my love for him getting stronger..
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forgt him
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Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:
although the guy told me many times that even now we cant together... doesnt means in future we wont......[/b]
seems to me that this is a rather selfish & irresponsibe ans.......he is trying to hv the best of both worlds...
firstly, he told u that now both of u cun b together...it is very clear that he has no intention of leaving his gf...& that he still wans her by his side...
then he told u that but this does not mean both of u wun b together in future...a contradiction to the first sentence...seems that he is trying to give u hope..........cos he oso wans to keep u by his side... how on earth will there be a future if no action is taken now? seems to me that he is waiting for things to happen... 'wait & see'?
if he really loves u & wants to give u a future, he will be doing something abt it already...he told me if without his gf.. he will definately chase after me......[/b]
a very clear ans that he has no intention of leaving his gf seems to me that his gf is his first priority.....he may b have positioned u in the second placing...
u could only be his back up........
urban^co...i dunno the actual situation.......so if u realise, i placed a lot of 'seems to me...' in my ans...
no matter what, do protect urself in all situations & treat urself better.....u dun deserve to be hurt...
remember...hope & future is reflective of what is carried out now...
hope & future is not reflective of 'wait & see' scenarios...
if u find that the guy does not have any action as times pass by...ur future & ans to ur destiny will already be very clearly laid down for u...
hope someday u will find ur destiny..
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well. ya i make my decision last nite.. i msg him told him we dont meet or contact each other again.as i told him i haf no more tears.. and i m too tired..
. till the day i can really put him off my mind.. i will c him again.. pls pray hard for me -
You took your first initiative to leave this pool of sorrow - you needed the rest. Take this time to recuperate and enjoy the things you always wanted to and stuff.Originally posted by vernice_tan:well. ya i make my decision last nite.. i msg him told him we dont meet or contact each other again.as i told him i haf no more tears.. and i m too tired.. . till the day i can really put him off my mind.. i will c him again.. pls pray hard for me 
Its never easy to make a decision - who says it's easy? - however if you don't make a decision - you never leave your sorrow into your shrine of past memories.
P.S: To walk a mile, you have to begin your first step.
Cheers (Lots of prayers) -
Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:
You ALWAYS have CHOICES in Life... Stars don't DEFINE your life.... YOU DO. Drinking won't help you much (if any at all). If you need further help just MESSAGE me.
i m so afraid what Yunhaier[b] 's astrology will be true.. yesterday i went clubbing.. i been 6 mths never drinka nd clubbing.. yet last nite i was totally sad and keep drink and drink without thinking.. all my minds is his voice.. his hugs, kisses and him .. him.. him.. but woke up this morning.. i realize y shld i make my life so difficult and suffered.. and he dont even know.. LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURED....[/b]
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i m so afraid what Yunhaier 's astrology will be true.. yesterday i went clubbing.. i been 6 mths never drinka nd clubbing.. yet last nite i was totally sad and keep drink and drink without thinking.. all my minds is his voice.. his hugs, kisses and him .. him.. him.. but woke up this morning.. i realize y shld i make my life so difficult and suffered.. and he dont even know.. LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURED....
I am so sorry, I fail to see this post. Well, astrology only serve as an insight. We all have powers to change what we want. You started drinking - an excuse to forget him.
But since you had chose to move on: I shall not speak anymore.
Cheers -
After a long essay, comes a short one.Originally posted by Yunhaier:I am so sorry, I fail to see this post. Well, astrology only serve as an insight. We all have powers to change what we want. You started drinking - an excuse to forget him.
But since you had chose to move on: I shall not speak anymore.
Cheers
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yeah since i choose this path.. i really hope i can do it.. i dun wish to say it for the sake of living a better life..but for the sake neva ever let love lead my life..thanks everyone who helps me..esp Yunhaier..
