wad can i do to improve the situation ?
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Well , in this story , we have this silly girl ... She is just a simple girl , having an average life. Basically , studying , going for religious activities , being with friends and seeking true love like many other typical singaporean girls. After four failed relationships , she had lose confidence in guys as they had gave her nothing but hurt , leaving deep wounds across her fragile heart.
A boyfriend to her is someone who is going to share her happiness and sadness , someone whom she love with all her heart , someone who is willing to lend her a listening ear. He has to be the guy that gives her a whole new sense of direction in life which makes her feels like the most wonderful person in the world to have him. And that no matter how sad or sorrow she is , whenever she looks into his eyes and sees his wonderful smile will make her worries disappear. Not forgetting , someone she can trusts , be affectionate and committed to.
Two years ago , she met this guy on a special occasion. It was love at first sight for the girl , she was mesmerized by the way he smiles , the way he speaks and his innocence which totally melts her heart. Anyway she manages to get his contact no. , it was the first time that she dares to get a guy's number face to face , especially he was someone she loves. They hit it off very well and as time goes by , she realised she had fallen head over heels with this guy. A few days later , they were together as an official couple as the guy gave her a chance to love him. This guy was very faithful , trustworthy , someone whom she can rely on which is nothing like the past few relationships of hers. Her life was full of love , care and concern. She vowed never to leave this guy for no matter what happens in the future.
At the start of the relationship , the couple was really happy , enjoying each other's company and love. However , the girl was very possessive , she was afraid of losing him , she just simply gets jealous so easily that she creates quite a few problems for him. But the gal knew her mistake , therefore , she tries her very best to control her jealousy because she don't wish to create anymore troubles and add on to his burden. She did hurt him as a result of her ignorance and immature ways. When they went out together with their friends , she often left him alone with his own batch of friends as she don't want to be left out of the conversations that her own group of friends are having. She thought that he won't be lonely because he has his own friends to talk to , but she was wrong , he wanted her accompaniment more than anything else. Whenever the girl can't control her jealousy , she will ignored the guy as she does not know how to cope with her feelings. Perhaps this has caused the guy to be tired after some time as he had to coax the girl over and over again , slowly , his love for her started to get weak. She seems to feel it too , hence , decided to ask the guy about this. After his feelings were made known to the girl , she felt so guilty and sorry towards him because she does not have the intention to hurt him repeatedly. There was once she started to have a liking for another guy in her class , it was a minor crush which ended after a few days. Guilt overwhelmed her , she knew that it was terribly wrong to like another guy when she was still with her boyfriend so she told herself never to let any guy enter this relationship from then on. She was to remain committed to the relationship and stays faithful to her boyfriend
Things began to get better between the both of them but it only lasted for some time. When the guy found a part-time job , she was so happy for him , she even accompanied him to the interview and gave him moral support. Meanwhile , she was concentrating in her 'O' levels examinations , both were busy with their own stuffs but they still make it a point to call each other now and then. After her major exams , they still went out together , enjoying themselves whenever the guy was not working. The girl felt that it was not enough , she felt neglected. Even though she had her friends accompanying her , she still missed the guy a lot , yearning to be with him more then ever. She complained to her guy that he had little time for her , this led to the frequent quarrels and unhappiness. As time passes by , the girl admitted that she was in the wrong after some self-reflections on her part , she apologised. She knew that her guy had to cope with the pressure in his work and pacify her off work , it must have been tiring for him. It was solely her fault , she blamed herself for it.
About two months later , during January of this year , she started working full-time in suntec city and the time she spent with her guy is even lesser. But she still insisted on finding him every once a week , which was her off day , she did not take into consideration how tired and lethargic she was. The girl was contented even if they could only see each other for a few hours. Her tiredness and stress was being taken away every time her guy smiles at her , showing his concern for her , telling her how much he loved her. He was simply her everything , her pillar of support , her whole world. Without him , she felt as if she was only someone without a soul. After two weeks of working , the girl was told that she had to work continuously for the next two weeks for eleven hours everyday. She was devastated upon hearing this because she knew that it would mean that she had no time for her guy at the mean time. On the other hand , the girl had an stinking instinct that this is putting their relationship at stake. It proved to be correct , they drifted apart and he had fallen for another girl. She felt that her world had collapsed , but she still had some hope that things will get better. At that time , the girl's attitude towards the guy started to change , she felt very very exhausted , hence , started to talk lesser to the guy. The guy talked to her about the changes in her personality , she felt that she was in the wrong so decided to change for the better because of him. She was sure that her job resulted in all this changes so she sacrificed her job in order to save the relationship. On valentine's day , the guy told her that he was just testing her feelings for him and he don't like the other girl at all. She felt so relieved and happy to hear this but anger was also present at the same time. The girl did not tell him about her being angry because she fears that things might get worse.
