hey... i dun agree lor... i would def apologize and pacify if im in the wrong but NOT when Im NOT in the wrong... (mayb its juz my view)...Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
Don't panic - the more you panic, the more illusion will slip in and in the end, its you who will cause the tension in your own relationship.Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
BREAK OFF with him lor... why must stick on to such r/s...Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
Originally posted by windjammer:BREAK OFF with him lor... why must stick on to such r/s...![]()
maybe in the so called 'honeymoon' period, the guy will do anything even if he's not at fault....Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
Your BF is sick and tired.Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...have you done this for him? be there and try to cheer him up?
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
well said!!Originally posted by the Bear:here's my observation:
you know why the man tries to pacify the woman?
BECAUSE HE LOVES HER and will give his right arm to make her happy!
women sometimes take advantage of this.. and it tears apart the heart of the man.. don't take advantage of your man..
best become your gf right...Originally posted by windjammer:BREAK OFF with him lor... why must stick on to such r/s...![]()
Originally posted by cHeR|sH^LoVe:haiz.. i also having quarrels with my bf.. i also losing faith.. i think.. haiz.. cannot make it le..![]()
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huh??? i too old for her liaoz...Originally posted by Xcert:best become your gf right...![]()
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that is always the trait of a woman...Originally posted by the Bear:actually as much as i'd want to say such things to people, i'd never advice anyone to do that.. this action must come from within the person himself/herself..
i feel i have no right to prod them towards this decision... but that's me...
Originally posted by windjammer:that is always the trait of a woman...![]()
Sad to say you will never understand a woman...Originally posted by the Bear:i guess i'll never understand women...
when a man says something like this, women will say he is an unreasonable and insensitive barbarian
when a woman says this, the same women will go "you go! girl!"
but it isn't is it? gender discrimination also swings the other way, just because men do not make so much noise, it does not mean that they are taking it well...
just like in the problem of this thread... the lady is almost insisting that the man pander to her, even when she's wrong and unreasonable... he must back down and pacify her...
i think this is supermassive black hole syndrome... self-indulgent, self-centred and selfish...
but watch for it... the man will be accused of the same very things
Originally posted by windjammer:Sad to say you will never understand a woman...But nevertheless most of us guys will do their biddings in one way or the other...
good point madeOriginally posted by the Bear:and here's the thing... just because we are unable to figure a woman out, it NEVER EVER means that we do not love them...
why is it most women think:
He doesn't understand me = He doesn't love me
not a chance.. he's still there for you.. he has no idea what's going on, yet on blind faith, he's still standing beside you, willing (even if not able) to take on the world and more for you...
yet, women do not think that is love...
a man, would go to hell and fight the satanic hordes if she wished it, he does not know why but he'll go... on pure blind faith, but cannot understand why she needs him to, but will anyway, if it pleased her
she will still think he does not love her... because he doesn't know why
alas...
dun lose faith... quarrelling is just normal lor... and pacifying girls isn't what a guy should do... it really depends on what u guys quarrel bout... if u're just grouchy he'll simply just pacify u saying "it's okie dear" or buy u something nice or bring u to somewhere nice is just how he expresses his care for u... it's not a "must do" thing...Originally posted by *evanesence*:usually the guy (regardless of whether he is or isnt in the wrong) would pacify the girl..
OR am I wrong?
I personally think that girls like to be pacified by boyfriends during a quarrel...
And usually guys would be try to cheer their gf up..even though they are not at fault...
But now, my BF doesnt even bother to do that...
Even when it's his fault!
He has changed... and Im losing faith....
U still young wat...Originally posted by cHeR|sH^LoVe:haiz.. i also having quarrels with my bf.. i also losing faith.. i think.. haiz.. cannot make it le..![]()
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