Family Crisis: Dad Having Affair
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Confront him is useless lah. Confronting now only speeds up the destruction of your family.
First of all, ask yourself what kind of relationship your mother and your siblings have with your father.
Is he just a ATM machine to the family ? When was the last time you had a good quality bonding time with your father ?
I bet you and your siblings don't give two hoots about your father BEFORE you found out about his affair, yes ?
Well, it's not too late.
Start spending more time with your father. Let him know that his family loves him more than that woman.
If your father owns the company, then why arn't you and your siblings spending time helping him out ? If you had been there, the woman wouldn't have her chance in the first place.
Stop neglecting your father, bring him back. Putting a lasso on him ain't gonna work. Family love and a stronger relationship is the key.
If you just wanna be angry, disgusted and full of contempt for what he has done. Then best you let him go and live his happy life away from you and the rest of the family.
Your choice, so choose wisely.
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There are lots of factors when it comes to family. Some of the things TS may not be convenient to disclose here. Its still better to consider all teh options to solve this problem. I understand if a man sways then he will probably do it again. unless he has a strong will or unless some outcome really woke him up and bring him to the light.
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dad having affair is as old as ancient china and india........horny mah lol........want to have CCA outside marriage......if your mom is willing to forgive your dad and move on, then good. otherwise divorce lor............if you dad refuse to ditch the affair......
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Well, if you are a good looking with a six pack tummy young guy, come to me, i can help you solve your problem. If you are female, approach pedobear then
he is standing right here in front of you. -
Originally posted by Sn0wb0ss:
Hi, I am a 17 year-old teenager. I'm currently still studying in a local polytechnic. Just recently, my mum discovered that my dad's having an affair. To double confirm it, I went to check his mobile phone and found solid evidence of it, hundreds of disgusting smses between him and the whore. Right noiw, I'm probably in my worst period of my life, just when everything is going smoothly for me, this incident happened.
My dad still doesn't know about it, "we finding out about him having an affair". Right now, my brother, my mum and I are in a dilemna on what to do. Since the third-party whom my dad is having an affair is his worker, if the worker is sacked, will my dad still carry on with the relationship?
And? Is it legal for me to threaten the third-party to leave my dad alone? If she doesn't wants to leave, is it legal for me to force her to leave using violent means?
Thank you for taking the time to read and helping me out.
ts i think before you do anything, you should commit yourself to either one of the following 1. forgive your father if he ever turns back. 2. never forgive your father even if he turns back. proceed once you are committed. if you find yourself unable to commit to anything, or likely to rescind on your commitment later on, then you sit tight until you decide you can commit. once you are committed, you will find the other considerations either slowing fall into place naturally, or completely redundant as you go along. -
Would you leave a warm shelter to go out into a freezing storm?
If your father is seeking external sources of happiness, then that definitely isn't the only problem your family has. Like the majority of all relationships, your family has fallen into complacency.
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I hope TS solve the problem peacefully with her father.
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well it's your father's decision.
you checked his handphone?
well u r god dam it rude. whoever be your boyfriend will die becos you will check his god dam it hp.
stop bring problem to yourself.
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Originally posted by zocockss:
TS,best is take revenge on ur dad.ask ur mum to have sex wth me.i have very big cock.sure ur mum will love my cock.and ask ur dad to watch how the real man fuck ur mum.
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Yes you, your brother and mother need to confront your father about this matter. Make sure you keep evidence ofyour father's sms or else he will deny that he is having an affair. Lets hear out his explanation. He could either be 1) Bullshit 2) Admit the truth.
Most likely he will tell you 1) and he will fail to convince you all that he is clean.
These things are hard to proof unless you catch him in the act.
You can hire a private investigator to follow him around take intimate photographs. Also, is he always missing from home? Always staying somewhere else during the night? You all must make sure he stay at home at all times.
Sometimes these things may come out badly. Your Father or Mother may ask for divorce. Be prepared for the worse. If however both your parents want to make this work, there will be a lot of problems with "trusting" each other.