However , slowly , things started to change again. While what seems to be a nice guy , turns into a nightmare at times. He had problem controlling his temper. As the girlfriend , the girl tried her best to endure him and be tolerant. The guy seems to have double personality , really really nice at times and very bad-tempered at other. Over a short period of time , he started to change into another person. No more the caring , loving , faithful , loyal , good-tempered guy that he was at the beginning. The girl was extremely upset about this , she questioned him the reason behind this change , but he told her that partly he was influenced by his friends. She gets the feeling that he simply do not want to let her know the truth. After sometimes , she slowly more or less accepted this change in him , she wanted very much for him to be like how he was in the past , hoping that he would change for her , but he accused her for being demanding. The past memories of them being happily together still haunts her now and then. As a result of this , she lost her sleep , her appetite and things began to fall into monotone. He would not listen to her , slowly , the girl felt so dishearten and utterly disappointed. The guy even lied to her on some occasions , she told herself to give him more trust but , again and again , he hurts her deeply , till she lose hope in him. He dealt her another blow by liking two other girls and even went to the extend of telling one of the girls that he likes her. The girl no longer knows if he is still serious about her , she felt miserable , felt that her world has stop revolving. She felt the betrayal even though vows were not made between both of them. This girl only wanted a relationship with commitments , love and concern from the other party. She wanted to be there for the person she loves. All she wanted was the guy to be faithful and loyal to her more then anything else. But sad to say , its not within her control ...
What can this girl do to save this relationship ? She e-mailed the above story to her guy but he did not seem to want to solve the problems in their relationships. When the girl told him her fears and her insecurity over the phone , he treated it like a joke and started to make some unwanted noises or started to sing. When its time to be serious , he joked around , giving the girl an impression that he did not take what she said seriously. The girl wanted to understand him better but he did not give her the chance to do so.
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I read the story liaoz.Hmm..I think the Girl shud juz walk out of this relationship.They dun seems to click in the later part of this relationship.Btw....This iz almost similiar to wat happen to me and my ex..Oni diff iz I didnt get to c her for 2 farking mths..I told myself..Enuff iz enuff..Choose me or her frenz...She chose her frenz..
Hmm..R u that gal u refering in the story..PM me if not convinent to say here.Hehe..Maybe I culd tell u more... -
Where did u get this story from? Its really sad for this gal cos she really sacrificed a lot....
The guy suffered oso I guess...may be he is not talking abt it onli...
Does the girl feel dat it's time to let go of this relationship? Does she feel like she is really disappointed in him? Do u think she still wan to noe him even better after wat he had did? -
I didn't get to c my ex for 1 month plus...sama sama...Originally posted by Register:I read the story liaoz.Hmm..I think the Girl shud juz walk out of this relationship.They dun seems to click in the later part of this relationship.Btw....This iz almost similiar to wat happen to me and my ex..Oni diff iz I didnt get to c her for 2 farking mths..I told myself..Enuff iz enuff..Choose me or her frenz...She chose her frenz..
Hmm..R u that gal u refering in the story..PM me if not convinent to say here.Hehe..Maybe I culd tell u more... -
tiS is a tRue stoRy thAt hAppens t0 me ... haiz , i've totally no idea how to carry on ... wad i can do is hoping tat he will realise his own faults one day , i noe i may sound naive but i still do love him despite wad happened to us , tats y i cant make myself walk out of our relationship ...
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Pity ourselves...Haiz..But worst thing iz My Pup died on that day we break up.That Day I reli blur ar..Feel like dying..Originally posted by elmoloveyou:I didn't get to c my ex for 1 month plus...sama sama... -
Both of us haf faults. Tink i should post his version of the story , but its a little bit hard to understand becoz of the grammatical mistakes here and there ...Originally posted by elmoloveyou:Where did u get this story from? Its really sad for this gal cos she really sacrificed a lot....
