Are you tired?
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Everytime I see ppl posting their problem (especially love prob...) here... Its roughly da same issue... "BF see other gals, some misunderstanding, blah blah blah, etc, etc......"
I tried da best I could to "persuade" da poster to "look on da bright side of life"... But I can still see more & more prob popping out... its like repeating my tots & comments... machiam like photocopying...... -______-'''
I noe... helping others is da norm in dis forum... but to da "Aunts & Uncles" of AA, dun U get tired of answering da "same genre" of da prob? I noe some r very hardworking in trying to "explain" to da poster... Most obvious to me so far is Yun... (poor him... tink like mad, type like mad...)
I mean... yah~ AA is wat posters shld post their probs wat... but dun U ppl see a bit ALOT of "love" prob here? Y not juz hold a class or lecture on love probs for those who have it? Or print a book written by ALL da "Aunts & Uncles" of AA? Settle liao loh! -___- -
Should have some Aunt Agony FAQs.
maybe Yun can hold some talk shows also.
I think those who post here just want some comfort and most of all, a listening ear, and that's what a book can't do.
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haha.. yah.. faqs.. so u can haf a disclaimer saying " b4 u post ur problem please read the faq and see if ur problem has already been answered there. only if u r dead sure no one else has posted the same problem and it has not been addressed b4 den u post ur problem!"Originally posted by Parka: Should have some Aunt Agony FAQs.
maybe Yun can hold some talk shows also. I think those who post here just want some comfort and most of all, a listening ear, and that's what a book can't do. -
my thoughts...
i think we have to put ourselves in their shoes.. they are troubled and don't know who to seek for help.. in AA you can remain anonymous and still able to hear opinions so many ppl around.. most importantly, we you are emotionally troubled, you wouldn't be bothered to read down the list of problems to see if your problems are repeated.. u simple start a new thread hoping for ppl to read and share their views..
helping ppl solving the problems should be a joy.. it doesn't matter if they accept your 'solution'.. ppl just want options to choose.. options to know wat they can do to help alleviate their problems.. and sometimes they post because they just need to let it out and not keep it in their heart, so they are not necessarily seeking a solution.. ultimately, it's their life and they must make their own decisions..
so, just share when u feel convicted to share.. it's also your choice to just ignore and walk on
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There is jus too many broken hearts in this world....
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what becomes of the brokenhearted, who has love that's now departed......
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They dun accept "our" solutions... they solve it themselves...Originally posted by sillyme:my thoughts...
i think we have to put ourselves in their shoes.. they are troubled and don't know who to seek for help.. in AA you can remain anonymous and still able to hear opinions so many ppl around.. most importantly, we you are emotionally troubled, you wouldn't be bothered to read down the list of problems to see if your problems are repeated.. u simple start a new thread hoping for ppl to read and share their views..
helping ppl solving the problems should be a joy.. it doesn't matter if they accept your 'solution'.. ppl just want options to choose.. options to know wat they can do to help alleviate their problems.. and sometimes they post because they just need to let it out and not keep it in their heart, so they are not necessarily seeking a solution.. ultimately, it's their life and they must make their own decisions..
so, just share when u feel convicted to share.. it's also your choice to just ignore and walk on
Do U like to share when U virtually see "similar" probs repeating over & over again? U too will get tired... -
Originally posted by loneryu00:They dun accept "our" solutions... they solve it themselves...
Do U like to share when U virtually see "similar" probs repeating over & over again? U too will get tired... They just want a listening ear and a "push" to get on with their lives.
The solutions we render are just advice. The fact that our advice is not used is not because they are not suitable, it's because they feel that their own solutions are better.
Tired?
Yesh, a bit.
Actually those heartbroken one still okay.
I bet you have also came across those super pessimistic ones. Wow. They are super BLUE, I'm telling you. -
Whoever have prob & post here r "blue" enuf...Originally posted by Parka: They just want a listening ear and a "push" to get on with their lives.
