all words and no action
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/* Re-enters...Originally posted by yuiko:seem to me that most guys here think gers are unreasonable and don't listan to explaination?yesterday i just talk with my bf ...he came down to meet me and explain things out..
Now U noe Y I SAID U immature? Have U read through ALL da posts here? Big, small, important, not so important, relavent, irrelavent...
Every posts have their own meaning, no matter how short it can be. Once I got some advices from ppl here... very long... then I asked my buddy, he replied in 1 short sentence & dat ans satisfied me da most.
Not dat I biased or wat, its da meaning behind every sentence or paragraph or even a word dats important. U have let emotions overwhelmed U, dats Y U ans on impulse. Hey, who can ALL da time act rationally? Even monks (no punts intended) oso sometimes act differently from their usual practise.
If U RE-READ my posts on da 1st page, U can see Y I said, "Give him time..."
But hey... dat doesnt mean U really dat "jia lat". I m not much better. I do have my temper & act on impulses too. No 1 is PERFECT.
Anywae as wat Bearbear said... watever happened, its da guy's fault. So... its my fault U replied dat wae. Nuff said. -
chill it man... it's another case of miscommunication. That's what this IT is about...
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I noe... -______-Originally posted by ^cereal^:chill it man... it's another case of miscommunication. That's what this IT is about...
*pats loneryu00*
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ya we talk thing out..he told me his feeling over me and he apologise to me face to face..i also told him what i expected from him and he did the same by telling me what he want from meOriginally posted by ^cereal^:That's good. So are you feeling better off now?
guess i've still need to work hard alittle to be a sweet gf of his..but after telling him what i want..i really hope he can really do it but not just wait for the sky to fall again 
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Originally posted by the Bear:
women have the upper hand in most things...
take this scenario:
a woman slaps a man... 1st thing that comes to ALL people's minds... the man was a jerk and so she slapped him.. [b]man's fault
a man slaps a woman... 1st thing that comes to ALL people's minds.. the man is a jerk and a wifebeater.. man's fault
then another:
a woman cries in front of the man... 1st thing that comes to ALL people's minds.. the guy must have done something bad and she's crying... the bastard.. poor girl... man's fault
a man cries in front of the woman... 1st thing that comes to ALL people's minds.. the woman must have caught him red-handed and he's pleading with her.. what a jerk! what a wimp! stupid man!.. man's fault
you see? some women figured this out and have taken advantage of this.. ANYTHING they do, no matter if they were in the wrong or not, the man will be at fault in the eyes of EVERYONE...
from this, the number of unreasonable women are growing... i see it all the time... it is frightening and i'm very disturbed...
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Come on people, relax and chill a little man. All I wanna comment after reformatting my damn computer is that: Everyone has different personality and character - the approach, expectation, demands and reaction on apology, love definition, and everything else differs from people to people.
The same medicine doesn't always work on the same people. Its better to understand a person inside out than to trash out the faults and flaws of both gender on average.
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SOP hahahahaha!!!!!!!!Originally posted by kopiosatu:should write a Standard Operating Procedure for apologising to gers... -
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so how come the prevalent "All Men Are Bastards!" is so quickly accepted by women?Originally posted by Yunhaier: The same medicine doesn't always work on the same people. Its better to understand a person inside out than to trash out the faults and flaws of both gender on average.
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Originally posted by the Bear:so how come the prevalent "All Men Are Bastards!" is so quickly accepted by women? Everyone is like that: the kind of experience and stuff which individual went through is different, hence you get things like, 'All girls are materialistic, all guys are jerk, all clubbing girls are bad, etc.
Its the kind of preception everyone would have - like impressions each of you have on one another, be it real life or virtual impression. I feel it kinda impossible and time wasting in trying to change these 'deeply-burned-and-engraved' thoughts in huge numbers - as long as I govern myself well - people judge for themselves.