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[quote]Originally posted by CuTiE~~:
[b] well...i may not know much of ur relationship...
i do understand that when it comes to the matter of love, ladies are tend to be more emotional...
i do sympathize with u...noe u are a victim and i do admire u for loving someone quietly...but i juz do hope that someday u could pull urself out of this issue..........do protect urself, yah...
i give u my full support to seek love...but pls do promise urself that if someday when u find that there is no future in this relationship anymore & that the guy is always leading u on, hope u will find the courage to move on..........
sometimes, who knows an end may b a new beginning.........
wish u well
Thanx Cutie... yah i agree ladies are more emotional and is a very disadvantage. im putting my fingers crossed and hope i can get out of this issue asap... I've been feeling damn down n depressed becoz of tis problem, but after reading all these, i felt much better with you guys around to console and give advices.... -
Originally posted by M©+square:After a long essay, comes a short one.
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Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:yeah since i choose this path.. i really hope i can do it.. i dun wish to say it for the sake of living a better life..but for the sake neva ever let love lead my life..thanks everyone who helps me..esp Yunhaier.. You are welcome my lady.
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Tiring eh? Good that she realised. Otherwise...Originally posted by Yunhaier: -
You such a joker MC...Originally posted by M©+square:Tiring eh? Good that she realised. Otherwise... -
Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:
we are in the same boat indeed. when i 1st read your problem, my very instinct told me that somewhere out there, a lady aso facing the same problem as me. i can definately know how much your love is 4 him, as long as you think you stand a chance, just go ahead... you'll have my full support 4 sure!
guess what i m same as u..never expected someone will be in the same boat as me.. however, miss evildevil.. i realli wouldnt want to see u in such a sorry state..although the guy told me many times that even now we cant together... doesnt means in future we wont.. as he told me if without his gf.. he will definately chase after me.. i dono m i too naive to believe his words.. but truthfully, once u r in deep love with someone.. everything speak out frm his lips.. we tend to believe rite?i dono the day for u and me will realli comes or not.. maybe yes and maybe not.. however, my love for him will never die..ur even better than me.. i m the one who alwiz said wanna mit him for dinner.. after dinner . i will have to go home by my own..my love for him not the stage like those puppy love.. but is genuine and devoted...aniwae ihope that time will realli heals everything. i m so afraid what Yunhaier[b] 's astrology will be true.. yesterday i went clubbing.. i been 6 mths never drinka nd clubbing.. yet last nite i was totally sad and keep drink and drink without thinking.. all my minds is his voice.. his hugs, kisses and him .. him.. him.. but woke up this morning.. i realize y shld i make my life so difficult and suffered.. and he dont even know.. LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURED....[/b]
actually in my case, i wish he can be more cruel n mean. if he can stop seeing me; fetching me to n fro work everyday; lesser movie and drinking session, then it'll be better this way 4 both of us, though its not what i wish. i know mysf very well that i won't stop unless he do. the worst part of me is im always a follower, never a decision maker...all this while i've avoid thinking abt my problem. I've no courage to foresee our future and his coming marriage (next year). the countdown of no. of months really upset me when i dun know when is our 'last day'. each time i think abt it, i feel weak and can't breathe.
my dear, social drinker will be fine and if you tend to drink alot, its not the solution to your problem. i know you're brave enough to face yr problem. let me share wth you: LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE reminds me that my fren ever told me: look! relationship and love suppose 2 make one happy. if you're upset n depress in a relationship, get out of it, y stay on to torture yrsf? pls think abt it, sound so logical... -
Originally posted by evildevil:we are in the same boat indeed. when i 1st read your problem, my very instinct told me that somewhere out there, a lady aso facing the same problem as me. i can definately know how much your love is 4 him, as long as you think you stand a chance, just go ahead... you'll have my full support 4 sure!
actually in my case, i wish he can be more cruel n mean. if he can stop seeing me; fetching me to n fro work everyday; lesser movie and drinking session, then it'll be better this way 4 both of us, though its not what i wish. i know mysf very well that i won't stop unless he do. the worst part of me is im always a follower, never a decision maker...all this while i've avoid thinking abt my problem. I've no courage to foresee our future and his coming marriage (next year). the countdown of no. of months really upset me when i dun know when is our 'last day'. each time i think abt it, i feel weak and can't breathe.