The solutions we render are just advice. The fact that our advice is not used is not because they are not suitable, it's because they feel that their own solutions are better.
Tired?
Yesh, a bit.
Actually those heartbroken one still okay.
I bet you have also came across those super pessimistic ones. Wow. They are super BLUE, I'm telling you. -
I vote for course in school to let us know better how man n women feel....why so differently. 'Man fr Mars & Woman fr Venus' class. That shld solve the prob, better than to explain how the probs shld be dealt with. Everyone deals with things differently, no standard solutions, only applicable ones. To u/stand each other (man & woman), we r able to u/stand probs n solving them caomes more naturally with the awareness of how probs might have come abt.
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everyone should know and must understand that a male n female can never be the same!
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yeah yeah..i agree manz.haha.yun hai er is the most suitable candidate. hoho.Originally posted by Parka: Should have some Aunt Agony FAQs.
maybe Yun can hold some talk shows also. I think those who post here just want some comfort and most of all, a listening ear, and that's what a book can't do. 
hmmm......actually i think alot of pple know like what they should do..all those..but they just want someone to listen to and comfort them...so oh well..its understandable lah... -
that's why they say men are from mars..and women are from venus...hoho...Originally posted by xiao_p:everyone should know and must understand that a male n female can never be the same!
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Hmm......Originally posted by reallieRAW:I vote for course in school to let us know better how man n women feel....why so differently. 'Man fr Mars & Woman fr Venus' class. That shld solve the prob, better than to explain how the probs shld be dealt with. Everyone deals with things differently, no standard solutions, only applicable ones. To u/stand each other (man & woman), we r able to u/stand probs n solving them caomes more naturally with the awareness of how probs might have come abt.
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hide in toilet bowl for wat? nice smell ah?Originally posted by loneryu00:Hmm......
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n itz quite true that women can't read mapsOriginally posted by yErN:that's why they say men are from mars..and women are from venus...hoho... -
Originally posted by xiao_p:n itz quite true that women can't read maps and parallel parking, while you're at it.
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this is a vicious cycle, no matter what it wont end. just like birth, age, death.
its part of life, even if its the same genre of matter, it comes from each individual unique soul.
yes tired you can say, but when the times come 4 or happen on you, my friend, here will be the best place for you, if you couldnt find a better way to seek for a listening ear=o)
cheers
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Aiyo... devil also wor... he very hardworking moderator ok?Originally posted by loneryu00:Everytime I see ppl posting their problem (especially love prob...) here... Its roughly da same issue... "BF see other gals, some misunderstanding, blah blah blah, etc, etc......"
I tried da best I could to "persuade" da poster to "look on da bright side of life"... But I can still see more & more prob popping out... its like repeating my tots & comments... machiam like photocopying...... -______-'''
I noe... helping others is da norm in dis forum... but to da "Aunts & Uncles" of AA, dun U get tired of answering da "same genre" of da prob? I noe some r very hardworking in trying to "explain" to da poster... Most obvious to me so far is Yun... (poor him... tink like mad, type like mad...)
I mean... yah~ AA is wat posters shld post their probs wat... but dun U ppl see a bit ALOT of "love" prob here? Y not juz hold a class or lecture on love probs for those who have it? Or print a book written by ALL da "Aunts & Uncles" of AA? Settle liao loh! -___-
There are a couple of category of people who post in Aunt Agony.
There are the genuine problem near desperate type - newbie who join and post their problem and disappear. Normally I replied to these kind of post - especially if their post are long and problems unique.
There are the exisiting problem coming over and over and over and over and over again OR updating of past issues. Not saying that there is anything wrong - however when I know I said enough, I ceased.
And the rest (others) formed the huge bulk of AA's problems - mixture of everything - from relationship to sexual identity crisis.
Well, people who post their problem doesn't know those huge other similiar problems that took place previously wor - well, If I feel I need to get some point across, I will just do it lor - I am just so naggy
Maybe I will stop one day - when my country calls for my service to her?