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as the eldest child, it is your duty to tell your Dad off, some middle men get impulsive over a young lady like me, like instant noodle, they fall in love with us easily, it need someone to enlighten him to return back to the reality, that he has a wife, house, job and kids to take care of. It is kind of like wake up call, tell him that you all need him and hope that he give up his bad habit for the sake of you and family.
Naturally, men are prone to beauty and sex, but they must be responsible to who they are and what they are doing, alot of married men come to me, but I told them to take care of their family, i won't want to hurt another lady of my own gender and her family. Most realised their impulsive mistake and thanks me for enlighting them.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
as the eldest child, it is your duty to tell your Dad off, some middle men get impulsive over a young lady like me, like instant noodle, they fall in love with us easily, it need someone to enlighten him to return back to the reality, that he has a wife, house, job and kids to take care of. It is kind of like wake up call, tell him that you all need him and hope that he give up his bad habit for the sake of you and family.
Naturally, men are prone to beauty and sex, but they must be responsible to who they are and what they are doing, alot of married men come to me, but I told them to take care of their family, i won't want to hurt another lady of my own gender and her family. Most realised their impulsive mistake and thanks me for enlighting them.
speaking from someone who open bar.......
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Dad having an affair just based on those disgusting smses.....? Seems more like just harmless flirting..........
TTS making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Adultery is a serious allegation. But right now the evidence is most unconvincing. If I were the judge, your Dad is hereby acquitted - no case to answer. Case closed.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
as the eldest child, it is your duty to tell your Dad off, some middle men get impulsive over a young lady like me, like instant noodle, they fall in love with us easily, it need someone to enlighten him to return back to the reality, that he has a wife, house, job and kids to take care of. It is kind of like wake up call, tell him that you all need him and hope that he give up his bad habit for the sake of you and family.
Naturally, men are prone to beauty and sex, but they must be responsible to who they are and what they are doing, alot of married men come to me, but I told them to take care of their family, i won't want to hurt another lady of my own gender and her family. Most realised their impulsive mistake and thanks me for enlighting them.
Its because of woman like you that directly and indirectly casuese man to shift. if you will just marry me and be done with it then there will be one less honey out there for bees to flock to. -
Originally posted by Sn0wb0ss:
Hi, I am a 17 year-old teenager. I'm currently still studying in a local polytechnic. Just recently, my mum discovered that my dad's having an affair. To double confirm it, I went to check his mobile phone and found solid evidence of it, hundreds of disgusting smses between him and the whore. Right noiw, I'm probably in my worst period of my life, just when everything is going smoothly for me, this incident happened.
My dad still doesn't know about it, "we finding out about him having an affair". Right now, my brother, my mum and I are in a dilemna on what to do. Since the third-party whom my dad is having an affair is his worker, if the worker is sacked, will my dad still carry on with the relationship?
And? Is it legal for me to threaten the third-party to leave my dad alone? If she doesn't wants to leave, is it legal for me to force her to leave using violent means?
Thank you for taking the time to read and helping me out.
Violence does not solve any problems. It will only serve to worsen the situation. It isn't legal for you to force her to leave using violent means no matter what's your cause.Your mum has to confront your dad regarding this issue. That's the only way to solve the problem. A direct confrontation. She has to face the problem head on. One important point to take note here though. Do not make it a heated one.
Things may inevitably get heated when your mum raises this issue with your dad. However, she should try to keep the situation as calm and controlled as possible. Hurtful words which are not helpful to the current situation would only get hurled about if the situation turns ugly.
How did your mum get to know about his affair?
How old are your other siblings?
And yes, a marriage counsellor would help. But that is only after your mum has confronted your dad regarding the issue.
Before everything, it would help if your mum reflcts on what has been going on in their marriage all these years. What were the problems that your parents had faced?
What's the cause for his extramarital affair? Is it a fault on your mum's side?
I'm not trying to say that your mum is the cause for the affair and that your dad is blameless. But rather trying to find out the causes that gradually pushed or did not push your dad towards having an affair.
