When a couple quarrels....
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Then DON'T understand them! Love them for who & wat they r! simple.Originally posted by the Bear:i guess i'll never understand women...
when a man says something like this, women will say he is an unreasonable and insensitive barbarian
when a woman says this, the same women will go "you go! girl!"
but it isn't is it? gender discrimination also swings the other way, just because men do not make so much noise, it does not mean that they are taking it well...
just like in the problem of this thread... the lady is almost insisting that the man pander to her, even when she's wrong and unreasonable... he must back down and pacify her..
i think this is supermassive black hole syndrome... self-indulgent, self-centred and selfish...
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Might be 1 posibility... but lets put it aside & consider other BETTER things... Y not have a GOOD tok wif him?Originally posted by Guy23:Juz some comments, i tink he might have new fond girl or he may be juz plain too tired of u....
Yr posting here means most likely U losing not only faith... but trust in him... U need to reassure yrself... Go & have a good tok... find a suitable time & place... then TOK. -
Haaa.....that's what i'm going thru now.....She said that i don't love her!Originally posted by the Bear:and here's the thing... just because we are unable to figure a woman out, it NEVER EVER means that we do not love them...
why is it most women think:
He doesn't understand me = He doesn't love me
not a chance.. he's still there for you.. he has no idea what's going on, yet on blind faith, he's still standing beside you, willing (even if not able) to take on the world and more for you...
yet, women do not think that is love...
a man, would go to hell and fight the satanic hordes if she wished it, he does not know why but he'll go... on pure blind faith, but cannot understand why she needs him to, but will anyway, if it pleased her
she will still think he does not love her... because he doesn't know why
alas...
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Aiyo! Don't worry... YOU ALL STILL HAVE ME!Originally posted by Haven:Haaa.....that's what i'm going thru now.....She said that i don't love her! 
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WEE-U-WEE!Originally posted by loneryu00:Then DON'T understand them! Love them for who & wat they r! simple.
If you can't beat them, join them - If you can't understand them, love them anyway. -
we do.. we will always... however, it hurts being accused of not being something that is so a part of you that you revel being in, heart and soul...
we love the women in our lives no matter how much we try and fail to understand them... and we will continue to do so...
even when we are hurt by the accusations of us not loving them, we will continue to... maybe it's the other way around? they don't and refuse to understand this...Originally posted by Yunhaier:WEE-U-WEE! If you can't beat them, join them - If you can't understand them, love them anyway. -
Originally posted by loneryu00:Then DON'T understand them! Love them for who & wat they r! simple.
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best way is to stay UNATTACHED...
you will not hv this problems... -
Ok, let me get serious now.Originally posted by the Bear:we do.. we will always... however, it hurts being accused of not being something that is so a part of you that you revel being in, heart and soul...
we love the women in our lives no matter how much we try and fail to understand them... and we will continue to do so...
even when we are hurt by the accusations of us not loving them, we will continue to... maybe it's the other way around? they don't and refuse to understand this...
The understanding of woman is actually not as complicating as guys would think it is, basically there is a reason for everything - just that some of these reasons, guys wouldn't have gone through in their life. Things like PMS, etc, which will drastically change their mood and seemingly character and their behavior.
To understand another person isn't easy - but its not impossible. Generally, woman divide their character under two huge category.
I) General woman
II) Specific
What people always knew about woman is the general woman (GW) characteristic. Things like woman's needs to feel love to have sex, woman's needs to be dependancy, the materialistic side of a woman, etc. But what people often overlook is the specific character in their own unique individuals.
NOT every woman reacts/behaviors the same way under the GW catergory - this is the part that guys needs to seek and learn more about. At times - Specific characteristics contradict GW, and in this case the prior always overrule.
P.S: Rome wasn't built in a day; before you can understand woman, first you need to understand yourself. How well do you know yourself?
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i'll get serious too...
men try to understand.. women say it's the effort and not the results that move their hearts... then when men try their damnest and still fail, the "he does not love me" usually comes up... do they themselves know what they have just done? almost all do not have a clue...
we men will fail no matter what.. it is an old saying that women are whimsical.. there is some truth in this... when we thought we figured out something, invariably, she changes... and we try again.. again and again and again... we do not give up because we love them...
check out what *evanesence* says... women think they have the right to blow up at their menfolk and then their menfolk MUST come and cajole them and pander to their anger... no matter how unreasonable they were to their men...
does this look like respect for their menfolk?
which is why i asked this question... if women lament their menfolk not understanding them, have they even TRIED to understand their menfolk? instead of the usual condescending "oh.. he's just like that..." and dismiss him... why is he "like that", she doesn't even have a clue and does not even bother to scratch the surface...
most men try to understand their womenfolk.. and fail... but they still love their partner and will give their right arm to please her
most women usually don't even try... they do not understand but insist they do... then complain their partners "don't love me because he does not understand me"... when he loves her so dearly..
there's no right or wrong.. but from a man who's seen what the heck's been happening out there, truly the female is the deadlier of the species.. she can use her gender as a weapon against her partner and most out there cannot even see this happening...
alas...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Ok, let me get serious now.
The understanding of woman is actually not as complicating as guys would think it is, basically there is a reason for everything - just that some of these reasons, guys wouldn't have gone through in their life. Things like PMS, etc, which will drastically change their mood and seemingly character and their behavior.
To understand another person isn't easy - but its not impossible. Generally, woman divide their character under two huge category.
I) General woman
II) Specific
What people always knew about woman is the general woman (GW) characteristic. Things like woman's needs to feel love to have sex, woman's needs to be dependancy, the materialistic side of a woman, etc. But what people often overlook is the specific character in their own unique individuals.
NOT every woman reacts/behaviors the same way under the GW catergory - this is the part that guys needs to seek and learn more about. At times - Specific characteristics contradict GW, and in this case the prior always overrule.
P.S: Rome wasn't built in a day; before you can understand woman, first you need to understand yourself. How well do you know yourself?
Cheers -
actually i tink only e one at fault shd give in first..if everytime is ur bf give in n somemore not his fault..sooner or later he will feel tired abt tis relationship n u will take his love for granted easily oso is unfair for him.. cHeer uP~
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Basically, it's not the guy's 'task' to pacify girls all the time. I believe it's more of not wanting their gal to be sad and angry, hence the pacifying. Never take things for granted, perhaps you're too used to be pacified all the time, doesn't matter who's at fault. But as long as you're unhappy, he'll pacify you that kinda stuffs. Put yourself in his shoes sometimes, dont you think it's abit tiring and unfair?
Forgive me for being blunt, no offence intended. But I'm a girl, I know how you feel when your guy suddenly leaves you on your own.
No more coaxing and stuffs, but probably he's too preoccupied to notice that you need to be pacified now? Ultimately guys are much more straight forward than us girls. That's not a weakness of theirs, it's their strength. Go have a talk with him, sometimes letting him know what you want is better than to leave him to guess on his own. If you read up 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus' you'll noticed the general behavious and characteristics. *Note the word used is general*
Take it in your stride, think positively. If you tell yourself you can, you can. Don't walk towards darkness. -