How come it turns out to be like this?
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Why take it so personal?Originally posted by shaunlaw:
Look, if u dun get wat i am trying to say, stop putting ur set of reasons on the wrong things. -
Ok, currently in school now replying to this thread.Originally posted by shaunlaw:Hi all,
Been going through some things lately and would like to hear your opinions on it.
1st case: I haf a fren (ger). I helped her get thru her sad times when she broke off with her bf some time ago. We used to tok almosy daily or sms. We are just frens, nothing more. Recently, i have not heard fr her for more than a week. I asked her is there anything wrg, she said she just dun wan to tok, tts all. I feel very unfair cos bcos u dun wish to tok, then u dun contact others or reply others calls. Wat if ur fren needs ur help? And i feel tt this stubborness is also not good. For guys who noe stubborn gers, u will one wat i mean. Any opinions on this?
2nd case: I got to noe a new fren thru my fren some time ago. This new fren is also a ger. We were getting along well. She will also reply my calls when she missed it. Once again, we are just frens, nothing more. Then one day, when i called her, she asked who i am
I was shocked to hear tt. I manage to let her noe who i am. BUt after tt call, she nvr reply my call again. Duno wats wrg. I din do anything wrg. She once told me she also cut off contact wif another nice guy fren of hers. Duno the reason y. Any opinions on this?
Alright dude, there is one thing I wished to comment about your case one. Firstly, when you helped her get through her difficult times, DOESN'T mean that she has to be there for you when you are undergoing the same thing. Helping someone is volunteering without expecting anything in return. If she doesn't want to contact you, she has her own reason. Probably in my opinon she wants to calm herself down and ponder over herself for a moment.
Its good to lend a helping hand, but its criticial to understand when someone needs some time for his/her own.
Now onto the next case; your second case doesn't involve you personally, its more about her. I mean if you take it so personally about she not knowing who are you, then it will be personal. Frankly speaking, if I were you, I wouldn't think so much. Afterall, even though you have fancy for her - in status, you are just her casual friend.
P.S: Its good to take steps in trying to understand and get to know her better before committing yourself into thinking that she is a potential. Many a times, impression alone isn't a gauge for what could be good & suitable for you.
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Of cos i noe helping others does not mean gettig back things de. Help is voluntery, u are rite. So i nvr demanded any return fr her. Just wondering why, tts all.Originally posted by Yunhaier:Ok, currently in school now replying to this thread.
Alright dude, there is one thing I wished to comment about your case one. Firstly, when you helped her get through her difficult times, DOESN'T mean that she has to be there for you when you are undergoing the same thing. Helping someone is volunteering without expecting anything in return. If she doesn't want to contact you, she has her own reason. Probably in my opinon she wants to calm herself down and ponder over herself for a moment. Its good to lend a helping hand, but its criticial to understand when someone needs some time for his/her own.
Now onto the next case; your second case doesn't involve you personally, its more about her. I mean if you take it so personally about she not knowing who are you, then it will be personal. Frankly speaking, if I were you, I wouldn't think so much. Afterall, even though you have fancy for her - in status, you are just her casual friend.
P.S: Its good to take steps in trying to understand and get to know her better before committing yourself into thinking that she is a potential. Many a times, impression alone isn't a gauge for what could be good & suitable for you.
Cheers
For the 2nd case, theres no feelings more than frens involved de. Mayb i gave u all the wrong impression. -
Ok, you just answered your own questions indirectly.Originally posted by shaunlaw:Of cos i noe helping others does not mean gettig back things de. Help is voluntery, u are rite. So i nvr demanded any return fr her. Just wondering why, tts all.
For the 2nd case, theres no feelings more than frens involved de. Mayb i gave u all the wrong impression.
Since its nothing more than just casual friends, I guess its very taxing for your mind to ponder over such mundane issues. Chances are, the problem doesn't lie within you - its their issues. So.......? Life goes on.
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that's great... it also takes two hands to clap.Originally posted by shaunlaw:i teasure every frenship i haf.