was there for him to be a friend. Now he found a new gf and remarried. But he never invited me to his wedding. Worse still, last week was his birthday, I text him happy birthday, but he never reply nor acknowledge my reply. One day I saw him, I ask him why he didn't reply me, he say he was "lazy". Rude and arrogant of him isn't it? So what is value of friendship?
After that incident and many others, I learn to be more self centred and don't care anymore about other people.
frens come and go.
Tat is why fren is useless. Agree or not? Blood is thicker than water. Family come first.
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Originally posted by Macho Man:Tat is why fren is useless. Agree or not? Blood is thicker than water. Family come first.
You are right bro.
Friends are just friends.
Colleagues are just colleagues.
Nothing more nothing less.
Family will stick to you high and low, happy or sad, anger or down.
Also...one more thing, $$$ is better than friend too.
Originally posted by Macho Man:If you hit your late 20s you will realise that friendship serve very little purpose.
Here is one case: I have a friend who I know for 20 years. We grew up together go to same school and went study overseas together. 7 years ago when he wanted to commit suicide because his ex left him, I was there for him to be a friend. Now he found a new gf and remarried. But he never invited me to his wedding. Worse still, last week was his birthday, I text him happy birthday, but he never reply nor acknowledge my reply. One day I saw him, I ask him why he didn't reply me, he say he was "lazy". Rude and arrogant of him isn't it? So what is value of friendship?
After that incident and many others, I learn to be more self centred and don't care anymore about other people.
All i can say is your friend is a bastard and also self-centered like you but he was self-centered earlier than you perhaps. Maybe he did not treat you like a close friend but to you he was a close friend? I think to me girlfriend better ba. Family and friends when they busy with Ns, school, work, then they also heck care you de. At least girlfriend even though busy with this still will find you when she is free. Can depend on her presence more than other ba. For me i think is like that la. I mean everyone has different friends, family, g/bf.
Originally posted by likeyou:
You are right bro.Friends are just friends.
Colleagues are just colleagues.
Nothing more nothing less.
Family will stick to you high and low, happy or sad, anger or down.
Also...one more thing, $$$ is better than friend too.
Money and friends is 2 different things. How can you compare? If you had all the money in the world and no friends. You will be sian also what. Don't tell me money can make friends or what. Those are not true friends lor. It hard to believe that so many people have lousy friends. Frankly i'm not sure what defines a good friend too.
If you are attached, definately gf/bf will be the closest one to you.
Friends??? Sigh.....when they call you, you want to borrow money from you....Not true? I got 1 call recently!!! Many years never call me!!!
Originally posted by likeyou:If you are attached, definately gf/bf will be the closest one to you.
Friends??? Sigh.....when they call you, you want to borrow money from you....Not true? I got 1 call recently!!! Many years never call me!!!
True la. This kind don't care only. Don't lend them la. Obviously is despo for money then call you de. So thick skin. Better don't lend la. So many years never see you skali run off with your money. Only lend those you truly care about and is close to you. Close to your heart or your house lol.
Originally posted by Icygecko84:True la. This kind don't care only. Don't lend them la. Obviously is despo for money then call you de. So thick skin. Better don't lend la. So many years never see you skali run off with your money. Only lend those you truly care about and is close to you. Close to your heart or your house lol.
Yes you are right bro!
What matter most is your family, your spouse, your kids, ensure that they are happy, go overseas holiday, go dinning together and enjoy the life being with family and love ones.
Human can be so complicated. Have pet better.
Originally posted by blowfish:Human can be so complicated. Have pet better.
Aiya i also have cats. Although she will always meow back when i talk to her. But it is different also ma. You can go out with your pet and really talk to it meh. It fulfill different things for you than friend lor.
Originally posted by Icygecko84:Aiya i also have cats. Although she will always meow back when i talk to her. But it is different also ma. You can go out with your pet and really talk to it meh. It fulfill different things for you than friend lor.
Furkids.
what matters are those who care and whom you care about.
no one can predict the value, length and outcome of any relationship right until the very end of their lives, be it with kin or friends.
think of it as connection between 2 people, some will run seamlessly throughout the fabric of life, some will abruptly stop before fusing again, others will snap and remain broken.
life is funny this way so don't let disappointment with 1 person determine how you will treat the others. keep an open mind.
