My father is going to sell my home to get more money to gamble! My father is a bankrupt but because he is protected by the HDB law or sumthin, also can sell flat. But he always go overseas to gamble, and after he lost all, he now comes and sell the flat. What can i do to stop him. I just know of it recently and now everything is approved le. They are confirmed handling my home to the buyers in a few days time during the last procedure! What to do? I don't want to live anymore if they sell my home away!
go live elsewhr.
Hi wakely,
Sorry to hear abt yr situation. Does yr father think & acknowledge that he has a gambling problem? If yes, he shd go seek professional help for his gambling addiction.
If he doesn't and refused to seek help and do not see the need to change, u have to seriously consider whether u want to continue to lead yr life subjected to the consequences of yr father's gambling issue. U have a choice. If he doesn't change or see the need to change, then u really have to think whether u want to be dragged down by him, and for how long more, and when/ where will u draw the line. Though he is yr father, but he has no right to destroy yr life and happiness. This is a choice and something u hv to think about.
Whatever it is, do not do anything silly to yourself. Your father may cause u to be in this situation, but u can choose not to be a victim by taking control of your own life.
Lawrence,
Originally posted by wakely:My father is going to sell my home to get more money to gamble! My father is a bankrupt but because he is protected by the HDB law or sumthin, also can sell flat. But he always go overseas to gamble, and after he lost all, he now comes and sell the flat. What can i do to stop him. I just know of it recently and now everything is approved le. They are confirmed handling my home to the buyers in a few days time during the last procedure! What to do? I don't want to live anymore if they sell my home away!
There are a lot of questions which come to mind for those of us who are reading this:
1) Where is your mom?
2) Do you have any siblings? Are they older/younger?
3) How old are you? Are you studying/working?
4) Is the ownership of the flat solely to your father?
5) How is the general relationship between your direct family like?
Don't think about dying just because the flat is sold. If you can, go out, seek work and rent a place to stay. It is good to have a place to call home, but if the circumstances force you to be without one, then you must learn to stand up by yourself.
I can only give you more advice if you answer the above questions, as well as share more information if possible.
My mom is dead, i have other siblings, but i do not keep in touch with them and vice versa, i'm 19 going 20, still studying, and the house is very important to me. It contains all my precious memories. My father goes overseas to gamble so he doesn't come back often. I want to know if there's any law that prevents my bankrupted father for selling the house. I don't mind if i have to send him to jail if i can get to keep the house for a while longer, because im pretty sure he isn't allowed to gamble when he's bankrupt. But i don't know who to tell to!
Hi wakely,
I suggest u seek help quickly. Go/call your the nearest Family Service Centre (FSC) for help.
http://app.mcys.gov.sg/web/serv_newdss_disability_main.asp?Services_Id=2#1
or National Council for Problem Gambling. They hv a Helpline - 1800 6668 668
| 1800-6-668-668. |
Lawrence
http://purposewisdomoflife.blogspot.com/
Originally posted by wakely:My mom is dead, i have other siblings, but i do not keep in touch with them and vice versa, i'm 19 going 20, still studying, and the house is very important to me. It contains all my precious memories. My father goes overseas to gamble so he doesn't come back often. I want to know if there's any law that prevents my bankrupted father for selling the house. I don't mind if i have to send him to jail if i can get to keep the house for a while longer, because im pretty sure he isn't allowed to gamble when he's bankrupt. But i don't know who to tell to!
If 100% ownership of the house is under him, then there is no way to block his move directly.
As law8667 has thoughtfully suggested, you should seek the help of those hotlines. They are more experienced in such things, and they will likely have some ideas of the legal avenues which you can seek to attempt to block your father's move.
1) get your mom to divorce your dad ASAP..........can split the flat..............
Originally posted by Asromanista2001:1) get your mom to divorce your dad ASAP..........can split the flat..............
read propely lah
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My mom is dead, i have other siblings,
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u r not going to live anymore if they sell your flat....
that is an escape...if you are a guy saying this...that is absolutely disappointing...though it s a family tragic...u should not choose the blind alley...
all the more u should stand u and protect your family with all you can...u must help him through social counselling and rehabilitation ....and I hope he finally got the conscience prick...