my dear, social drinker will be fine and if you tend to drink alot, its not the solution to your problem. i know you're brave enough to face yr problem. let me share wth you: LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE reminds me that my fren ever told me: look! relationship and love suppose 2 make one happy. if you're upset n depress in a relationship, get out of it, y stay on to torture yrsf? pls think abt it, sound so logical...
haha dont u think it sound funny.. always what we want turn out to be another way.. is realli life that challenging or it is our fate to meet all this ?i wish he dontbe so cruel to me and evildevil wish the guy to be more cruel.. haiz.. that wat woman wat???i supposed he wun stop seeing u till the day he get married..maybe even he get married .. he will still continue this kind of DI XIA QING with u. come on.. no matter how much u love him. dont break ppl marriage.. lady..i m sure u dun wish it happen to u also.even if happen to me . i tink if i now my guy getting married soon.. i will realli let him go.. ur guy actually shldnt pull u along ..u haf to ask him , if he decided to choose his fiancee.. den pls let u go.. dun ever hurt u anymore.. dont ever let his eyes betray ur heart..if he neva stop this relationship . y cant u??? i make this decision to forget him and dont even wan to contact him .. think is my best choice.. althought he ask me dont wait for him but continue be friend.. i jus cant do it.. so i told him we dont contact each again till i start a new afresh life.. where my heart never have him anymore. u got to be brave .. i dont consider myself better than u.. i cant guarantee whether i can do it or not.. but what i can said is.. if u let ur heart soften so easily.. life will be suffer for u.i realli pray hard for u.. wishing u find a new guy.. who can treat u better and appreaciate u.. most impt he is single and available for u.. let us start a new life... Yunhaier.. actuali i read mnay astrology and try many kinds of test relationship.. my love is alwiz that suck.. i sumhow feel it is quite true.. where alwiz guys who treat me good.. i dun appreciate but i alwiz like a guy at the wrong timing.. or fall into jerk's hands.. pls help~! i wori the day i old.. i m still lonely out there in spore...y human just cant live without love -
Originally posted by evildevil:we are in the same boat indeed. when i 1st read your problem, my very instinct told me that somewhere out there, a lady aso facing the same problem as me. i can definately know how much your love is 4 him, as long as you think you stand a chance, just go ahead... you'll have my full support 4 sure!
actually in my case, i wish he can be more cruel n mean. if he can stop seeing me; fetching me to n fro work everyday; lesser movie and drinking session, then it'll be better this way 4 both of us, though its not what i wish. i know mysf very well that i won't stop unless he do. the worst part of me is im always a follower, never a decision maker...all this while i've avoid thinking abt my problem. I've no courage to foresee our future and his coming marriage (next year). the countdown of no. of months really upset me when i dun know when is our 'last day'. each time i think abt it, i feel weak and can't breathe.
my dear, social drinker will be fine and if you tend to drink alot, its not the solution to your problem. i know you're brave enough to face yr problem. let me share wth you: LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE reminds me that my fren ever told me: look! relationship and love suppose 2 make one happy. if you're upset n depress in a relationship, get out of it, y stay on to torture yrsf? pls think abt it, sound so logical...