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Aiya... lets have Aunt agony monthly meeting!Originally posted by Parka: Should have some Aunt Agony FAQs.
maybe Yun can hold some talk shows also. I think those who post here just want some comfort and most of all, a listening ear, and that's what a book can't do.
Go kopi lar... come listen to my lectures. Nagged you to death -
hi loner~~
no actually i'm not tired of the "repeated" topics. each person's problem is unique, but could seem very simlar to the others. and one big difference in ALL problems, is that it affects them personally. to us giving advice it's the "same", to them, it's the total opposite. their problems usually seem the world to them, and that makes it different from the rest of the "same" problems. the key here is that to us it's the same, to them it's definitely not. even IF two pple have the EXACT same circumstance, it's still not the same by virtue of the fact that they are two seperate pple.
now i do get ur point about getting tired of the same ol "sh[/i]it" and of course we have our time contraints and commitments in our own lives to deal with. and this is what i do, as u notice i do not reply to every AA thread, as and when i have time to read and certain convicting thoughts worth sharing come into my head, THEN i post an "essay". we can't help everybody, but i feel it's not fair to say that it's the same problems over and over.
another example is when u receive 2 letters. if one is titled "dear loneryu" and the other "dear all", which one will u read first?
this simple example illustrates how our replies to each INDIVIDUAL problem means to the "agonised". it is our personal touch to them as an individual person that can help. not just an "ok for all those of u who have just broken up, this is way u should do" kind of mass mail.
no offence to u at all, i see u have been putting in alot of effort to help pple here in this forum, but don't lose sight that u are helping ONE at a time, and if it requires u repeating yourself constantly, think of what a difference you've made to ONE person.
just remember, u're helping a person feel better and giving advice where possible, not solving the same problems where the same answer is needed (like 1+1=2?? ) -
My wae of observing things...Originally posted by reallieRAW:hide in toilet bowl for wat? nice smell ah? -
Dev only ans when he free... & ans da WHOLE postings he see fit... though got some really good pieces lah... so he oso hardworking lah... I agree...Originally posted by Yunhaier:Aiyo... devil also wor... he very hardworking moderator ok?
There are a couple of category of people who post in Aunt Agony.
There are the genuine problem near desperate type - newbie who join and post their problem and disappear. Normally I replied to these kind of post - especially if their post are long and problems unique.
There are the exisiting problem coming over and over and over and over and over again OR updating of past issues. Not saying that there is anything wrong - however when I know I said enough, I ceased.
And the rest (others) formed the huge bulk of AA's problems - mixture of everything - from relationship to sexual identity crisis.
Well, people who post their problem doesn't know those huge other similiar problems that took place previously wor - well, If I feel I need to get some point across, I will just do it lor - I am just so naggy
Maybe I will stop one day - when my country calls for my service to her?
*Wink*
Yun, at least U got da heart & patience to reply to their troubles... I see liao I get tired... I rather go BUAYA!!!
Joho... wat U said have really gave me smth to tink... I will reflect on wat U & da rest have said here... thanks, ppl!
But right now my feeling is more like......
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sorri....i was one of e troublesome pple....but just wanna say u guys really help alot.... but sometimes pple w emotional burdens just needs an oulet for their frustrations n u pple r e best....being there for us when it matters....thanx
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U? ok lah... anywae... dat time I was ALL out to help U & Floppy... but things turned out unexpected... ITs after yr case I saw others, then I get a bit "off". Dun worry abt it.Originally posted by harryryan:sorri....i was one of e troublesome pple....but just wanna say u guys really help alot.... but sometimes pple w emotional burdens just needs an oulet for their frustrations n u pple r e best....being there for us when it matters....thanx
Anywae I need to start a DIFFERENT topic from da usual norm wat... U ppl keep seeing da same "genre" of probs here sure sian wat...