wad can i do to improve the situation ?
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Hmm..I'm back..Any1 here?
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i'm still here ... boRing nite lEhz ... tMd siAnz
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hMmm , r u working currently ? Argh , i cant find a job now man ... Very frustrating ... And when i got nothing to do , i'll tink of my relationship problems or juz miss him ... How i wish i got a lot of things to do in order to keep me occupy ... dUh ~
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Hehe..Y sianz lehz?Tml mi going Swimming with my Gf.
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hiaz hiaz u going to tp ah? me now in tp.... july will be in Year 2 liao.... maybe will see u there.....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:hMmm , r u working currently ? Argh , i cant find a job now man ... Very frustrating ... And when i got nothing to do , i'll tink of my relationship problems or juz miss him ... How i wish i got a lot of things to do in order to keep me occupy ... dUh ~ -
I taking a long deserve break after working from the day O Levels End..I dun think I working anymore till sch reopen loh..I lazy horz?Hehe...Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:hMmm , r u working currently ? Argh , i cant find a job now man ... Very frustrating ... And when i got nothing to do , i'll tink of my relationship problems or juz miss him ... How i wish i got a lot of things to do in order to keep me occupy ... dUh ~ Juz go out with ur frenz more often and u wun think of him much liaoz..Hmm..u r 17 yrs old this year? -
s0 r0mAntiC aR ... hiAkz hiAkz ... aNyway saw ur thread in bar ... hAf to admit tat kissing underwater is quite sWeet , i simply love itOriginally posted by Register:Hehe..Y sianz lehz?Tml mi going Swimming with my Gf. 
But provided both of u need to haf long breath la , hehe ... Sian coz miss my bf and i cant get to see him tml 
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oHhz , maybe can meet up sometimes , hehe ... which course r u taking ar ?Originally posted by weidev:hiaz hiaz u going to tp ah? me now in tp.... july will be in Year 2 liao.... maybe will see u there..... -
yUpz , me 17 tis yR. u lAzy den i lAgi woRse lia0 ... i'vE been slacking frm 15th of fEb till n0w lEhz ... mY frenS s0me woRking , sOm stUdyinG ... gEezOriginally posted by Register:I taking a long deserve break after working from the day O Levels End..I dun think I working anymore till sch reopen loh..I lazy horz?Hehe... Juz go out with ur frenz more often and u wun think of him much liaoz..Hmm..u r 17 yrs old this year? -
me in mechatronics... but don worry.. tp veri small one.... sure can see each other.... haha...Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:oHhz , maybe can meet up sometimes , hehe ... which course r u taking ar ?
after me graduate from o i wirk till may....so sad.... no life at all.... -
Hmm..Worst thing my Gf duno how to swim...U know how to? U try b4 ar?Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:s0 r0mAntiC aR ... hiAkz hiAkz ... aNyway saw ur thread in bar ... hAf to admit tat kissing underwater is quite sWeet , i simply love it But provided both of u need to haf long breath la , hehe ... Sian coz miss my bf and i cant get to see him tml
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I think I damn boody lazy nowadays..I eat sleep come here or other website or go tok cok with my frenz at kopitiam or watch tv..Its been like this since I stop working..I think I bcome Fat liaoz leh..HaahaaaOriginally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:yUpz , me 17 tis yR. u lAzy den i lAgi woRse lia0 ... i'vE been slacking frm 15th of fEb till n0w lEhz ... mY frenS s0me woRking , sOm stUdyinG ... gEez
My frenz..Study...Work...NS...Or waste their life at home like me.Hehe -
0hhz , but even if i pass by u , i oso dunno its uOriginally posted by weidev:me in mechatronics... but don worry.. tp veri small one.... sure can see each other.... haha...
after me graduate from o i wirk till may....so sad.... no life at all.... Not so bad leh , got abt one mth to enjoy ... bTw , sch of engineering got lotsa yan dao guys ? -
got........... me one of them lor.... hahaOriginally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:0hhz , but even if i pass by u , i oso dunno its u Not so bad leh , got abt one mth to enjoy ... bTw , sch of engineering got lotsa yan dao guys ? 