haha dont u think it sound funny.. always what we want turn out to be another way.. is realli life that challenging or it is our fate to meet all this ?i wish he dontbe so cruel to me and evildevil wish the guy to be more cruel.. haiz.. that wat woman wat???i supposed he wun stop seeing u till the day he get married..maybe even he get married .. he will still continue this kind of DI XIA QING with u. come on.. no matter how much u love him. dont break ppl marriage.. lady..i m sure u dun wish it happen to u also.even if happen to me . i tink if i now my guy getting married soon.. i will realli let him go.. ur guy actually shldnt pull u along ..u haf to ask him , if he decided to choose his fiancee.. den pls let u go.. dun ever hurt u anymore.. dont ever let his eyes betray ur heart..if he neva stop this relationship . y cant u??? i make this decision to forget him and dont even wan to contact him .. think is my best choice.. althought he ask me dont wait for him but continue be friend.. i jus cant do it.. so i told him we dont contact each again till i start a new afresh life.. where my heart never have him anymore. u got to be brave .. i dont consider myself better than u.. i cant guarantee whether i can do it or not.. but what i can said is.. if u let ur heart soften so easily.. life will be suffer for u.i realli pray hard for u.. wishing u find a new guy.. who can treat u better and appreaciate u.. most impt he is single and available for u.. let us start a new life... Yunhaier.. actuali i read mnay astrology and try many kinds of test relationship.. my love is alwiz that suck.. i sumhow feel it is quite true.. where alwiz guys who treat me good.. i dun appreciate but i alwiz like a guy at the wrong timing.. or fall into jerk's hands.. pls help~! i wori the day i old.. i m still lonely out there in spore...y human just cant live without love -
So what if one is lonely???
Lonliness is present to contrast with attachment so that one can appreciate attachment more... so lonliness is not so scary after all when there is attachment there is lonliness they are just the two ends of a continum... so accept your lonliness in order to embrace attachment better in the future...
I dont think anyone wants to fill their heart with anyone they meet out of their own lonliness right??? -
Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:
To: Urban^Co:
haha dont u think it sound funny.. always what we want turn out to be another way.. is realli life that challenging or it is our fate to meet all this ?i wish he dontbe so cruel to me and evildevil wish the guy to be more cruel.. haiz.. that wat woman wat???i supposed he wun stop seeing u till the day he get married..maybe even he get married .. he will still continue this kind of [b]DI XIA QING with u. come on.. no matter how much u love him. dont break ppl marriage.. lady..i m sure u dun wish it happen to u also.even if happen to me . i tink if i now my guy getting married soon.. i will realli let him go.. ur guy actually shldnt pull u along ..u haf to ask him , if he decided to choose his fiancee.. den pls let u go.. dun ever hurt u anymore.. dont ever let his eyes betray ur heart..if he neva stop this relationship . y cant u??? i make this decision to forget him and dont even wan to contact him .. think is my best choice.. althought he ask me dont wait for him but continue be friend.. i jus cant do it.. so i told him we dont contact each again till i start a new afresh life.. where my heart never have him anymore. u got to be brave .. i dont consider myself better than u.. i cant guarantee whether i can do it or not.. but what i can said is.. if u let ur heart soften so easily.. life will be suffer for u.i realli pray hard for u.. wishing u find a new guy
.. who can treat u better and appreaciate u.. most impt he is single and available for u.. let us start a new life... Yunhaier.. actuali i read mnay astrology and try many kinds of test relationship.. my love is alwiz that suck.. i sumhow feel it is quite true.. where alwiz guys who treat me good.. i dun appreciate but i alwiz like a guy at the wrong timing.. or fall into jerk's hands.. pls help~~! i wori the day i old.. i m still lonely out there in spore ...y human just cant live without love 
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This message may be too strong for you, ignore you you find it worthless
The knowledge of the Love you're talking about is such a narrow-minded and senseless statement. Indeed when you said why human can't live without love. You are talking about your own situation. You can't see better paths out there because you chose not to, so blinded and no light could be shone in cos you didn't look outward......
Let me paraphrase it. Humans can live without 'your kind of Love' but they can't live without the Love which thay are suppose to give & receive.
Love is not when you have a boyfriend then you can experience it.
Understand the value of the Form of Love.
Your statement has made me so indignant when you don't know the wholeness of it. I do not claim to know what truly Love is....but i do know it's more then about...i, me and myself.