The party having the affair is forever at fault. Even if he or she isn't the one who intiate it, he or she is still guilty as charged.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
as the eldest child, it is your duty to tell your Dad off, some middle men get impulsive over a young lady like me, like instant noodle, they fall in love with us easily, it need someone to enlighten him to return back to the reality, that he has a wife, house, job and kids to take care of. It is kind of like wake up call, tell him that you all need him and hope that he give up his bad habit for the sake of you and family.
Naturally, men are prone to beauty and sex, but they must be responsible to who they are and what they are doing, alot of married men come to me, but I told them to take care of their family, i won't want to hurt another lady of my own gender and her family. Most realised their impulsive mistake and thanks me for enlighting them.
He is probably blinded by the 2rd party love. He will not think of his family as he already in love with the pretty young girl.
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Originally posted by likeyou:
He is probably blinded by the 2rd party love. He will not think of his family as he already in love with the pretty young girl.
depend on which type of gal, some uses charm and magic to lure man into them, break his family and get his money. For men, especially the middle age one who are going thru crisis of all kind of middle age problem like losing hair, getting older, erectile dyfunction, high blood, these and that problem makes them very depress and certainly loses their manhood, this apply to both rich and poor men. It is therefore, the duty and the foresight of a capable wife to bring back and perhap paid more attention to their middle age husband mid life crisis, otherwise, when a young beauti like me arrive, their hubbies will be gone.\So wifeys out there, you do play an important role ya.
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Originally posted by likeyou:
He is probably blinded by the 2rd party love. He will not think of his family as he already in love with the pretty young girl.
Then they need to settle it, wife and children can sue their husband or Dad at court for Dishonestly or invading responsibility as a father. If proven, they get the house and alimony of $500 per family member per month, not bad. -
Originally posted by Sn0wb0ss:
Hi, I am a 17 year-old teenager. I'm currently still studying in a local polytechnic. Just recently, my mum discovered that my dad's having an affair. To double confirm it, I went to check his mobile phone and found solid evidence of it, hundreds of disgusting smses between him and the whore. Right noiw, I'm probably in my worst period of my life, just when everything is going smoothly for me, this incident happened.
My dad still doesn't know about it, "we finding out about him having an affair". Right now, my brother, my mum and I are in a dilemna on what to do. Since the third-party whom my dad is having an affair is his worker, if the worker is sacked, will my dad still carry on with the relationship?
And? Is it legal for me to threaten the third-party to leave my dad alone? If she doesn't wants to leave, is it legal for me to force her to leave using violent means?
Thank you for taking the time to read and helping me out.
How is that your problem or your responsibility or even your rights to question/confront your dad?I'm sure your parents had many other problems that needed help and have you done your part for sharing their problems in the past?
If not, then are you trying to hint that you have finally waited for this perfect opportunity to attack your Dad and become the person to bring down and destroy your own family?
Since when did you think you have earned that rights?
But congratulations, at least you have earned the rights to have an affair in your future if you are capable enough to have one.
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Originally posted by Sn0wb0ss:
Hi, I am a 17 year-old teenager. I'm currently still studying in a local polytechnic. Just recently, my mum discovered that my dad's having an affair. To double confirm it, I went to check his mobile phone and found solid evidence of it, hundreds of disgusting smses between him and the whore. Right noiw, I'm probably in my worst period of my life, just when everything is going smoothly for me, this incident happened.
My dad still doesn't know about it, "we finding out about him having an affair". Right now, my brother, my mum and I are in a dilemna on what to do. Since the third-party whom my dad is having an affair is his worker, if the worker is sacked, will my dad still carry on with the relationship?
And? Is it legal for me to threaten the third-party to leave my dad alone? If she doesn't wants to leave, is it legal for me to force her to leave using violent means?
Thank you for taking the time to read and helping me out.
Lucky you're not any younger than you are now..
Since when was violence legal?
The only way these kinda men learn, is if they lose their family...although results may differ..
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Eat outside but never wipe mouth............