love problem
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U said u din contact her, y then go tok to her??? Why dont u just get out of her life and disappear fr her life??? Isnt it better? U no need to bother abt her, she dun need to ask u things... ...Originally posted by goblin80:guys, i din even contact her now cos i know dat she will get fustrated...but the problem now is that, i'm trying let things go but she's the one who bring up such a question when we tok..i know she's enjoying her life now, she's happy...n i told her simply dat i won't bother her abt such a thing but if there's anything dat she needs my help, i will be there for her...sometimes, she will just ask me questions like how have i been, wat have i been doin...i told her the fact of wat i've been doin then she get angry...wats the point of getting angry in the 1st place...rite?
She is angry with u cos u are botherig her by telling her wat u done and seem trying to get her sympathy and win her back...
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shoulda woulda coulda are the last words or a fool~~ it's useless saying if she come back, or if this and that liao, you lost her, and that's that, nothin u can do to change it.
you NOE you treat her badly, and yet u can CONTINUE to treat her badly?
seriously, wat were you thinking? obviously not the consequences of your own actions and her feelings 
so now she has left, found someone who maybe loves her just as much, or more, or less.. but at least understands her.. and there's really nothing u can do.. when she was with you, u didn cherish her presence, now she's gone, u want her back.. but that's typical of all pple.. take this as a lesson learnt, move on and stop tryin to make yourself miserable -
dun need mi oso......... wat a gd advisor.......Originally posted by SunRisE:Hi goblin80,
You see here.. "Possessiveness" is the word that describe you most.. You restrict her freedom shout and socld at her.. how would she feels.. She'll think that you are even worse than her parents.. Giving her so much curfews! Who wanna to be grounded by someone? Somemore you are her bf.. you should tend to be more caring towards her.. and keepin her all by your side...
You hold too tight until she couldn't breathe.. and then jus one fine day she cant take it.. burst it... and end it...
She gave you the reasons why she ask for a break up.. Have you guys ever talk about this b4? Any communications on it?? From here.. it seems no to the questions.. But however.. you are upset becos she found herself another love or do you realise your problem here??
She knows this guy for 1/2 year.. and this was also when you 2 were still together... She knows that you treat her badly.. And then come this guy.. she get to know him... and realise he's much better than you?? More caring and understanding... But maybe no feelings taken in.. jus purely friends becos the guy knows she's in a relationship now and doesn't wan to come inbetween.. Thereafter.. the relationship between you and her becomes sour... No more feelings attached!!
I'm pretty sure she did told the guy about the break up.. Of cos when the guy hears about it.. He knows that he got a chance to chase after her.. Moreover she may also feels more comfortable with him around.. And then this 1 month feelings developed and they got together.. Well well well.. all these are jus my guesses... True or not.. you should know...
She only need 1 month to erase the 3-year relationship.. DO you think if given back a chance would you still wan her back?? Will you still be the same?? SO paranoid so possessive??
I suggest that for the time being you don't SMS her.. let your mind and your emotions fuction well and stable first.. Cos now you still couldn't get over her.. And you keep on msging her.. asking about the relation.. of cos she will feel irritated (it's already over) and you would get on moving!!! You'll still be living in the world of you and her only..
Stop contacting her for awhile..even if she contact you.. try not to reply.. get your life back again.. No see No hear No speak is the best way to get over one person.. Then after you are physically and emotionally ok.. maybe try to contact her back.. when this time you SMS her.. you wont feel so miserable like "i cant do without her" this kind of thing.. It will be another new YOU!!
CheerS! 
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the times when we tok is when she email me...n i just reply...anyway, i did not tell her wat i've been doing..her fren was the one telling her...i din even say anything to her fren...simple as dat...just wat is she trying to prove here? taking me as a backup now? i dunno...n i dun even wanna know...i tink she dun understand the situation now...regardless of how i treated her in the past, i do admit it's my fault so i dun blame her for this decision.. in a 3yrs r/s, there r alot of happy times as well...if everyone is just pinpointin oni the faults i've done, i tink it's very unfair...i guess this is just how a typical girl feel as they grow older.. the other guy got better qualification as well...i dun even wanna tok to her abt anything now...i'm trying to move on now...thanks guys... wat u guys say may b rite or wrong but still it's a very advise to me...
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Glad you've made up your mind...? Now all ya have to do is to STICK to it....?Originally posted by goblin80:the times when we tok is when she email me...n i just reply...anyway, i did not tell her wat i've been doing..her fren was the one telling her...i din even say anything to her fren...simple as dat...just wat is she trying to prove here? taking me as a backup now? i dunno...n i dun even wanna know...i tink she dun understand the situation now...regardless of how i treated her in the past, i do admit it's my fault so i dun blame her for this decision.. in a 3yrs r/s, there r alot of happy times as well...if everyone is just pinpointin oni the faults i've done, i tink it's very unfair...i guess this is just how a typical girl feel as they grow older.. the other guy got better qualification as well...i dun even wanna tok to her abt anything now...i'm trying to move on now...thanks guys... wat u guys say may b rite or wrong but still it's a very advise to me... -