Originally posted by soleachip:what matters are those who care and whom you care about.
no one can predict the value, length and outcome of any relationship right until the very end of their lives, be it with kin or friends.
think of it as connection between 2 people, some will run seamlessly throughout the fabric of life, some will abruptly stop before fusing again, others will snap and remain broken.
life is funny this way so don't let disappointment with 1 person determine how you will treat the others. keep an open mind.
Nice. The broken part is kinda sad though.
Originally posted by Icygecko84:All i can say is your friend is a bastard and also self-centered like you but he was self-centered earlier than you perhaps. Maybe he did not treat you like a close friend but to you he was a close friend? I think to me girlfriend better ba. Family and friends when they busy with Ns, school, work, then they also heck care you de. At least girlfriend even though busy with this still will find you when she is free. Can depend on her presence more than other ba. For me i think is like that la. I mean everyone has different friends, family, g/bf.
Selfish person I am - Yes, But Bastard, I am definitely not. I care more about my family that is why blood is thicker than water. This so-called friend of mine, he also got his own family problems, he not get along with his elder brother. He also hate his father but he only love his mother.
Nowadays got all sort of people but most common is the selfish bastard like the fren i mention. He was a close friend (we used to go bintan island and malaysia for jungle adventure together) until his wife change him. His wife is a loner and she is very protective of him. She even force him to move out the home he share with his mother to move in with her. He don't keep in touch nevermind - he never invite me for his wedding not good, I feel insulted. We fren for 20 years, I know his whole family.
Originally posted by Icygecko84:True la. This kind don't care only. Don't lend them la. Obviously is despo for money then call you de. So thick skin. Better don't lend la. So many years never see you skali run off with your money. Only lend those you truly care about and is close to you. Close to your heart or your house lol.
Also got another kind of fren who always call us out. This fren is called to insurance salesmen or the financial planner. They not interested to ask you out for a drink, they only interested in business and want you to buy their product. They only care money.
Originally posted by Macho Man:
Selfish person I am - Yes, But Bastard, I am definitely not. I care more about my family that is why blood is thicker than water. This so-called friend of mine, he also got his own family problems, he not get along with his elder brother. He also hate his father but he only love his mother.Nowadays got all sort of people but most common is the selfish bastard like the fren i mention. He was a close friend (we used to go bintan island and malaysia for jungle adventure together) until his wife change him. His wife is a loner and she is very protective of him. She even force him to move out the home he share with his mother to move in with her. He don't keep in touch nevermind - he never invite me for his wedding not good, I feel insulted. We fren for 20 years, I know his whole family.
haha i didn't call you a bastard, don't be mistaken. I say your friend is a bastard (fullstop) and also self-centered like you. The bastard part for your friend only, and the self-centered is you and your friend. Sorry i didn't type properly lol.
Look. I have problems with my brother also. We don't talk at home. He is so called in a rebellious state since he is like 17. I have no father cuz divorced le. So i can only love my mother. My gf is very sticky and clings to me when she is free. I go out with her and my friends. So there is similarities with him and me but i don't behave like that. Guys who behave like your friend is those that let the gf or wife tell him what to do. My gf don't do that and i definitely will ask her to stfu if she ever try. Friends for 20 years. Yeah your friend is a fucker. If i were you i will straight up tell him that. Friends for 20 years and give you this shit because of your wife. Wife important la but doesn't mean friend not important ma. Never mind la this kind of friend don't want also better.
Originally posted by Macho Man:Also got another kind of fren who always call us out. This fren is called to insurance salesmen or the financial planner. They not interested to ask you out for a drink, they only interested in business and want you to buy their product. They only care money.
Ya i also kena before. Mlm. Ask you join them and buy their products. I could tell la that it was not a meet up and more for his business thing. But i give him face just turn up, listen then reject lor. That the most i can do for a friend because i really not interested in that.
Originally posted by Icygecko84:Ya i also kena before. Mlm. Ask you join them and buy their products. I could tell la that it was not a meet up and more for his business thing. But i give him face just turn up, listen then reject lor. That the most i can do for a friend because i really not interested in that.
MLM !!! They are the scum fren of the drain in which we throw our faeces.
1 fren lousy dun mean that all frens are lousy hor.
This only means that you should look for better friends, and be more discerning about who you choose to make friends with.
And yea family is important, so while looking for more worthy friends, you should spend more time with them.
there are no friends but allies
Family first. Friends, what friends?
Ts,
Good that you decided to be self-centred and by that i assume that you mean being an end unto yourself. U fulfill youself out of your own ...