Workplace abuse/harrassment
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
I agree with Dragg. Who is that strong to withstand the anxiety that is provoked naturally? I can't control my subconscious. I mean It occurs just like that!
So how do I write like a girl?
Anyways, I didn't elaborate enough about the girl that retained during sec 5. This kind-hearted teacher who had previously yelled at me to go to ITE placed me together with her instead of sitting in the middle with two of the 'team members' of the group political play. She knew what was going on and probably was doing this for my own good.
Loads of people hated her but subsequently over the years, I realised that even though she kept picking me on my work and others but I also noticed that whenever i'm alone or got bullied, she would tell those people off or ask someone that is kind enough to take care of me.
Anyways, let's call the girl, Alice. There was one time this teacher (He's now a VP) that mocked me by 'praising' me, she brought me to the toilet, could tell she nearly cried and kept telling me how she wanted to quit school and all. (She now probably graduated from poly and also had a boyfriend btw)
But anyways, I lost contact with her because I got soo depressed and trapped in my own world. I didn't realise anything unusual about it until I kept thinking of it and then I realised who were the true people.
I struggled during these 2 years retaking my O's but failed then decide to enrol myself into ITE and got myself a final gpa average of 3.3 (3.086 first yr, 3.586 2nd yr)
Now i'm doing my part-time studies and also, I have to partially thank this part-time F & B job that made me open my eyes up to who is real ones and who is the fake ones.
Oh yeah the so-called team members didn't do that well. A lot of them went to ITE anyways or else to private schools or else they are just holding their failed O levels cert or else having children out of the wedlock.
Why do they have to do this since it's only school and not a job. Can't they just help me instead pushing me over? And does it actually benefit them? Nah.
repeat post
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
I agree with Dragg. Who is that strong to withstand the anxiety that is provoked naturally? I can't control my subconscious. I mean It occurs just like that!
So how do I write like a girl?
Anyways, I didn't elaborate enough about the girl that retained during sec 5. This kind-hearted teacher who had previously yelled at me to go to ITE placed me together with her instead of sitting in the middle with two of the 'team members' of the group political play. She knew what was going on and probably was doing this for my own good.
Loads of people hated her but subsequently over the years, I realised that even though she kept picking me on my work and others but I also noticed that whenever i'm alone or got bullied, she would tell those people off or ask someone that is kind enough to take care of me.
Anyways, let's call the girl, Alice. There was one time this teacher (He's now a VP) that mocked me by 'praising' me, she brought me to the toilet, could tell she nearly cried and kept telling me how she wanted to quit school and all. (She now probably graduated from poly and also had a boyfriend btw)
But anyways, I lost contact with her because I got soo depressed and trapped in my own world. I didn't realise anything unusual about it until I kept thinking of it and then I realised who were the true people.
I struggled during these 2 years retaking my O's but failed then decide to enrol myself into ITE and got myself a final gpa average of 3.3 (3.086 first yr, 3.586 2nd yr)
Now i'm doing my part-time studies and also, I have to partially thank this part-time F & B job that made me open my eyes up to who is real ones and who is the fake ones.
Oh yeah the so-called team members didn't do that well. A lot of them went to ITE anyways or else to private schools or else they are just holding their failed O levels cert or else having children out of the wedlock.
Why do they have to do this since it's only school and not a job. Can't they just help me instead pushing me over? And does it actually benefit them? Nah.
repeat post
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
I agree with Dragg. Who is that strong to withstand the anxiety that is provoked naturally? I can't control my subconscious. I mean It occurs just like that!
So how do I write like a girl?
Anyways, I didn't elaborate enough about the girl that retained during sec 5. This kind-hearted teacher who had previously yelled at me to go to ITE placed me together with her instead of sitting in the middle with two of the 'team members' of the group political play. She knew what was going on and probably was doing this for my own good.
Loads of people hated her but subsequently over the years, I realised that even though she kept picking me on my work and others but I also noticed that whenever i'm alone or got bullied, she would tell those people off or ask someone that is kind enough to take care of me.
Anyways, let's call the girl, Alice. There was one time this teacher (He's now a VP) that mocked me by 'praising' me, she brought me to the toilet, could tell she nearly cried and kept telling me how she wanted to quit school and all. (She now probably graduated from poly and also had a boyfriend btw)
But anyways, I lost contact with her because I got soo depressed and trapped in my own world. I didn't realise anything unusual about it until I kept thinking of it and then I realised who were the true people.