Olivia Lum, CEO of Hyflux grandmother was a compulsive gambler, and she started to make ends meet at the age of 4 has never resigned to that fate....http://infopedia.nl.sg/articles/SIP_1535_2009-06-23.html
STAND UP AND PROTECT YOUR FAMILY!
go tell your MP and see if he/she can help you. who is your MP btw?
Yap, you should go see your MP.
He/she should be able to help, or at least give pointers to you on what to do next.
But remember to talk to the MP nicely, don't shout or use abusive words.
Originally posted by Fcukpap:u r not going to live anymore if they sell your flat....
that is an escape...if you are a guy saying this...that is absolutely disappointing...though it s a family tragic...u should not choose the blind alley...
all the more u should stand u and protect your family with all you can...u must help him through social counselling and rehabilitation ....and I hope he finally got the conscience prick...
Olivia Lum, CEO of Hyflux grandmother was a compulsive gambler, and she started to make ends meet at the age of 4 has never resigned to that fate....http://infopedia.nl.sg/articles/SIP_1535_2009-06-23.html
STAND UP AND PROTECT YOUR FAMILY!
Good point. Olivia Lum grandma's wasn't even her real grandma to begin with but an adopted one.
Seems like a case of old and cunning prying on young and innocent.
Her's a moving story which bring to mind the saying 'what doesn't break you only makes you stronger'.
wakely, don't give up. Think and find way to overcome your situation.
Go stay with relatives
Hi,
First let me offer my condolences....
Secondly, please listen to me, try to contact your uncles and aunties, ask them for advice and intervention.
I believe your uncles and aunties may be able to save your father.
Go to Salvation Army for help.Maybe they can offer you a place to stay and give you free food and clothing.I might not like their teachings but they have help the poor.
are you female?
if yes, you can come live with me
Originally posted by wakely:My mom is dead, i have other siblings, but i do not keep in touch with them and vice versa, i'm 19 going 20, still studying, and the house is very important to me. It contains all my precious memories. My father goes overseas to gamble so he doesn't come back often. I want to know if there's any law that prevents my bankrupted father for selling the house. I don't mind if i have to send him to jail if i can get to keep the house for a while longer, because im pretty sure he isn't allowed to gamble when he's bankrupt. But i don't know who to tell to!
Join your Mum? Either you or your Dad.
You need to pick one.
Sorry to hear that.
If flat is 100% of your father name, you cannot do anything even he going to sell the flats.
What is your sibling suggestions about this? How old is your siblings? Are they working or are they have their own house and own family? You need to talk to them about this asap.
Seek help immediately as LAW8669 has said.
And at the same time, approach your MP for help too.
Do you have uncles or aunties that you can approach to?
If have, approach them for help too.
Really sorry that you really do much.
All the best and good luck.
Find a day, when you dad get badly drunk, or you buy lots of drinks and make him drink till drunk, then push him down your flat, call police and report a misadvanture of death, once yr father passed away, under HDB policy, his next of kin will take over the flat without the need to pay the loan anymore. Then, celebration time!!
Originally posted by angel7030:Find a day, when you dad get badly drunk, or you buy lots of drinks and make him drink till drunk, then push him down your flat, call police and report a misadvanture of death, once yr father passed away, under HDB policy, his next of kin will take over the flat without the need to pay the loan anymore. Then, celebration time!!
try not to brother by this gals much.... she too stress and need to release it out.
most of the post she post doesnt make sense, but somenow its funny for entertament
Originally posted by angel7030:Find a day, when you dad get badly drunk, or you buy lots of drinks and make him drink till drunk, then push him down your flat, call police and report a misadvanture of death, once yr father passed away, under HDB policy, his next of kin will take over the flat without the need to pay the loan anymore. Then, celebration time!!
Originally posted by angel7030:Find a day, when you dad get badly drunk, or you buy lots of drinks and make him drink till drunk, then push him down your flat, call police and report a misadvanture of death, once yr father passed away, under HDB policy, his next of kin will take over the flat without the need to pay the loan anymore. Then, celebration time!!
Dont listen to Angel.
She's bad.