If u r ur bf/gf 1st sTeaD......
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Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once..... -
Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once.....
U shldnt have done it in da 1st place... normally for ppl... their reaction is somewat similar to yrs... Maybe me too... but IF I not dat DEEPLY in love... I juz comment... "Need more exp?"
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he say not for now.. heng liao lor.. i will be piss if my gf lyk tt ask me.. i wll purposely say stuff to make her angry.. erm.. i suggest u tell u sry u recently very depress..
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Ur bf doesn't seem very sincere or confident of the future of your relationship.
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i duno leh,all along i've think tt my bf is not a romantic guy,i've asked him 2 find other gals 1st then cm back find mi,but he scold mi bo liao n ask mi not 2 tok rubbish....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once.....
as 4 the reply he had given u,maybe he's uncertain abt yr future, n it's dangerous staying wif this kind of guy? -
why ask ur bf foolish qns? since u ask him to try out new relationship then why bother abt his ans? if u get hurt by his ans, u sld nt ask such sensitive qns at the 1st plc.......finding trouble for urself!
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A foolish question and in return you get back a foolish answer. Let me tell you the consequences of saying that statement.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once.....
Your boyfriend will stick with you until he find someone better. Then the someone better comes along - he will use this excuse to leave you - the statement you told him. Try new relationship lor - then if he can make it with her, you are gone. If not, he will come back look for you if the needs to feel dependancy arrive.
Why he wuld do that? DON'T HAVE TO BE 'BAD' GUY wor... gf herself say one
Serious? What do you think after you claim that statement and I tells you about the subconscious effect?
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hah..she prob thinks her bf is some sheep who will go ard and graze..then nitetime tired liao go back to her..
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they r young... of coz cannot so fast decide...Originally posted by Forever84:Ur bf doesn't seem very sincere or confident of the future of your relationship. -
Ohh my goodnes U are still very young I suppose... to ask your BF to go try other Gers... U have totlally lost control of the whole relationship liao.. I suggest u dump him and move on .. anyway confirm ur relationship will be over ..either sooner or later.
An trust me, if he does really go sleep with other gers, u will not be able to take it inspite of u acting cool or rather HOt in asking him to go try other gers !
STUPID
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i think his bf jus not happy she lyk tt ask.. so gif her tis type or reply.. u all say till so cham.. wad break wad dump..
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Relax lah......Originally posted by stoner:Ohh my goodnes U are still very young I suppose... to ask your BF to go try other Gers... U have totlally lost control of the whole relationship liao.. I suggest u dump him and move on .. anyway confirm ur relationship will be over ..either sooner or later.
An trust me, if he does really go sleep with other gers, u will not be able to take it inspite of u acting cool or rather HOt in asking him to go try other gers !
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i'd feel u were dumping me lol.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once.....
i would be annoyed oso by that Qn -
Dun feel stupid, cos i used to ask him that in the past too.....Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Will u let him/her haf a change of gf/bf to try out a new relationship.... ?
I cant believe i told my bf tat if u wanna haf a change of gf , i will agree to it juz to let u try out new relationships..... dunno wad had came over me to ask tis nonsensical qns....
Ends up getting hurt when he replied wif a not for now......
If u were me , how will u feel wif his ans.... ? Will u lose any sense of security in him/her...... ?
Just curious..... hehhe , tink i ask too many qns all at once.....
I juz broke off with my 1st bf..........
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Most importantly, learn to cherish each other! -
U've learnt a GOOD lesson.Originally posted by BlueMe:Dun feel stupid, cos i used to ask him that in the past too.....
I juz broke off with my 1st bf..........
Note:
Most importantly, learn to cherish each other!
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Every qns i ask , there will always be a reason.... in tis case , i feel tat he doesn't seems to be contented wif onli me as his gf.... he ever told me tat he wanna two-timed or three-timed me.....
And the reason to tis qns , i dun wan him to regret being wif me without having a taste of another relationship wif someone else if one dae we ever get married..... i noe its too early to tink abt marriage at tis age.... but he is the onli one tat makes me wanna settle my heart down.....