I struggled during these 2 years retaking my O's but failed then decide to enrol myself into ITE and got myself a final gpa average of 3.3 (3.086 first yr, 3.586 2nd yr)
Now i'm doing my part-time studies and also, I have to partially thank this part-time F & B job that made me open my eyes up to who is real ones and who is the fake ones.
Oh yeah the so-called team members didn't do that well. A lot of them went to ITE anyways or else to private schools or else they are just holding their failed O levels cert or else having children out of the wedlock.
Why do they have to do this since it's only school and not a job. Can't they just help me instead pushing me over? And does it actually benefit them? Nah.
You write very long-winded, complain in-detail and you express in logical term so I initially thought you were a guy but hey I am wrong about that so no problem, continue with your story.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Aiya, failure is part of life mah, fail is actually the begining of success, there are lots of ITE peoples I met are bosses, my drinks supplier, my renovator, our contractor maintenance, etc etc are all ITE or O level only, but all are towkays.1. favoritism: sometime, it is not the qualification that get you to somewhere, if the boss favour you (especially those in private co), you can also become a director or CEO, work shake legs and people have to look upon you, if not, even master degree also work as head or manager only.
2. Neopotism: same group of people or relatives who tends to work and flavour only their own peoples (can be dialect group or races), tho singapore is already a developed country, it is sad to say that nepotism still very much cultured in our working life.
In every companies alike, there will be neopotism and favouritism in the department. Cannot run away with them. Work smart as what Angel said, open eye big big. Of course, ear must open also.
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From what you have posted, it is obvious that you are very self centered and only care about yourself.
You may have a psychological problem, but this does not mean that you can wallow in self pity.
Your misery will only stop when you finally think for other people.
You may think that everyone you've met are bad and horrible, but why should they treat you well? It is not an obligation even though it would be really nice if they did so.
Let me ask you, have you even tried to be nice to them? Have you done something to make others happy? Do you think you've tried enough? Can you say that you have given of yourself?
If no, then why should you expect other people to treat you any better?
Excessive self love will only lead to misery.
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Hey littlemissbonkers,
Hehe, it does sound a little narcissistic. But erms.....it did happened to me, no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I got stabbed badly by a friend who initially was left alone and lost all her hair when she got promoted to my class, I came over and comforted her but she was always so selfish and screamed and shouted at me all the time everytime I came near her. Alice was the better friend. Sadly, I can't search for her in facebook.
But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.
No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.
To Hugh Hefner,
Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.
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Originally posted by angel7030:
Aiya, failure is part of life mah, fail is actually the begining of success, there are lots of ITE peoples I met are bosses, my drinks supplier, my renovator, our contractor maintenance, etc etc are all ITE or O level only, but all are towkays.1. favoritism: sometime, it is not the qualification that get you to somewhere, if the boss favour you (especially those in private co), you can also become a director or CEO, work shake legs and people have to look upon you, if not, even master degree also work as head or manager only.
2. Neopotism: same group of people or relatives who tends to work and flavour only their own peoples (can be dialect group or races), tho singapore is already a developed country, it is sad to say that nepotism still very much cultured in our working life.
okay this one agree, again to an extend. you see a lot of ITS gradutes, some their families rich. so they just staudy a bit and take over family's business. while now lots of entrepreneur are graduates. i don;t deny those with lower education actually made a boss out of themselves. but of all the stories of succeessm behind there are also a trail of failures, bankruptcy . those bossess that drink an party at your place, some are really rich ones but sometimes many others just can get by only and yo won;t know the debts they are in until you see the books. Neopotsim, yesy although sg famous for corruption minimal but the family and friend comes first in workplace even iff its MNC exist. -
Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Hey littlemissbonkers,
Hehe, it does sound a little narcissistic. But erms.....it did happened to me, no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I got stabbed badly by a friend who initially was left alone and lost all her hair when she got promoted to my class, I came over and comforted her but she was always so selfish and screamed and shouted at me all the time everytime I came near her. Alice was the better friend. Sadly, I can't search for her in facebook.
But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.
No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.
To Hugh Hefner,
Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.
-.-I think you need more friends...time to step outside your comfort zone.
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Hey littlemissbonkers,
Hehe, it does sound a little narcissistic. But erms.....it did happened to me, no matter how ridiculous it sounds. I got stabbed badly by a friend who initially was left alone and lost all her hair when she got promoted to my class, I came over and comforted her but she was always so selfish and screamed and shouted at me all the time everytime I came near her. Alice was the better friend. Sadly, I can't search for her in facebook.