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Sad story
but not suprizing end
i think they too young, -maybe-
both cannot understand each other's position and difficulties
should be less demanding of each other, tsk tsk. no one is so perfect i am sure he has a temper just trying to suppress it, when a person suppress too much get intense mood swings, you should have lent him a listening ear get the 'bf' to talk. 'gf' is more concerned abt KEEPING the 'bf' instead of his well-being (how can???).
(Anyway i make wild speculation bf horoscope is gemini?)
pls answer me
i testing accurate anot -
This sounds like my experience with my ex... I was like the guy, not willing to accept changes in the relationship and in the end ruined everything...
I think that you should try to ask him out to have a heart to heart talk. Try to let him understand that love, is never smooth sailing... there will always be conflicts and these conflicts are there for the two of you to resolve together so as to go a level higher in your relationship. Maybe he is still young and have the idea that love MUST be sweet and never bitter. So that when he found that things are not the way they "should be", he starts to steer away from you... and i see that he is trying to avoid speaking his heart. However, if he is still unwilling to speak up... i think it is better for you to let him go and move on...
Its good that you are sensible enuff to learn how to give him his own space...
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I'll lend him the listening ear , but he did not gif me a chance to do so ... i wanna noe wads goin on in his life , but all he told me is ... " i dunno" ... I tried to ask him nicely , but he kept trying to change the topic ... s0 wad can i possibly do ?Originally posted by Forever84:Sad story
but not suprizing end
i think they too young, -maybe-
both cannot understand each other's position and difficulties
should be less demanding of each other, tsk tsk. no one is so perfect i am sure he has a temper just trying to suppress it, when a person suppress too much get intense mood swings, you should have lent him a listening ear get the 'bf' to talk. 'gf' is more concerned abt KEEPING the 'bf' instead of his well-being (how can???).
(Anyway i make wild speculation bf horoscope is gemini?)
pls answer me i testing accurate anot 
eH , he is a saggitarius (dunno how to spell) hehez 
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Long long story you have.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:I'll lend him the listening ear , but he did not gif me a chance to do so ... i wanna noe wads goin on in his life , but all he told me is ... " i dunno" ... I tried to ask him nicely , but he kept trying to change the topic ... s0 wad can i possibly do ? eH , he is a saggitarius (dunno how to spell) hehez
My Advice is to read up a book by John Gray - Man are from Mars Women are from Venus.
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hMmm , where can i find tat book ?Originally posted by Haven:Long long story you have.
My Advice is to read up a book by John Gray - Man are from Mars Women are from Venus.
It somehow will help in this situation you're facing. -
Libary? MPH or Times and other good bookstores.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:hMmm , where can i find tat book ?
Look out for the part when Gray wrote the part on 'why men goes into their cave. - Withdrawal'
Alternatively, you can also lookout for Yun's book of Cloudism.
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Sounds like he doesn't really fully trust you
or maybe hes just lost interest on you lor -
I beg to differ... This matter is somehow more then meets the eye.Originally posted by Forever84:Sounds like he doesn't really fully trust you
or maybe hes just lost interest on you lor
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Dear |Uv`-f|UtE-`
You never mentioned much about why did your ex left you (or you left them) and my guess would be that its takes two to clap. (Mutually contribution).
From your post, your words, it sprout alot of emotions in it and basically how you feel in this entire relationship. I noticed when things happen and you always tell yourself that it was your fault (although it is, partially) - and you always try to change.
Your official unsubconscious, psychological problem comes from the weak foundation, the both of you had before coming into this relationship. Few days later after you knew him and come together? What much can you possibly know about him? You may ask why - let me tell you this thing: A relation easily gotten, is a relation easily lost. There must be a precise balance between advancing and taking your time to know someone during the period of courtship. When in doubt - always choose the latter option.
Your third paragraph speaks about your jealousy - which in fact, I believed, has always been there since your first love. Then you had a minor crush on someone and felt gulity? The guilt should comes only if you DID something practical and not just because the feeling just come - you cant control your feelings, and you recongise it as a crush. So be it, unneccessary for guilt and the promise to remain faithful to him till the end of time.
