My bf is gonna get married with another girl without love!!
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Originally posted by MeOwSuSan:too many black sheep.... 9 out of 10 so you see. Devil also one of the black sheep so all the girl must becareful ... keep your eyes open
watch out !!!!!
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Why did you mention his name ? Trying to spoil his reputation ? What if his friends or colleagues are surfing this forum ? You think it is okay ?Originally posted by Farahney:My boyfriend is an engineer working with a German company in Singapore.His name is Wong Hoong Wern.Last night,he confess to me that he really loves me very much but he has to make more XXXX XX
Now I'm really upset and depressed and really don't know what to do to handle this case. I hope freinds out there could help me and give me some advice. Thank you.
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Maybe because of 9-11 that chinese are more caution towards muslim ?Originally posted by ^cereal^:I place my bet that he's just waiting for the opportunity to knock her out from this round...
Since he mentioned he is going to remain as bachelor, isn't his intention rather quite clear cut? That he wanna have no more relation with you?
Want to know how he's like? Put him to a test.
GO to his house and find him. Did he tell you his parents don't want to see you? GIve him the benefit of the doubt, let's say his parents told him to tell you this, then all the more you should go n verify. Move them with sincerity. Parents love their child, will want their child to find true happiness themselves, not by telling them who they marry and who they should not. It's kinda absurd to me. -
And you believe in this b_ll sh_it ???Originally posted by Farahney:
Yesterday,on my conversation with him....he said now he dont want to hurt both sides (myself & his parents)....so he decided to be a bachelor forever. Now he said, he don't want to see/date both of the girls (as I mentioned in my first story) and any other girls and will not get married for the rest of his life to make every one happy. 
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This is my real name!!!!!Originally posted by Dino888:Why did you mention his name ? Trying to spoil his reputation ? What if his friends or colleagues are surfing this forum ? You think it is okay ?
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Farahney, just ignore the trolls?
in order to give some meaning to their own pointless existence, they have to put others down...
but try not to name people in the forums anywhere? it's not good netiquette...
be well yah?
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okOriginally posted by the Bear:Farahney, just ignore the trolls?
in order to give some meaning to their own pointless existence, they have to put others down...
but try not to name people in the forums anywhere? it's not good netiquette...
be well yah? -
I can understand how you feel, but from what you wrote, it seems very hard to believe what your bf is saying.. He must be so filial that he can give u up juz for the sake of making his parents happy.. You think for yourself, if you love someone so much, would u give him up and marry someone else juz because your parents objects to your relationship? Maybe he IS so filial, and only you know his character yourself.. you got to assess the situation now. Is he trying to get out of this relationship by coming up with this excuse? Or is he really saying the truth? I cant omit the fact that his brother married a older woman, and MAYBE he really wants to make his parents happy, but is he KILLING TWO BIRDS WITH 1 STONE?Originally posted by Farahney:My relationship with my boyfriend is already 5 years. My problem is my boyfriend is gonna get married very soon (this year) with a girl whom he does not even really dating yet just bcoz his parents only wanted a chinese girl as their daughter-in-law.
My boyfriend is an engineer working with a German company in Singapore.His name is Wong Hoong Wern.Last night,he confess to me that he really loves me very much but he has to make more friends (girl of course) so that his parents is happy and he is recently dating 2 girls behind me. One of them is preety but jobless and the other one is slim and short but only work as an operator. Me myself is a degree student in one of the private college in Malaysia.
He also asks me to make new friends (boy of course) and try to date them. I really can't do this because everyone I met is not him. Recently, my ex-boyfriend contact me after so long and my bf seems to be jealous.You see...after 5 years of wonderful relationship without any big problem....suddenly this things happen.
But he said if his marriage is unsuccessfull and the same thing also happen to me,he will come back to me because he knows that I love him so much...I love him more than I love my own parents & sibblings....he always knew that....
Lastnight,he said to give ourselves a second chance to go out with another fella and he also wants to get married with any of the two chinese girl to make his parents happy.
Previosly,he agree to convert to my religion because he is a freethinker but now because of his his parents strong objection,he has to do this as he is the eldest son in the family and his younger brother already got married with a girl who is 8 years older than him and now his parents is very very upset. He is doing this only to make his parents happy.
Now I'm really upset and depressed and really don't know what to do to handle this case. I hope freinds out there could help me and give me some advice. Thank you.
