flirting behind my back
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I was at my boyfriend's house playing his computer..
while he was not around..
i actually went to click a nick on his icq...and read the message history..
And i saw he was flirting behind my back...
he was asking like whether she miss him or not..
then give gdnight kiss...
should i confront him? overall their conversation only look like flirting...i know hes not doing this to me in real life ....
he treat me good in real life...
what should i do?Im afraid of losing this relationship or spoil this relationship...trust... and so...
I am miserable now because i know whats going on but im not confronting him about it... -
take care girl.Originally posted by Sunshine08:I was at my boyfriend's house playing his computer..
while he was not around..
i actually went to click a nick on his icq...and read the message history..
And i saw he was flirting behind my back...
he was asking like whether she miss him or not..
then give gdnight kiss...
should i confront him? overall their conversation only look like flirting...i know hes not doing this to me in real life ....
he treat me good in real life...
what should i do?
talk to him, dun guess. -
i was involved in a similar case.... not directly but truth is ask urself if u love him enuff to 4 give him n not even bring this up when u quarrel..... love but dun love blindly
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Clarify wif him. To noe is better than NOT noeing & anyhow tinking + imagination...Originally posted by Sunshine08:I was at my boyfriend's house playing his computer..
while he was not around..
i actually went to click a nick on his icq...and read the message history..
And i saw he was flirting behind my back...
he was asking like whether she miss him or not..
then give gdnight kiss...
should i confront him? overall their conversation only look like flirting...i know hes not doing this to me in real life ....
he treat me good in real life...
what should i do?Im afraid of losing this relationship or spoil this relationship...trust... and so...
I am miserable now because i know whats going on but im not confronting him about it... -
think e guy's behaviour is like us buaya gals like that.... quite common here....Originally posted by loneryu00:Clarify wif him. To noe is better than NOT noeing & anyhow tinking + imagination... -
i went thru something similiar..Originally posted by Sunshine08:I was at my boyfriend's house playing his computer..
while he was not around..
i actually went to click a nick on his icq...and read the message history..
And i saw he was flirting behind my back...
he was asking like whether she miss him or not..
then give gdnight kiss...
should i confront him? overall their conversation only look like flirting...i know hes not doing this to me in real life ....
he treat me good in real life...
what should i do?Im afraid of losing this relationship or spoil this relationship...trust... and so...
I am miserable now because i know whats going on but im not confronting him about it...
think u talk to him calmly.. ask him abt it...
dun jump to conclusion...
it may cost u ur relationship...
something i learn the hard way... -
From how she describes... ya lah... but we dun noe da guy well... so cannot anyhow make assumption.Originally posted by harryryan:think e guy's behaviour is like us buaya gals like that.... quite common here....
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Y? U whack him wif a sledge hammer?!Originally posted by xUe_ReN:i went thru something similiar..
think u talk to him calmly.. ask him abt it...
dun jump to conclusion...
it may cost u ur relationship...
something i learn the hard way...
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it's some what natural for a guy to buaya if he has wat it takes...i dun so....exit...Originally posted by loneryu00:From how she describes... ya lah... but we dun noe da guy well... so cannot anyhow make assumption. -
huh???Originally posted by loneryu00:Y? U whack him wif a sledge hammer?!
why what??
of coz i didn't whack him with a sledge hammer...
but the incident somehow cost my relationship to broke up...
think i was too impulsive back then... -
U have wat it takes... trust me...Originally posted by harryryan:it's some what natural for a guy to buaya if he has wat it takes...i dun so....exit...
