How to move on?
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Oxygene,
It's best to drop the ex faster than a decaying toad! Unless he truly knows his mistake and make a total change. If he can do it to you once what makes you so sure he doesn't do it when you're married to him with kids. I never like to pass judgements like this because it can happen to anyone... me too.
As for X, well there are many nice guys here in this forum. Just enjoying having friends of the opposite sex. No commitments, if things happen. Good for you, if not life goes on. Yah?
From my point of view, X is like wanting have the best of both worlds. If the current gf cannot make there's always you. Selfish bugger. HNG! -
"All humans err ..."
I wonder how many really do repent...
Yep, I guess life does go on...
As for X, hahaha, u're right, Klactovak. He is a selfish bugger. He admitted to wanting the best of both worlds. He said dat what he sees in me, he doesn't see in his gf and vice versa. Wat an idiot rite?
I am sure he'll get what he deserves soon.
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Love is such a pain!!
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As LoNg As I SHaLL LiVe
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Don't blame yourself, it's nt entirely your fault, try your best to let go of this relationship if possible, if nt, try to talk with him abt it...Originally posted by oxygene:I noe i should let go of the r/s, I've been trying for more than a year, but there are just so many, many memories that made me hold on and do otherwise...
It's only the towards the last part of our r/s dat i started doubting him. It's like I feel so useless, he had always been there for me throughout my ups and downs, and I cant do the same for him simply because he doesnt like to reveal himself a lot...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
e past will alwiz b e past.. everythin happen 4 a reason..
life goes on.. pp move on..
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I still think that you should let your past fly free...?Originally posted by oxygene:I have never stop wondering abt how true it is regarding the dampening part ... I found out dat he 2-timed me, he claimed he didnt. Urgh!! Everything's so screwed up, i mean the truth. I dont think i will be able to find out the real TRUTH. No one can tell me, not him, not anyone else. Everytime i talk to him online, so many "WHY"s just keep popping up in my mind. I am just so bitter and disappointed abt r/s and everything else. I've grown to have split personalities - happy and bubbly outside, angry and bad-tempered at home. I hate what is happening to me. I hate how bitter I've become. I hate how short-tempered I've become. I want to stop being led by the nose by Love.
We were definitely accomodating, not the "tolerating" type. Whenever we argued, I'll provoke him till he's angry. Yet surprisingly whenever I see that he's angry, I'll feel so appeased.
He's one who seldom confide in others abt how he is feeling. He prefers to analyze and solve problems himself.
I am trying to move ... But I always get so bitter at every corners I made? DamnZ... Not that I myself have not turned into a 'monster' because of distorted relationships..? :p And like you.. YES... I HATED the NEW ME..... But still... It's a change... And if there's a CHANGE, there must be a reason for it.... Until the 'roots' are solved, I guess I can never really rest...?
I think your relationship is more like a 'tolerating' type...? 'Accomodating' to you.... 'Tolerating' to him...? Never occur to you why he always have so little to share with you....? Perhaps he've been 'swallowing' alot...? Hehheh... <- Just a silly guess...??
Think he's kinda like me...? Anyway, it's over...? Just set it FREE.....?
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I have no 'friends' nor 'family'.
I hold no past and see not future...
These are just samples of illusions....
I don't exist, but I shall live ETERNITY..... DEVIL PHRASE II
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Hey... sometimes, when you just wanna leave someone, any excuse will do... The classic line, 'it's not you! but it's you'. sometimes makes us wonder.. is he that 'big hearted', to actually swallow his pride and admit that it is his fault or is is merely a lame way to make us feel 'better' so that he can shake us off..
All of us feel hurt esp when we have been with the person for a long time (mine's 2yrs plus) or that we think that they are the one... And often we think that we can no longer feel that we can find someone that we can love that much again..
But, trust me we will move on and find someone else when we are least expected..Dun wallow in the past look forward.. Besides, we have loved and had been loved before, that shows we have the capacity to love and be loved....
