How to get over my ex?!
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I juz broke up wif my ex and I really can't get over him. Pls tell me how
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Care to tell us more abou the relationship?
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Well,me n my ex had been going out for 6 months. I noe teenage relationships dun last but anyway, 4 the last 5 months we were happy together but it was at the 6th month that problem arose. My ex had juz completed his N'Levels so he was working. Now here's the problem. In my heart, it was as if all feelings had died inside me. I suddenly felt very sad,very tired and u can also sense the strain in my ex's voice i dunno due to work or wat ( he's working in the banquet section of Hotel Intercontinental, so the hours r like kinda irregular due to the shifts they r assigned to ).But at last one night, an e-mail came from my ex stating that he wanted to break up wif me due to his work and that he cant stand the pressure of having to worry bout me and stuff.
But now after the break-up,we do go out occasionally wif other frens but he does things that does not tell me we r juz normal frens. And my trusted frens told me that my ex still likes me after being asked by frens. Well, i dunno how true that is, but i juz want to get over my ex n get on wif life. -
yo, small gers relationship..that's always happen...
think he's really pressurised with his work..pple got feelings, not say break will break cleanly..i think he still likes u, just that he wanna concentrate on his work...
think u should take things naturally lar...dun give urself to much stress too...get something to do to be more productive....
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Aiyo.... How old is he..?? Don't have to break up one lah.... Think both of you just need more air to breathe... More space to roam....) More love lah.... Remember this, love is not square, neither is it round.... If ya wanna know what it's really all about, then you've gotta walk all around it to find out what it's really about... And don't try to define love.... Don't try to question love.... It takes no shape and it gives no answers.... For if it's answers you're looking for.... You won't be needing LOVE....
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ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
he's 16 this yr n i dun think web can get back .
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Hello yolanda_tan,
Like you, I am also in the same situation now. I just broke off with my ex recently, about 2 weeks ago. Sometimes, when flashes of memories start coming back, it is very painful to fight back the fact that I still really can't get over him and I still miss him alot. I have this feeling esp at night or when I am alone, my mind starts to wonder and thoughts of the past keep coming back. Memories of the things we did together, the places we went to and the words he said to me. Whenever I thought of this, I cry. During the first few nights after our breakup, I practically cried myself to sleep. Luckily I have this group of friends who are very supporting. They console and comfort me. They are there for me when I need them. I also try keeping myself busy with my work in order not to think of him.
yolanda_tan, do the things that you like and feel happy about. Go out with your friends and enjoy their company. Spend some time with your family. Just keep yourself occupied and move on with your life. If you and him are meant to be together, it will be. I believe whatever will be will be. No point in forcing things to happen. They will come when the time arrives. I have learnt to take things easy and accept it as it is. I try to move on with my life. Only when you move on, then you can get over.
All the best to you. Hope one day you and me can get over our exs and move on with our lives as happily as before.
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Where is LOVE? Help me find it. :p -
Hey, thanx a lot for ur advice. Mayb that will help ...
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yolanda: i've got a question to ask u, if not a few......
what do u mean by getting over ur ex? as in forgetting him (physically) totally, or as in erasing the memories of u being with him? or do u mean just basically getting rid of feelings u have for him?
one thing for sure, memories will always be there. u can't erase it away, u can only store it someplace deep within the mind. u can try pushing it deep down within that pit, but somehow, (i realised) it will always come back someday. tt's y it's called memory........recalling and remembering those memories (bittersweet) will no doubt bring some amount of hurt (reminded tt u lost him) to u, but it's inevident. looking back, i assure u tt u will smile at those memories u had........=)
forgetting/getting over those feelings are the hard part...but i guess, like they say, time can heal everything. mebbe not totally everything, but it can make u sort of feel numb bout the whole thing......
anywayz, to forget ur ex (physically), (it worked for me, albeit being seemingly mean n heartless) stop all forms of contact with him.....until the day tt u're sure tt u've gotten over ur feelings for him....
hope the crap i've said helps, thou' i think it won't. =)) hee~ -
to u pple out there......
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tears roll down my cheeks,
as i stand there looking down the street....
just waiting,
for u to show up around the bend....
to tell me once again,
how much u loved me.....
to take me into ur arms
and soothe my fears, and wipe my tears...
fervently i hope for a wish
that would never come true.........
"make it come true," i beg....
since i know it never will.....
i break down again and cry........ -
I agree that memories will not b erased away .Wat i want, is to 4 get my feelings for him n physically
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Next time you all wanna CRY... Think of ALL the tissue papers you're gonna waste... And the trees that have to die for that..??? PLEASE lah.... <- Luckily the trees dunno how to cry..? Otherwise there'll be MORE TREES dying liao..??
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ße COOL, NOT s¢rr¥.... -
Haha that's funny
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yolanda : hi there .. the most that i can say is to tell urself to forget the hurt and pain that he caused u ..
