what is the legal age to move out in Singapore?
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i have problems with my family. my dad abuses my mum. like mental abuse. if you guys dont know, mental abuse is far worser than physical abuse. all these years, my dad has been mentally abusing my mum. and it has been built up in me and i catch myself acting like him sometimes and it eats me up inside.
i definitely do not wanna act like him. ill hate myself if i do. i wanna move out just so bcos this matter could stop bcos i dont want it to be in me.
the second reason i wanna move out at a legal age is bcos, my parents do not give me any trust. yes, i admit that i had once did a really silly mistake(long story) and i am really remorseful about it. i regretted what i did. i am sorry about it.
but they, they have been so protective and i just dont like it at all. whats more, my dad has this mental abuse problem. he also has a serious temper management problem.
okay, long story cut short, i just want to know what is the LEGAL age of moving out in singapore. thanks!
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Any age also can wad, below 16 ask to be placed in a welfare home.
16 and above I guess you are free to move as you like.
But you got the money to survive out there? -
18 years old. i need not say more, does that satisfy your query?
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Originally posted by Junyang700:
Any age also can wad, below 16 ask to be placed in a welfare home.
16 and above I guess you are free to move as you like.
But you got the money to survive out there?below 18 police will haul you back to your parents place if your parents ask them to.
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Originally posted by Junyang700:
Any age also can wad, below 16 ask to be placed in a welfare home.
16 and above I guess you are free to move as you like.
But you got the money to survive out there?yes, i do have the money.
well, needs planning to move out isnt it? lol. thanks anyway :) i have been thinking about moving out very since the beginning of secondary school bcos of my dad.
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Originally posted by Karrietay:
yes, i do have the money.
well, needs planning to move out isnt it? lol. thanks anyway :) i have been thinking about moving out very since the beginning of secondary school bcos of my dad.
first and foremost pls get a job, and where do u plan to stay? who do you plan to stay with?
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Originally posted by kengkia:
first and foremost pls get a job, and where do u plan to stay? who do you plan to stay with?
i WILL get a job and would probably rent a place when i am 18 (so that means i have to tolerate another 2 shit years before i can move out). i also plan to have a better education before moving out first. so, i guess that would be okay? and obviously i wont stop my edu at 18. i still plan to further my studies.
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Originally posted by Karrietay:
i WILL get a job and would probably rent a place when i am 18 (so that means i have to tolerate another 2 shit years before i can move out). i also plan to have a better education before moving out first. so, i guess that would be okay? and obviously i wont stop my edu at 18. i still plan to further my studies.
if you are going towards that direction make sure ur disciplined and sensible enough to be able to steel your life properly single-handedly. Finances wise you have to control already, cos you are going to be independent in times to come. No more asking people for money , rmb that
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i really appreciate your advise. although it is going to be tough, i still will move out no matter what bcos i cannot take it to live in an abusive environment. thank you anyway :)
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Originally posted by Karrietay:
i really appreciate your advise. although it is going to be tough, i still will move out no matter what bcos i cannot take it to live in an abusive environment. thank you anyway :)
FYI, the minimum rate for renting a room be it HDB or private is S$500 plus per month take note of that in your planning.
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Where you really want to go? Aust?
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well, yea. if i were to have the money dude.
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it normal lah, teenagers alway think of going away from family, part of growing up, i had run away from my own luxury home many times, but after a few years, i am back to my nest, and let me tell you, there is where better than home.
Parents are the ones who bring us here, by hook or crook, they brought us up, and most of us are more close to mother than our father, cos father use to go out and leave us under the care of mom, no matter what, you cannot repay all their debts. If they are no good, try your best to be good to them, and for yr case, your mother need you the most, you need to help her at this critical stage, not neglect her and go by yourself. It is a time to show your maturity and understanding of life.
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Karrie,
yes, moving out is not an issue 4 u here, but how about ur mum?
dun tell me u abandon her?
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Is TS the only child?
Maybe bear with it until the father is dead and she and her mother can take over the house..
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Originally posted by dechang:
Is TS the only child?
Maybe bear with it until the father is dead and she and her mother can take over the house..
what would become of her mentally when that time comes?
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Originally posted by kengkia:
what would become of her mentally when that time comes? best it's if TS can work on her step mum.
what step mum?
TS never mention anything about her father having an affair with another women what..