But I honestly feel sad for the group of bullies right now as two of their so called 'friends' stabbed them on the back too.
No, I admit that I treat others like dirt and they did not reciprocate it very well.
To Hugh Hefner,
Yeah...thanks I guess? I am always very very long winded.
Back stabbing is common in the working place.Take it as a pinch of salt.
Same as bad mouthing...also a common virus in the working place.
Take it easy or life in the company will be like a working HELL.
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Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.
But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.
I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.
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Originally posted by troublemaker2005:
okay this one agree, again to an extend. you see a lot of ITS gradutes, some their families rich. so they just staudy a bit and take over family's business. while now lots of entrepreneur are graduates. i don;t deny those with lower education actually made a boss out of themselves. but of all the stories of succeessm behind there are also a trail of failures, bankruptcy . those bossess that drink an party at your place, some are really rich ones but sometimes many others just can get by only and yo won;t know the debts they are in until you see the books. Neopotsim, yesy although sg famous for corruption minimal but the family and friend comes first in workplace even iff its MNC exist.Now, the higher your education, the more you weight the risk factor in doing business, this led to higher educated people dare not to take risk, cos they calculated it, and forever they are mostly working class, for the lower grade, cos lack of risk knowledge, they dare to chiong, take failure as nothing to loose, cos if they give up, they also got nothing to loose, go back find a technician or operator job and life goes on, but they strive on and more importantly, do what they like and finally reach success.
Education incalcate risk
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.
But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.
I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.
before you really want someone to love you, you need to love yourself first ya..Stand up and be steady! -
Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.
But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.
I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.
Dont loose hope.One fine day, your love will come to you.
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Need more friends? I already added some of my ex-classmates that probably knew what was going on during sec sch in facebook and also added two of my past classmates' msn contact.
But my msn always indicate that they are blocked and I released the block but still........hopefully is not because they do not want to talk to me.
I feel sad and lonely. Why can't I have a normal life???? I don't want to be in working mode all the time!! I need someone to love me for who I am.
Those are not friends, they are acquaintances.
You have to be clear about what being friends with someone is all about. Just because you've added them on FB and know what shit they've been up to doesn't make you guys friends.
A friend is someone you can share your thoughts, feelings and experiences with. And will be there for you when you need help or when you need someone there.
Being friends with someone would also mean letting that someone confide her/his issues/secrets/problems with you, being there for them when they need help and sharing their burdens.
So when I said you need friends...I meant real friends. Not just people you know.
I need someone to love me for who I am.
Learn to love before asking to be loved.
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Erms...I didn't really think they are my friends because I also think that since it's so long ago, they probably have forgotten who am I or whatever I did.
But someone finally replied to me and asked for my msn and hopefully *crosses fingers*, she'll reply back.
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starting post is nothing but sea of words so i never read.
But one thing is the offending party a FT?
is the offending party your boss/superior?
if so blame yourself or your parents for voting in PAP.
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Yeah I talked to one of my ex-classmates about what happened during my last year in secondary school (I have to face my long hidden fears that caused most of my anxiety problems)
Anyways, I talked to him till 3am morning and he shouted at me saying it wasn't about my english grade (I got an A) that I was placed between the two team member of the political group in the front seat. Then after that he logged off.
Today, he went online on msn. I thought long and hard on my bed, knowing that in the past I used to skip school, show attitude problems, got bullied and so on and so forth. The seating arrangement in the classroom wasn't a coincidence. It was a great political play in the classroom. I thought hard and long and I realised perhaps the half front row of the seats was for people who are in great danger of failing in their school (aka the daydreamers that need loads of help and involved in playing the 'political game') and the back seat was for people who are decent in their studies. (Needing the least help and are usually left alone)
The teacher who previously yelled at me to go to ITE knew I had my struggles in the front middle seat and placed me together with Alice. She was patient and tried her best to help me but I was really, really disinterested in school. People of the political group (including one of my 'friend') tried to bully her but she was unfaltered. She was really the only true friend over there. I really want to find her and really wish her all the good luck in her life.
So that guy went online on msn. And I said hi and continued from last night...saying I know. Perhaps that teacher wanted me to drop out of school. He kept quiet and went offline.
I know you people are thinking...what the hell. Why bother since it's a long ago event. But it was an unforgettable event that caused me great depression, distrust, nightmares and enormous anxiety for two years and continous till now I got this F&B job and realised that sometimes, you got look beyond the facade and not trust people too much based on their appearance or thinking you know them that well.