Take up a new hobby and dun let ur mind wander ..
The memories will not totally go ... but the hurt and pain will .. =) And when all the hurt and pain are gone .. u will think of him and smile at the memories ..
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Sometimes..
Things are so lost
that you begin to doubt urself..
Things are so quiet
that u question ur purpose of living..
Things don't come perfect..
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forget abt him. find another guy. another job another hobbie watever. indulge in something so u'll keep ur mind off him. tat is if u wan a clean break. im tryin hard myself. juz left my girl yesterday. lucky im workin.. or else i goin to jump down building. 3.5 yrs...how do u get over tat........
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love or walk away... -
Ya....it's always very easy to say...but when come to doing...very very hard.
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By sufferings only can we know, the nature of the life we live; the temper of our souls they show, How true, how pure, the love we give.
And perseverance we learnt.~~ -
What about appreciating your current situation Yolanda? Now that you are single, many more doors are open to you and you are now no longer morally obliged to do things for any boyfriend or partner.
Singlehood is good as you can learn so many things on your own than being with someone. -
Why not think of your family?
Try putting family commitment before any thing. I believe your family do need you more than any man...and one thing for sure, no matter how worst the situation in this world may happen, your family WILL definitely be there, no matter you like it or not, rite?
But man come and go......love hurts...
SINGLENESS RULEZ
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By sufferings only can we know, the nature of the life we live; the temper of our souls they show, How true, how pure, the love we give.
And perseverance we learnt.~~ -
when u have a starting,u surely will come to an end...the only thing is ta whether its a happy or sad one!!!
one must learn something...always must learn to na de 'chee' fang de xia!!!
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I DISLIKE CIGARETTES!
I DESPISE SMOKERS!
I HATE MY DAD CAUSE PPLE CALL MI 'WINSTON' !!! -
Aiya.....everybody, talk so much for what?? Just one straight sentence for TEENagers, "indulge urself in study"!
If you can forget all those so called love where it only exists in the damn fairytale land during TEENs years, and place all that efforts on studies, I bet you gonna score at least 90++ for every subject! Trust me, it works! Or in the very least also a 80 marks.
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Well, it's easy for u to say that but which teenager dun have love and infatuation for some pple who passed by in their lives. It can be teachers or een seniors. BE i girl orguy, there will definitely be someone. Coz we are all emotional creatures. For instance, aguy open a door for a girl, chances is that the guy will have a 2nd look from the girl. To a teenager it might be her first time experiencing this kind of treatment, and might be infatuating over that guy about it.Originally posted by Don:Aiya.....everybody, talk so much for what?? Just one straight sentence for TEENagers, "indulge urself in study"!
If you can forget all those so called love where it only exists in the damn fairytale land during TEENs years, and place all that efforts on studies, I bet you gonna score at least 90++ for every subject! Trust me, it works! Or in the very least also a 80 marks.
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It's feelings and I have said it cannot be controled. When u feel sad I'm sure u cannot luff at anyone's joke also rite?? U might be annoyed by a group of frens who are luffing over the joke ard u rite?? and might even turn to shout at them...
I'm sorry that I'm a little harsh here, and I think u have the 'trying-to-have-fun' attitude here for this post.. But becoz yolanda might get a little upset upon hearing ur post. I'm really sorry about the harsh words.
Yolanda: how r things for u now?? Sorry I was away during the time when u posted this topic, so I did not chip in till now. But do tell us ow are things getting on for u. even if it hurts, we are here to share the pain... At least there will always be me...
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
yo wuzzup,
look,i'm a girl n gettin over my ex wuz no problem at all yo...hers wat i did:
-beat the shit out of my boxing dummy
-chill out by listenin 2 my fav rap
tunes
-look at pictures of gorgeous rappers
-chill wif my hommies
basically just try n do other stuff y'know...
divert ur attention elsewhere n b4 u know it
u'll have 4gotten bout ur ex...
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yolanda,
stop thinking about it, go find new things to do. get a job, find new interests/hobbies, and just spend time alone or with other friends. go exercise, or take up a sport like waterskiing, or go travelling.
it just takes a little time ( couple of months ), and some willpower.
believe me, in six months, you`ll be perfectly fine. -
Appreciate ur help for yolanda, but horz.... Hmm... think yolanda too young liaoz.. she's only a 14 yr old xiao meiz meiz lehz... Got a lot of things she cannot do... Even then doubt her parents are permit too..
yolanda: How r u now?
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Barely Bearing Berry Belly Bear -
erm, well .. 14 years old .. still can go shopping, hang out enjoy yourself with friends .. don`t bother going into a long term relationship, most relationships don`t last, and those that start at a young age are even less likely to last. really.
hope you feel better, tho. you probably dun agree with what i say, but i guess that`s what i believe.
take care