Besides, some guys are not bad people, they just make lousy boyfrens... -
oooppsie.. paisei.. write wrongly.... The classic line, 'it's not you! but it's you'.. is supposed to be 'it's not you, but it's me..'
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Gee..... this is so true . I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU ! Life still goes on.... it is not as if u cannot carry on living without someone loving you... dun forget , u have urself.Originally posted by fisseball:Hey... sometimes, when you just wanna leave someone, any excuse will do... The classic line, 'it's not you! but it's you'. sometimes makes us wonder.. is he that 'big hearted', to actually swallow his pride and admit that it is his fault or is is merely a lame way to make us feel 'better' so that he can shake us off..
All of us feel hurt esp when we have been with the person for a long time (mine's 2yrs plus) or that we think that they are the one... And often we think that we can no longer feel that we can find someone that we can love that much again..
But, trust me we will move on and find someone else when we are least expected..Dun wallow in the past look forward.. Besides, we have loved and had been loved before, that shows we have the capacity to love and be loved....
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I noe i shld set the past free. I just need A LOT of time, we were together for 7.5 years... It's not a short time at all. But I guess I HAVE moved on a bit, dat's better than nothing rite? At least I dont crave to tok to him all the time, I no longer miss him like crazy, I no longer wait for him to say gdbye 1st b4 I go offline.
Devil1976, I guess I shant argue if my r/s was the accomodating type or the "tolerating" kind. What's over is indeed o-v-e-r. Much as I hate to admit it. If I were to continue arguing, I won't feel good. :Þ
Life DO go on, it's a matter of how u move...
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Good for u ! 7.5yrs indeed is a long period of time. But since this r/s is a history then jzu move on with ur life!Originally posted by oxygene:I noe i shld set the past free. I just need A LOT of time, we were together for 7.5 years... It's not a short time at all. But I guess I HAVE moved on a bit, dat's better than nothing rite? At least I dont crave to tok to him all the time, I no longer miss him like crazy, I no longer wait for him to say gdbye 1st b4 I go offline.
Devil1976, I guess I shant argue if my r/s was the accomodating type or the "tolerating" kind. What's over is indeed o-v-e-r. Much as I hate to admit it. If I were to continue arguing, I won't feel good. :Þ
Life DO go on, it's a better of how u move...
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glad u knw what's best for u, oh, a 7.5 yrs relationship think it left a really deep wound huh? Anyway, I admire your bravery and courage for forgetting him, all the best for your future bf...Originally posted by oxygene:I noe i shld set the past free. I just need A LOT of time, we were together for 7.5 years... It's not a short time at all. But I guess I HAVE moved on a bit, dat's better than nothing rite? At least I dont crave to tok to him all the time, I no longer miss him like crazy, I no longer wait for him to say gdbye 1st b4 I go offline.
Devil1976, I guess I shant argue if my r/s was the accomodating type or the "tolerating" kind. What's over is indeed o-v-e-r. Much as I hate to admit it. If I were to continue arguing, I won't feel good. :Þ
Life DO go on, it's a better of how u move...
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Hope to b your frd forever, Mike signing off -
The breakup did hurt me a lot. Really a lot. I can tell you that my self confidence is crushed, totally. Yet to regain it totally. But I got to force myself to be realistic. No choice. Thankz for the wishes! Hehehe
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NOW THAT's THE SPIRIT!!!Originally posted by oxygene:I noe i shld set the past free. I just need A LOT of time, we were together for 7.5 years... It's not a short time at all. But I guess I HAVE moved on a bit, dat's better than nothing rite? At least I dont crave to tok to him all the time, I no longer miss him like crazy, I no longer wait for him to say gdbye 1st b4 I go offline.
Devil1976, I guess I shant argue if my r/s was the accomodating type or the "tolerating" kind. What's over is indeed o-v-e-r. Much as I hate to admit it. If I were to continue arguing, I won't feel good. :Þ
Life DO go on, it's a better of how u move...