Cheers
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I had the most extraordinary experience with a Hindu family who had eight children. A gentleman came to our house and said: "Mother Teresa, there is a family with eight children; they have not eaten for so long; do something". So I took some rice and I went there immediately. And I saw the children - their eyes shining with hunger. I don't know if you have ever seen hunger. But I have seen it very often.
And she took the rice, she divided the rice, and she went out. When she came back I asked her: "Where did you go, what did you do?" And she gave me a very simple answer: "They are hungry also". What struck me most was that she knew - and who are they? a Muslim family - and she knew. I didn't bring more rice that evening because I wanted them to enjoy the joy of sharing. But there were those children radiating joy, sharing the joy with their mother because she had the love to give.
"It is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the doing.
It is not how much we give, but how much love we put in the giving."
- Mother Teresa -
ya.. perhaps i giving the wrong phrase. love is not by giving frm bf.. but also frm everyone who cares abt me.. i love my parents, friends and everyone who cares abt me.. think i shld rephrase how to be sumone who can dun think abt relationship?
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Originally posted by Haven:
WEE-U-WEE!
To: Urban^Co:
[b]This message may be too strong for you, ignore you you find it worthless
The knowledge of the Love you're talking about is such a narrow-minded and senseless statement. Indeed when you said why human can't live without love. You are talking about your own situation. You can't see better paths out there because you chose not to, so blinded and no light could be shone in cos you didn't look outward......
Let me paraphrase it. Humans can live without 'your kind of Love' but they can't live without the Love which thay are suppose to give & receive.
Love is not when you have a boyfriend then you can experience it.
Understand the value of the Form of Love.
Your statement has made me so indignant when you don't know the wholeness of it. I do not claim to know what truly Love is....but i do know it's more then about...i, me and myself.
Cheers
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I had the most extraordinary experience with a Hindu family who had eight children. A gentleman came to our house and said: "Mother Teresa, there is a family with eight children; they have not eaten for so long; do something". So I took some rice and I went there immediately. And I saw the children - their eyes shining with hunger. I don't know if you have ever seen hunger. But I have seen it very often.
And she took the rice, she divided the rice, and she went out. When she came back I asked her: "Where did you go, what did you do?" And she gave me a very simple answer: "They are hungry also". What struck me most was that she knew - and who are they? a Muslim family - and she knew. I didn't bring more rice that evening because I wanted them to enjoy the joy of sharing. But there were those children radiating joy, sharing the joy with their mother because she had the love to give.
"It is not how much we do, but how much love we put in the doing.
It is not how much we give, but how much love we put in the giving."
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hi there. and i pray hard you are a good follower.. went thru all your posts and i believe and believe your real Mr Right have not arrive yet. If this man like you claimed really treasure you and love you... sad to say he dun behave like one. I had got friends that broke off with their gfs of many many years to marry a gal whom known for a year plus and they are happily married. Love is not all about time, it's just love. If a man really want to be with you for the rest of his life what is another 10 years and 10 years? I wun want marry a gal that wun bring happiness to me. Having to spend time with someone you love is one of the best moment in life. Afterall the choice is his... and you too have your choice. I can see you are a very considerate and beautiful gal.. definately there will be many suitors around. "LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE"... wonderful phrase.. just like the Japanese carving for the deadly PUFFER fish... it can be very tasty but if the chef made a wrong cut, well you lose your life. Loving a person is just the same as the chef that prepare the fish... loving a wrong person can be deadly too, other than that LOVE is so beautiful... sweet... lovely.Originally posted by evildevil:we are in the same boat indeed. when i 1st read your problem, my very instinct told me that somewhere out there, a lady aso facing the same problem as me. i can definately know how much your love is 4 him, as long as you think you stand a chance, just go ahead... you'll have my full support 4 sure!
actually in my case, i wish he can be more cruel n mean. if he can stop seeing me; fetching me to n fro work everyday; lesser movie and drinking session, then it'll be better this way 4 both of us, though its not what i wish. i know mysf very well that i won't stop unless he do. the worst part of me is im always a follower, never a decision maker...all this while i've avoid thinking abt my problem. I've no courage to foresee our future and his coming marriage (next year). the countdown of no. of months really upset me when i dun know when is our 'last day'. each time i think abt it, i feel weak and can't breathe.