Farahney, would u wan a guy who because of certain obstacles juz give u up juz like dat? I mean i doubt his mentality if he says he REALLY loves you.... but his actions are so immature! Hes hurting you even more.. so what if you 2 are together and married in the future, some other things crops up and ur husband says, sorry we cannot be together, lets divorce! isnt that even a worse senario then now?
Sorry if im too direct, but itz really wierd someone who loves u so much treats u like dat... dun u think?
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Totally agreed.Originally posted by the Bear:i wonder about him....
he's going to go through with the wedding??
has he no spine?
sheesh!
i have to leave this thread now.. i cannot be objective about someone who says he cares for someone yet does something else that totally betrays her... and he KNOWS it!
indirectly hes telling you I love you (can't be trusted) but i Can't be wif you (seems like a drama on Tv) cos of blah blah blah (excuses)
so i 've to find many gfs.... wat the heck is tat??!!!!
If he really loves you, he should explained ur relationship to hes family. I'm sure they will understand. besides we are in the 21st century, man!
if everythings fail... no choice just leave him... unless u wanna become his mistress (sure lose out alot).... then bo bian liao.
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He already explained to his parents many times... but seems they dont want to understand....now his sisters also back stabbing me.... And now I don't know how he always got pain at his chest and he had heart attack twice this month.... last monday and yesterday.... he fell down from his motorbike... i guess this year is our badluck year....
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... such a thing is still happening at this time of the century?
cant possibly ask u both to run away from home..
wat i can say is SWAY
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He told me his father also already put a spell on me... aiyoh...I'm so scared lah....
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HI ISKANDAROriginally posted by Inzaghi:u diff race with him??... 
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you guys still at it? poor thing..
i'm at a loss of what to say now except to take care of yourself, yah?Originally posted by Farahney: He told me his father also already put a spell on me... aiyoh...I'm so scared lah.... -
this post has been revived as well?
gosh...
i think we can only offer listening ears (with a heart), as to what you have to do, really... it's all up to you. we can be here telling you to lead your own life but if you are so insistent on it, carrying this forever with you, no matter how many of us here wish to help you, it's all only ascii characters...
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ara? wat u mean put a spell on u?Originally posted by Farahney: He told me his father also already put a spell on me... aiyoh...I'm so scared lah....
u mean something like a curse? -
It's not a curse...but he told me his father went to see a so called witch and put a hate spell ..... something like that...Originally posted by sleepy:ara? wat u mean put a spell on u?
u mean something like a curse? -
ignore it... all these are psychological..
but seems like your beau is the weak-minded type..
i hope you'll be well..Originally posted by Farahney:It's not a curse...but he told me his father went to see a so called witch and put a hate spell ..... something like that... -
TATS BAD...HOPE THE SPELL SUCCEEDEDOriginally posted by Farahney:It's not a curse...but he told me his father went to see a so called witch and put a hate spell ..... something like that... -
Originally posted by sw-hor:TATS BAD...HOPE THE SPELL SUCCEEDED
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ignore sw-hor.. he's the resident piece of decomposed bat crap...
how are you holding up? hope you are all right..Originally posted by Farahney: -
Originally posted by the Bear:ignore sw-hor.. he's the resident piece of decomposed bat crap...
how are you holding up? hope you are all right.. Well I fell a little bit better than before... sigh.... yesterday was my bithday and I felt lonely without him.... this year is a very tough year for me... 
..... anyway.... life must go on.... -
birthday?
oh, for what it's worth, i hope you have a good and fulfilling year ahead
cheer up, there are many broken hearts out in the world so you're not alone.. i'm not immune too..
maybe try to put him outta your mind, go out with friends, if you can afford to, take a vacation, come back refreshed... widen your social circle and maybe, it'll wear away the jagged edges of the hurt until one day you can live with it and get on with your life?
now you're another year older, and i know, wiser...
hang on to your humanity, and i do hope one day you'll find love again...Originally posted by Farahney: Well I fell a little bit better than before... sigh.... yesterday was my bithday and I felt lonely without him.... this year is a very tough year for me... ..... anyway.... life must go on.... -
Thanks for your advice Bear.
Originally posted by the Bear:birthday?
oh, for what it's worth, i hope you have a good and fulfilling year ahead
cheer up, there are many broken hearts out in the world so you're not alone.. i'm not immune too..
maybe try to put him outta your mind, go out with friends, if you can afford to, take a vacation, come back refreshed... widen your social circle and maybe, it'll wear away the jagged edges of the hurt until one day you can live with it and get on with your life?
now you're another year older, and i know, wiser...
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it isn't really advice, just concern... take care, yah?Originally posted by Farahney:Thanks for your advice Bear.