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i believe it's not what u do now that matters. it's how u feel. if this thing is gonna nag at u even if u confront him or not, then wat's the point? it's about how u are gonna get urself to trust him, and have no worries about him flirting. he can even be flirting in front of u and u wouldn't be affected. of course i'm not saying that this is wat he should do. it about how u decide to view the situation. sometimes, i understand, it's hard to control how u feel.
out of topic abit. just wanna talk about such situations. there is one "rule" that comes to my head. "what you don't know can't hurt you". maybe this passage i'm about to type refers to ur bf, for this case. he, stupidly flirts with a girl online and LEAVES proof, and now he should suffer the consequences. had he not left a history behind, none of this would have happened. i believe (since u do) he treats you like his princess and wouldn't dream of betraying u in real life, but why throw a spanner in the works by letting u find out something like this which was done in the name of fun or even boredom? to all of u reading out there, the statement of "what you don't know can't hurt u" refers to all the things that u do that could LEAD to ur other half finding out and being unhappy about, even if it's done without any harmful intent whatsoever.
the reason why i feel this is important in a reln is becos sometimes it's not what we DO that bothers the other person, it's what they BELIEVE. just an obvious example, if i came home one day and caught my gf in bed (clothed) with another guy, and she says they were just lying there tokking cock, u think i'm gonna BELIEVE that even if what she said is the truth? (pls don't say it's her brother or cousin or wat. even my BEST friend wouldn't or shouldn't be lying in MY bed with MY gf rite?)
anyway back to the topic, let's really hope that ur guy is a good man, and that u get over this apprehension of urs quick smart. whatever u do (confront or not) isn't wrong, it's just how you decide to deal with it. i wrote this in effort to bring up a point, which is not what he did, but what u believe, what u think is happening. if u truly believe in this reln, then try ur best to get rid of all those negative thoughts. confronting him may help, it may not. u know better.
hope things get better soon! -
run faster.....Originally posted by loneryu00:U have wat it takes... trust me... -
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Oic... lucky U never used sledge hammer on him... can be sentenced to death for murder......Originally posted by xUe_ReN:huh???
why what??
of coz i didn't whack him with a sledge hammer...
but the incident somehow cost my relationship to broke up...
think i was too impulsive back then...
Now U learnt da lesson, U noe how to put to good use in future r/s, rite?
Dis is all part of life... learning... smth good, u noe? We ALL make mistakes, & we learn from them to better ourselves. To be a better man... & woman. -
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to learn not to make e same mistakes is wat we should always be doing......Originally posted by loneryu00:Oic... lucky U never used sledge hammer on him... can be sentenced to death for murder......
Now U learnt da lesson, U noe how to put to good use in future r/s, rite?
Dis is all part of life... learning... smth good, u noe? We ALL make mistakes, & we learn from them to better ourselves. To be a better man... & woman. -
I noe... but some ppl... juz cannot learn...Originally posted by harryryan:to learn not to make e same mistakes is wat we should always be doing......
Lets all bless these ppl, so they can be better in da future. -
Originally posted by loneryu00:Oic... lucky U never used sledge hammer on him... can be sentenced to death for murder......
Now U learnt da lesson, U noe how to put to good use in future r/s, rite?
Dis is all part of life... learning... smth good, u noe? We ALL make mistakes, & we learn from them to better ourselves. To be a better man... & woman. 
I really do hope that i know how to put what i had learn into good use... character is already impulsive... -
Noeing yr "weakness" is 1 step to better yrself... coz U noe it is a "prob" & U r aware of it... U will try to improve on dat... somedae U willl NOT be as impulsive as U tot to be...Originally posted by xUe_ReN: I really do hope that i know how to put what i had learn into good use... character is already impulsive... -
Originally posted by loneryu00:Noeing yr "weakness" is 1 step to better yrself... coz U noe it is a "prob" & U r aware of it... U will try to improve on dat... somedae U willl NOT be as impulsive as U tot to be...
looks like i'm the one who needs counselling... -
actually i might belong to that group.... but onli when love is concernedOriginally posted by loneryu00:I noe... but some ppl... juz cannot learn...
Lets all bless these ppl, so they can be better in da future.
Love is blind as they say but i hope i can wake up b4 i get 2 seriously hurted. -
Originally posted by loneryu00:From how she describes... ya lah... but we dun noe da guy well... so cannot anyhow make assumption.
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Sure got MANY ppl here willing to help U in dat...Originally posted by xUe_ReN:
looks like i'm the one who needs counselling... -
Originally posted by loneryu00:Sure got MANY ppl here willing to help U in dat...