They met during a temp job. And as of till today, they knew each other for like abt 9 days only.Originally posted by lushpies:how ur friend and the guy met? through?
My friend's 20 this yr.. though some may think she's old enough to handle her own life. But love can blind sometimes, and I believe she is in for a rude awakening should the guy she 'likes' turns out to be a rogue.Originally posted by sillyme:how old is your friend?? she should be old enough to take care of herself right? you are afraid she gets cheated?
Originally posted by WhosUrDaddy?:My friend's 20 this yr.. though some may think she's old enough to handle her own life. But love can blind sometimes, and I believe she is in for a rude awakening should the guy she 'likes' turns out to be a rogue.
Yes, I am afraid she gets cheated. Frankly, if that guy was someone she knew for a few months and she's really sure about him, I wouldn't feel so worried. But she herself told me just a few days back she don't really know how she should be feeling, only to realise within a matter of days, the guy told her he likes her.
I am only guessing that this guy has some ill intentions. I am not very sure abt it. But whatever, its always better to be safe than sorry in most cases.
I know the best solution may be to let her face the episode (should it turn out to be a real nasty one), but try as I might, I wish I could stomach it. There's just something amiss.
I didn't know what I should be feeling for the girl at first, but it was after the guy the came in. only did I start to feel a bit jealous. Guess I do have a bit of feelings for her which I recently realised.Originally posted by sillyme:I'm not sure but I think there's nothing you can do about it, right?
All you can do is to warn her about being committing her feelings so fast into a friendship. If you show too much concern and try to force her to accept your advices, it may put her off and shut you ff totally. Then this will be a bad thing.
Be her listening ear willingly at the moment. Do not be too eager to give solutions, but guide her making right decisions (I hope you know the difference between the two). Maybe offer to accompany her if she is meeting the guy.
I hope this makes sense. Btw, do you have any interest in her? Or just doing this out of pure concern?
Originally posted by WhosUrDaddy?:I didn't know what I should be feeling for the girl at first, but it was after the guy the came in. only did I start to feel a bit jealous. Guess I do have a bit of feelings for her which I recently realised.
After thinking over for a while, guess your advice makes lots of sense. There's nothing I can do but to lend a listening ear. Do hope she'll be fine with the guy.
Glad that I posted in here before I took any action to dissuade that girl from a potentially successful or dangerous r/ship. Kudos to all for the sensible advice !Originally posted by ^cereal^:Are you interested in her?
I can understand your concern for a friend, but please remember to be tactful. Here's why:
1) Should you go too far out just to help her, little wonders what she'll be thinking abt.She can either think that you're eating sour grapes, thus trying so hard to discourage her from a r/s she thinks is wonderful, OR
she will appreciate your concern for her and hopefully wised up.
2) Should you let her be on her own and s.h.i.t. happens, then on your side, I think you'll feel bad for not trying any harder to dissuade her from what you think is bad. On her side, you'll be accused of not trying any harder to dissuade her from getting herself into this unwise r/s.
3) Should things work wonderfully between the two of them,YOU will be yet accused of trying to break up what seems to be a wonderful r/s *keeping my fingers crossed that it indeed will be wonderful*
Ultimately at the end of the day, you don't really stand to gain. I'm not trying to discourage you from helping your friend. But girls at this age tend to be naive and easily coaxed with sweet nothings. For her, at this moment at least, I guessed she's more into that guy's word than yours. Definitely don't wish to see the day when she comes back barking at you for either helping too much or too little.
Take heart, it's not your responsibility to make sure s.h.i.t. don't happen to this friend. She should be responsible for her own life, her own actions. Some ppl learn things the hard way. You can do this much as a friend, for a friend.
cheerz..
If it's a karmic relationship - most probably there is little you can do. My take is that observe that guy carefully and cautiously - any details that could spill his true self, take note. Otherwise, let your friend be; its her life and you, being just an ordinary friend no matter how close your relationship is with her, still could not and in no position to stop her.Originally posted by WhosUrDaddy?:I have a female friend who is (sort of) head over heels with a guy she barely knew for a week plus.
This guy initiated all those sms, asking how's her day, has she eaten her meals etc... simply put, those smses can come in from 9am to 8pm daily. And when she told me how "sweet that guy was", and that the guy confessed his feelings for her .. all within a week after knowing each other... I cant help but feel uneasy that the guy is out to con her in whatever way possible.
From what I know, she 'likes' him bcos of his 'sweetness'... e.g I believe she is simply happy that some guy out there is concerned for her .. (she never had a bf before anyway)
I do not know this guy who is going after her. But logically speaking, if a guy can so-called confess his liking to a girl just a week after knowing each other.. I kinda doubt him.
My intuition tells me that she isn't the only girl that guy is 'sweet toking' to.
Dear friends, do I make any sense in having this uneasy feeling ? And is there a way for me to get her out of this before she goes in too deep and potentially hurt herself ?
I am just her guy friend who wants to see if I can do something to wake her up.
Originally posted by WhosUrDaddy?:I have a female friend who is (sort of) head over heels with a guy she barely knew for a week plus.
This guy initiated all those sms, asking how's her day, has she eaten her meals etc... simply put, those smses can come in from 9am to 8pm daily. And when she told me how "sweet that guy was", and that the guy confessed his feelings for her .. all within a week after knowing each other... I cant help but feel uneasy that the guy is out to con her in whatever way possible.
From what I know, she 'likes' him bcos of his 'sweetness'... e.g I believe she is simply happy that some guy out there is concerned for her .. (she never had a bf before anyway)
I do not know this guy who is going after her. But logically speaking, if a guy can so-called confess his liking to a girl just a week after knowing each other.. I kinda doubt him.
My intuition tells me that she isn't the only girl that guy is 'sweet toking' to.
Dear friends, do I make any sense in having this uneasy feeling ? And is there a way for me to get her out of this before she goes in too deep and potentially hurt herself ?
I am just her guy friend who wants to see if I can do something to wake her up.
absolutely totally!Originally posted by the Bear:unless invited, no one should interfere with anyone's love life
WELL-SAID.Originally posted by sillyme:I'm not sure but I think there's nothing you can do about it, right?
All you can do is to warn her about being committing her feelings so fast into a friendship. If you show too much concern and try to force her to accept your advices, it may put her off and shut you ff totally. Then this will be a bad thing.
Be her listening ear willingly at the moment. Do not be too eager to give solutions, but guide her making right decisions (I hope you know the difference between the two). Maybe offer to accompany her if she is meeting the guy.
I hope this makes sense. Btw, do you have any interest in her? Or just doing this out of pure concern?
Are you the guy???Originally posted by WhosUrDaddy?:I have a female friend who is (sort of) head over heels with a guy she barely knew for a week plus.
This guy initiated all those sms, asking how's her day, has she eaten her meals etc... simply put, those smses can come in from 9am to 8pm daily. And when she told me how "sweet that guy was", and that the guy confessed his feelings for her .. all within a week after knowing each other... I cant help but feel uneasy that the guy is out to con her in whatever way possible.
From what I know, she 'likes' him bcos of his 'sweetness'... e.g I believe she is simply happy that some guy out there is concerned for her .. (she never had a bf before anyway)
I do not know this guy who is going after her. But logically speaking, if a guy can so-called confess his liking to a girl just a week after knowing each other.. I kinda doubt him.
My intuition tells me that she isn't the only girl that guy is 'sweet toking' to.
Dear friends, do I make any sense in having this uneasy feeling ? And is there a way for me to get her out of this before she goes in too deep and potentially hurt herself ?
I am just her guy friend who wants to see if I can do something to wake her up.