The guy suffered oso I guess...may be he is not talking abt it onli...
Does the girl feel dat it's time to let go of this relationship? Does she feel like she is really disappointed in him? Do u think she still wan to noe him even better after wat he had did? -
I noe its hard..I cant 4get my ex too..But..now I hv a new1 liaoz..I begining to feel tat I am unfair to her.Haiz..Try ur best to walk out of this mess while u can loh..I belive its fated sometimes..I reli hate it that the relationship end this way...I dun even noe why we break up u noe..I nv bother to ask coz I juz wanna "pack up and go lead a new life"..As of this month I nv seen her 4 5mths liaoz...HaiZzzz...Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:tiS is a tRue stoRy thAt hAppens t0 me ... haiz , i've totally no idea how to carry on ... wad i can do is hoping tat he will realise his own faults one day , i noe i may sound naive but i still do love him despite wad happened to us , tats y i cant make myself walk out of our relationship ...
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(Guy'S veRsiOn oF tHe sToRy)
A guy, love's this girl very very much... even after
his school being so tired and bored he still happily
changes his clothes and went to pick up the girl from
her school... despite of waiting long hours out side
her school just for the few hours of togetherness, he
still willingly went to looked for her having great
dinner together even it was a simple one... even the
guy was really that tired, he don't mind how far he
has to walk from her house to the bus stop and
travelled the long distance home lonely as he thought
that when the girl is safety reached home,he'll be
very happy. often the parents of that girl called him
to told him off cause he had been with that girl but
he still accepted the scolding but he did not despite
of that and leave the girl.
Soon after, the girl was so nice that she
accompanied him to a job interview near the girl's
house and the guy did gotten his job. the guy's reason
for finding a job so far away from his house and near
to the girl's house to work was simply because of a
reason. to let the girl able to study and see him when
she wants during the guy was working but it came out
to be just dreams,the girl only find him only three
times and she had never find him there anymore.
everyday the guy went to work seeing her not there, he
felt so much pain in him just like nails nailing him
at his heart but the guy knew that her parents doesn't
allow her to go anywhere after school and so the did
not ask for more. Soon after that, the girl had
finished her 'O' level exams. Being so the girl had
complained that he worked and did not have time for
her but the guy had still accompany out in the morning
even the tiredness he had due to he have to work till
11.30pm and because of the far distant from his house,
he always reached home at 12.45am or even later but he
did not give out any complain and the next day, early
in the morning he had to get up from his bed without
having enough sleep just to get himself ready and went
to look for the girl as the girl wanted... Soon his
cca had started and his time was even more packed up.
From early in the morning,he have to go to his cca
till evening and rushed down to work and the next
morning he'll go and look for the girl.even the girl's
parents had called to talked to me but He know's that
is the most that he could do to please the girl just
for the love he had for her. During that time, he
starved himself everyday just for the money to buy
something for the girl. For every single cents his
mother had gave him, he save them all up without even
eat a single thing from morning till night only get
to eat the left over food at his work place but he
don't mind drinking just plain water to fill the
stomach just for the girl he loved. He know that the
girl would be hurt cuz he has been starving but due to
his poor,that's the only way to get something for the
girl. Soon school started, think of the venlentine's
day that was coming on the next month, he still
continue the starvation while the girl had gotten her
job. He always thought of buy a huge bear and a boquet
of flowers for her during valentine but he had gotten
his hp bills for the previous month and he used all
the saving to pay for it and there goes his dream.
although it was very sad for him but he didn't tell
the girl. He also tries to make the effort to look for
her 2 times at her work place. he uses his money that
had been saved for the previous day and the day he
went to find her to buy some food for her. he also
didn't even mind that he reach as early as 6.30pm in
the evening wait for her break at 7-7.30 and wait for
her there at suntect city doing nothing till she had
finished her job at 10pm or 11pm and sent her home
while he could have been at home enjoying or taking
his rest.
The girl was also very nice that she went to look
for him during her day off every week but at that time
he always feels sad as when he goes out with her, he
cannot don't have his dinner to save the money for her
present as the girl will also don't eat if he did. Due
to his big appetite, he always used more then he had
been given to eat and everytime he gotten very sad.