my dear, social drinker will be fine and if you tend to drink alot, its not the solution to your problem. i know you're brave enough to face yr problem. let me share wth you: LOVE IS NOTHING BUT TORTURE reminds me that my fren ever told me: look! relationship and love suppose 2 make one happy. if you're upset n depress in a relationship, get out of it, y stay on to torture yrsf? pls think abt it, sound so logical... and the best to enjoy good puffer fish is sake.. not too much or it is as deadly too. -
Haha.....good one ehOriginally posted by Yunhaier:WEE-U-WEE!
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Originally posted by UrBaN^Co:
I totally agree with Haven & Silas who have elaborated what love is. Some pple's just simply lucky to have the kind of love they want. Unlucky pple like u (Urban^co) and me met such relationship that we don't desire. maybe we're not persistent enough or maybe we didn't put in effort to stop... although i know he's having the best of 2 world now, yet i didn't ask him to make decision all this while becoz i feel that love shouldn't be selfish or rather i shouldn't be selfish, i can't bear to see him in difficult position, perhaps in this way i don't owe him anythg or hurt anybody. I swear i never thought of hurting anybody by breaking up others marriage, maybe until the day he gets married, then i'll disappear from his life for good. meanwhile i just want to be the person who's there for him whether for happy or for sad, i just want to leave some sweet memories behind, and i believe he'll remember me as he can never wipe off my footsteps left in his life. and in case our relationship can work out, whatever misery that ive been thru will be worthwhile. haha i must be a very irrational person who live in fairy tales dreamland: on one hand i'm hoping for the miracle, on the other hand i'm so negative abt this relationship. I really admire your courage and determination for stop seeing him. I wish you'll success and get out of it asap. may you find the right man in the right time and start the right love...
haha dont u think it sound funny.. always what we want turn out to be another way.. is realli life that challenging or it is our fate to meet all this ?i wish he dontbe so cruel to me and evildevil wish the guy to be more cruel.. haiz.. that wat woman wat???i supposed he wun stop seeing u till the day he get married..maybe even he get married .. he will still continue this kind of [b]DI XIA QING with u. come on.. no matter how much u love him. dont break ppl marriage.. lady..i m sure u dun wish it happen to u also.even if happen to me . i tink if i now my guy getting married soon.. i will realli let him go.. ur guy actually shldnt pull u along ..u haf to ask him , if he decided to choose his fiancee.. den pls let u go.. dun ever hurt u anymore.. dont ever let his eyes betray ur heart..if he neva stop this relationship . y cant u??? i make this decision to forget him and dont even wan to contact him .. think is my best choice.. althought he ask me dont wait for him but continue be friend.. i jus cant do it.. so i told him we dont contact each again till i start a new afresh life.. where my heart never have him anymore. u got to be brave .. i dont consider myself better than u.. i cant guarantee whether i can do it or not.. but what i can said is.. if u let ur heart soften so easily.. life will be suffer for u.i realli pray hard for u.. wishing u find a new guy.. who can treat u better and appreaciate u.. most impt he is single and available for u.. let us start a new life... Yunhaier.. actuali i read mnay astrology and try many kinds of test relationship.. my love is alwiz that suck.. i sumhow feel it is quite true.. where alwiz guys who treat me good.. i dun appreciate but i alwiz like a guy at the wrong timing.. or fall into jerk's hands.. pls help~! i wori the day i old.. i m still lonely out there in spore...y human just cant live without love[/b]
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Originally posted by M©+square:Haha.....good one eh
Hope she really wake up. Well, destiny runs in each individual's hands eh? -
Destiny....woah!Originally posted by Yunhaier: Well, destiny runs in each individual's hands eh? 
That's serious!