all words and no action
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really don't understand what some guys are thinking
..did something wrong..just sms a simple sorry and that's it nothing came from him after that 
no action to show how sorry he is..make me wonder if he's really feeling sorry..and also he can sms me telling me he still love me..and yet just using sms..guys wake up i know now technology very good you can use sms..but pls lar something you just have to do it yourself!! 
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what do you want him to do? put on sackcloth and ashes? jump off a building?
some don't show it but inside themselves, the mental torment would be tearing them apart...
don't be so harsh on them... usually, inside them, they're beside themselves and in this age of jaded people, if he did pull out a whip and whip himself, chances are his "action" would be derided as a "show"...
like Tammy Wynette said:
Sometimes it's hard to be a woman
Giving all your love to just one man
You'll have bad times
And he'll have good times
Doing things that you don't understand
But if you love him you'll forgive him
Even though he's hard to understand
And if you love him
Oh be proud of him
'Cause after all he's just a man -
Originally posted by the Bear:
at least to show that he's sincere..at least the sorry should came from him personally and not just from sms..at least he can come down to explain things out and not just by sms the i still love and and at least he should be brave to face it and not just hiding behid..
what do you want him to do? put on sackcloth and ashes? jump off a building?
some don't show it but inside themselves, the mental torment would be tearing them apart...
don't be so harsh on them... usually, inside them, they're beside themselves and in this age of jaded people, if he did pull out a whip and whip himself, chances are his "action" would be derided as a "show"...
like Tammy Wynette said:
Sometimes it's hard to be a woman
Giving all your love to just one man
You'll have bad times
And he'll have good times
Doing things that you don't understand
But if you love him you'll forgive him
Even though he's hard to understand
And if you love him
Oh be proud of him
[b]'Cause after all he's just a man[/b] -
you'd rather he called right?
if he feels anything at all, i can bet there's this fear... a fear that his apology will be rejected.. with that rejection of something like an apology will come the hurt and dejection...
probably he cannot bring himself to face that... so he sends a message..
maybe, if he knows that his call will not be rejected, he'll call? who knows what goes on in his head?
you're his girl... you want him to understand you... now do the same for him.. go to him and try to understand him... it'll only serve to strengthen your relationship.. perhaps he'll be more open and forthcoming in the future...Originally posted by yuiko:at least to show that he's sincere..at least the sorry should came from him personally and not just from sms..at least he can come down to explain things out and not just by sms the i still love and and at least he should be brave to face it and not just hiding behid.. -
Give him some time... maybe U assume too early liao... maybe hes juz waiting for U to cool down 1st b4 performing his action? As a guy, I can sae its hard for him to lower his ego & apologise. Give him more time. sure he will give U a surprise 1.Originally posted by yuiko:at least to show that he's sincere..at least the sorry should came from him personally and not just from sms..at least he can come down to explain things out and not just by sms the i still love and and at least he should be brave to face it and not just hiding behid..
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i've tried but i've also fall..is really a great deal of disappointment..now i rather don;t understand..we've been together for so long and yet he don't have the least trust in me..keke anyway thanks for ur advise..those words that can make me cryOriginally posted by the Bear:you'd rather he called right?
if he feels anything at all, i can bet there's this fear... a fear that his apology will be rejected.. with that rejection of something like an apology will come the hurt and dejection...
probably he cannot bring himself to face that... so he sends a message..
maybe, if he knows that his call will not be rejected, he'll call? who knows what goes on in his head?
you're his girl... you want him to understand you... now do the same for him.. go to him and try to understand him... it'll only serve to strengthen your relationship.. perhaps he'll be more open and forthcoming in the future...
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keke i don't think he's that kind of guy..for what i know from him..he will just wait for the sky to fallOriginally posted by loneryu00:Give him some time... maybe U assume too early liao... maybe hes juz waiting for U to cool down 1st b4 performing his action? As a guy, I can sae its hard for him to lower his ego & apologise. Give him more time. sure he will give U a surprise 1. 
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keke i don't think he's that kind of guy..for what i know from him..he will just wait for the sky to fallOriginally posted by loneryu00:Give him some time... maybe U assume too early liao... maybe hes juz waiting for U to cool down 1st b4 performing his action? As a guy, I can sae its hard for him to lower his ego & apologise. Give him more time. sure he will give U a surprise 1. -
Originally posted by yuiko:keke i don't think he's that kind of guy..for what i know from him..he will just wait for the sky to fall
Eh. What a conicidence, I'm the type that wait for the sky to fall also. 
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What have he done wrong? How one should apologise depends on the gravity of the mistakeOriginally posted by yuiko:really don't understand what some guys are thinking ..did something wrong..just sms a simple sorry and that's it nothing came from him after that no action to show how sorry he is..make me wonder if he's really feeling sorry..and also he can sms me telling me he still love me..and yet just using sms..guys wake up i know now technology very good you can use sms..but pls lar something you just have to do it yourself!! -
Since U sae he waiting for sky to fall... tell him wheres his sincerity If he so hell bent on apologising.Originally posted by yuiko:keke i don't think he's that kind of guy..for what i know from him..he will just wait for the sky to fall
& Mr. , U oso waiting har...? Fall from dis 1 instead... 
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gers nowadays tamade hard to please leh
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agree also..cuz gers nowsaday also don't know what they wantOriginally posted by kopiosatu:gers nowadays tamade hard to please leh -
should write a Standard Operating Procedure for apologising to gers...Originally posted by yuiko:agree also..cuz gers nowsaday also don't know what they want -
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Originally posted by kopiosatu:should write a Standard Operating Procedure for apologising to gers...