You missed you guy and wants to spend every single available time with him. CloUdiSm remix III - Posessivess is like sealing a candle in a jar - eventually, the candle flame will snuff out and dies. This time round you failed to see and understand why this has turn to such a major route - your possessive has made you see as in...
(the guy) cope with the pressure in his work and pacify her off work , it must have been tiring for him. It was solely her fault , she blamed herself for it.
Empathy and understanding is there - but the real source of problem is invisible to your eyes.
Your fifth paragraph has alot of hidden meaning and now I am going
analysis for you: Your womanly instinct told you that the relationship will drift when he has to work continuously for two weeks. Let me ask you this simple question instead of pushing it to another girl existence or work, etc - what has causes him to do that? Everything happens for a reason. When things happened, you swear to everything every single aspect for the sake of him - no guys in the end will appreciate, trust me. Because you have changed far too much and it isn't the same old you, just like when you mentioned that he wasn't the same as before.
You don't CHANGE for the sake of someone - you improve the situation, while retaining much of yourself. From your post - it is obvious that you always sink into unstability mode and trying all your best to please him. In love - both of you has to work it out. In the first place, he did - you recongise it and appreciate, thats good. However, in the end, your fear of losing him overwhelms every single rational sense - its dangerous to a relation.
He mentioned he like a girl and in the end he said it was just to test your feelings for him? What an excuse - come on, can't chase that girl then throw in such lame excuse to get back on his present relation? Your anger is justified - but then again, your fear of losing in comes in - things you are suppose to trash out - you din, things ain't, you did excessively.
Let me tell you this: after this incident, it would be a turning point of your life. He has shown to you what he is capable of doing - you further lose yourself. You seen how drastic this relationship declines - you questioned him and discovered your worst nightmare - he kept things from you (Hint that this relationship is doom - trust department destroyed.) And guess what? Because of the fear of losing him - you ACCEPT the change in him - you are killing this relationship with your own hands, but wishes him to do go back? Tell him, trash it out with him? Why didn't? Fear of losing him? *The more such essential things you wouldn't say - the likelihood this relationship would decline*
If I was you - I would throw my last coin in trashing the right things with him and not unneccessary stuff that you know he wouldn't say "why have you change so much? etc' Well, if he does change, in the first place, you think he will tell you about it when it happens? I believe that honesty plays an essential role - without it - this relationship just lost is main pillar to stand.
He likes another 2 girls. TWO GIRLS? Open your eyes to see your present bf - he wasn't the same old guy anymore. There is no reason for this relationship anymore - feelings disappeared, past hurts accumulates and explodes, essential elements gone. Even if he gets back to you, how can you run a car without its fuel and wheels? How can you build a house without the equipments and the materials?
"A boyfriend to her is someone who is going to share her happiness and sadness , someone whom she love with all her heart , someone who is willing to lend her a listening ear. He has to be the guy that gives her a whole new sense of direction in life which makes her feels like the most wonderful person in the world to have him. And that no matter how sad or sorrow she is , whenever she looks into his eyes and sees his wonderful smile will make her worries disappear. Not forgetting , someone she can trusts , be affectionate and committed to."
P.S: To source for the correct guy - never enter into a relation in just mere days or weeks. Get to know someone better. You are easily hurt, but understand why you already have 5 bfs even thought you ain't very old? There is a need, craving and desire to love and be loved in you. Because of that, you heed strongly on your first instinct (love at first sight, good impression, etc and past memories to substain a relation (he was a good, nice, etc guy in the past) Forget about possessivess and learn the art of communication and not just treat everything as a blame onto yourself and everything. Love is give and take - expecting your own share of rights and not accepting fate as it is.
Btw: Are you Cancer, Scorpio or Pisces?
Cheers -
Yun's book of CloUdiSm is not sold anywhere - its my stuff.Originally posted by Haven:Libary? MPH or Times and other good bookstores.
Look out for the part when Gray wrote the part on 'why men goes into their cave. - Withdrawal'
Alternatively, you can also lookout for Yun's book of Cloudism. take care of yourself. 
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kill ur bf... then kill yourself. n dun forget to kill the other girl too...