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hmmm..abit chim for me to understand can u explain to me??cuz that day when i talk to my bf he said alot abt me..got quite a number of bad points of me..so now must try to change lor cuz human being can hardly see their bad points ma..must wait for pplz to point out for themOriginally posted by M©+square: -
i put as StOPOriginally posted by M©+square:SOP hahahahaha!!!!!!!! -
I should say you have a lot to learn and it's a long way for you. Probably you have not had enough exposure and experience, thus you're behaving in this way. Not saying you're immature now and that you'll be mature in a few years later
(reason for this is: age does not equates to maturity level) but there are many things which you should consider: (not some hard and fast rules you have to memorise, just some quickies)
1) When a guy apologises, it's not all the time that he's at fault. Well sometimes he is, but then again he's doing so, for both of you, for the r/s that both of you are in.
2) As above, it's not a guy's duty to apologise all the time. Whoever is at fault should just lower their 'pride' and face it. It's not that hard to say 'I'm sorry' to the one you love, should you hurt him in any way.
3) Do not take the one you love for granted, coz you may never get a second chance to love him again.
4) Love has got no fixed definition and you cannot define it as it's varies according to every individuals.
5) Love your partner for what he is, not according to what you expect him to be. Never expect the one you love to change but accept him as for what he is. Coz it's the 'originality' that matters most, not the 'pirated version' of him.
6) Learn to be more tolerant towards ur guy, gals have higher tolerance level than guys afterall.
7) Tell him what you want straight in the face and leave the ball in his court. Do not expect him to know what you want, coz guys will never be able to read what you want, when you don't know what you want at times. Don't play mind games and be frank. Coz if you can't be frank to the one you love, who can?
Aboveall, I hope you've learnt something new thru this episode and moving on to understand each other better and also what both of you seek for in the r/s. Always rem, anger is a letter shorter than Danger. Don't say things out of impulse for you'll regret it when you looked back.
Cheerz to your r/s and best wishes.Originally posted by yuiko:hmmm..abit chim for me to understand can u explain to me??cuz that day when i talk to my bf he said alot abt me..got quite a number of bad points of me..so now must try to change lor cuz human being can hardly see their bad points ma..must wait for pplz to point out for them -
I think in reference to the thread ive post was quite well explained. Well...having people to point out your mistakes and bad habits is not a good thing to do. Cos it will cause a deal of damage before the truth reveals. Esp when truths hurts when it's in your face.Originally posted by yuiko:hmmm..abit chim for me to understand can u explain to me??cuz that day when i talk to my bf he said alot abt me..got quite a number of bad points of me..so now must try to change lor cuz human being can hardly see their bad points ma..must wait for pplz to point out for them
In the thread talks about reality check - self check.
Guess you got to do that whenever you're in solitude.
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juz saw all the "fuss" (dun blame me for this word i useOriginally posted by yuiko:ya we talk thing out..he told me his feeling over me and he apologise to me face to face..i also told him what i expected from him and he did the same by telling me what he want from me guess i've still need to work hard alittle to be a sweet gf of his..but after telling him what i want..i really hope he can really do it but not just wait for the sky to fall again 
) here and itchy hand wanna say something and this apply to all...
think abt it... when we juz started a r/s, our partner is perfect... like angels from the sky!!! even if he/she did something wrong, we would not blamed them or scold them at all.... ( if we still remember the past)
then now, we start to get annoyed by things he/she did wrong.... started to quarrel and fa bi qi... cos we feel he/she did not live up to our expectations!!!
so as we can see... EXPECTATIONS KILLS LOVE.... we want our bf/gf to be someone we expect to be perfect in our mind... BUT who is perfect?? I myself do get angry wif my gf when she did something that i feel i don't expect "my perfect partner" should do....
so... be realistic to our EXPECTATIONS... keep reminding ourselves what i have said and u will find we r more forgiving as we all know no one is perfect..... we will find love everywhere and great.... -