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StOP?Originally posted by kopiosatu:should write a Standard Operating Procedure for apologising to gers...
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Seriously speaking, you are talking about guys here. Woman don't even understand themselves at times about what they want and guys don't know how to respond to woman's needs.Originally posted by yuiko:really don't understand what some guys are thinking ..did something wrong..just sms a simple sorry and that's it nothing came from him after that no action to show how sorry he is..make me wonder if he's really feeling sorry..and also he can sms me telling me he still love me..and yet just using sms..guys wake up i know now technology very good you can use sms..but pls lar something you just have to do it yourself!! Its a vicious cycle.
If you are looking for guys with such 'features' - logically, you wouldn't pick your present bf would you? Of course, there are something good about him other than this that you obviously saw and appreciate.
P.S: If you want him to learn and understand about this part of your thoughts - communicate in a non-hostile way. Afterall, you also hope to see your bf grow from this relationship isn't it? Everyone will gradually improve - when both parties help each other, the growth would be huge.
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did u know that sometimes saying sorry is so hard? especially when the person feels he is not wrong but have to say sorry.Originally posted by yuiko:really don't understand what some guys are thinking ..did something wrong..just sms a simple sorry and that's it nothing came from him after that no action to show how sorry he is..make me wonder if he's really feeling sorry..and also he can sms me telling me he still love me..and yet just using sms..guys wake up i know now technology very good you can use sms..but pls lar something you just have to do it yourself!!
did u know that by calling u up and say sorry could possibly end up in some quarrel or fierce debate which will be more hurting?
did u know that he might not be in a situation convenient for him to talk to u at the moment without compromising his BASIC pride as a man and not labelled as a gf-pecked guy?
did u know that ppl need time to do things to make up for error that he made and it cannot be instant? plz practice more patience if u wanna see some action next time. -
when i was the guy in this situation last time, i concluded from such experiences that such girls r either young n immature or spoilt gfs.
it takes 1 hand to SLAP and 2 hands to CLAP. u also need to do something. since u want an explaination, y not u ask him to explain himself? say something like this 'I GIVE U A CHANCE TO EXPLAIN YOURSELF'. then no doubt he'll call u up. -
if u did something wrong then is ur duty to apologise but if u thing u are not in the wrong pls don't be lame and said sorry and u think u are a hero..this is so lame and make the girl a jerk..if u are not wrong go on and said out what u think u are not in the wrong and explain to the girl face to face..not just by saying sorry and keep thinking that u are right and the girls are wrong..and pls don't only use sms and or phone..if u really daring go down to the girl explain to her and not just wait for sky to fall or wait for the girl to ask for break..this is how i personally feel i have to said not everyone think my way but i think someone out there will understand how i feelOriginally posted by Cerebral_Assassin:did u know that sometimes saying sorry is so hard? especially when the person feels he is not wrong but have to say sorry.
did u know that by calling u up and say sorry could possibly end up in some quarrel or fierce debate which will be more hurting?
did u know that he might not be in a situation convenient for him to talk to u at the moment without compromising his BASIC pride as a man and not labelled as a gf-pecked guy?
did u know that ppl need time to do things to make up for error that he made and it cannot be instant? plz practice more patience if u wanna see some action next time. -
i always like to use sms....but some gals told me tat may apply tat the guy is not dead sincere...hmmm...
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Hi sweetie,
I think you know ur bf better than anyone of us here. And I'm sure you know what type of pattern he is before going into a r/s with him. Since you know he'll only wait for the sky to fall, why not tell him straight what you expect him to do and what you want rather than playing mind games. Don't expect a guy to be able to read your mind coz like what you mentioned sometimes we girls don't even know what we want.
I still believe in being honest with each other, no matter what it is. Even if it's going to be some argument which will break out later, at the end of it all, don't you think you'll understand him, and he too, better?
If you want him to call you and apologise and explain matters to you personally, tell him. Msg him that and the ball will be in his court. You decide from there what next step to do. Isn't it better that way?
Trust me, all you need to do is to take the first step and dun let this drift you guys apart. It isn't worth it. take heart my dear ladyOriginally posted by yuiko:keke i don't think he's that kind of guy..for what i know from him..he will just wait for the sky to fall -
Originally posted by yuiko:if u did something wrong then is ur duty to apologise but if u thing u are not in the wrong pls don't be lame and said sorry and u think u are a hero..this is so lame and make the girl a jerk..if u are not wrong go on and said out what u think u are not in the wrong and explain to the girl face to face..not just by saying sorry and keep thinking that u are right and the girls are wrong..and pls don't only use sms and or phone..if u really daring go down to the girl explain to her and not just wait for sky to fall or wait for the girl to ask for break..this is how i personally feel i have to said not everyone think my way but i think someone out there will understand how i feel
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here i am trying to highlight something to every1 out here n not just u, thw whole world is not abt u n so stop thinking abt thatOriginally posted by yuiko:if u did something wrong then is ur duty to apologise but if u thing u are not in the wrong pls don't be lame and said sorry and u think u are a hero..this is so lame and make the girl a jerk..if u are not wrong go on and said out what u think u are not in the wrong and explain to the girl face to face..not just by saying sorry and keep thinking that u are right and the girls are wrong..and pls don't only use sms and or phone..if u really daring go down to the girl explain to her and not just wait for sky to fall or wait for the girl to ask for break..this is how i personally feel i have to said not everyone think my way but i think someone out there will understand how i feel