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Yeah I talked to one of my ex-classmates about what happened during my last year in secondary school (I have to face my long hidden fears that caused most of my anxiety problems)
Anyways, I talked to him till 3am morning and he shouted at me saying it wasn't about my english grade (I got an A) that I was placed between the two team member of the political group in the front seat. Then after that he logged off.
Today, he went online on msn. I thought long and hard on my bed, knowing that in the past I used to skip school, show attitude problems, got bullied and so on and so forth. The seating arrangement in the classroom wasn't a coincidence. It was a great political play in the classroom. I thought hard and long and I realised perhaps the half front row of the seats was for people who are in great danger of failing in their school (aka the daydreamers that need loads of help and involved in playing the 'political game') and the back seat was for people who are decent in their studies. (Needing the least help and are usually left alone)
The teacher who previously yelled at me to go to ITE knew I had my struggles in the front middle seat and placed me together with Alice. She was patient and tried her best to help me but I was really, really disinterested in school. People of the political group (including one of my 'friend') tried to bully her but she was unfaltered. She was really the only true friend over there. I really want to find her and really wish her all the good luck in her life.
So that guy went online on msn. And I said hi and continued from last night...saying I know. Perhaps that teacher wanted me to drop out of school. He kept quiet and went offline.
I know you people are thinking...what the hell. Why bother since it's a long ago event. But it was an unforgettable event that caused me great depression, distrust, nightmares and enormous anxiety for two years and continous till now I got this F&B job and realised that sometimes, you got look beyond the facade and not trust people too much based on their appearance or thinking you know them that well.
I think you just missed that guy's point whatever it was.
And hor, don't over complicate things....seating arrangement also got politics involved
Most probably the teacher just wanted to keep an eye on you for watever reason.
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I think TS need to learn how to let it go and not hold them tighty for nothing.
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Dear missbonkers,
Like I've said, it may sound ridiculous and yes, the teacher may/was probably keeping an eye on me. Because I was a lonely girl who had no friends in school, got teased, kept skipping school and also was asked to see a counsellor.
Hmmm, I *think* he was trying to use me indirectly or probably also trying to teach the whole class a hidden lesson (cause it was our last year in sec school) about differentiating people and the ones who should be left alone.
There was one guy, who was made out to be a bad person (I feel bad for him) helped me secretly and even caused a huge trouble because of me. And then this Alice girl too, got bullied
I was lucky to be assisted by them in the last year but I didn't even notice it until I went out to work and now I decide to give it a try and trying to find them back right now.
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Originally posted by XiaoBunbun:
Dear missbonkers,
Like I've said, it may sound ridiculous and yes, the teacher may/was probably keeping an eye on me. Because I was a lonely girl who had no friends in school, got teased, kept skipping school and also was asked to see a counsellor.
Hmmm, I *think* he was trying to use me indirectly or probably also trying to teach the whole class a hidden lesson (cause it was our last year in sec school) about differentiating people and the ones who should be left alone.
There was one guy, who was made out to be a bad person (I feel bad for him) helped me secretly and even caused a huge trouble because of me. And then this Alice girl too, got bullied
I was lucky to be assisted by them in the last year but I didn't even notice it until I went out to work and now I decide to give it a try and trying to find them back right now.
When and if, you do manage to find them, and you find that they're not the same people as they were before den how?
Hopefully you'll be able to move on after that.
But anywayz, this is your decision and I hope you know that whatever decision you make from now on will affect how your life turns out. And I hope you'll be able to take personal responsibility for it.
Good Luck
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I don't know. But at least I wish I could talk to them or something. Especially these two.
The teacher probably wanted to teach me a lesson (because I had serious attitude problems but I was only a naive teenager that had no experience or friends. And plus I got bullied badly. But anyways, the bullies got what they deserved anyways..not that I care, but hopefully they change their attitude)
The 2 years was hell for me. How I wish I could go back in time and reject the first middle seat given by that teacher. How I wish my 'N' level certificate at that point of time could enter into higher nitec. I was preparing to enter ITE but by 'miracle' I passed 'N' levels.
But nvm...I already gotten my higher nitec and now i'm schooling but not very confident though....because i'm a bit lazy hehehe...not in a studying mode right now...
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very cute replies...xiao bunz bunz
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as u have seen the ad in the MRT...
"It does not matter how slow you go so long as you do not stop." - Confused
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must be related to love making...