Tis thought kept running thru my mine - since tis relationship is getting nowhere , ain't improving at all.... y not haf a clean break wif him to prevent myself frm sinking into further depression.... dun contact him anymore n forget everything abt him.... but i....juz cant mention tis to him as i dun wanna regret wad i've requested for in the future.....
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No comments.
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Actually i was hoping he could gif me the kinda qns ur guy gave u , i was hoping tat he would assure me and neutralise tis insecurity tat i've had in tis relationship....Originally posted by curad:i duno leh,all along i've think tt my bf is not a romantic guy,i've asked him 2 find other gals 1st then cm back find mi,but he scold mi bo liao n ask mi not 2 tok rubbish....
as 4 the reply he had given u,maybe he's uncertain abt yr future, n it's dangerous staying wif this kind of guy?
Exactly ~ its dangerous to stay wif tis kinda guy like u said.... i dunno when he will leave me for another gal.... and tis feeling ain't nice at all..... -
But still , i wanna thank u for taking some of ur precious time to read my posts....Originally posted by loneryu00:No comments.
i noe u r mentally exhuasted to post any further advices when the same issuses regarding bgr is poping up in the forum so frequently..... -
Hey Gal....u r still young. I know u hope to make him ur husband one day....but a lasting relationship involve too many unpredicted things!Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Every qns i ask , there will always be a reason.... in tis case , i feel tat he doesn't seems to be contented wif onli me as his gf.... he ever told me tat he wanna two-timed or three-timed me.....
And the reason to tis qns , i dun wan him to regret being wif me without having a taste of another relationship wif someone else if one dae we ever get married..... i noe its too early to tink abt marriage at tis age.... but he is the onli one tat makes me wanna settle my heart down.....
Tis thought kept running thru my mine - since tis relationship is getting nowhere , ain't improving at all.... y not haf a clean break wif him to prevent myself frm sinking into further depression.... dun contact him anymore n forget everything abt him.... but i....juz cant mention tis to him as i dun wanna regret wad i've requested for in the future.....
I dun know how long both have been together? But my 1st last 6yrs before he told me we are nt suitable. We been thru studies, his NS and to work life...But i nv regret being together, at least we tried....
u can try and find out whether this guy is the ONE? But bare in mind, there will be sadness, but oni u can judge whether this feeling is worth anot.
Worth
keep it as a sweet memory
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Your made a wrong move and definitely would have negative effect on your relationship. Your thoughts are not wrong - its filled with inferiority and the mis-conception of love and relationship.Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:Every qns i ask , there will always be a reason.... in tis case , i feel tat he doesn't seems to be contented wif onli me as his gf.... he ever told me tat he wanna two-timed or three-timed me.....
And the reason to tis qns , i dun wan him to regret being wif me without having a taste of another relationship wif someone else if one dae we ever get married..... i noe its too early to tink abt marriage at tis age.... but he is the onli one tat makes me wanna settle my heart down.....
Tis thought kept running thru my mine - since tis relationship is getting nowhere , ain't improving at all.... y not haf a clean break wif him to prevent myself frm sinking into further depression.... dun contact him anymore n forget everything abt him.... but i....juz cant mention tis to him as i dun wanna regret wad i've requested for in the future.....
Doesn't seemed contented as having you as a gf? Wtf? Girl - widen your eyes and look at your bf rather than looking at him with your emotional eye. If I was a girl and my guy told me that - right away, its a byebye. Or if I really love him alot - I will try to work for a way to change his preception.
You ain't trying to change his preception - you are leading it. There is no such thing as regret being with YOU without a taste of having another relationship with somebody else. This is an excuse your mind is conjuring because you are tired of this relationship. You said he is the only one to want to make you settle down - let me tell you, definitely there are people out there better. You should have someone who appreciate you for who you are, being with you because he loves being with you, than superficial reasons to be together.
You feel that the relationship is leading to nowhere - this is a strong sign that you love descends into the Decline Stage - CloUdiSm remix III (Love life Cycle). You reason why you are not ending this reason because something is holding you back.
However, your bf is holding back because there isn't anyone suitable to chase or to get YET. Its all about timing. When someone decent and good comes along - likes him too - He will kick you aside. I throw my bet on this 89.3% WHICH DECENT BF WOULD TELL THEIR GF THAT HE WANTS TO TWO TIMED OR THREE TIMED HER? Absolutely ridiculous.