But he just have to see the girl eat and not starving
herself just like him. As time pass, the guy's friends
get to know that his girlfriend is working at suntect
city and everyday they would tease him of him letting
a friend of him saw that he bought rice for her
waiting for her outside the shop. Everyone said he was
silly to do such thing for a girl. But he did not care
so much about it and carry on with it... everyday he
just starve and suffers terrible pain but no one knows
only himself. Due to his cca was band, he needs lots
of air but with empty stomach, he get giddy almost
everytime but he did not care so much for it. As soon,
he felt that she love him lesser so he made up a lie
to test on her if she really love him lesser as she
would leave him if that's the case. He is willingly to
sacrifice his heart to be shed just for the truth but
although the girl said she loves him but she had also
said that she had like a guy before... the guy was
very sad to know that and started to love her lesser
as he never though that she was such a person. in his
eyes she was so good... soon he did not went to find
her lesser cuz of that but he still insist of giving
her that surprise in valentine's day. When that day
reached, due to the truth that most of his saving gone
to the bill of his hp, he had only left with $50 as
that was all the time he had to save that much of
money.He then went to buy a bear which cost him $40+
but he is willing to do so. With the left money is
less then $10 , he added the money he had for dinner
on that day just to buy a pink rose which is nice to
him.. he then again starve for the day. He then went
to look for her at her work place. He gave the present
to her but the girl gave him a very expensive
valentine's day present.. he got so ashame of him self
to just spend $50+ just for her present but he kept
his feeling in him. but the rose given to her was
being commented by her college as her college gave her
a boquet of flower and claiming that her flower was
nice his like going to die and the words hurt the guy
a lot. he then told the girl about it but the girl
kept telling that she like his flower more... but he
just felt very hurt about that and feel guilty about
his present. Soon he had been thinking so much that he
had like the girl so much but the girl actually like
another guy and the sentence from his friend came on
to his mind."for what being so good to a girl?" his
gifts was comment by others and even the girl he love
like other guy and never been true to him about it. he
became to love her lesser and lesser till like.. at
times it became love but at that time will always end
up with quarrel. he was so sad about it. even that his
parents kept scolding him for almost everything and he
get lack of rest due to his piles of home work to
finish, soon his temper being to get agitated easily.
although the girl was rather understand what he was
going through but the guy just did not felt that she
understands. He then became to like her lesser and
lied to the girl so as she would leave him and he
would not let her felt very pain but the girl did not
give up and he just carry on...and the girl started to
want him to be this and that way due to his lack of
sleep,stress and scoldings he really could not take it
anymore and quarrel was being so often that he being
to give up on the girl... give up hope although he
still love her. he started to like a girl. a junior of
his as his junior had shared his sadness and he finds
her so nice... everything then change. the guy felt
very bored if they were to go out as there will always
be quarrels after that... he was wondering why
couldn't the girl of his understand him and thinking
of that he get to love the girl lesser and lesser.
thinking of leaving her but afraid of hurting her or
she'll do silly things and so the guy just continue to
carry on the relation.
But , i asked hIm bTw the 2 oF uS , hU will he chooSe. And he told me that he chooses me becoz he loves me and he onli likes the other gal. hOw true it is , i'm not very sure ... -
Dun say dat ah.... hmmm they r all parts n puzzles of our lives...we dun need to pity ourselves. We learn from our mistakes n move on wif our own lives.....No regrets after a failed relationship..learn from itOriginally posted by Register:Pity ourselves...Haiz..But worst thing iz My Pup died on that day we break up.That Day I reli blur ar..Feel like dying..
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eRm , can i ask how long were both of u together ? u mean u did not get to see her for such a long time becoz she had been hanging out wif her frens ?Originally posted by Register:I read the story liaoz.Hmm..I think the Girl shud juz walk out of this relationship.They dun seems to click in the later part of this relationship.Btw....This iz almost similiar to wat happen to me and my ex..Oni diff iz I didnt get to c her for 2 farking mths..I told myself..Enuff iz enuff..Choose me or her frenz...She chose her frenz..