Otherwise ask the mother to divorce the father, get half of his assets and use it to buy a new house to stay
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Originally posted by dechang:
what step mum?
TS never mention anything about her father having an affair with another women what..
Otherwise ask the mother to divorce the father, get half of his assets and use it to buy a new house to stay
oh my bad...i mistook this thread for your one...
divorce the dad on what ground?
only if women charter can be used against the dad in this case.....hmm?
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Originally posted by kengkia:
oh my bad...i mistook this thread for your one...
divorce the dad on what ground?
only if women charter can be used against the dad in this case.....hmm?
Hmm.
Must have a good reason like physical abuse, adultery etc than can file for divorce meh?
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Originally posted by angel7030:
it normal lah, teenagers alway think of going away from family, part of growing up, i had run away from my own luxury home many times, but after a few years, i am back to my nest, and let me tell you, there is where better than home.
Parents are the ones who bring us here, by hook or crook, they brought us up, and most of us are more close to mother than our father, cos father use to go out and leave us under the care of mom, no matter what, you cannot repay all their debts. If they are no good, try your best to be good to them, and for yr case, your mother need you the most, you need to help her at this critical stage, not neglect her and go by yourself. It is a time to show your maturity and understanding of life.
no one can understand my situation. unless you have been through my situation. you know, all these while, getting influenced by my dad's abusive behavior, i find myself acting more like him and i hate it. i want to get out of it.
and its not like i am abandoning my mum? i DO tell her that mental abuse is so much worser than physical abuse and i can truly see the effects on her. but time to time, again and again, she always seem to forgive him for all the things he have done. and i am definitely sick of it.
like i said, you have not been in my situation, you will not know how i feel. you dont know the feeling of getting mentally abuse. my dad do spill profanities at me and it hurts. hurts like a bitch. and i want to get away from it.
and by getting away from it, i meant, my dad. not my mum. i aint gonna abandon her. shes my mum. she does great things for me and i appreciate a lot.
okay, so i guess that explains to everyone now. i am NOT abandoning my mum.
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Originally posted by dechang:
Is TS the only child?
Maybe bear with it until the father is dead and she and her mother can take over the house..
what? TS?
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Originally posted by Karrietay:
what? TS?
TS means Thread Starter referring to you
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Originally posted by dechang:
Hmm.
Must have a good reason like physical abuse, adultery etc than can file for divorce meh?
like TS said, there is signs that her mum is being mental, on that ground might well divorce the dad for causing her emotional and mental distress...
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Originally posted by Karrietay:
no one can understand my situation. unless you have been through my situation. you know, all these while, getting influenced by my dad's abusive behavior, i find myself acting more like him and i hate it. i want to get out of it.
and its not like i am abandoning my mum? i DO tell her that mental abuse is so much worser than physical abuse and i can truly see the effects on her. but time to time, again and again, she always seem to forgive him for all the things he have done. and i am definitely sick of it.
like i said, you have not been in my situation, you will not know how i feel. you dont know the feeling of getting mentally abuse. my dad do spill profanities at me and it hurts. hurts like a bitch. and i want to get away from it.
and by getting away from it, i meant, my dad. not my mum. i aint gonna abandon her. shes my mum. she does great things for me and i appreciate a lot.
okay, so i guess that explains to everyone now. i am NOT abandoning my mum.
Maybe you should seek help. Have you tried seeking help from counsellors or external organisations? Or if that does not work, maybe your extended family? like aunts and uncles or grandparents. Have you attempted confronting your father? because verbal abuse is never justified. You should advise your mother to set some boundaries and limitations with your father, there is no reason to continue enduring this, her well-being is more important. Sometimes parents, especially mothers, hang on to the marriage under the impression that it is what's best for the family or the children. But this is obviously not the case. Talk to her about it and try to convince her that your father is a troubling and obviously negative influence on both of you. Advise your mother to divorce him. For the sake of both you and your mother. Seriously though, don't deal with it alone, seek help. -
Originally posted by kengkia:
like TS said, there is signs that her mum is being mental, on that ground might well divorce the dad for causing her emotional and mental distress...
thanks for your understanding. like really. cos i cant force my mum to not forgive him or to not stay with him. if she wants to stay with him, forgive him now and then, then so be it. she chose it.
but i choose to not be like my mum.