My take is that - if you rather wait for such scenarios to happen - might as well, date him out, have a serious talk with him about what the both of you wants to do with the relationship. Don't want to work towards it - forget about it.
Let me tell you: the thing about relationship is not whether it has ended or not - its about good memories and how it ended. There is thousand of people rather use tactics to end this relationship - two time lar, etc - in the end, it leaves very bad memories and it sux. Talk lar - why cannot talk like a matured couple? How many times better than playing mind and waiting games. Haiz... this is your first boyfriend I suppose - Probably there is alot for you to learn. Learn it fast - you don't have to go through this lessons again - forget about it, it will return.
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this is my opinon after looking at ur other thread.
some possibilities:
1) he already low self esteem....u say that,he feels hurt n wanna hurt u back..... *bangs.... shot in e stomach by my snipper cat*
2)he really wanna go n try out other relationships but he scared u get hurted cos u 2 togeher so long liao but his hart is already planning to*bang*shots his left hand*
3)he doesn't wanna lose u yet cos u r still useful to him*bang.... shots his right leg*
4)he doesn't use his brain to think.... he really has no comment but to aviod u nagging....he anyhow give answer....*loads ammo ready to shot again*
5)he just going thru a tough period of time n just wanna nag n wants some attention, wanna feel appreciated but he not good at expressing himself....so say e wrong things.... n he thought by saying so will make u hang on to him tighter...feed his ego in e process...... *still loading bullets*
6)he is a real bustard n has been wanting to leave u for a long time liao but scared u go n kill urself cos he is ur first mah.he dun wanna bear e burden of being the reason y u killed urself..... *takes aim*
7)he alreasy having flings outside but at e moment non of them is as good as u....meaning he is already two timing,three timing,four timing u ....... which means as soon as he finds one that is better than u,he will leave u.*bang.... straight thru e hart
8 )he is just going thru a spell whereby his frens r being a negative example n influence,brainwashing him.... maybe one of his frens is interested in u n have been plotting to get him out of e way n w his low confidence,he was easily swayed.....*oops..... dead liao....cannot revive liao.... better call e funeral parlour.....* -
Oei? U got read my thread har...? I didnt notice... My nose muz have been too big for me to see wats in front of me...Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:But still , i wanna thank u for taking some of ur precious time to read my posts....
i noe u r mentally exhuasted to post any further advices when the same issuses regarding bgr is poping up in the forum so frequently.....
Mentally exhausted or not... I noe it very well... Actually its not mentally exhausted... but kinda like routine... See somewat da same genre of questions in AA...
BUT as a fren, I will still try to help as much as I can... digitally... If not, how to challenge those who really doin their job here?
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well..den in tt case..i'm going to leave my 1st bf of 6 years NOW to look for another guy den go come to him..!! sweetie..it's not like tt lah..sometimes..when u wanna someone to reassure u of their love..there might be other ways..yr bf might think tt u're not serious in tis relationship..hmm..Originally posted by |Uv`-f|UtE-`:And the reason to tis qns , i dun wan him to regret being wif me without having a taste of another relationship wif someone else if one dae we ever get married..... i noe its too early to tink abt marriage at tis age.... but he is the onli one tat makes me wanna settle my heart down.....
u noe..sometimes..i really dun understand wat girls thinking abt..u noe guys..sometimes..WE really noe tt doing this or tt is wrong..but we still do it..hmm..we juz can't control ourselves..( own point of view..diff ppl diff view..) -
Originally posted by Angel^_^:well..den in tt case..i'm going to leave my 1st bf of 6 years NOW to look for another guy den go come to him..!! sweetie..it's not like tt lah..sometimes..when u wanna someone to reassure u of their love..there might be other ways..yr bf might think tt u're not serious in tis relationship..hmm..
u noe..sometimes..i really dun understand wat girls thinking abt..u noe guys..sometimes..WE really noe tt doing this or tt is wrong..but we still do it..hmm..we juz can't control ourselves..( own point of view..diff ppl diff view..) Actually Angel, the thing about woman is that even they themselves, at times, doesn't know what they are doing - talking about man trying to understand woman