Hmm..R u that gal u refering in the story..PM me if not convinent to say here.Hehe..Maybe I culd tell u more... -
when it is time to let go.... have to let go lor.....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:tiS is a tRue stoRy thAt hAppens t0 me ... haiz , i've totally no idea how to carry on ... wad i can do is hoping tat he will realise his own faults one day , i noe i may sound naive but i still do love him despite wad happened to us , tats y i cant make myself walk out of our relationship ...
me break off fm my gf after not talking to each other for bout 2 months... there was a communication breakdown..... -
2 mThs ?! Thats a very long time ... For me , one day i dun haf any communication wif him , be it phone , online chatting on e-mailing , i buay ta han leOriginally posted by weidev:when it is time to let go.... have to let go lor.....
me break off fm my gf after not talking to each other for bout 2 months... there was a communication breakdown.....
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guess it is you yuan wu fen?
dear gal...watever they r giving r juz advices for u....u dun have to heed them...
u gotta decide for yrself....we cant make decisions for u but we will be here for u when u need advices..... -
cos juz o levels ma... then we both found a job... really no time 4 each other.... finally i have to stop it on feb 14.... wat we r maintaining is a dead relationship....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:2 mThs ?! Thats a very long time ... For me , one day i dun haf any communication wif him , be it phone , online chatting on e-mailing , i buay ta han le -
personally i believe tat somewhere out there in the universe somebody is destined to be with u forever.... it need not be in singapore.....Originally posted by elmoloveyou:guess it is you yuan wu fen?
dear gal...watever they r giving r juz advices for u....u dun have to heed them...
u gotta decide for yrself....we cant make decisions for u but we will be here for u when u need advices..... -
CLOSE to 9 mths...Yup..Her frenz made her folo them by sayng this to her:" Go find yr Bf lah,dun ever come to us when u both not together anymore"...I heard this from another fella from her cls..Guess wat my ex say to me when she last saw me? Dear..Sori..If I were to choose u..I will not hv any more frenz..she gave me a Hug and kiss...And she left crying..When I heard wat she told me..My heart broke..I realli really duno y her farking frenz hai us leh....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:eRm , can i ask how long were both of u together ? u mean u did not get to see her for such a long time becoz she had been hanging out wif her frens ?
As for the boy side of the story u poste..I think if he says he choose u coz he luv u but he likes the other gal..Frankly..I tell u as a boy..He WILL Go After The Girl Behind ur Back..Hv best of 2 world.Noe wat I mean..Hmm..This my Humble comment hope u not angry or wat.... -
True... I believe in dat as well....u may be talking to dat someone now..but u wouldn't noeOriginally posted by weidev:personally i believe tat somewhere out there in the universe somebody is destined to be with u forever.... it need not be in singapore..... -
Yr story is really similar to my gal fren...her frens said things like dat to her oso... her frens really piss me offOriginally posted by Register:CLOSE to 9 mths...Yup..Her frenz made her folo them by sayng this to her:" Go find yr Bf lah,dun ever come to us when u both not together anymore"...I heard this from another fella from her cls..Guess wat my ex say to me when she last saw me? Dear..Sori..If I were to choose u..I will not hv any more frenz..she gave me a Hug and kiss...And she left crying..When I heard wat she told me..My heart broke..I realli really duno y her farking frenz hai us leh.... -
I totally agree with u...Juz let fate decide...Originally posted by elmoloveyou:True... I believe in dat as well....u may be talking to dat someone now..but u wouldn't noe -
i also nv see my ex for very long. thats when i realise things r going wrong....... in the end break up lor....
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when i court my gf in sch... her friends help us to be together... but it think the reason she be with me is due to peer pressure.... not real love....Originally posted by elmoloveyou:Yr story is really similar to my gal fren...her frens said things like dat to her oso... her frens really piss me off -
yap yapOriginally posted by Register:I totally agree with u...Juz let fate decide... -
Anyway..it was alreadi over....Originally posted by weidev:when i court my gf in sch... her friends help us to be together... but it think the reason she be with me is due to peer pressure.... not real love.... -
Yup..I earn from my mistake..I think I become a better person and grew stronger after this..Originally posted by elmoloveyou:Dun say dat ah.... hmmm they r all parts n puzzles of our lives...we dun need to pity ourselves. We learn from our mistakes n move on wif our own lives.....No regrets after a failed relationship..learn from it